Maladaptive Daydreaming.

“Everybody does it!”

Oh. Does everybody pace back and forth for hours; index finger automatically clicking the volume up, louder, until they feel the music leak into every possible corner of their brain?

Do they see their characters dance, fight, make love or sing along with the songs they so carefully chose?

Can they watch a movie without imagining their own movie in their heads?

Does it take them hours longer to complete chores? (Dirty laundry is much less interesting than playing pretend).

Are their universes as complex as a novel? Do their character’s emotions ebb and flow like verses of poetry?

Do their daydreams terrify them?

Do they feel what their characters feel? Do they feel the slightest bit insulted that they call their teammates, their creations, their friends and family simply…characters…?

Do they think that their daydreams tease them with images of lives far more grand and exciting than the mundane grey word they’re forced by physics to live in?

Oh, dear.

Everybody daydreams.

But not all dreams are adaptive.

Maladaptive Daydreaming

What is maladaptive daydreaming (Madd) ?

Maladaptive daydreaming (madd) is a mental disorder/condition that describes excessive daydreaming, most times hours at a time, that interferes with one’s life. The key factor here is not what you daydream about. It’s for how long you daydream and how much it prevents you from living reality.

How do I identify Maladaptive Daydreaming?

Spending more than half your day with your mind wandering to the point that it disrupts your life is the biggest indicator that your excessive daydreaming has become maladaptive.

Maladaptive daydreamers:

  • do facial expressions, move around, talk, sing or dance while daydreaming
  • have multiple universes, characters and stories 
  • use music, books, movies or day to day situations to help them daydream about specific situations
  • feel safe inside their daydreams
  • daydream hours at a time, sometimes even an entire day
  • daydream while supposed to be asleep at night
  • find it hard to stop daydreaming
  • find it hard to focus on a movie, song or book because they automatically feel the need to daydream

What Maladaptive Daydreaming is NOT

Do not confuse Maladaptive Daydreaming with having halucinations, psychosis, or other similar mental disorders or just normal daydreaming. Maladaptive daydreams are aware of the fact that they’re daydreaming and are able to distinguish daydreaming from reality.

Anyone else in the “I was supposed to be writing something but, I got side-tracked by social media and daydreaming” squad? 

types of maladaptive daydreamers

The mover and shaker

The best, most jam-iest music that needs to be on full blast. and moves that could ~kill~. Literally. Their daydreams only happen when in fast motion, whether it’s hopping, dancing, skipping, gettin’ down, or runnin around. Loves speakers, having the house to themselves, and socks. Hates that they can’t easily daydream when others are around.

The pacer

The most common type. Earbuds are ~essential~. All they need is a comfy, climate controlled space to walk around and get absorbed. Love socks, hiking and the time when everyone else goes to bed. Hates when people ask them why they pace so much and always wear big ol’ sweatshirts.

The props person

Needs props. Always. Something to hold to make their daydreams more real, perhaps a bottle for when their para is at a party or a wand for the fantastical. A lowkey thespian. Loves collecting stuff (probably stamps), gloves and their siblings. Hates cleaning their room.

The thespian

Talking to yourself! Acting out every motion! Pretends to be super tuff but is just a lil bab that must be protected. Contrary to popular belief, doesn’t enjoy acting. Loves being alone, hates when they get caught talking to theirself. The most highkey.

The lucky ones

Don’t need to move or anythin’, just a comfy spot to curl up in with some music and a few scenario ideas. Probably has organized pinterest boards for each of their characters, relationships and scenarios. Loves long car rides and browsing pinterest. Doesn’t hate anything tbh.

Which one(s) are you? I’m a mix of mover and shaker and thespian :)

The idea is to live your life in a way that makes you feel lit up. Alive. Full fledged. Beautiful. Know and find what nourishes you inside out, bones to skin and then you build your world from that alone. All else is not part of your revolution; Or your ultimate evolution.