delete your internet history

anonymous asked:

i saw a post about how when youre living in abusive situations you should keep a backpack full of necessities and soothing things so that if you need to leave bc ur in danger or upset youre prepared!! do you have any suggestions for putting that together if this makes sense?

sure, you can check this post (link), this tag, and here’s a list of some important things to bring (not everything will apply to everyone);

There are a few approaches to this. In my opinion, it’s a good idea to have a bag packed with everything you need ready to go and to store it somewhere accessible; if there’s a shed outside for example, that’s often easier to get to in an emergency. If you use a backpack or handbag every day, you can also put a lot of these things in it and make a point to return them after you use them, so it’s ready to go if and when you need to make a quit escape, and this can also help you avoid suspicion from your abuser/s. 

This list is huge because I’m trying to make sure I don’t leave off anything that may be important, but you likely won’t need everything here. Needs vary from person to person.

Money: Cash is ideal, and hold onto as much as you can. If you can open a secret bank account and move some money into it, that can help too especially if your abuser has access to your usual account. If you open another account with your current bank, the process is often easier and some banks have a system where they can link your accounts which makes it easier to transfer money between them (and the transfers are often instant). You can also keep gift cards for grocery stores (if you want to store food stamp vouchers, look into how long you can hold them before they expire, I’m outside the US so I can’t advise). 

Mobile phone: ideally, a fully charged phone (and pack the charger too) on an active plan in your own name or with credit on it, but even a phone without money on it can be used to call emergency services. If money permits, you can also pack a phone, SIM card, and recharge voucher, though both SIM cards and recharge vouchers do expire. Familiarise yourself with how to set up the SIM or set it up beforehand (but again, some expire after 30 days so how you approach that will depend). You may also want to find out whether your country publishes numbers in their directory - sometimes you can request that your number be kept silent.  

Keys: even if you’re not planning on returning. Whatever you usually take when you leave the house (e.g. wallet, keys and phone) should come with you. Getting copies of your keys to keep in your bag is a good idea. 

Contacts: support services for survivors of abuse often have fold-out papers that look like business cards and have phone numbers of support agencies you can call in a crisis. It’s also a good idea to have hard copies of the phone numbers of friends, family, caseworkers etc in case you can’t access your phone for any reason. 

Documents: ID documents (such as your birth certificate, citizenship papers, passport, drivers license, social security cards, proof of age card etc), bank and credit cards, medical insurance proof/medicare cards, restraining orders, adoption papers, custody arrangement papers, rental agreements, and copies of any statements made to police. It’s also a good idea to get copies; you can get verified true copies by getting a Justice of the Peace to sign them, and scanning or photographing your paperwork is a good idea. You can also do this with ID cards; photocopy front and back and get these witnessed by a JoP. 

Clothes: This depends on season and weather but always bring changes of undergarments including socks, and wear closed shoes. Focus on utility rather than fashion when you pack, and try to bring something for all weather in your area. Layering to stay warm is a good approach as you can add or remove layers as the weather requires.

Weather gear: raincoat, umbrella, sleeping bag, sun hat, sunscreen, insect repellant, sunglasses, thermal undergarments, a thick jumper/jacket and the like. 

Miscellaneous: A lighter, torch, batteries, a notebook or paper and pen, and any other tools you tend to use.

Hygeine and personal care: Medications and prescriptions, toothbrush and paste, menstrual pads or tampons, baby wipes/wet wipes (even if you don’t usually use them, they’re really handy), tissues, soap, banaids and antiseptic (or a small first aid kit if possible) and anything else you use regularly. 

Keepsakes: anything you don’t want to lose that you can carry, so things like jewelery (which can also potentially be sold or borrowed against), small electronics like tablets, diaries, photographs, mementos, etc. Things like stimtoys are a good idea too, and books if you like to read. 

Items for kids: a pacifier, nappies, wet wipes, clean bottles, onesies, blankets, toys, teething gel, any papers about their custody/guardianship and birth certificates.  

Bedding: A small pillow such as a travel pillow or an inflatable one, and a sleeping bag can be helpful (even with accommodation, sometimes the beds provided are less than stellar). 

If you need to pack light: focus on ‘wallet, keys phone’, medication and hygeine, and try to bring a couple changes of undergarments and socks. Anything you’d take for a night away from home should come with you. 

Other advice: Change your digital passwords, clear your internet history and cache, and delete anything your abuser/s could use against you. If you feel comfortable, tell a neighbour what’s going on and make a plan that you can go to them for help if needed. Look into the various safety apps available and try some out with a friend. Scope out your local area and find any phone booths, stores open 24/7, police stations (and other emergency services buildings), and anywhere you could go to for help in a crisis. 

Hopefully I’ve covered everything but feel free to add!

Take Me To Church [12/?]

AN: Hey, look - I’m alive!!! This chapter took longer than I expected to write between a finicky muse and social obligations cutting into my writing days, but it’s here! Huge thank you to my most awesome beta, @ive-always-been-a-pirate who let me vent when this chapter was giving me trouble and for always lending me your ear when I needed to talk a plot point out. You are the best! 


Emma Swan returned to her southern hometown of Storybrooke to pick up the pieces of her last shattered relationship, determined to rebuild her life in the one place she swore she’d never return to. What she didn’t expect was the new priest and the journey of passion, love, and redemption he would take her on. [Priest!Killian Modern AU]


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Chapter 12: The Highs and Lows of Giving In

Emma awoke to a low and persistent buzzing noise, her sleep filled mind taking a moment to realize it was her phone vibrating on the night stand next to her. Groaning at whoever had the audacity to text her at this time of the morning - the sun wasn’t even up for God’s sake - she fumbled for the offending piece of technology and cursed harshly as the bright artificial light momentarily blinded her. Squinting at the screen, she saw the notification of a new text from Elsa.

Elsa: Had to get up to take a business call about the shop and wanted to check on you. If I haven’t heard from you by ten I’m going to assume Graham is a serial killer in disguise and I’m calling your father. I promise to delete your internet history per our agreement if you’re dead.

Despite the fact her phone read 6:30 AM and she couldn’t remember the last time she had been awake at this hour, Emma chuckled. Leave it to Elsa to be a worried mother hen and the friend she could rely on to make sure her family never saw her sordid internet searches. Unlocking her phone, she typed out a quick reply that she was alive and would call her later, making sure to end the text with their designated signal #NotAProgramOnTheIDChannel to let her know she was the one typing the message. Ignoring the combined twenty-three unread messages from Ruby and Tink she hit the power button on her phone and set it back on the night stand, confident that Elsa would let the other girls know she was okay.

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Requested Asslets Masterlist

(to be updated as ass(orted)(fic)lets are completed)

  1. taegimin // overly ambitious roleplay
  2. jihope // dares
  3. vmin // “are you kidding me?”
  4. taejin // plaster mold
  5. vmin // “you’re too drunk for this”
  6. vmin // “we are gonna be the BEST fucking parents”
  7. taegi // drunk confessions
  8. ot7/yoonjin // law of the jungle
  9. yoonjin // “dad i think i’m on my period but i don’t know how this works.”
  10. vmin // “Stop opening my packages, my new vibrator was NOT supposed to be used as a potato masher.”
  11. vmin //  "I’m telling you that I like you, but you keep thinking that it’s a friendly joke, so now I have to prove that I am serious"
  12. taejin // “why is there a half eaten steak sandwich in the underwear drawer”
  13. namseok // dora the explorer
  14. yoonjin // “so i found your internet browsing history before you could delete it”
  15. vmin // mattress shopping
  16. vmin // social media
  17. jikook // bend and snap
  18. yoonseok // “i thought you were an asshole when i first met you”
  19. namjin // “daddy i think i need tampons”
  20. sugamon // “what you do you mean i wasn’t supposed to use the whole thing?”
  21. vmin // belly rub + hic-ups
  22. yoonjin // haunted houses
  23. vmin // office halloween parties
  24. yoonjin // first christmas together
  25. vmin // “do these pants make my dick look big?”
  26. kookvmin // “i can think of a hundred reasons why this is a terrible idea, and all of them end with us dying by the force of jin-hyung’s rage”
  27. namjin // tupperware parties
  28. vmin // (both) single dads
  29. yoonseok // diy sextoys 
  30. taegimin // peeing in the ballpit
  31. vmin // “i think we’re my otp”
  32. 2seok // “when do you think they’ll realize it’s gone?”
  33. vmin // flowers + scraped knees
  34. vmin // aliens
  35. taegi // ikea assembly
  36. sugakookie // human barbell
  37. namjin // “singles will be paired”
  38. yoonseok // “we’re going to hell”
  39. yoonjin // “We already have 6 sets of these at home, I don’t care what new colors are out, we are not getting anymore god dammit!”
  40. sugakookie // flowers + lipstick
  41. yoonjin // blind date
  42. vmin // new werewolf
  43. taegi // fake plants
  44. vmin // “i can’t believe you thought that would fit in there”
Hold on
  • Yoongi: jimin can I use your laptop for a sec
  • Jimin: yeah hold on
  • Jimin: *deletes taeyang images, deletes jungkook images, tabs out jikook fanfics, tabs out bigbang fanfics, tabs out jimin images on google, deletes internet history*
  • Jimin: here you go
  • Yoongi: uhhhhh jimin your background is Jung-
  • Jimin: *steals it back* go use someone else's
How to Escape from an Abusive Relationship

It’s important to have a safe exit plan from an abusive relationship. The following tips might help you with this:

• Make a note of the phone numbers for your local women’s shelters.

• Confide in someone you genuinely trust (a good friend, a colleague at work, or a family member. Develop a code so they can help you if you are in an emergency (like a word you can text to them.)

• If your partner harms you, go to the emergency department and ask the staff to document your visit, and your reason for seeking medical attention.

• Journal each threat or abusive incident (with dates). If possible photograph any injuries.

• Prepare your escape in advance. Plan where you will go, and how you will get there.

• If you have a car, keep it backed in the driveway, with plenty of gas, and the keys close at hand, so that you can make a quick escape. Hide an extra set of car keys in case your partner steals and hides yours.

• Set money aside, either in a secret bank account or with a trusted friend or family members.

• Leave a packed bag with a friend or family member. This should contain an extra set of keys, essential ID (birth certificates, social security card, credit card, bank information, important phone numbers, passport, medical records etc), some clothes and any medications. If possible, avoid making use of neighbors or mutual friends.

• Know your partner’s schedule, and plan ahead for safe times to leave.

• Be especially alert to securing help through your computer or phone. Delete your internet browsing history, any websites you’ve checked out for resources, and all your old emails. If you called for help just before you left the house, dial another number afterwards in case your partner hits redial.

• Leave a false trail behind. For example, call hotels or rental agencies that are several hours away from the place you are planning on moving to.

Cassandra cloaked herself in between two buildings before stepping out onto the street. She walked into a nearby cafe while nobody could see her. As she walked in between the tables, she swiped a random person’s phone when they weren’t looking and cloaked it too. She sat down beside the person as she looked through the phone. Cass finally uncloaked herself and the cell phone and looked at the person sitting next to her with it still in her hand. “You know, there is such a thing as deleting your internet history.”

anonymous asked:

yoonjinnie + "so i found your internet browsing history before you could delete it"

“Somebody’s in trouuuble,” Jimin gloats in a singsong voice as Jin steps through the front door and slings his bag down in the entrance hall. 

Jin’s blood runs cold as he enters the main room and sees Yoongi sitting primly on the couch, Jin’s laptop perched on his thighs. His face is composed but slightly flushed. “My laptop died, so I had to use yours to finish a paper.”

“Oh,” Jin says, his voice high as he tries to play it cool. “And?”

“I found your browsing history before you could delete it.”

“Oh,” Jin repeats dumbly, his voice even higher, uncomfortably high, “And?”

Yoongi spins the computer around, and Jin sees the thing he feared most. His order confirmation. 

“Just ask me already, you ass.” Yoongi mumbles, looking flustered now, shifting the computer off his lap and pushing himself to his feet. Jin gulps hard and reaches, hands shaking, for the small box in his pocket that he’s carried around with him everywhere for the two months.

He takes a shuddering breath and sinks down onto one knee.

How to Escape from an Abusive Relationship

It’s important to have a safe exit plan from an abusive relationship. The following tips might help you with this:

• Make a note of the phone numbers for your local women’s shelters.
• Confide in someone you genuinely trust (a good friend, a colleague at work, or a family member. Develop a code so they can help you if you are in an emergency (like a word you can text to them.)
• If your partner harms you, go to the emergency department and ask the staff to document your visit, and your reason for seeking medical attention.
• Journal each threat or abusive incident (with dates). If possible photograph any injuries.
• Prepare your escape in advance. Plan where you will go, and how you will get there.
• If you have a car, keep it backed in the driveway, with plenty of gas, and the keys close at hand, so that you can make a quick escape. Hide an extra set of car keys in case your partner steals and hides yours.
• Set money aside, either in a secret bank account or with a trusted friend or family members.
• Leave a packed bag with a friend or family member. This should contain an extra set of keys, essential ID (birth certificates, social security card, credit card, bank information, important phone numbers, passport, medical records etc), some clothes and any medications. If possible, avoid making use of neighbors or mutual friends.
• Know your partner’s schedule, and plan ahead for safe times to leave.
• Be especially alert to securing help through your computer or phone. Delete your internet browsing history, any websites you’ve checked out for resources, and all your old emails. If you called for help just before you left the house, dial another number afterwards in case your partner hits redial.
• Leave a false trail behind. For example, call hotels or rental agencies that are several hours away from the place you are planning on moving to.

anonymous asked:

My ex boyfriend used to hate it when I watched gay porn (on my own, he wasn't even in the same room)(but you forget to delete your internet history once and suddenly the dude's all jealous of on screen dicks...). But he always queued up lesbian porn during sexy times, which I have no complaints about, but double standards much?

WOMEN WATCH GAY PORN?