dance girl problems

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anonymous asked:

My biggest bug bear is the fandom saying that Sansa is the reason Ned died. Like, yes she ran to Cersei but that's not why Ned was killed. Ned was killed because he confronted Cersei about her children. That's what killed Ned, not Sansa going to Cersei, not Catelyn capturing Tyrion. They added to the tension but Sansa always seems to get blamed. Ned wouldn't blame Sansa, he happily sacrificed himself for his little girl and would never ever blame her for his death

Anon here we touch a sore spot for Sansa, and the opinion most of the fandom has on her character.  Before saying anything, I want to make a  distinction between what is “Intetional foul” (or as I say in italian: dolo) and misconduct (or italian: colpa). 

Intetional foul: is when you know what you are doing is wrong, is illegal, AND you are aware of all the facts and consequences (which is more bad)

misconduct: is when you still do the wrong, illegal thing, but you are not doing it with intent. Meaning you dont know or understan all the facts and consequences. 

What Sansa did is a misconduct, meaning she did betray Ned,  (so we disagree on this) but she didnt know all the consequences and the facts of the events. This is clear in text: 

Sansa looked up from her food. “If she can have a dancing lesson, why won’t you let me say farewell to Prince Joffrey?

“I would gladly go with her, Lord Eddard,” Septa Mordane offered. “There would be no question of her missing the ship.”

“it will not be wise for you to go to joffrey right now sansa, i am sorry"

Sansa eyes filled with tears “but why?”

“Sansa your lord father knows best” septa mordane said. “You are not to question his decisions”

“Its not fair” sansa pushed back her table,knocked over her chair and ran weeping from the solar.

Sansa here asks why she cant see Joffrey, but Ned doesnt explain it. So she doesnt know all the facts. Sure Ned told her  they are in danger but he never said the reason for it. He never told her the truth about Joffrey. 

As for Sansa, she knows that she is doing a wrong thing when she goes to Cersei (she says it herself)

“How well I know that, child,” Cersei said, her voice so kind and sweet.

 "Why else should you have come to me and told me of your father’s plan to send you away from us, if not for love?“

“It was for love,” Sansa said in a rush.

 "Father wouldn’t even give me leave to say farewell.“ She was the good girl, the obedient girl, but she had felt as wicked as Arya that morning, sneaking away from Septa Mordane, defying her lord father. She had never done anything so willful before, and she would never have done it then if she hadn’t loved Joffrey as much as she did.

So yes Sansa did something very wrong, but again she didnt know the mess that it would happen, because she didnt know all the facts (because again Ned didnt tell her). So while yes she defied her father, she had NO idea that it would be followed by her (and arya) imprisoment. (Ned was already screwed, littlefinger saw to that!). 

Sansa “betrayal” (or as i prefer to call it “ Misbehavior”) is the surprise of the series. Since the beginning she is always portrayed as a girl who respects the rules, who is obidient and courteous. (which for me is  sign  of her desire to be loved)  

Even Tyrion  is surprised by her willful behavior. (and he barely knew her…):

"Littlefinger made the arrangements. We needed Slynt’s gold cloaks. Eddard Stark was plotting with Renly and he’d written to Lord Stannis, offering him the throne. We might have lost all. Even so, it was a close thing. If Sansa hadn’t come to me and told me all her father’s plans . . .

"Tyrion was surprised. "Truly? His own daughter?” Sansa had always seemed such a sweet child, tender and courteous.

“The girl was wet with love. She would have done anything for Joffrey, until he cut off her father’s head and called it mercy. That put an end to that.”

 So in conclusion I would say the blame in this case is on both sides, Sansa and Ned. And it makes sense given how both in KL and in the trident accident, turned a blind eye and didnt want to see how awful Robert (in ned case) and Cersei/Joffrey (in sansa case) were. Having trouble with facing the “ugly” reality is a strong part of Sansa as a character, something that she has to be confronted with sooner than later. 

I know most of the fandom hates Sansa for this, or doesnt believe she did it, but to me this episode is what makes her so HUMAN. She makes a mistake true, but her reasoning its so relatable to me. She does it for love, because Sansa (to me) is a character who at the end of things doenst want to be queen, or rule or be a political masterming, she just want to love and be loved by someone. 

 (my guess: her dream of loving and being loved by that someone will happen when she has children of her own…) 

Hood bar.

Last night I went out. I had a great time.
I can’t wait until I don’t care what anyone thinks of me so I can feel liberated for real.

I danced and smiled but while I danced I couldn’t help but wondered if the women who watched, laughed and talked with there friends if they where looking,laughing and talking about me.

I know some of it is my insecurities but I know how ratchet girls are though to.(don’t fight me on this, I’ve seen it first hand for years so stoppitt) Doesn’t matter how cute you look or pretty you look or how nice you are they always talk shit about plus size girls (unless you they home girl). But fuck it I’m happy I didn’t let anyones facial expressions stop my chunky self from shaking my ass. I love to dance and laughing. I’m an old lady at heart so when old club/house music comes on it’s like I have to go 2 step lol . .

Anyway I got drunk,had a bomb ass steak and danced my ass off. And I looked cute as fuck lol but I did though ..

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Ok, can we just talk about The-episode-that-must-not-be-named for a second? 

I know we are supposed to hate it because it’s Moffatty and OOC and all. But for me one thing looks pretty clear. He didn’t thoughtlessly abandon Rose on that spaceship. 

Look at the determination on her face after she’s seen Reinette vulnerable and afraid, and she’s made a promise on the Doctor’s behalf. And look at the resolution when he says there’s no way back. 

 Now tell me it isn’t clear that Rose made him keep his promise, no matter what the cost to herself. She wasn’t a victim, she made him do the right thing because she knew he’d regret it if he didn’t. And she trusted him to find some way back to her. 

 For me the only OOC bit was how content he seemed with Reinette at the end. Although he shot off back to Rose fairly promptly when he realised he could. 

 I know it’s not a perfect episode, but even as a proper Ten and RTD fan, I really like it. It’s got humour, it’s clever, the robots are really scary, it’s got snogging; it’s even got a horse.