i will always despise the way tumblr glorifies staying “kind” and “gentle” after being abused and the way people push this on female characters and hate the ones that react differently.
from experience, this so called softness often stems from fear and trying your absolute hardest not to provoke any further abuse or conflict from anyone. it’s the complete opposite of empowering.
there’s a difference between being a nice person and being compliant because of abuse or trauma. let survivors be angry. let survivors be loud. let survivors heal without judgement.