i don’t understand why you’re explaining the movie to me. and you’re kinda contradiction yourself, too.
regardless, like i said I’m talking about a pattern and this movie was no exception. I didn’t say it was a bad movie so I’m wondering why you’re defending it at all.
I don’t mean that the mom role shouldn’t be the focus. I’m saying that I would like women protagonists above a certain age to be able to have a plot in which there are no relations to motherhood at all. no side plot. no mentioning of oh look I have a baby. no “we’re using your womb for sth sth”. no “my child is dead”. it’s cheap heterosexual misogyny when writers are incapable of writing women as standalone characters.
actresses have for decades been addressing this issue. because once you hit a certain age you don’t get to be just a capable character anymore when you’re a woman. you get to be a capable mom. that’s rubbish and serves no other purpose than to tell women that no matter how smart, capable, “empowering”, “reckless”, and “persistent” they are, their true happiness, their true calling lies in living for someone else, their offspring, the product of not just her but some guy.
in arrival’s case some guy whose romantic affections seemed forced–your words–and who wouldn’t stick around when she decided to share her burden with him.