Every Friday is movie night at our house. Mom and brother are sitting on one couch and you and I are on the other. My legs over your lap you rub my legs during the movie my nightie rides up and you can see I have no panties on. … What do you do
Yoon Ha didn’t know that she was pregnant until she ran away from her abusive Chinese husband. However, she did not give up on her baby and endured a rough journey to reach freedom. She was 7-months pregnant when she finally made it to Southeast Asia through LiNK’s network. Now, she is safely resettled in South Korea with her daughter.
Her daughter can now sit by herself and crawl on the floor. She will be turning one year old this month!”
I took Storie to the park today for an hour. Then she took a bath after for about an hour. Usually, she’d go right down for a nap after that. Nope. She got sleepy around 530 but that’s too late for a nap (or she won’t sleep good at night) so she had been SO GRUMPY. obviously sleepy. 8:00 rolls around and I put her in bed.
Step One: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
“You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”
“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.
Marinette is the person who ends her texts with an ‘x’ like a walking Zayn tweet and EMOJIS she LOVES them especially the heart with the little yellow bow on it, she uses ‘u’ and ‘you’ in the same sentence and Alya hates it
Adrien prefers emoticons to emojis but he will fire off the occasional cat emoji (how have these people not figured it out yet??) he doesn’t use caps unless he’s talking about Ladybug in which case he uses all caps and you can probably hear him sighing like a lovesick dork from a block away
Alya types with perfect punctuation, perfect grammar, perfect spelling if you don’t text her with perfect punctuation, perfect grammar, perfect spelling she will block your number immediately she also comes up with all the group chat names and her contact names are a variety of ‘asshat’ ‘dickbutt’ and ‘cute cinnamon sugar cupcake’
Nino is the person who rarely texts in the group chat but reads everything and offers the occasional ‘lmao’ and recommends music and he’s the first person people text when asking what movie they should watch
Kim is all caps every time and he texts so fast that no one really knows what he’s talking about and autocorrect hates him and he texts ‘FIGHT ME’ every hour
Max rarely texts anyone, forgets to text back unless it’s an emergency and prefers skype over messaging and probably has a Samsung
Chloe texts rants and presses send too many times like one sentence will be spaced out into like ten different messages, she’s the bitmoji person and adds people into group chats and??? doesn’t name??? the group chats???? who does that???
Sabrina prefers calling to texting but she will send messages if it’s about school she can’t use emojis and uses ‘:)’ as punctuation
Alix uses all the abbreviations probably uses the word ‘noob’ a lot she’s the life of the group chat and usually keeps conversations going and livetexts everything uses typos her friends make as their contact names
Ivan only texts Mylene and usually texts like a fucking normal person, rarely swears and always replies to any texts he gets but doesn’t usually text first
Juleka is the one up at 3am contemplating life in the group chat like ‘dude who’s texting you in the middle of the night?’ ‘oh it’s just juleka just tell her she has to do her homework no matter how insignificant her existence is’
Rose uses all the heart emojis she plugs emojis next to each of her friends’ names that represent them lots of exclamation points and <333333333333
Mylene is the one who you go to when you feel like you’re life is falling apart she will talk you through whatever it is no matter what time it is or anything she always knows what to say she’s the mom friend of the group chat but like more chill about it