Y'know about that wolfstar and remadora question in the afterlife? Just here to say that lets face it: even Lily and James would prefer wolfstar to remadora. Guess there's gonna be some fighting over there.
(( OOC: Will you guys shun me if I say I think Remadora is the relationship that lasts?
Alright, here’s how I see things panning out, personally. Sirius and Remus would still be extremely close… the relationship would be just as important… but just in a different way. Also, there would be a deep understanding between the two of them that would allow for Sirius to move on…
But the relationship between Tonks and Remus has grown past what Sirius and Remus created on a romantic level.
I know there are a lot of arguments about Tonks and Remus’s “canon” relationship being toxic, but Jesus Christ… there were a lot of components that went into Tonks behaving the way she did… one of the main issues being that Remus was basically going out on suicide missions in order to avoid her… and not because he didn’t want to be with her… because he DID want to be with her! Because he wanted to and he couldn’t allow that to happen, because of his overwhelming self loathing and fear. I’m sorry… but anyone would get upset over that kind of bullshit, come on Remus.
And I agree… Tonks shouldn’t have pushed him if he wasn’t ready… but they were in the middle of a war and didn’t know if they’d be dead the next day! Also, we don’t know how much back-and-forth was going on behind the scenes with Remus. One second he was probably allowing himself to have some happiness and fall into the idea of a relationship, and the next he was throwing himself into a den of wolves out of sheer terror at the thought. Remus has always been like that… even with Harry, wanting to spend time with him and talk to him and the next dragging himself away. Tonks was probably at her wits end riding this emotional rollercoaster with someone who hated himself for all the reasons she loved him.
Once again… if someone doesn’t want to do something… they shouldn’t be forced… but when you’re watching someone destroy themselves for stupid reasons, it’s kind of hard not to try and push them away from the ledge and show them that their fears have no base to stand on.
Also… speaking of toxic, can we talk about Remus and Sirius for a second!? The lack of trust between the two of them that tore them apart in the first place? Which was valid on Remus’s end… considering the “prank” incident with Severus…
You can’t claim that Tonks and Remus wouldn’t work based on their relationship being “toxic” and not acknowledge how toxic the situation with Sirius was as well…
Now understand, this is all coming from how I interpret the couples and how I HC them… but both of the relationships were important, both of them were genuine, but I don’t see the relationship between Sirius and Remus extending past Azkaban with everything the two had to endure. They were both too broken and had too much distance between them. Tonks brought a sense of healing, and she was willing to stick around even when Remus did everything in his power to push her away for the wrong reasons.
I’m not saying I like Remadora more than Wolfstar, I love both of the relationships for different reasons, but I don’t understand the purpose in taking away the validity of Remus choosing to be with Tonks in favor of Wolfstar. I know we don’t see a lot of the relationship development in the books… but I can definitely see how Tonks and Remus would be a good couple.
There’s my un-edited brain dump… just my thoughts off the top of my head. So be kind all you avid shippers. ;) ))