dalai lama on man

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

I so believe in this.

When Things Go Wrong

“Carolyn Myss, the medical intuitive who writes and lectures about why people don’t heal, flew to Russia a few years ago to give some lectures. Everything that could go wrong did — flights were cancelled or overbooked, connections missed, her reserved room at the hotel given to someone else. She kept trying to be a good sport, but finally, two mornings later, on the train to her conference on healing, she began to whine at the man sitting beside her how infuriating her journey had been thus far.

"it turned out that this man worked for the Dalai Lama. And he said — gently — that they believe when a lot of things start going wrong all at once, it is to protect something big and lovely that is trying to get itself born — and this something needs for you to be distracted so that it can be born as perfectly as possible.”

–Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies

Never a bad thing to have hope in hard times. Am I right?

The wise man has nothing left to expect or to hope for. Because he is entirely happy, he needs nothing. Because he needs nothing, he is entirely happy.

- Matthieu Ricard

Image: His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama as a young man. No photo credit available online.

Carolyn Myss, the medical intuitive who writes and lectures about why people don’t heal, flew to Russia a few years ago to give some lectures. Everything that could go wrong did — flights were cancelled or overbooked, connections missed, her reserved room at the hotel given to someone else. She kept trying to be a good sport, but finally, two mornings later, on the train to her conference on healing, she began to whine at the man sitting beside her how infuriating her journey had been thus far.

it turned out that this man worked for the Dalai Lama. And he said — gently — that they believe when a lot of things start going wrong all at once, it is to protect something big and lovely that is trying to get itself born — and this something needs for you to be distracted so that it can be born as perfectly as possible.

—  Traveling Mercies (Anne Lamott)

bandshirtedboybanders  asked:

Also, if Karl had turned out to be a twat, I'm not sure I could have coped. He's like Australia's favourite drunk uncle.

Oh my god, that’s the best description of him I’ve ever heard!

For non-Australians, Karl Stefanovic is one of the hosts of the breakfast show Today, but you might know him as the guy who freaked out about the giant shark,

who chased seagulls during a live broadcast,

who told the Dalai Lama a bad Dalai Lama joke

and who professed having a man-crush on Harry, followed by some mutual live tv groping.

He really is Australia’s favourite drunk uncle.

It turned out this man worked for the Dalai Lama. And she said gently-that they believe when a lot of things start going wrong all at once, it is to protect something big and lovely that is trying to get itself born-and that this something needs for you to be distracted so that it can be born as perfectly as possible.
—  Anne Lamott
A friend told me of visiting the Dalai Lama in India and asking him for a succinct definition of compassion. She prefaced her question by describing how heart-stricken she’d felt when, earlier that day, she’d seen a man in the street beating a mangy stray dog with a stick. “Compassion,” the Dalai Lama told her, “is when you feel as sorry for the man as you do for the dog.
—  Marc Barasch
It turned out this man worked for the Dalai Lama. And she said gently-that they believe when a lot of things start going wrong all at once, it is to protect something big and lovely that is trying to get itself born-and that this something needs for you to be distracted so that it can be born as perfectly as possible.
—  Anne Lamott

zootmonkey  asked:

Moved back home after college. Finding that I'm now having to dig myself out of a deep deep pit ( mentally, emotionally & financially) . I don't want this to affect my social life or stunt my growth. I know you were at a similar place once. Advice & wisdom are greatly appreciated here. Namaste . :)

The first two years after college were the consistently worst days of my life. I have been through some difficult shit but the continual uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety of immediate post-college life was hellish. 

That said, it was one of the most beneficial times of my life which led to tremendous growth and change. And it will for you too. 

Firstly, you are not in a pit. You are on a long, long road. It doesn’t end. Remember when you were in high school and people first started asking what colleges you were going to apply to? That was the big topic everyone would ask you about when they learned your age and your school year. Then it was asking which college you are attending. Then it was asking what your major is going to be. Then it was asking what you plan to do after college. Then after college it becomes “where do you work?” and “where do you see yourself in ten years?” And so on. 

If we don’t have an answer to one of these questions, we feel disjointed, disconnected, and lost. After college when people asked me where I worked, I would always have to give some footnoted explanation on how I was unemployed. 

People will always be asking about the next step, and there will always be a next step until that last step into the grave. Let that sink in. Life is a journey whose destination is death; therefore give the journey your full attention and don’t wait until you reach your destination before allowing yourself to relax. 

There is no better time to integrate peace, happiness, and sanity into your life than today. 

Here are some tips:

1. Set a general routine. This was the most crucial aspect of my time living at home. It’s important for several reasons. Here are the few I recommend:

(a.) Meditate daily. I meditated for an hour a day when I lived at home. This was a fundamental pillar of my transformation. Not only does meditation help to digest the delusional imprints you took on from college but it also puts you in touch with basic peace, sanity, and happiness. 

(b.) Exercise regularly. I attended yoga classes three times a week for about a year. While it kept me decently fit, the real significance was in my energy. Our anxieties, emotions, and whatnot all get retained in the body in various ways. Tensions, blockages in circulation, and targeted muscle weakness can disrupt our sense of self and make us feel like we are something shitty. Exercise, especially yoga, works that out of the system quite well. 

(c.) Explore the future. Like many students, I’m sure you’re struggling with debt. And as such I wouldn’t be surprised if you felt the need to get any paying job and start trying to pay that debt off. Definitely do that. But take some time daily to google, to apply to future careers, or to examine what your next step may be. In time, your direction will reveal itself. There is no “right” direction versus the “wrong” direction. The only thing you want to avoid here is prolonged stasis. 

2. Don’t take family personally. Living at home with the family can be trying on your sanity. Perhaps they are passively judgemental or maybe they’re outright antagonistic toward you. This has more to do with them and their own imprints than it does with who you are. 

Family is on your side; they want you to do well. But they have their own hangups too. If you don’t do well enough, they may be hard on you because they feel like that’s what would happen to them if they were in your position. Or maybe they feel like you are just being lazy. It really depends on their minds. Whereas if you start doing too well then they may grow jealous and critical. 

Or you may have a totally loving and supportive family! It really is shades of difference for everyone. My mother is extremely supportive of me and has lots of confidence in me but during my years after college I found myself avoiding her because of how strained our relationship had become. 

Don’t burn any bridges. Use any abuse that is directed your way as an opportunity to understand the mind from which others are speaking, rather than as a way to judge yourself. 

3. Don’t stop learning. Just because you are out of school doesn’t mean you are no longer a student. I shudder to think of the people who graduate school and never bother to learn anything new again. 

In this case, learn what is useful. For me, that meant reading lots of spiritual books. This was how I came across The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron. In that book, I learned many perspectives and techniques to open myself to the pain that was my daily companion. I learned how to digest that pain and transmute it into compassion. 

I recommend you start with Pema’s book and see where you go from there. 

4. Treat yo self. Don’t lose touch with the part of yourself that knows how to have a good time. 

This is different than trying to make yourself feel better. After college, some people get caught up in the cycle of trying to escape back to college. I have friends that still go out drinking most nights of the week. 

Feeling like shit does not always mean we need to drown it out with a different feeling. That is how growth is stunted, by trying to make ourselves feel better instead of meeting the pain of this moment. 

Treating yourself, however, means not locking yourself away from the world like some disillusioned pseudo-monk. Meet up with friends and get silly, go for jaunts in nature, throw paper planes off rooftops, whatever you want, man. 

In the end, college is not life. What comes after college is not life. Life is in your heart, in the moment. The Dalai Lama once said of modern man that “he lives as if he is never going to die and he dies never having really lived.”

Just be honest with yourself; don’t try to conform to the half-baked idea we call “perfection.”

This is life, brother, whatever the fuck that means. The spiritual way is to transcend it even as you delve into it. There are few defined spiritual paths in our western culture, if any. As such it is up to all of us to pioneer, to experiment, and to find what works for the peace, freedom, and happiness of all beings. 

It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop. And you are not walking it alone. Don’t hesitate to reach out. 

Namaste my friend. Much love. 

Meeting The Dalai Lama

Guys, I just wanted to share my life changing experience. I met The Fourteenth Dalai Lama yesterday in my school. He was the most cute and adorable man I have even seen! As soon as he entered, I had a smile on my face. I didn’t even realize I was smiling. He talked about how one should just love one another, regardless who they are or how they act. We all hear and read such stuff all the time; on the internet, the radio, through our parents, on articles and whatnot; but that was the one time I truly believed in what was being said. I realized how all of us become hypocrites and tell not to hate, when we ourselves hate on every person who makes a single mistake. We are all human and things happen. And there are always two choices we can take to react to any situation - learn from it, feel glad it happened and not regret anything cause no matter what happened, you learnt and grew as a person and became wiser, or we can keep mourning and carrying the thing further and spreading negative vibes all around us. I think we all are wise enough to actually chose the right option. And we really need to stop hating. We need to love ourselves. We need to respect others, even if we don’t like them. We need to respect our surrounding and the beautiful nature around us. We need to start living in the moment and not just pass by every second as ghosts. Life can be so much more meaningful, only if we understood. I am not wise or anything right now, and I have made hell lot of mistakes in the past, and I know I will make mistakes in the future. But the difference will be that this time, I won’t go get myself stoned after every bad experience. I will be fucking glad it happened. I think all of us should. And just the last thing I want to mention - please stop sending me hate guys. If you knew a single thing about me, I’d still think that maybe I am at fault somewhere or I might have hurt someone. But it is just a waste of time for you and for me to send hate to anyone. Every hate message leaves like this empty, sad feeling in my stomach. Like imagine what you can do sitting 1000 miles away to someone, and I don’t even know your names. It’s crazy. Please just be happy people yknow and just stop spreading negativity even through the internet. It really bothers me and I feel like even deleting this blog sometimes cause of it. Just please stop. 

Thank you all so much, whoever read this. And I even want to thank each and every beautiful soul that follows this blog. I love you all and stay happy :)

I’ve been blessed to do some cool things in my life , but being in the same room as the Dalai Lama is definitely at the top of the list. This man radiates light. Honored to have been invited to his 80th bday luncheon. dalailama