dehumanization of trans people

a post on some shit i’ve seen

“I have a male character, but they’re very feminine so I think they might be a trans woman.”

This is not how being trans works. Being gender non-conforming =/= trans. Here is a list of reasons why this is sexist and transphobic.

  • It implies that men and women must behave a certain way and that anyone who does not adhere to these gender roles must be a different gender.
  • It implies that gender non-conforming trans people do not exist.
  • It negates sex dyshoria.
  • It enforces gender roles.
  • It enforces stereotypes and misconceptions trans people have been fighting against for a long time.

Your male character can be feminine without being trans. They are still a man.

“It’s offensive to describe trans people as being ‘born in the wrong body’.”

No, it’s not.

This is a narrative that many trans people use because it is an easy and succinct way to describe sex dysphoria. Dysphoria is more complicated than this, but this narrative is not offensive.

Stop silencing dysphoric people. Your character can describe themselves like this if they so choose to.

“I have a male character, but I picture him as having little body hair and wide hips, so I think I might make him a trans man–”

This is offensive. If you make a character trans because they posses physical characteristics that are seen as “undesirable” or “not typical” on people of their sex, then you are sexist and transphobic. 

Cis men can have wide hips and little body hair. Trans men can have narrow hips and a strong jaw. Cis women can have lots of body hair and a deep voice. Trans women can be short and curvy.

“My character is androgynous and it’s difficult to tell their gender so I’m making them non binary.”

Okay…

  • By claiming that non binary people are always androgynous appearing, you are creating a new set of gender roles and expectations while simultaneously doing everything in the first thing I talked about.
  • “Non binary” and “gender non-conforming” are not synonyms, but this doesn’t mean non binary people can’t be/aren’t gender non-conforming.

“Cis people are boring so my characters are all trans.”

This is the wrong mindset when talking about representation for trans people and when writing trans characters. When you equate “cis” to “boring” and “trans” to “cool” and “interesting,”, you are fetishizing and dehumanizing trans people. 

We are not trendy accessories that will make your story better simply by being there.

BTW, boring trans people exist. Because, you know, we’re people and not this year’s most popular Christmas gift.

“Reveal that your character is trans by showing their scars/body.”

Allies and transphobes alike have a fascination with the bodies of trans people. It has gotten to the point where “allies” spread private information about the medical lives of trans people to the general public. This has turned into a “how to spot a trans person” game.

Your characters do not need to be half-naked to show that they are trans.

“Dysphoria is self-loathing and can end up bringing too much angst to your story.”

Dysphoria is not self-loathing. This is a huge misconception. Dysphoria is a disconnect between someone’s brain and their physical sex.

When people experience sex dysphoria, their sex characteristics feel foreign. It is not simply “hating your body.” That narrative should not be used in fiction. Ever. It is false. Body positive feminists (both lib and rad) use it to vilify sex dysphoric people.

Do not ignore dysphoria. A lot of people don’t know what it actually is and confuse it for internalized misogyny. Dysphoria needs to be a part of fiction featuring trans characters so that we can work to end the misconceptions about it.

Also, do not “cure” your character’s dypshoria with love or romance or sex or self-acceptance. That’s not how it works.

misconceptions about trans people that need to be cleared up (may not be applicable to EVERY trans person):

1. we are not mentally ill because we are trans. we have a conditon called ‘gender dysphoria’ that has been essentially medicalized in order for us to gain access to hormones and surgeries we want/need to transition.
2. trans people are not necessarily 'born in the wrong body’. to extend this, some of us feel dysphoric about parts of our bodies that don’t feel right to us. the great thing about having a body is that it’s ONE’S OWN CHOICE to change parts about our body!!!!
3. we’re not confused. for the most part, anyway. i would guess about 99.99% of us are not confused about our gender identity in any way, shape, or form. the great thing about having a gender identity is that it can CHANGE and DEVELOP as we get older. much like an opinion on pineapples on pizza!! (it is NOT as simple as that, i’m holding your hand through this. just bear with me.)
4. not all trans people are dysphoric. repeat after me: not. all. trans. people. are. dysphoric.
5. we don’t stalk or kill people in bathrooms. we just don’t? we’re usually the one’s being actively targeted in bathrooms? hello? also, if someone wanted to commit a crime in a bathroom, i don’t think they would care about dressing up to match the little gender marker that is on the bathroom door. duh.
6. we are not 'cisphobic’ when we air our grievances about cisgender people to our fellow trans friends/whomever. we are just fucking sick of all the shit that cis people spread about us that isn’t true/is demeaning/is dehumanizing. ditto for when we feel more comfortable dating other trans people. (is it a fucking crime to want to be with someone who understands our struggles??? like?????)
7. you can have a 'trans friend’ and still be completely fucking transphobic!!!! also, chances are if you have to seek validation from me by saying you have a trans friend.. i am going to be even less likely to listen to you lmfao.
8. we will usually see statements such as “omg you’re so much prettier than me!” (usually with the tacked-on “…and i’m cis!” at the end) as suspicious, and if not suspicious, then highly transphobic.
9. WE DON’T LIKE BEING FETISHIZED. if, in pursuing a trans person, all you’re after is to 'check a box’ (date, sleep with, kiss, fuck a transperson for no other reason to say that you did it. or something to the effect of that.), then you’re fucking gross. (NOT fetishization: dating us, loving us, sleeping with us because you are actually interested in us as people, and NOT JUST because we’re trans! a-ok!)
10. more than one type of trans person exists; that is to say, not all trans people are white, cis-passing, able bodied, able to deal with cis ppl’s bs, etc. some of us are: POC, gender non-conforming, non-passing, stealth, differently abled, neurodivergent, closeted, etc. expand your horizons.
11. not ALL of us want to pass/be seen as cisgender. I KNOW, gather all of the things you just dropped on the floor. our main goal in transitioning is usually to be seen as VALID in our identity. this means!: we want our gender to be taken seriously. just like you want your gender to be taken seriously. period. end of story.

This is your regular reminder that this blog is not a welcoming space for TERFs, radfems, "gender critical" politics, or whatever new term gets made up to try to conceal an ongoing and aggressive attempt to dehumanize trans people.
Don’t use it pronouns

Using it/its/itself pronouns is transphobic as shit :)))) 

I’ve seen a few afab, cis-passing people use it pronouns today and I am going to fucking puke.

Being called “it” have been a method of violence and dehumanization of trans people for centuries. Using it pronouns on a human is inherently transphobic.

No, you can not reclaim it. It is still used as a slur. It is still used to dehumanize trans people. Especially if you’re clearly presenting in tune with your aab sex and therefore cis-passing and it has never been used against you. I’ve been called “it” by people who wanted to express their disgust in me being trans. Don’t use it pronouns it’s gross and you have no right to do it. Unless you accept that you’re a transphobic little cunt and contribute to the transphobia trans people experience every day of their lives. Then fuck you. 

someone told me i suffer from ‘fragile masculinity’ because i said that people should stop dehumanizing trans people and talking to/about them like they’re animals

Can anyone tell me where people got the idea that radfems want to (or even have) hurt/kill trans people? I’ve never seen any radfem wish harm or death upon any trans person, even when i was in the discourse tag.

That’s not to say radfems don’t like to dehumanize and disrespect trans people by refusing to use their pronouns and ignoring the fact that even though radfems don’t believe in gender as a concept, trans people DO and might find comfort in it, especially if they’re dysphoric.

But I’d really like to know if there’s anything backing the “terfs want trans people dead” thing, cause I don’t see it.

  • Dysphoric trans person: using neopronouns is sorta hurtful and dehumanizing you know
  • tucute: haha look at these silly cis people saying im dehumanizing people lol theyre so dumb
  • Same trans person: actually I would like to remove my tits-
  • tucute: IIIIII WASNT TALKING ABOUT YOU NOPE NO TRANS PEOPLE THINK LIKE THAT LALALA

anonymous asked:

terfs have worked with far right anti lgbt groups to deny us rights. just because they're not directly murdering us doesn't mean their rhetoric doesn't lead to our murder. they can understand how dehumanizing other groups leads to harm against them but it just. doesn't click when it's about trans people. that's how large scale violence happens, dehumanization. once a group is viewed as less than people violence against them is ignored.

Exactly

anonymous asked:

do you think you will ever post pictures of your surgery results?

No. If someone sees my results it’ll be because I chose to show that person specifically. I’ve seen pictures stolen and posted without permission, people trash talking surgical results in the most heinous and disgusting ways imaginable, and both of those actions being seen as acceptable far too often to ever trust the general public with my pictures. When you’ve gone through these operations people, trans and cis, completely dehumanize you and act like your basic right to privacy or respect is gone. The person those surgical results are attached to seemingly doesn’t exist. People act like we don’t see the comments that are made or that those comments are okay because it’s “just their opinion” or whatever else. I care about my emotional well-being enough to not subject myself to that and it’s unfair to expect that of anyone. My thoughts might change in the future but right now the only photos I intend to share publicly are of the phallus under clothing and the donor sites healing. I do intend to privately share photos with close friends and to allow some people to see my results in person but both of these will be in highly controlled situations.

  • Anti-SJWs: *openly mock marginalized groups and dehumanize them with slurs*
  • Anti-SJWs: *misgender trans people on purpose, and tell all LGBTQIA people that their identities are invalid*
  • Anti-SJWs: *harrass neurodivergent people, purposely try to trigger them, and falsely accuse them of faking for attention*
  • Anti-SJWs: That's not bullying! But once an SJW made a joke about cis people; obviously SJWs are the *real* bullies on this site
Phalloplasty - 2 months post-op

June 25th, 2016

On April 25th, 2016 I had stage 1 RFF phalloplasty with Dr. Chen in San Francisco. This is part of a series of posts talking about my recovery from bottom surgery. For more information on the operation itself you can look through my “phalloplasty” tag and for posts specifically about my surgery you can look through my “gendercube phalloplasty” tag.

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Just a reminder to our cis allies:
Transgender Day of Remembrance is NOT the trans equivalent of Gay Pride. We aren’t throwing parades. We aren’t throwing parties. We aren’t celebrating.

We are reading the names of our dead. We are trying to make it clear that more than half of all LGBTQIA non-suicide deaths are murdered trans women. These are almost entirely trans women of color. We are mourning our dead and raising awareness of the danger and presumed disposability of trans lives.

We’re drawing the clear line of cause to effect between the transphobia that pervades our culture and society and the murders of trans women of color. When you’re pointing out the routine dehumanization of trans people, when you’re talking about the transphobia suffused through all of the news coverage of trans people (and the conflation of trans people and Intersex people - see the coverage of Taylor Leann Chandler today), make sure you’re pointing out how it directly leads to violent murders and the lack of investigation and urgency in solving those murders. 

We have exactly one state in which defense attorneys are prohibited from using the “Trans Panic” defense to justify their clients’ murdering trans women. It’s routine for women who manage to survive attempts on their life to be arrested and jailed (usually in men’s prisons) for daring to defend themselves. 

The goal of Transgender Day of Remembrance is to create a world in which it no longer needs to exist. Raising awareness is great, but make sure you know what you’re raising awareness of on TDOR. Talk about the poor trans women of color and LOUDLY value their lives, don’t just advocate for middle class trans women and trans men. Go ahead and talk about how 50% of LGBTQIA homeless youth are trans, how they get kicked out of their homes and put in dangerous living situations because they are trans. Talk about how 41% of trans people have attempted suicide. Talk about how many people are dying through those means, but don’t you dare forget the trans women of color whose lives we are recognizing and whose deaths we are mourning today. Make sure you’re talking about the link between them.

Just want to say… A person who transitions from one gender/gender identity  to another is trans. 

Nonbinary people are just as valid as trans males and trans females, and to say that they don’t deserve to be treated as such is not only discriminatory, but it’s also disrespectful, dehumanizing, and you’re no better than anyone else who treat trans people wrongfully.

Every trans person goes through their own battles. They are a minority. They are just as valid. You have no say AT ALL how hard it is for them, just because you have an opinion that isn’t worth two cents. You don’t know what they go through.

NB people are valid. NB people are trans. NB people deserve respect. 

i can’t believe i have to make this exact same fucking text post again, in the year of our lord 2016, but i’ll repeat myself— if you think that using violent transphobic slurs like tr*nny is acceptable politics, ever, in any context, when that word is literally used to dehumanize and KILL trans people, unfollow and get the hell off my blog. now.

I kind of have a neat little idea! In order to stop people from dehumanizing nonhet and trans people, we could start a hashtag where LGBT people can talk about the things beside their gender or orientation that make them special. The tag for orientations is #MoreThanJustMyOrientation and gender is #MoreThanJustMyGender Let’s make this a thing guys!!!

anonymous asked:

fun fact: without mentioning anyone specific, a lot of the trans people who get called terfs are trans men. wanna take a wild guess why terfs (who think everyone is their birth gender) would be perfectly ok with accepting trans men?

idk what the point of this ask is, like i’m having trouble deciphering whether you’re trying to be rude or not but like

terfs are fucking dehumanizing and misgender trans people all the time, that’s why they “would be perfectly ok” with trans men