decolonial thought

In returning to the question of pipeline development, members of the Unist’ot’en Clan of the Wet’suwet’en nation have been actively asserting traditional regulation of territorial boundaries. In August 2010, hereditary leaders Toghestiy and Hagwilakw presented an eagle feather to Enbridge representatives as a “first and final” warning of trespass on Wet’suwet’en territory (Unist’ot’en Camp, “Trespass Notice” 2010). This is in keeping with traditional Wet’suwet’en law that requires guests to fully identity themselves, ask permission to enter Wet’suwet’en territory, and be granted this permission prior to entry (Unist’ot’en Camp, “Consent Protocol”). Because of the incursion of settler industry onto Unist’ot’en territory, several community members have created a camp in the proposed pipeline route that they describe as a “gateway (not a blockade)” (Unist’ot’en Camp, “Northern Gateway”). This example of grassroots assertion of territorial boundaries points to one facet of a boundary of responsibility. Settlers— and non-Wet’suwet’en Indigenous peoples—have a responsibility to respect the laws of the land so that decolonized relationships can be built across boundaries and “gateways.” It is crucial to note that this assertion of boundary is not the same as wall building; if guests are willing to develop good relations, to be responsible, they will be welcomed. It is not a fixed characteristic of outsiders that makes them outsiders, but rather it is their actions as settler developers, their refusal to acknowledge Indigenous title and laws that makes them trespassers.
—  “Post-National Foundation of Judith Butler’s and Rossi Braidotti’s Relational Subjectivity” by Adam Burke Carmichael

everyone has needs, whether those be romantic, sexual, emotional, spiritual, whatever else. that’s a given. the question/real issue is will you be honest and unashamed about what you need? will you allow your self to be vulnerable in saying those needs & desires out loud to yaself and/or ya friend(s), beau(s), partner(s), bae(s), family, etc.? or will you find yourself manipulating others into giving you what you need without asking or communicating that, out of fear of rejection, seeming weak or fragile, or out of a need to maintain “power” in whatever relationship…