I've been meaning to write for some time to thank you for something so important about the sex scenes in OFD: that John is so careful to get Sherlock's consent at every step and that John is not assuming he wants what John wants. As a woman over 40 whose "sex education" was being told "nice girls don't," I cannot imagine how different my first sexual experiences would have been if I had been empowered by reading stories that modeled communication, openness, & reciprocity. Your story matters.
Wow, this message was so meaningful to receive. To imagine that my writing might do something against our oppressive, patriarchal, sex-negative culture and have a positive effect on people’s sexuality is…. everything.
Thank you, thank you for taking the time to write and tell me. <3