destroying the joint

Reality is Fatphobic

Reality hates fat people, that’s why it cripples and kills fat people. It gives fat people type 2 diabetes and kidney disease. Reality makes it harder for fat people to walk up stairs without losing their breath. It destroys fat people’s joints without ever taking into consideration how fat people feel about it. Reality won’t let fat people live as long as people who are in shape. Reality is unquestionably biased towards letting fit people lead more fulfilling lives than fat people. Reality is fatphobic because reality is just that, reality.

Kicked off invisible illness week by having a woman in the Walmart parking lot stare at me with a dirty look the whole time as I unloaded my groceries into the car, took the cart back, got into the car, and backed out. My body is literally trying to destroy itself and my joints dislocate if you look at them wrong but because I’m not in a chair or 80 I get the wrath of asshole “do gooders” for being a faker constantly. It takes all my patience not to tell these ableist people off. 

Destroying the Joint - edited by Jane Caro

You might be surprised to find this on this blog because it is nonfiction and not generally directed towards the teenage age group! It’s a number of essays, analysis, memoir, fiction, satire, polemic and tweets written by powerful women, speaking about the influence of women, what needs to be changed in our world in terms of equality, the discrimination of women and girls and how feminism is pretty awesome.

As a young feminist myself, I’m very interested in reading non-fiction feminism literature and this book is a perfect starting point for any teenager wanting to know more! The title (‘Destroying the Joint’) is drawn from a ridiculous comment made by shock-jock radio host Alan Jones that with any more women in power, they would be 'destroying the joint.’ Jane Caro and a group of talented women immediately responded to this with a social media campaign called #destroythejoint. This lead to the publication of this book with essays by women like Senator Penny Wong and Wendy Harmer amongst others. I loved reading this book of essays and each one was very different and offered individual comments about the 'destroy the joint’ comment. As well as that, they discuss what is happening now to encourage the equality of women and what needs to be done in the future.

A couple of my favourite articles were "Girl Talk" by Lily Edelstein (an 18-year-old who I know!), "A Complex Problem" by Monica Dux, "A Fairer Country" by Michelle Law, "The Writing on the Walls" by Jenna Price, "Destroying the Joint in 10 Easy Lessons" by Catherine Deveny, "Outside Manners" by Susan Johnson, "Beyond Jeering: An Unapologetic Love Letter to Teen Girls" by Dannielle Miller, "Leaky Ladies and their Worrisome Wombs" by Nina Funnell and "The University and the Beast: A Fairy Tale" by Krissy Kneen. 

Anyone who tells you teenagers shouldn’t be reading this stuff is wrong, because this is the kind of book everyone should be looking at (boys and girls). 10/10

(photo taken by me with my book + badges)

- Lotte

Route: Sweet Vengeance

@airebunn: That Akashi angst tore me up real good. 😭👌🏼 Can I get the s/o getting revenge by sending the media after them? Make sure they get busted/exposed during their week together, I’m talking about helicopters and all. Akashi got me mad af when he said “nobody is going to find us”. So dramatic and cliche I know but, I really wanna see this. BTW your writing is A++ 👀💯👌🏼👌🏼
@briefnightmarefire: Please, you could do a part 2 of that fic of Akashi in which the reader takes revenge on him and Sayuri by destroying their companies and make them go bankrupt and they know that the reader was the one responsible for it,but can not prove. I hope you can understand, English is not my native language


One of many continuations to the infamous Akashi-Sayuri saga, in which the reader takes revenge by destroying Akashi and Sayuri’s joint companies and reputation. Legally, of course.

Because this route is two requests combined into one, it’s going to be longer than usual.


Part One: Serpent’s Embrace

Alternate scenarios:

Part Two (routes):




Anger is quite an interesting thing.

It starts off untamed and chaotic, manifesting as hurled objects and nonsensical screams. Then it empowers you, lets you take control of it. It tempts you with promises of justice, prompts you to strike back, encourages you to punish treachery with retribution.

Because why not make them suffer like how they made you suffer?


One of the upsides of being Akashi’s partner is - well, was - having access to all the information that Akashi himself as the CEO of the Corporation did, too. Akashi liked to say so himself: it was all a matter of power, and the question was how you used it.


Without quite realising you were doing it, you had been going through the house and Akashi’s laptop, reading every single contract and document that he had.

It wasn’t hard to begin to form a pattern. Transactions, phone calls, e-mails and internet history.


Three hours later, you sat back on your chair, smiling. “Found you~”

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What the fuck, Australia? Another man killing yet another woman.

What the fuck, Australia? Another day, another woman killed by a man. According to advocacy group Destroy the Joint, as of March 17th, before Masa Vukotic’s death on Tuesday, 22 women had been killed in Australia in the first 11 weeks of 2015. Two every week, and double the average from the past few years. Seriously, what the fuck?

Inevitably, when a woman is killed in our streets, close to home, we talk about women’s safety. Over and over again. Of course safety is important, and must always be a consideration, but where is the discussion about men’s violence and why these deaths are so common? Almost exclusively, when a woman is killed it is by a man. And while killings that are perpetrated by men in our streets in seemingly random attacks grab the attention, overwhelmingly, women are killed by men that they know. They are often a family member or an intimate partner; a man who at some stage has told the woman he has just killed that he loved her.

Why aren’t we talking about this as the national emergency that it most certainly is? Why the hell aren’t we talking about the violence against women epidemic that we currently find ourselves in? Is it because female deaths don’t matter as much as men’s? In 2014, NSW introduced legislation practically overnight following the deaths of two men in Sydney. Sweeping changes were made to liquor laws and sentencing for those found guilty of ‘one punch’ attacks was increased dramatically. Where is the political will, at a national level, to address women’s deaths in the same fashion?

We are in a fortunate position at the moment, particularly in Victoria, where domestic violence is on the public agenda. We have our first minister for the prevention of family violence and there is also a royal commission in to this problem. But still, within all of this, a discussion on men’s violence is largely missing. Today, we’re still talking about why a young woman was walking on her own through a park, or whether it’s safe for a woman to run on her own, or why a woman doesn’t leave a violent relationship. Why aren’t we seriously asking ourselves why men in our community are committing such horrible acts of violence against women?

As a society, we must take responsibility for the culture we have created where to be a man often means to be violent. Where if, as a man, you are disrespected or ignored, you use your masculine power to reassert control and reclaim dominance. Where, if you are viewed to be weak, you are less of a man, and the target of ridicule. We must acknowledge that we all contribute to this in our definitions of manliness and our expectations of men. How many times have you heard someone tell a young boy to ‘man up’, to ‘be a man’, or ‘don’t be a pussy’? Countless times I’m sure. But there is not doubt that every one of these seemingly benign statements contributes to broader culture of violent masculinity.

Every time we hear in the news that a Muslim man has assaulted a woman, or a group of Indian men have raped a girl, we, as the dominant group in Australia point the finger at those cultures as having a problem with women. What’s ignored is that we in Australia also have a culture, and it too is killing women.

These acts of violence, no matter how random or how deliberate, exist within a culture of violence and inequality, where women are largely seen as less valuable and less important. All over the world, research tells us that men’s violence against women is caused by gender inequality; the higher the inequality, the more prevalent and more extreme the violence. Not because of alcohol, not because of mental illness, not because of a ‘bad apple’, but because societies all around the world see women as inferior.

In writing this, I anticipate the usual, ‘but not all men’, or ‘how dare you tarnish us all with the same brush’. If your first thoughts in reading this are along those lines, you are part of the problem. To borrow a phrase someone (apologies, I can’t remember where I saw it), if you’re getting angry about being ‘tarnished’ by this, you’re getting angry about the wrong thing.

Where is your, and where is our collective anger about the women being killed in their homes and in their streets every week? Get over being so sensitive. While of course, the overwhelming majority of men choose not to use violence, men’s violence against women, and also other men, is one of the biggest issues our society faces at the moment. I know that terrorism always scores political points, and should not be ignored, but you only have to look at some basic stats to see that men’s violence is doing the far more damage to our homes, our families, and our communities.

If you are a man who cares about this, speak up about it, and don’t get defensive. We need to shift the focus from what women are doing, to what men are doing, and we need to acknowledge that while this issue effects everyone, it is primarily men who are violent. Understand that these acts of violence don’t exist in a bubble, but within a larger society that often encourages, condones, or excuses violence. This has to stop.

Unfortunately, men will often only listen when other men speak up about this issue. While we as men don’t have all the answers, we definitely can have a lot of influence. We need to harness this power and use it for good, to promote gender equity, to denounce violence, and to challenge traditional notions of masculinity.

To borrow yet another phrase, if you are a man who cares about this problem, and you do have the ear of other men, tell them to listen to women. We need to create a space for women’s voices to be heard, so that young men respect women, will listen to women, and will see them as their equals. Only then will this epidemic of men’s violence against women begin to shift.