I don’t know if other systems deal with this regularly, but the denial of the condition and feeling fake is something that we struggle with. Here’s a few things we tend to do in order to help soothe it, I’d be happy if others added to the list too :)
write notes to each other, leave journal entries for each other
record yourselves talking about how your day went
get a calendar, and each time an alter comes out mark it - that way you can see how often you guys come out
if you have someone you trust who knows about your condition, let them reassure you (if your relationship to them is suitable for this)
be calm, and remember that feeling fake / dealing with denial is natural
set up little “stations” for everyone, some alters can put their favorite pens or books in a certain drawer or on a particular shelf
try to gently remind yourself that the things you’ve experienced are valid, and that your system is valid
Sorry if this sounds poopy, it’s late but we felt like writing something potentially helpful to someone out there. Goodnight lovelies!
I just bought my first full length mirror for my room (like ever in life). And im so used to looking at myself head to chest (or just my face) that I look really foreign to myself… like i really really dont recognize myself and its fucking me up. Like damn i know im tall and skinny but fuckkkkkkkkkk I cant believe this is what I really look like! This is what other people see! This is so fucking unreal! I dont like it!!!
shoutout to people with simultaneously great and terrible memories. like oh yeah i remember in perfect detail that random story you told about the banana costume from a year ago but all of novemeber? completely blank.