dangerous to men

canadianwheatpirates  asked:

@ male priviliege anon: you're completely right in that we can't rely on it to protect us! which sucks! and i'm definitely not trying to downplay the danger for trans men around being outed >_< I'm mostly just saying that we need to be really careful how we frame that danger (because a lot of people /do/ think trans women gain male privilege when outed, even if that's incorrect) in case it's used to hurt trans women, because we should be avoiding contributing to that if at all possible.

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i think people think the danger with men lies in stereotypical signifiers of masculinity and not with men themselves and the power they hold. like people’s image of dangerous men is always “big tough guy with huge muscles who hates books and loves WWE and trucks” but like, those are all harmless things that happen to correlate with our culture’s concepts of masculinity.

the thing that makes men dangerous as a social class is the structural power they hold and their ability and willingness to harm women due to that structural power. that’s something that’s true about men regardless of how much they distance themselves from cultural masculinity.

seeing falsettos

ive been thinking on this for a few days, but when i was in the theater to see falsettos there was an old man a few rows back and before the show, i could hear him talking about his experience with aids. this show meant the world to him in 1990, as a young man whose lover was infected not long before faslettoland began to play off broadway. he died a few months later. after the show he was crying, he was talking about “what would i do” and especially the “we’re just gonna skip that stage” line because they imagined they’d grow old together, even with the looming threat of aids in the 90s. the story of falsettos was reality for far too many, and it’s important to never forget that.

Let Laurent be masculine

Okay but I think people are forgetting that Laurent isn’t a feminine man by any means…he’s actually kind of fuckin manly. He’s built like the statue of David, described to have broad shoulders, a cut body and not to mention the strength to whirl around a 500lb+ horse while cutting down soldiers with one arm.

Damen used to chase after gladiators for crying out loud. You know he’s gotta admire Laurent’s body for how sporty and strong it is. He’s not like this…slight, soft-bellied boy I tend to see around the fandom. The super long hair, the soft body, always making him bottom (did we forget he nearly topped Damen if not for some rude premature climaxing)…

idk I feel like Laurent is being feminized into very boring, stereotypical role where there always has to be “a girl” of the relationship. And I feel like with all the different ways Pacat described him she was very careful about trying to avoid this very thing! Laurent may be a prettyboy but that doesn’t mean he isn’t masculine af too. I just don’t want his awesome character to fall into the same void that nearly every other ‘bottom designated’ gay man gets in any given fandom. 

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  • Voltage guy: yeah I'm not interested in dating or falling in love with anyone.
  • Me: ( aww why tho? U hot and I know I'm ugly but who the fuck cares man oh well *sigh* )
  • *7 EPISODES LATER*
  • Voltage guy: I am interested in a certain someone..
  • Me: hello....it's me.