Day of Silence is today at my school. Be sure to take a moment to think about those voices that are silenced daily by bullying, harassment and oppression. The LGBTQ community has made great strides towards equality but the fight has not been won yet. The fight for equality will never be over until every person of any orientation does not have to hide who they are. There will be no such thing as coming out of the closet because hetero-normality will no longer be the expectation. The expectation will be to love one another. To love without obstacle. To love without fear. To love without ceasing. One day we will love like that.
With just an hour left in the Day of Silence, I feel the need to say this before it ends. I understand and respect the idea behind this day - be silent to honor those who have lost their voices, but that isn’t all that we need to think about here. Look out, wall of text incoming. Look out, wall of text incoming.
Now let me say, I was almost one of those people who lost my voice. I attempted suicide when I was 19 after a lifetime of emotional abuse and struggling with depression. Looking back, I’ve known I was gay my whole life, but I wasn’t able to acknowledge it or really come to terms with it until I was 16 and it slapped me in the face. There were two big reasons for this. The first was my Catholic mother who avoided the topic (and still does) with a burning passion. The second was the fact that talking about sexuality is viciously stigmatized due to conservative parents like mine who claim that they are defending their children by keeping them away from such ideas.
My mother caught me on tape in a home video, looking up the skirt of a girl next to me in preschool. On stage, no less (I have always been bolder on stage than off stage, I suppose). I was looking into some old writing of mine and found a story with a girl named after an old friend from kindergarten, who I realized I had a massive crush on in retrospect. I lost my virginity before I even really realized what it meant to be in love or have a healthy relationship, because my sexuality had been repressed for so long.
I’m sorry, but I don’t give a fuck what your family or religious values are when it comes to an issue like this. Repressing a child’s sexuality like that is more than just wrong, it’s flat out abuse. Children turn out gay, whether or not they’re “exposed” to it, and refusing to open a healthy dialogue on the topic creates people like me - people who have trouble speaking up when they hurt and when they’re in trouble, because they’ve been told their whole lives that what they feel is wrong. I’ve been working on healing for three years and I still struggle with feelings like that.
So let’s have a day of silence, to remember and bring attention to the issue. Next, talk about it. Be loud. Shout. Write poetry. Make people listen. Show others that it’s okay to talk, and that supporting LGBTQ youth does not end with some duct tape and note cards. I participated in the day of silence in high school when I started to come out, and all it got me were some dirty looks that made me feel smaller, that made me stay silent for even longer.
The gesture of widespread silence is powerful, but it doesn’t end there. Please, if you get anything from this post, at least remember that.
Day of Silence is an event put together by GLSEN to commemorate all of the LGBTQ victims of suicide, and all those who are forced into silence because of their sexual preference or gender identity.
I, along with many other individuals, have chosen to remain silent all day in order to show respect for those who were silenced because of these uncontrollable characteristics. I hope that you decide to join us in this fight for equality.
Day of Silence is when you are silent for the day in tribute to the people in the lgbt+ community that feel like they do not have a voice for being who they are. It is also like a moment of silence to the people in the lgbt+ family that have been killed or killed themselves due to their romantic orientation, sexual orientation, and/or gender identity. I am really excited to participate in it! :)
Day of silence is this Friday and it’ll be my first time participate in it( only because I never knew what day it was on) Its gonna be fun and a little challenging because I’m a really BIG talker. But…yeah its going to be lots of fun.
“Please understand my reasons for not speaking today. I am participating in the Day of Silence. This is a national student youth movement protesting the silence faced by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people and their allies in school. My deliberate silence echoes that silence, which is caused by harassment, prejudice, and discrimination. I believe that ending the silence is the first step toward fighting these injustices. Think about the voices you are not hearing today. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO END THE SILENCE?” ~ Day of Silence 2014 (4/11)
Today, people across the country are silent to commemorate the silence that LGBTQ teens are faced with every day. This silence is the product of prejudice, hate, discrimination, and harassment that happens in schools, and on the streets every day. In an effort to end the silence, I stand with them today to make our message even louder.