insecuresteroline asked:

Can you explain why the steroline sex wasn't rape? I can't exactly put into words why.

Ugh I really want to like bitch slap the person who started this whole thing because it’s such complete and utter nonsense and it drives me fucking crazy. Anyway of course I can! First here is the definition of rape:

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without that person’s consent.

The key phrase here is against a person without that person’s consent, in no way shape or form are Caroline or Stefan doing anything that is without their own consent. Caroline and Stefan are both completely in control of the actions and decisions they are making they simply DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. It’s that fucking simple, and while Caroline may have forced Stefan’s hand into turning it off he still made a choice (and LBR he could have faked it) and add to the fact Stefan knew he was going to do bad things without his humanity because he’s shut it off THREE TIMES BEFORE! Plus when did everyone decide humanity-free vampires aren’t in control of their actions? When did everyone decide humanity-free vampires aren’t allowed to have sex because it’s considered rape? Stefan had sex with Rebekah without his humanity, is that all of a sudden rape now? Damon had sex with Lexi without his humanity, is that all of a sudden rape now?

Now there have been two forms of rape on this show; Damon/Caroline and Stefan/Katherine. Caroline and Stefan were compelled by Damon and Katherine respectively to forget that they were feeding on them and that they were vampires. If Caroline and Stefan knew what Damon and Katherine were doing to them they would not have given them consent to continue their sexual relationship. 


Little Caroline/Liz flashback. Both of them talking about death

Damon and little Stefan at their mother’s funeral flashbacks

Elena actually taking care of Caroline

Liz funeral

Damon’s eulogy, saying Caroline is extraordinary and talking about her light

Caroline singing

Tyler coming drunk at the funerals and Matt has to stop him before he goes to the church

Matt & Tyler are gonna be police officers?

Jo & Kai being sick because they should have merged together

Jo saying she’ll give Kai her powers

Kai saying they were both sick because she’s pregnant

Alaric proposing to Jo

Sick Kai = prison worlds collapsing

Bonnie ending up in a prison in 1903 and seeing a woman who had a picture of Defan

Bonnie found Qetsiyah’s stone and has her magic back

Defan talking about Steroline & Damon saying she’s not the one because Stefan doesn’t know how to handle the situation right now

Stefan realizing he loves Caroline, saying it can be better than what he had with Elena and wanting to tell her

Caroline flipping the switch

Caroline snapping Elena’s neck

Bamon reunion

Damon confirming the woman in the prison with Bonnie was mama Salvatore