demand a change

I’m less than one season into DS9 but I’m just??


KIRA NERYS??? I LOVE YOU?


like idk they might ruin her later, idk YMMV…


but how often do we get a female character like her? who gets to be angry and abrasive and commanding and she doesn’t get punished by the narrative for being any of these things?


who isn’t just ‘cold’ and a ‘b****’ so a man can later make her soft, it’s just her, as she is? and people respect her authority? Sisko works with her and trusts her, and doesn’t try to condescend with that?


and her anger and harshness is accepted as part of who she is, while we also delve into the ways in which it is a product of warfare and trauma and PTSD? it’s not treated as hysterics, or because someone hurt her romantically, but there are real reasons why it’s there? 


but on the same level, nobody expect her to be ‘fixed’ immediately? nobody demands that she change who she is, only that she sometimes be willing not to be forgiven by some rando dude, but forgiven by herself?


she doesn’t just exist to be kind and caring and communicative, to prop up the male character’s narratives the way most major female characters in Star Trek up to this point I’ve seen have been (idk I haven’t watched all of TNG because I got bored but so far it wasn’t impressive). she’s not a nurse or a counsellor or a sexy villainess, and that’s not to say there’s anything wrong with that kind of character, but she is something different, and that matters a lot.


and she has faith? deep, abiding faith, in her religion and her people? but it too, is a complex thing, because she’s a cynic that carries faith in her heart and her bones? and I’m not religious, but I can still respect that about her, and the way it’s written, because her faith is the softest thing about her, but not in a simple way, the way most religious female characters are written. she’s a zealot, her faith propelled her through a war, and it’s still jagged, but it exists in her and brings her light at the same time, and it’s a lot??


there’s just so many angles of her character that a lesser show would immediately grind smooth. so many ways she already asserts herself, that most female characters aren’t allowed. she isn’t there to be Angry-Sexy, she’s just there, and she takes up space because she demands it, and earns it, and they haven’t done that much with her yet, but she is still vast and complicated and that??? is a lot???


and she’s clearly, underneath the brashness, a total dork in a burnt orange corduroy jumpsuit, (bless the 90s) a minor operative in a small war whose fight was NEVER small, not to her, because it is everything to her??

I NEED TO COSPLAY HER IMMEDIATELY

Never blame your fans

I know many of you artists - whether you draw, write, or compose - are frustrated that your original work, especially your dream projects, aren’t getting the responses you were hoping for.

I feel the same way.

But some of you express your frustrations completely destructively and blame the world for not giving you the spotlight.

When you do that, you’re blaming your problems for existing rather than adjusting and compromising to solve them. You’re making excuses for your mistakes. You’re demanding the world to change but you are not willing to change with it.

This is the perfect mindset to NEVER succeed in anything, ever.

You need to accept some basic truths of art before you can go any further:

  • Your art should teach you as much as or more than it teaches others: If you claim your art opens horizons and widens minds, yours should be the first priority. You cannot speak without listening. You are not a righteous prophet enlightening the heathens with the true word. You are one humble person and your art is one humble person’s story.
  • There are no new stories, but there are always new storytellers. That amazing idea you have that nobody’s ever thought of before? Someone has. But nobody has told the story your way, or drawn the character your way, or sung the song your way. Art is not about being new. It is about being you.
  • Popular art is all about the beholder. All these shows and games with so much fan art? They got to that level because they command a personal investment from and serve the viewer - they have worlds their fans want to be part of, and your canon will be swept aside along the way. You the artist are not a god or a wise sage. You are a guide and a footman. To be an artist is to be humanity’s servant, not its lord - and there’s no shame in that.
  • Most of your fans are not artists or art critics. While there will be a good number of them in your fanbase, the vast majority are not going to be super-open-minded creative thinkers who value every single opinion, outlook, and story just because it’s done technically well. They will be ordinary people with ordinary, selfish interests, and they will care about your content more than your talent. You have to balance what you want to draw with what everyone wants to see.

But the most important part of being an artist or really a person at all is to understand this:

Nobody owes you success.

Nobody is under any obligation to pay anything you produce a second glance or support or promote it in any way.

Nobody is spiting or robbing you by not giving you a like or a reblog or a follow.

Every single gesture of appreciation you receive from someone is a courtesy - a gift that you earn, not a right you’re entitled to.

It is not the job of your audience to love your work. It is your job to make it lovable. And just because you are working really hard does not mean you are working in the right direction.

I know that thousands upon thousands of artists put hours or months or years into a project and feel like they get nothing in return. Sometimes it is not how hard you’re working but what you’re working for that is the problem. 

Sometimes you need to slow down and think, “Do I have to have this just so? What would the kind of person interested in my work be looking for, and where can I address it? Am I maybe taking myself and my work a little too seriously?” 

And a lot of artists don’t realize that as an amateur, you are the sole proprietor - you are your art. Whether people like you determines whether they like your art.

And that’s why when you blame everybody else and post ungrateful, catty garbage like this:

… you don’t subsequently become the next Toby Fox.

The simple fact is that people will pay you attention if they think your offering + your hassle are worth their attention.

You need to create a world that someone other than you will have fun in and you need to be a good host to everyone who visits

You need a world that will welcome your fans with open arms.

You need to build a world people can live & play in.

And you and your world need to appreciate your fans just for showing up.

Because this is exactly what the big fish do.


because they spread your work around to more people without shanking you on credit and who gets the likes


because they make your work show up sooner & more often on searches and are simply a nice gesture


because they take time out and pay good money to listen to your story and make you from a pauper into a prince


because if you appreciate no one, no one will appreciate you, nor should they

Fandom as a whole is not “minor-friendly”

Nor should it be.

If you want to live in a “Children of the Corn”-style bubble of innocence and purity, well, to me, that’s a startling approach to adolescence, but every generation’s got to find its own way to reject the one before, so: do as you will.  But you can’t bring the bubble to the party, kids.  Fandom, established media-style fandom, was by and for adults before some of your parents were born now.  You don’t get to show up and demand that everyone suddenly change their ways because you’re a minor and you want to enjoy the benefits of adult creative activity without the bits that make you uncomfortable.  If you think you’re old enough to be roaming the Internet unsupervised, then you also think you’re old enough to be working out your limits by experience, like everybody else, like I did when I was underage and lying about it online.  If you’re not old enough to be roaming the Internet unsupervised and you’re doing it anyway, then that’s on your parents, not on fandom.

If you were only reading fic rated G on AO3, if you had the various safe modes on other media enabled, you would be encountering very little disturbing material, anyway (at least in the crude way people tend to define “disturbing” these days; some of the most frankly horrifying art I have ever engaged with would have been rated PG at most under present systems, but none of that kind of work ever seems to draw your protests).  In the end, what you really want is to be able to seek out the edges of your little world, but be able to blame other people when you don’t like what you find.  Sorry.  Adolescence is when you get to stop expecting others to pad your world for you and start experiencing the actual consequences of the risks you take, including feeling appalled and revolted at what other people think and feel.

Now, ironically, fandom’s actually a fairly good place for such risk-taking, as, for the most part, you control whether you engage and you can choose the level of your engagement.   You can leave a site, blacklist something, stop reading an author, walk away from your computer.  Are there actual people (as opposed to works of art, which cannot engage with you unless you engage with them) who will take advantage of you in fandom?  Of course there are.  Unfortunately, such people are everywhere.  They will be there however “innocent” and “wholesome” the environment appears to be, superficially.  That’s evil for you.  There are abusers in elementary school.  There are abusers in scout troops.  There are abusers in houses of worship.  Shutting down adult creative activity because you happen to be in the vicinity isn’t going to change any of that.  It may help you avoid some of those icky feelings that you get when you think about sex (and you live in a rape culture, those feelings are actually understandable, even if your coping techniques are terrible), but no one, except maybe your parents, has a moral imperative to help you avoid those.  

In the end, you’re not my kid and you’re not my intended audience.  I’m under no obligation to imagine only healthy, wholesome relationships between people for your benefit.  Until you’re old enough to understand that the world is not exclusively made up of people whose responsibility it is to protect you from your own decisions, yes, you’re too young for established media fandom.  Fandom shouldn’t be “friendly” to you.  

Dean is allowed to refuse to do things Sam’s way.

Dean is allowed to disagree with Sam.

Dean is allowed to be angry when Sam abandons or betrays him.

Dean is allowed to keep his feelings to himself.

Dean is allowed to have feelings regardless of whether they are what Sam thinks they should be.

Dean is allowed to call out even a loved one for hurting him or betraying him, especially if they keep doing it.

Dean is allowed to be afraid or nervous that they will do it again.

Humans are allowed to do all of these things, and as a person, so is Dean. None of these make Dean controlling, abusive, or cruel. Framing it as such what an abuser does to keep their victim in line. It’s a method certain people use to manipulate someone else into silence or compliance. Dean falls for it because of years and years of formative, psychological abuse, but that doesn’t make it even remotely true or right or even acceptable.

We need to be as good at lifting up as we are at calling out

In advocacy/activist space, we’ve gotten really good at noticing and naming oppression. We’ve gotten really good at criticizing the things that people are doing wrong, and demanding change. We’re also good at noticing organizations and people who shouldn’t be supported, and explaining why people shouldn’t support them.

This is important — and it’s not enough. We need to be equally good at noticing and naming things that *are* worth supporting. We need to be equally good at noticing what people are doing well, describing why their approach is good, and finding ways to support it. Calling out isn’t enough. We need to seek out things to lift up.

When we focus exclusively on finding things to call out, we send the implicit message that nothing good anyone is doing is worthy of our attention. But none of the work of building a better world happens by itself. It depends on the people who are putting the effort into doing the work. When we ignore the value of the work people are doing, we both harm those people and the work itself.

The work is hard, exhausting, and vital. It’s also often thankless — because we’re not acknowledging it in the way we need to be. Often, doing activism and advocacy means signing up for a life of being paid less than a living wage (or volunteering your very limited time), having your work ignored, and being noticed by your community only when people are angry at you.

This is particularly common when the work is done by marginalized people. Our culture socializes us to ignore the work that women and other marginalized groups do, except when we find reason to criticize it. This dynamic carries over into activism/advocacy spaces. It’s just as toxic when we do it as when corporations do it.

There’s nothing inevitable about this. We can make it stop. We can pay attention to the work people are doing, and we can show respect to the people doing it. We can describe the worthwhile things people are doing, and talk about why they should be valued. We can seek out ways to support what people are doing, whether that means donating, signal boosting, going out and voting, connecting people to each other, or any number of other things. By getting just as good at support as we are at call outs, we can make the world much better.

the gemini can be self destructive through impulsive action, often getting carried away with one thought or inner personality demanding change. they can be cool and casual people, but their complexity comes in grand display when outbursts of rage, sarcasm, or defensiveness abruptly release themselves. the gemini can make a decision but sit uncomfortably with this, all of the inner personalities did not agree, and they will make themselves heard 

buzzfeed.com
Meet the first baby in the world with a genderless ID card
Their parent, Kori Doty, believes doctors should not have the right to assign a baby's gender at birth.
By Brianna Sacks

A baby in Canada was issued a health card with no specific gender designation, possibly the first such case in the world. 

Kori Doty, a nonbinary transgender person, gave birth to Searyl Alti in November. They gave birth at the home of a friend, and therefore Searyl did not have the genital medical inspection that usually leads to either a male or female sex assignment on a birth certificate.

Doty fought to get Searyl a health card with a “U” (unassigned) gender marker and won, though the government refused to give the baby a birth certificate without a binary gender. Doty is still working on that. 

Doty, who is still going through the arduous experience of changing their birth certificate, told the CBC that doctors chose an “incorrect” gender assignment that “followed me and followed my identification throughout my life.”

They, along with eight other people and the British Columbia Trans Alliance, have brought a case before British Columbia’s Human Rights Tribunal demanding the right to change their birth certificates, arguing that the document encapsulates personal information that cannot change.

As a parent, Doty wants to spare their child that kind of stress and frustration.

“I’m raising Searyl in such a way that until they have the sense of self and command of vocabulary to tell me who they are, I’m recognizing them as a baby and trying to give them all the love and support to be the most whole person that they can be outside of the restrictions that come with the boy box and the girl box,” Doty told the CBC.

This is huge, y’all. Thoughts? Current, future or maybe-one-day parents, would you opt for birth documents without an assigned gender? Nonbinary friends, would you have wanted that for yourself?

Feminism isn’t a hot air balloon designed to lift already privileged ladies to new joyful heights. Those women are thinking of “girl power” or “bootyliciousness” or “domestic feminism”—some other term that was intended to act as a milquetoast substitute for actual feminism. Feminism is a life raft. Unlike “girl power,” feminism is scary, because it demands change, and does not just entail sexily singing that women are terrific.
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The women’s protest that sparked the Russian Revolution

The first day of the Russian Revolution – 8 March (23 February in the old Russian calendar) – was International Women’s Day, an important day in the socialist calendar. By midday of that day in 1917 there were tens of thousands of mainly women congregating on the Nevsky Prospekt, the principal avenue in the centre of the Russian capital, Petrograd, and banners started to appear.

 The slogans on the banners were patriotic but also made forceful demands for change: “Feed the children of the defenders of the motherland,” read one; another said: “Supplement the ration of soldiers’ families, defenders of freedom and the people’s peace.” [x]

My Top 5 Reasons for Shipping Root and Shaw

#ShootWeek Day 6 

(Previously: Top 5 Root Moments/Top 5 Shaw Moments)

In no particular order: 

1. They have sizzling chemistry.  

Root and Shaw were never meant to happen, but the writers immediately noticed the chemistry between Amy and Sarah and decided to play into it. They organically crafted a slow-burn romance just for them, and it became integral to the main plot as well. 

2. Root and Shaw are fully realized, complex individuals.

It’s all too easy for shows to fall into the trap of reducing characters to love interests. POI, by contrast, never does that. Root and Shaw’s relationship is an important part of their characters but it’s not all there is to them. They are both highly competent women with other important dynamics too. Root is also a prophet and spearheads POI’s AI mytharc. Shaw is also a soldier and is constantly involved in saving numbers. They are both neurodivergent, and Root has a disability. Shaw is Persian, and POI honours her heritage on multiple occasions. There are so many facets to each of these women. Their relationship is the icing on the cake, giving them an added layer of depth.

3. Root and Shaw are the fundamental exceptions to each other’s rules/beliefs.

Root begins as a misanthrope who regards humans as “bad code.” With the Machine’s help, her view of humanity changes, and she begins to fall for Shaw. Society has continuously scorned Shaw, dismissing her as bad code because of her muted feelings; yet, she’s always chosen to try to protect people. She was a doctor, then a soldier then an ISA operative who killed terrorists. She goes through extensive lengths to protect Root and the team (e.g. biking across the state to save Root in 323, killing herself 7053 times in simulations rather than risking Root’s life). Shaw is a shining example to Root of good code. 

Shaw, meanwhile, insists several times that she doesn’t do relationships; however, she slowly but surely enters one with Root. Root respects Shaw’s boundaries and never asks more of Shaw than she can give. She’s content with the bare minimum – look at how her countenance brightened at the mere possibility of her and Shaw being together in 411: 

Root doesn’t demand that Shaw change, but Shaw still does in that she becomes more receptive to Root’s flirtations. Innuendo that would earn Root a characteristic “Shaw eyeroll” and an exaggerated huff in early seasons is now met with a grin in 510. Shaw might recoil at the idea of holding hands with Root in seasons 3 or 4, but she readily laces their fingers together in 510.

It’s endearing to me that these two lethal vigilantes who have tased/shot each other in the past are now so soft with each other.

4. Their love is unconditional and steadfast. 

Root and Shaw’s relationship is the only one on the show that fits the Machine’s definition of love: being seen. I’d like to draw a contrast between two instances of hand-holding (or “hand-holding” for the first one): 

This relationship begins with deception as Root tricks Shaw by pretending to be Veronica Sinclair and drags her to the chair to torture her. But then in 510, we are presented with a rare moment of openness, honesty and vulnerability between these two as they hold hands. Root is not hiding behind any identities here. She’s just Root. She’s telling Shaw with this gesture that she needs her, and Shaw reciprocates.  

We see perhaps the most blatant declaration of unconditional, unwavering love in 513. Root has always loved Shaw for exactly who she is – an arrow. While other people in Shaw’s life, such as the head of Shaw’s medical residency, have made her feel like there’s something wrong with her “because you don’t feel things the way other people do,” Root appreciates her and finds the beauty in her unique way of experiencing the world. To use Amy and Sarah’s words, this is true love. 

Reese/Jessica and Finch/Grace, on the other hand, aren’t nearly as healthy as Root/Shaw. As the Machine said, Jessica would have left Reese once she saw the darkness in him. Finch and Grace’s relationship is based heavily on lies. 

5. Their relationship is normalized.  

By “normalized,” I mean that no one fusses about Root and Shaw both being women. Coming-out stories are great, but it’s so refreshing to see Root and Shaw’s sexualities accepted in the show just as they are. Moreover, they get to be unabashedly explicit in their interactions. They allude numerous times to their kinks, they have kinky sex on screen, and the line “Oh there was plenty of sucking” is uttered between them. They are two women who just happen to fall in love in the middle of an AI war and find hope in the darkness, and every single team member recognizes the depth of their feelings for each other.

loving you was a game of tug-of-war.
pulling each other in opposite directions
and demanding change
that did not want to come.


so neither of us ever won.
instead the rope tore
and we fell on our backs,
farther apart than when we started.

—  tug-of-war by shelby leigh

Onision: I’m a feminist

Also Onision: If you get work done on your body, you’re fake. Also you’re disgusting if you get a boob job, and I’d never let my girlfriend get a boob job. Clearly any girl getting a boob job is doing it for a man. Oh and if you dare to wear heels you’re a retard and I’ll rant at you for being so stupid in public. Also if my girlfriend dares betray me I’ll demand she get a tattoo of lair to prove herself to me and demand she change her appearance to look ugly to prove you’re devoted to me.

i have super bad art block right now so here’s 300+ words about England Loving Dog Shows Too Much i wrote on too little sleep

in my mind england is a religious watcher of dog shows and acts like a football dad whenever he’s watching one. he supports corgis the most (the royal family has a bunch) and would probably sock you if you shit talked any of them. germany is his very dedicated dog show-watching partner, occasionally they have extra people dragged along like prussia and france and america but no one gets what the heck these guys are so pumped about. honestly any extra watchers just either get scared or try to record these two grown men getting to near tears over dogs. england doesn’t do this anymore but he did used to bet on dog shows and he usually did pretty well. he stopped after he lost nearly £800 on a bad day to france, and even now france still occasionally lords it over him. 

england is banned from at least one pub in both the uk and the usa for drunkenly demanding them to change the channel to the dog show. he’s also probably gotten into a bar fight at least once in the rare times the bartender actually changes the channels for him and he gets to watch. just imagine this angry young-looking man, gin staining his favorite totally hip and stylish argyle sweater vest, being dragged off by the cops screaming stuff like “did you just insult that dog’s fine coat? that beautiful beast was probably a better addition to the animal kingdom than your uncultured arse!! do you even have eyes, you fucking tosser?!!!” like… god this freaking guy lmfao. america bails him out if he’s in the states, otherwise england’s secretary has to make a very apologetic phone call to the cops to bail his nation out for the night.

most nations actually keep tabs on dog show dates because they need to know when they have to block england’s phone number so he doesn’t drunkenly rant/celebrate to them about the results afterwards. ok i’m going to stop here but seriously. england loving dog shows.

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Local aro boy doesn’t have the words OR the time to label his relationships

Also local artist spares his followers by making long ass comic strip not as long, but also completely unreadable unless you click through the pictures o_o’ 

The fallacy that Aquarius is ‘free and easy’ is still being perpetuated. This, of all fixed signs is least likely to respond willingly and freely to an external demand for change. The concession for change must come from within
— 

Aquarius

Erin Sullivan

Assistant to the Captain pt. 3

Prompt: Natasha convinced Steve he needs an assistant even though he’s convinced he can do it all himself. He gives in and that’s where you come in.

Pairings: Steve Rogers x Reader

Word Count: 2285

Warnings: slow burn

A/N: ah. my slow burn aka my favorite way of torturing you all. enjoy this next part. it’s kinda long compared to what i normally do, but i’m sure that’s all right with you all. enjoy! (:

Tagging: still open

Tagged: @lobathenerd @wildestdreamsrps @itsmaytimetosaygoodbye @bluebird214 @sailorkeann@oldpaperfan @flowerista @moonofhisheart @letsgetfuckingsuperwholocked @alexmollineaux

Part 2

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Originally posted by christophers-haven-evans

Saturday, a day off. The week felt long because you were learning the ropes and learning everyone’s personalities. But then again, it felt short because of those exact things. You’d met Tony Stark and a younger woman named Wanda as the week went on. You were surprised that with this job— one that was constantly demanding and changing— you got the weekends off. It was a perk. It enabled you to make plans with your family. And that’s exactly what you had planned. It was 6am when you left your house, ready to make the three hour drive to the suburb your family lived in. You had a breakfast date with all of them. And with Derek, your boyfriend.

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