Confidence is gained with time and validation. I was so scared to start my transition, thinking my assigned sex would delegitimize my gender. Years later, I thought there was no way I could ever dress in clothes designed for men, which would also invalidate my gender. When I transitioned my aesthetics in 2015, I hoped it was only a phase. I hoped I would get over it like I hoped with my gender in 2003.
Much like my gender transitioning, my sense of fashion took years to re-learn and designify from normalcy. I’m so lucky to have community around me to support my many transitions. I owe everything to the people who gave me the time and validation I needed to be who I am, dress how I want, and express myself in ways that may transform how I understand gender altogether.
Just had a hotel manager eye me up and down then aggressively ask what I was looking for while trying to shovel me out of the building. I just presented in her hotel’s conference center in a very queer outfit isn’t it obvious I’m looking for a fight?