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How to Escape from an Abusive Relationship

It’s important to have a safe exit plan from an abusive relationship. The following tips might help you with this:

• Make a note of the phone numbers for your local women’s shelters.

• Confide in someone you genuinely trust (a good friend, a colleague at work, or a family member. Develop a code so they can help you if you are in an emergency (like a word you can text to them.)

• If your partner harms you, go to the emergency department and ask the staff to document your visit, and your reason for seeking medical attention.

• Journal each threat or abusive incident (with dates). If possible photograph any injuries.

• Prepare your escape in advance. Plan where you will go, and how you will get there.

• If you have a car, keep it backed in the driveway, with plenty of gas, and the keys close at hand, so that you can make a quick escape. Hide an extra set of car keys in case your partner steals and hides yours.

• Set money aside, either in a secret bank account or with a trusted friend or family members.

• Leave a packed bag with a friend or family member. This should contain an extra set of keys, essential ID (birth certificates, social security card, credit card, bank information, important phone numbers, passport, medical records etc), some clothes and any medications. If possible, avoid making use of neighbors or mutual friends.

• Know your partner’s schedule, and plan ahead for safe times to leave.

• Be especially alert to securing help through your computer or phone. Delete your internet browsing history, any websites you’ve checked out for resources, and all your old emails. If you called for help just before you left the house, dial another number afterwards in case your partner hits redial.

• Leave a false trail behind. For example, call hotels or rental agencies that are several hours away from the place you are planning on moving to.

anonymous asked:

i saw a post about how when youre living in abusive situations you should keep a backpack full of necessities and soothing things so that if you need to leave bc ur in danger or upset youre prepared!! do you have any suggestions for putting that together if this makes sense?

sure, you can check this post (link), this tag, and here’s a list of some important things to bring (not everything will apply to everyone);

There are a few approaches to this. In my opinion, it’s a good idea to have a bag packed with everything you need ready to go and to store it somewhere accessible; if there’s a shed outside for example, that’s often easier to get to in an emergency. If you use a backpack or handbag every day, you can also put a lot of these things in it and make a point to return them after you use them, so it’s ready to go if and when you need to make a quit escape, and this can also help you avoid suspicion from your abuser/s. 

This list is huge because I’m trying to make sure I don’t leave off anything that may be important, but you likely won’t need everything here. Needs vary from person to person.

Money: Cash is ideal, and hold onto as much as you can. If you can open a secret bank account and move some money into it, that can help too especially if your abuser has access to your usual account. If you open another account with your current bank, the process is often easier and some banks have a system where they can link your accounts which makes it easier to transfer money between them (and the transfers are often instant). You can also keep gift cards for grocery stores (if you want to store food stamp vouchers, look into how long you can hold them before they expire, I’m outside the US so I can’t advise). 

Mobile phone: ideally, a fully charged phone (and pack the charger too) on an active plan in your own name or with credit on it, but even a phone without money on it can be used to call emergency services. If money permits, you can also pack a phone, SIM card, and recharge voucher, though both SIM cards and recharge vouchers do expire. Familiarise yourself with how to set up the SIM or set it up beforehand (but again, some expire after 30 days so how you approach that will depend). You may also want to find out whether your country publishes numbers in their directory - sometimes you can request that your number be kept silent.  

Keys: even if you’re not planning on returning. Whatever you usually take when you leave the house (e.g. wallet, keys and phone) should come with you. Getting copies of your keys to keep in your bag is a good idea. 

Contacts: support services for survivors of abuse often have fold-out papers that look like business cards and have phone numbers of support agencies you can call in a crisis. It’s also a good idea to have hard copies of the phone numbers of friends, family, caseworkers etc in case you can’t access your phone for any reason. 

Documents: ID documents (such as your birth certificate, citizenship papers, passport, drivers license, social security cards, proof of age card etc), bank and credit cards, medical insurance proof/medicare cards, restraining orders, adoption papers, custody arrangement papers, rental agreements, and copies of any statements made to police. It’s also a good idea to get copies; you can get verified true copies by getting a Justice of the Peace to sign them, and scanning or photographing your paperwork is a good idea. You can also do this with ID cards; photocopy front and back and get these witnessed by a JoP. 

Clothes: This depends on season and weather but always bring changes of undergarments including socks, and wear closed shoes. Focus on utility rather than fashion when you pack, and try to bring something for all weather in your area. Layering to stay warm is a good approach as you can add or remove layers as the weather requires.

Weather gear: raincoat, umbrella, sleeping bag, sun hat, sunscreen, insect repellant, sunglasses, thermal undergarments, a thick jumper/jacket and the like. 

Miscellaneous: A lighter, torch, batteries, a notebook or paper and pen, and any other tools you tend to use.

Hygeine and personal care: Medications and prescriptions, toothbrush and paste, menstrual pads or tampons, baby wipes/wet wipes (even if you don’t usually use them, they’re really handy), tissues, soap, banaids and antiseptic (or a small first aid kit if possible) and anything else you use regularly. 

Keepsakes: anything you don’t want to lose that you can carry, so things like jewelery (which can also potentially be sold or borrowed against), small electronics like tablets, diaries, photographs, mementos, etc. Things like stimtoys are a good idea too, and books if you like to read. 

Items for kids: a pacifier, nappies, wet wipes, clean bottles, onesies, blankets, toys, teething gel, any papers about their custody/guardianship and birth certificates.  

Bedding: A small pillow such as a travel pillow or an inflatable one, and a sleeping bag can be helpful (even with accommodation, sometimes the beds provided are less than stellar). 

If you need to pack light: focus on ‘wallet, keys phone’, medication and hygeine, and try to bring a couple changes of undergarments and socks. Anything you’d take for a night away from home should come with you. 

Other advice: Change your digital passwords, clear your internet history and cache, and delete anything your abuser/s could use against you. If you feel comfortable, tell a neighbour what’s going on and make a plan that you can go to them for help if needed. Look into the various safety apps available and try some out with a friend. Scope out your local area and find any phone booths, stores open 24/7, police stations (and other emergency services buildings), and anywhere you could go to for help in a crisis. 

Hopefully I’ve covered everything but feel free to add!

Take Me To Church [12/?]

AN: Hey, look - I’m alive!!! This chapter took longer than I expected to write between a finicky muse and social obligations cutting into my writing days, but it’s here! Huge thank you to my most awesome beta, @ive-always-been-a-pirate who let me vent when this chapter was giving me trouble and for always lending me your ear when I needed to talk a plot point out. You are the best! 


Emma Swan returned to her southern hometown of Storybrooke to pick up the pieces of her last shattered relationship, determined to rebuild her life in the one place she swore she’d never return to. What she didn’t expect was the new priest and the journey of passion, love, and redemption he would take her on. [Priest!Killian Modern AU]


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Chapter 12: The Highs and Lows of Giving In

Emma awoke to a low and persistent buzzing noise, her sleep filled mind taking a moment to realize it was her phone vibrating on the night stand next to her. Groaning at whoever had the audacity to text her at this time of the morning - the sun wasn’t even up for God’s sake - she fumbled for the offending piece of technology and cursed harshly as the bright artificial light momentarily blinded her. Squinting at the screen, she saw the notification of a new text from Elsa.

Elsa: Had to get up to take a business call about the shop and wanted to check on you. If I haven’t heard from you by ten I’m going to assume Graham is a serial killer in disguise and I’m calling your father. I promise to delete your internet history per our agreement if you’re dead.

Despite the fact her phone read 6:30 AM and she couldn’t remember the last time she had been awake at this hour, Emma chuckled. Leave it to Elsa to be a worried mother hen and the friend she could rely on to make sure her family never saw her sordid internet searches. Unlocking her phone, she typed out a quick reply that she was alive and would call her later, making sure to end the text with their designated signal #NotAProgramOnTheIDChannel to let her know she was the one typing the message. Ignoring the combined twenty-three unread messages from Ruby and Tink she hit the power button on her phone and set it back on the night stand, confident that Elsa would let the other girls know she was okay.

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Requested Asslets Masterlist

(to be updated as ass(orted)(fic)lets are completed)

  1. yoonseok // pillows + makeup
  2. kookiemonster // kittens + roadtrip
  3. jihope // gin + fortuneteller
  4. vmin // pet store
  5. yoonseok // binders + potted plants
  6. vmin // wedding from Inc.
  7. yoonseok // bottom!yoongi
  8. taegimin // overly ambitious roleplay
  9. jihope // dares
  10. vmin // “are you kidding me?”
  11. taejin // plaster mold
  12. vmin // “you’re too drunk for this”
  13. vmin // “we are gonna be the BEST fucking parents”
  14. taegi // drunk confessions
  15. ot7/yoonjin // law of the jungle
  16. yoonjin // “dad i think i’m on my period but i don’t know how this works.”
  17. vmin // “Stop opening my packages, my new vibrator was NOT supposed to be used as a potato masher.”
  18. vmin //  "I’m telling you that I like you, but you keep thinking that it’s a friendly joke, so now I have to prove that I am serious"
  19. taejin // “why is there a half eaten steak sandwich in the underwear drawer”
  20. namseok // dora the explorer
  21. yoonjin // “so i found your internet browsing history before you could delete it”
  22. vmin // mattress shopping
  23. vmin // social media
  24. jikook // bend and snap
  25. yoonseok // “i thought you were an asshole when i first met you”
  26. namjin // “daddy i think i need tampons”
  27. sugamon // “what you do you mean i wasn’t supposed to use the whole thing?”
  28. vmin // belly rub + hic-ups
  29. yoonjin // haunted houses
  30. vmin // office halloween parties
  31. yoonjin // first christmas together
  32. vmin // “do these pants make my dick look big?”
  33. kookvmin // “i can think of a hundred reasons why this is a terrible idea, and all of them end with us dying by the force of jin-hyung’s rage”
  34. namjin // tupperware parties
  35. vmin // (both) single dads
  36. yoonseok // diy sextoys 
  37. taegimin // peeing in the ballpit
  38. vmin // “i think we’re my otp”
  39. 2seok // “when do you think they’ll realize it’s gone?”
  40. vmin // flowers + scraped knees
  41. vmin // aliens
  42. taegi // ikea assembly
  43. sugakookie // human barbell
  44. namjin // “singles will be paired”
  45. yoonseok // “we’re going to hell”
  46. yoonjin // “We already have 6 sets of these at home, I don’t care what new colors are out, we are not getting anymore god dammit!”
  47. sugakookie // flowers + lipstick
  48. yoonjin // blind date
  49. vmin // new werewolf
  50. taegi // fake plants
  51. vmin // “i can’t believe you thought that would fit in there”
Caught

Good to be back writing again!

Now, you were no stranger to fanfiction. You used to read it unironically during your loser tween days, and now that you were with Dan it was fun to read the silly stuff Phans imagined the two of you doing. You only really read them when Dan would send you links (he read them almost religiously these days, all sorts of ships from fandoms), but soon you started seeking them out on your own. You weren’t ashamed of it, there were some seriously talented people out there! While most of it was the gooey romance you only saw in low budget romantic comedies, there was the occasional author who wrote endlessly amazing stuff. Reading about you and Dan was your favorite. Dan thought it was vain, but you kind of liked seeing what his audience thought of you guys’ relationship. It even gave you date ideas sometimes, like the fic you read about taking Dan to aquarium to watch him act adorably over the animals. After months of delving into the fanfiction world, you still hadn’t read smut. There was no point, really. You and Dan had a healthy enough sex life that you didn’t need to read about it. Most of it was written by people who’d never had sex anyway, they tended to…exaggerate certain things.

One day, while mindlessly scrolling through tumblr, going through your notes and seeing all the messages Phans sent you, there was a link in your inbox. Usually you never trusted links (Dan had tricked you with all sorts of strange sites since you’d started dating), but you decided opening it couldn’t really hurt. You could just delete your internet history, anyway. A site you’d seen Dan on a bunch of times opened, and you were looking at some fanfiction. The title of it read Hot Tubs & Iced Coffee, it seemed interesting. You propped your feet up and sipped at your drink, turned the TV down and started reading the fic. It was pretty good, easily one of the better ones. It started out as you and Dan meeting on vacation, and slowly falling for each other in the limited time you would be together before you left to go back home. It was kind of sweet, actually. Dan was risking his fear of being social to talk to you and you were sneaking out of your hotel room to get away from your overprotective parents just to talk to him. All of it was nice and cute, the kind of slow burn that made you wait like 6 chapters just for the first kiss.

By nearly the end of it, you could see clearly what was going to be coming next. Smut. Like usual, you were going to just skip over it or stop reading the fic altogether. Dan had come and sit next to you on the couch at some point. He wasn’t really paying attention to what you were doing, but it was still kind of embarrassing reading something dirty in front of him. He was the king of teasing you, after all. You glanced at him from the side, he was playing a game, back slouched deeply eyes glazed over and fixed on the television screen. Maybe it would be alright. Like you were doing something bad, you sneakily clicked ‘Next Chapter’ and started reading.

A few paragraph in, you realized this writer really knew their stuff. Fanfic-Dan was the true master of romance, and what the two of you were doing was certainly…detailed. Reading over what they had you two doing, it was actually making your face burn. Eventually you forgot Dan was sitting next to you, you were so into it. That was, until he leaned over and tried to see what you were doing. “Wow, pumpkin, your face is on fire. What are you doing?” You stuttered and tried to shut your laptop but he had already snatched it out of your hands. “It’s nothing! Gimme back my computer c’mon!” He only ignored you. It took a few seconds of him scanning the text you’d been reading for his teasing smile to drop and his face to start turning red as well. Without a word he placed your laptop on the coffee table. You covered your face with your hands. Dan took a deep breath and slid his arm around you. He used his other hand to pry your hands away from their spot on your face. You looked up at him like you’d been caught watching porn, waiting for him to say anything. His face was serious, but you could see that playful glint in his eyes. “Wow, had no idea you were into those kinds of stories, pumpkin,” he teased. That was it. You shoved him off of you and went to go hide in your bedroom. He stopped you, though. Hey stop don’t go! I swear I won’t tease you anymore. It’s just so weird seeing you read some smutty stuff like that.”

“Well, it’s not like I always read things like that. This is the first time I’ve seen something like that,” you admitted.

“What made you make a change today? You just can’t stop thinking about me?” You rolled your eyes and pinched Dan on the cheek. “You wish, loser. No, someone sent me the link to the fanfic and I had been reading it earlier. It didn’t start out with us sliding all over each other.” He didn’t look like he believed you. He leaned in closer, close enough your noses touched. “Pumpkin, if you were horny all you had to do was say,” he said in a low voice. Was he serious? “You didn’t have to read some filthy smut to get my attention, you know I always aim to please.” Your eyebrow raised up so high it was close to your hairline. You pushed his face back and he flopped back onto the couch with a shocked gasp. You didn’t see if he was mad or disappointed or anything, you were already getting up. All Dan heard was the slam of the bedroom door.

Had he played his cards wrong?

Was going to make it a smut but it’s a bit funnier to imagine Dan trying to be flirty and sexy and just failing miserably.

Got something for me to write? Requests are open here and here!

anonymous asked:

yoonjinnie + "so i found your internet browsing history before you could delete it"

“Somebody’s in trouuuble,” Jimin gloats in a singsong voice as Jin steps through the front door and slings his bag down in the entrance hall. 

Jin’s blood runs cold as he enters the main room and sees Yoongi sitting primly on the couch, Jin’s laptop perched on his thighs. His face is composed but slightly flushed. “My laptop died, so I had to use yours to finish a paper.”

“Oh,” Jin says, his voice high as he tries to play it cool. “And?”

“I found your browsing history before you could delete it.”

“Oh,” Jin repeats dumbly, his voice even higher, uncomfortably high, “And?”

Yoongi spins the computer around, and Jin sees the thing he feared most. His order confirmation. 

“Just ask me already, you ass.” Yoongi mumbles, looking flustered now, shifting the computer off his lap and pushing himself to his feet. Jin gulps hard and reaches, hands shaking, for the small box in his pocket that he’s carried around with him everywhere for the two months.

He takes a shuddering breath and sinks down onto one knee.

How to Escape from an Abusive Relationship

It’s important to have a safe exit plan from an abusive relationship. The following tips might help you with this:

• Make a note of the phone numbers for your local women’s shelters.

• Confide in someone you genuinely trust (a good friend, a colleague at work, or a family member. Develop a code so they can help you if you are in an emergency (like a word you can text to them.)

• If your partner harms you, go to the emergency department and ask the staff to document your visit, and your reason for seeking medical attention.

• Journal each threat or abusive incident (with dates). If possible photograph any injuries.

• Prepare your escape in advance. Plan where you will go, and how you will get there.

• If you have a car, keep it backed in the driveway, with plenty of gas, and the keys close at hand, so that you can make a quick escape. Hide an extra set of car keys in case your partner steals and hides yours.

• Set money aside, either in a secret bank account or with a trusted friend or family members.

• Leave a packed bag with a friend or family member. This should contain an extra set of keys, essential ID (birth certificates, social security card, credit card, bank information, important phone numbers, passport, medical records etc), some clothes and any medications. If possible, avoid making use of neighbors or mutual friends.

• Know your partner’s schedule, and plan ahead for safe times to leave.

• Be especially alert to securing help through your computer or phone. Delete your internet browsing history, any websites you’ve checked out for resources, and all your old emails. If you called for help just before you left the house, dial another number afterwards in case your partner hits redial.

• Leave a false trail behind. For example, call hotels or rental agencies that are several hours away from the place you are planning on moving to.

Hold on
  • Yoongi: jimin can I use your laptop for a sec
  • Jimin: yeah hold on
  • Jimin: *deletes taeyang images, deletes jungkook images, tabs out jikook fanfics, tabs out bigbang fanfics, tabs out jimin images on google, deletes internet history*
  • Jimin: here you go
  • Yoongi: uhhhhh jimin your background is Jung-
  • Jimin: *steals it back* go use someone else's

Cassandra cloaked herself in between two buildings before stepping out onto the street. She walked into a nearby cafe while nobody could see her. As she walked in between the tables, she swiped a random person’s phone when they weren’t looking and cloaked it too. She sat down beside the person as she looked through the phone. Cass finally uncloaked herself and the cell phone and looked at the person sitting next to her with it still in her hand. “You know, there is such a thing as deleting your internet history.”

How to Escape from an Abusive Relationship

It’s important to have a safe exit plan from an abusive relationship. The following tips might help you with this:

• Make a note of the phone numbers for your local women’s shelters.
• Confide in someone you genuinely trust (a good friend, a colleague at work, or a family member. Develop a code so they can help you if you are in an emergency (like a word you can text to them.)
• If your partner harms you, go to the emergency department and ask the staff to document your visit, and your reason for seeking medical attention.
• Journal each threat or abusive incident (with dates). If possible photograph any injuries.
• Prepare your escape in advance. Plan where you will go, and how you will get there.
• If you have a car, keep it backed in the driveway, with plenty of gas, and the keys close at hand, so that you can make a quick escape. Hide an extra set of car keys in case your partner steals and hides yours.
• Set money aside, either in a secret bank account or with a trusted friend or family members.
• Leave a packed bag with a friend or family member. This should contain an extra set of keys, essential ID (birth certificates, social security card, credit card, bank information, important phone numbers, passport, medical records etc), some clothes and any medications. If possible, avoid making use of neighbors or mutual friends.
• Know your partner’s schedule, and plan ahead for safe times to leave.
• Be especially alert to securing help through your computer or phone. Delete your internet browsing history, any websites you’ve checked out for resources, and all your old emails. If you called for help just before you left the house, dial another number afterwards in case your partner hits redial.
• Leave a false trail behind. For example, call hotels or rental agencies that are several hours away from the place you are planning on moving to.

anonymous asked:

My ex boyfriend used to hate it when I watched gay porn (on my own, he wasn't even in the same room)(but you forget to delete your internet history once and suddenly the dude's all jealous of on screen dicks...). But he always queued up lesbian porn during sexy times, which I have no complaints about, but double standards much?

WOMEN WATCH GAY PORN?