For every single gift daddy, splenda or free vacay I’ve gone on (I’ve been on 3 this yr and was suppose to have one this weekend 😧😟🙁) this is the trap I use.
1) I casually throw out lingerie shopping for myself out there which of course will entice them. Note: I initially didn’t ask him for anything, just stated it would inevitably happen.
2) He bites…he wants to see. That’s when I ask if he’s buying it. Usually its a “yes” to which I’ll flirt back. In the rare occasion that it’s a “no”, I let him no that he shouldn’t even ask to see me in anything sexy if he’s not willing to buy me something sexy to wear. This usually turns a “no” into a “yes”.
3) I include him in the shopping. I send him photos of things I’m thinking about buying. If he starts to fantasize, I’ll slightly indulge him like “oh yea, I DO think my butt will look great in that…”
4) I up sale him. For example “oh yea, I DO think my butt will look great in that… Can’t you imagine me in lingerie and pearls/at dinner in nude heels and a form fitting dress with my lingerie peeking from underneath/ red lipstick and chanel?”
I’m creating an image for him that he thinks is based for his pleasure but already I’ve gone from just lingerie to pearls, dinner, shopping for shoes and dresses, makeup and perfume. And he doesn’t feel forced because he’s trying to bring to life the image I created for him.
Another trick could be to double up. Once you agree on a set or whatever tell him that you want to pick out another as a complete surprise for him and that he can’t see it until you wear it. Now you have two sets! (Assuming you have his card or he paypal you the money).
It starts small then you just add on a bit more every time. It helps if he believes You’re already accustomed to this treatment. If he thinks every man does this for you and that if he doesn’t do it, another will, And that he won’t get your time of day without it then he’ll more than likely get on board if he truly wants your attention. Btw of all the men I’ve used this on…. young vanillas are the easiest. Truly. Honestly.
After couple of years sugaring this is what I’ve observed regarding SD/SB sites
-what I’ve recently read and which is 100% accurate, anyone worth of knowing won’t be in such sites. Full. Stop.
-most of men that have profiles are in best case upper middle class guys. You won’t find a multimillionaire sitting behind his computer chasing girls online. Would you? I wouldn’t. Reality is all of true rich men have access to upscale bars, clubs, restaurants, country clubs, lounges where they can meet dozens of beautiful women, DAILY. In worst case he will book a girl trough established agency (his assistant will) if he is more of an introvert or has no time for socializing.
-top income on these site is NOT above 200k after taxes. And majority of those men are MARRIED, which means his wife has access to his cards/accounts and has knowledge of his financial behavior, do you think she won’t be suspicious if all of a sudden large amounts start missing from his account? Of course she will. Other are divorced with couple of kids, which means ALIMONY. So don’t expect mind blowing amounts spent on you.
-if he offers out of the blue 10k + apartment + car, most likely it is a SCAM. In order a man to be eligible for such spending on someone else his income should be at least 700-800k after taxes. In average, a man won’t spend more than 20% of his income on you. How do y'all think a man who earns 200k-300k will just drop half of his money on you? He also has daily/monthly/yearly expenses of his own. He’ll just go broke because of you? NO. Be realistic.
-there probably is one who is able to spend such amounts on you as mentioned above but finding him on these sites would be a pure luck. Like jackpot once in a blue moon.
-if he doesn’t discuss your allowance and what exactly he can offer in first few messages, he is probably not a legitimate SD, or just a Splenda most likely salt. A real SD knows the game. Don’t fall for that “make me a proposal/offer”. That’s BS.
-if he only offers to communicate via Skype he is almost sure a SCAM. Never settle for this type of communication, either he can video call via Viber or FaceTime. Say you don’t use Skype. Not negotiable.
-if he isn’t ready to provide his photos in first few exchanged texts, DROP him. There is no valid excuse for this. Unless he is on Forbes 100. Or running a Fortune 500 company. Which isn’t close to impossible. Always choose video call over exchanging photos. (What i recently witnessed was a man who sent me photos of a dead US businessman, he probably thought if we are from Europe I won’t know this) -luckily there is google image search
-ALWAYS and I repeat always try with google reverse image search. Also look up his number.
-if he refuses to tell you his full name there is a good reason behind it, a BAD one. Leave him.
-Under NO circumstances negotiate the sexual part of an arrangement, he exactly knows what he will be getting. You get the “dos and donts ” question, block him, real SD never asks such questions over the phone.
-make sure you discuss about his stated budget. Ask if those are his spending habits or he would be actually willing to spend that on you. Does that include only your allowance or it includes all of the monthly expenses he would have regarding you (e.g. Trips, dinners, gifts, shopping sprees etc)
-don’t be shy to ask anything you want to know prior to your meet, if you have any doubts or unclear stuff, ASK.
-if you are traveling/flying out to meet him make sure all of your transportation/flight tickets/hotel room is paid in full, IN ADVANCE, with email confirmation of the receipts which are NON REFUNDABLE. He can always cancel your hotel booking for example.
-if he asks you to fly out but to buy your own tickets and he’ll reimburse you when you meet, NEVER do this!!! Real SD would never ever propose such situation, or he will send you money prior to your meet so you can purchase it, if he doesn’t want it to be shown on his credit card.
-always bring your own money to a pot date, no matter if it’s just a coffee date or dinner or flying over to other city/country. Remember, he can walk out on you any time and leave you out to dry. Imagine if you don’t like him really and need to for example take another room, take your ticket earlier, take a taxi home etc, possibilities are endless. Make sure you are SAFE regarding funds.
-NEVER send more than 4 photos (2 showing your face and upper body and two showing your body from different angles/poses) any of these men asking for more are pic collectors. Whenever you can choose a video call over exchanging photos.
-if you meet him and he looks different than his photos LEAVE immediately. EVACUATE. Code RED. You think he is providing something substantial if he can’t even provide a proper photo of himself? NO.
-Never ever agree to unprotected sex. No excuses are valid enough. Even though you are in a long term arrangement he probably is seeing other women too. Unless he’ll provide you a STD check (HIV, HPV, HEP a, b, c too) not older than 48h prior to your rendezvous, from a clinic you personally chose. Medical checks, reports can be forged.
-make sure that you first get your end before giving him his part of the bargain. FIRST THE MONEY THEN THE HONEY. No peep shows, no trial periods, no compatibility checks. You see a meal you never tried in a restaurant, decided to order from the menu, you didn’t really like it, yet you still have to pay for it? YES.
-Do not fall for the first man that texts you, sugaring REQUIRES patience and practice.
-Do not settle for exclusivity unless all of your monthly expenses are fully covered plus there is spending money left, and enough for at least a month if he drops you out of the blue. Don’t think you will ever be his one and only.
-When he says NO DRAMA in his profile text that means no drama from you, not from him. No PROs or ESCORTs means he can’t afford one or he can’t afford to be screened, because he has something to hide - something BAD.
-if he is not able to meet in few days after your initial conversation he is most likely a TIME WASTER, or if he books you a ticket and not confirm two three days before the actual meet do not go, unless you want a free trip and have an interest of your own visiting that place.
-if he offers less than a 5* hotel accommodation, drop that cheap ass, he probably is just a SALT.
-when he states most important things for him are connection and affection he has no intention of compensating for your time.
-there is no UPPER age limits for being a sugar baby, you think he wouldn’t date J-Lo ? Yes he would but he can’t afford it! When guy says he prefers very young girls it’s because he knows they are easier to trick and have lack of experience.
-REMEMBER: if something is too good to be true it’s because it usually is. Don’t fall for words, SEEING is BELIEVING.
-if he somehow gets uncomfortable when getting a bill in the restaurant or makes comments on prices or starts making a face, never see him again, no real SD will make a comment over couple of bucks. If possible, check how much he tipped the waiter.
-if he says along the way he isn’t into luxury and prefers something more humble/down to earth, leave that mofo, YOU ARE a LUXURY.
-if he is too demanding compared to what he is providing, he is actually using you, do not fall for that (ask for way to many photos/text exchange etc)
1) Overdress just a tad. make sure you stand out wherever you are but don’t break out the formal attire for coffee either. Little black dress usually does the trick because its easy to dress up or down if necessary.
2) Know what you want going into it and bring it up as soon as possible, he doesn’t have the time to waste and neither do you.
3) Bring hygiene products like deodorant, perfume and gum to make it look and smell like you’ve got your shit together.
4) Meet in a public place.
5) Talk about your previous arrangements, even if you didn’t have one make something up, they’ll think/know that you’re experienced and you have the proper mindset.
6) make sure you know what he’s looking for. This stuff is best to just get out of the way as soon as possible.
7) Ask a lot of questions. Old men love to talk.
8) Have an excuse to leave at a certain time. If things aren’t going well you get to leave, and you’ll seem busy which is always hot.
9) If things go well use physical contact to tell him so. Graze his hand across the table, or hug him when you leave.
10) Don’t whine, don’t slouch, don’t give him personal information. Just find out who he is, what he wants, if things will work out, and follow up accordingly.
This is my first go at anything like this. I hope it could help in some way
I see a lot of girls asking whether to discuss an allowance before or after the first date and honestly, I prefer to do it before and here are my reasons why:
1) I don’t want to get all dolled up for a date face beat, hair laid, ready to snatch ppl’s fucking life just to find out he can only provide me with an amount that’s insufficient to my lifestyle
2) I’m not afraid of “scaring him off” because he knows I’m obviously attracted to his money and not him primarily.
3) If you don’t like the range or financial amount he’s proposed you can always stick it out and wait to see if he changes his mind after you meet or just never meet with him all together. ON TO THE NEXT LOL.
4) I’ve found that when I do this its less awkward during the date because we can focus on getting to know each other and all that bullshit
I find that sometimes the word “allowance” makes these men very uncomfortable. So sometimes instead I would say “What amount/range would you feel comfortable with, in terms of cash and gifts (or you can say spoiling me with)?”
At the end of the day, you just go with whatever feels right for you and your situation. Obviously, if you’re going more for the spoiled gf route you probably wouldn’t mention this immediately because you would want the relationship to seem more genuine. But, if you’re going for the straight up SD route this could work.
Unless a SD is buying me clothes I never buy anything expensive. Ever. It takes a little more work going the cheap way, but I think it’s worth it
Cheap Clothes Options:
-Forever 21 and H&M are givens cause they’re pretty cheap
-Ross (not sure if they have these in every area) and Burlington
-Kohls and JC Pennys are hit or miss
-get your ass to a thrift store and search for brand name clothes. they are there. it will take a while but you’ll find some nice ass cheap clothes (once found dozens of pairs of American Eagle jeans in amazing condition for $2 a pair)
-”nicer” thrift stores aka Buffalo Exchange or Plato’s Closet are goldmines
I don’t think I’ve ever paid more than 20 dollars for a dress and I still have nice clothes that flatter me and are in style. As a SB it’s your job to be a combo of slutty and classy. I try not to wear typical teenage girl clothes cuz I’m trying to look a little more sophisticated but that’s just me
As much as I love stores like Nordstrom and Bergdorf and what not I try to have some self-control
Getting less than 6 hrs of sleep increases your risk of diabetes.
Getting more than 8 hrs of sleep has the same effect on the body as smoking cigarettes.
Bees claim the lives of approx 61 people in the US a yr.
The loss of bees will mean the eventual extinction of humans.
My point is… something is gonna kill you one day…. might as well suck that dick!
Let me fill you in on a little secret… A man’s best friend is named EXPENSE. Babies please don’t think because a POT took you to a world renounced $600 dinner that he made some effort. It’s called expense. Many men are famous for acting like they made some grand gesture, when in all honesty he just expensed it and said you were a client. Don’t be fooled!
Taking care of your mind and body is important especially when you expect men to drop thousands of dollars on you every month for the pleasure of your company! Personally before even thinking about becoming a sugar baby this year, I’ve been taking care of myself for years because appearance is very important in my line of work. Keep in mind that I’m in my late 20s so some stuff you might not even need at this point since most of you are in your late teens or early 20s. Enjoy those years haha well I can’t complain, I have a baby face ;) So here is a list of things I’ve done or I will be starting this year that keeps me looking good and feeling awesome plus it makes for a hot SB:
Manicure + pedicure - I do them professionally in a salon every 3weeks.
Laser hair removal - I’m doing my whole bikini and underarms right now and will start my legs in the next year..shaving is a pain and too much work..laser is painful especially the whole bikini but worth it!
Removing stretch marks - I will do laser for that when I move to LA because those stupid marks on my butt are a pain in the ass for my confidence sometimes..I have awesome 34DD natural breasts but my ass needs some perfecting to be at the same level lol
Removing cellulite - I just finished a 10 weeks treatment with the Velashape 2 in a beauty clinic for my thighs and butt..I think it helped although I only had a low amount of cellulite and it’s still not perfect or all gone..I think I was expecting too much of a VS model’s perfect ass haha drinking water, exercising and eating healthy plus putting firming body cream (I use an expensive one from my clinic with 10% caffeine) everyday helps plus I’ll need to do maintenance treatments every year to maintain the results.
Removing spider veins on legs - I started treatments this year, it helps but spider veins are a recurring issue for women especially with age so I will have to do maintenance treatments every year but it’s very good that I started young even if I didn’t have a lot but the ones behind my knees were bothering me a lot. I have very white skin so my veins show easily haha I need to tan more!
Dermabrasion - I started dermabrasion aka removing dead skin on your face this year..I used to have bad acnee when I was young but now my skin is much better although I still get occasional pimples and don’t have perfect skin without makeup.
Acnee creams recommended by my dermatologist that I apply every day or 2 days - I mostly only have some redness and occasional pimples but the products help for that and to make my pores less visible.
Laser eye surgery - I wear contacts and I’m thinking of doing the laser surgery but I’m not sure since lots of people have horror stories so I’m still thinking about it but being free of glasses and contacts would be awesome..I’m just scared of surgeries and try to avoid them as much as possible.
Spray Tan - I don’t want skin cancer so I prefer spray tan when I need to have a nice tan although the maintenance is a pain in the butt..I sometimes do tanning creams at home since I’m pretty good at applying it but that’s annoying to maintain also.
Gym membership - I started going to the gym finally this year although I have always had a pretty athletic body but since I like to eat wtv I want and I’m getting older lol I need to watch out!!
Personal trainer for the gym - I’m going to get one soon so I can learn what to do to target the issues I want to work on plus it’s good to have someone to motivate you since I’m lazy lol
Martial arts or self defense classes - Personally I do martial arts because it’s for my line of work but also because I love to kick ass. I took some self defense classes years ago and it was amazing..I think every woman should do that especially sex workers and SBs..I actually need to brush up on those moves especially the ones when your assailant is on top of you.
Hair and eyelash extensions - I need to get new hair extensions because the hair dresser messed them up when she cut them although I basically never wear them lol too lazy to put them on every time so I’ll look into other options soon and get a SD to pay for it and for eyelash extensions. Never tried that and want to see how it will look and feel.
Makeup and hair tutorials or classes - I started watching more videos on youtube to learn more tricks especially with hair since I suck but I’m getting a lot better..I might get a future SD to pay a hairstylist to show me 5-10 ways to do my hair haha.
Good hair products and makeup - Start investing in good products that don’t ruin your hair and face..When you can it’s good to invest in more expensive products when they are better quality and less chemicals.
Keeping your body soft like a baby’s skin - I put cream every night on my body to keep my body all smooth and soft plus to keep my boobs, stomach, thighs and ass all firm..better to start young!
Facial creams - Very important to keep your face moisturized plus eye cream is always good to start young..those SDs want a baby face not a face ruined by sun and age.
Drinking lots of water - You need minimum 2 liters of water everyday..I basically only drink water..no coffee or soft drinks but juices on occasion and I do love wine when I go out.
Eating healthy - I need to be more disciplined for that because I like to eat wtv I want although I do eat vegetables and fruits everyday.
Be happy and confident - Keep yourself healthy mentally..those men pay for no drama..I actually tried hypnotherapy by curiosity this year..only did 4 sessions to work on my self-esteem and confidence and it was pretty interesting to realize how I bring myself down sometimes.
Teeth are very important! Having a nice smile attracts people including SDs! - Keep your teeth clean and white..I do my teeth cleaning every 9 months now (instead of 12) plus I bought a whitening kit made for me from my dentist to use at home although my teeth are pretty white already. I had braces when I was young so I have perfect teeth..I wear my night retainer occasionally to keep them straight and perfect.
Massages and acupuncture - I did both this year and need to start doing massages every 2 weeks for my back lol I’ll get a SD to pay for that!
Investing in a new wardrobe - Dressing the part is important and you need something to wear for all those awesome dates you will be going on! Get a SD or POT to take you shopping and choose classic pieces that you will be able to mix and match and pull off multiple outfits with. If you don’t have anyone to pay for it, take some of your money and start buying some nice pieces or even just adding an accessory to your outfit might make the difference. You don’t have to buy expensive brands (wait for a SD to do that for you), until then buy pieces that are good quality and in solid neutral colors. Go for classy not trashy!
Reading more about current events, finances and how to invest money but also some of those self help books. Be aware of what is going on in the world. - I need to start doing this more because I personally don’t follow the news or politics (too depressing) plus I want to learn how to manage my money. It’s always good to be able to hold a conversation with a SD especially if you go to events with him! You want to be the whole package of looks, brains and personality!!
Learning new skills is important in my opinion plus it keeps you busy and SDs will be impressed by your hobbies, interests and skills. - Personally I love reading, cooking (I want to take some classes to get even better), dancing (I took a lot of different dance classes but I want to learn the waltz and other more conservative dances for black tie events), learning new languages (I speak multiple languages and it always impresses people especially in the US for some reason), etc.. With my line of work, I like to acquire new skills as often as I can so I can add them to my CV and stand out..plus it’s fun!
Ok so I’m going to stop here because this post is freaking long lol I’ll add more if I think about something else but just remember that you are selling a product which is yourself and you need to stand out!Being a SB is not just about looking pretty..you have to be interesting too! I see a lot of SD’s profiles that mention personality and not just looks. So take care of yourself mentally and physically :) You got to invest in yourself (the product) to make money..that’s how marketing and business work and it’s the same with sugar dating! Pay your bills and then use some of that allowance on bettering yourself to catch an even bigger fish (or whale lol)!! Go get them girls! xoxo
I see a lot of posts encouraging babies to be these super sexy seductresses.
You don’t have to.
Just be yourself (or whatever persona you’ve created). Personally, I can’t do super sexy and seductive. It feels weird and the men can tell. In my vanilla life I am loud and my voice is high pitched. I talk too much and I’m a little awkward. This is how I am with my POT (toned down a little, obviously. I go for a soft, quieter voice, but still ramble. I’m still awkward but I make a joke out of it and say things like, “sorry. I get a little awkward when I’m nervous around such a handsome man!). And you know what? They eat that shit up. They love that I’m this bumbling, bubbly, innocent young woman. That works for me.
Being sexy and seductive works for some women. Everyone is different and everyone has different preferences. My biggest tip is do not try to be someone you absolutely are not. It will be super obvious and you won’t have a good time.
-DONT TELL THEM YOURE NEW. Once a man knows you’re inexperienced, he’ll assume you’re naive (which you probably are from lack of experience) and do anything he can to get out of paying.
-Don’t give out your real name. Seriously it’s so easy for men to find ALL of your info using only your name. Once he has your info, he can do whatever he wants.
-Always tell a friend where you are in case you find yourself in a dangerous situation. If no one knows you’re a SB, just tell them you’re on a date.
-GET THE MONEY FIRST. Once you do something sexual without money first, he can just leave and ghost on you if he wants. Even before sending nudes, money first.
-Set up a way to receive money online. You can use squarecash, venmo, or paypal. Be aware that paypal does show your real name, so you’ll need to set up a second account with a fake name if you’re going to use it.
-Don’t let sugaring get in the way of your mental or physical health. If you’re too stressed out and falling behind in school or it’s making you too anxious, just take a break. Sugaring can be great, but it isn’t for anyone. There’s no shame in taking a break, or quitting all together.
I can’t be bothered to write it all down on paper so I am sitting here, sharing it with you instead, while listening to the Russian Orthodox Requiem haha!
Feel free to like & share it to serve as your own reminder. It’s useful as hell.
It is all from the book “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene.
Read on, my friends. For this is going to teach you many valuable lessons!
LAW 1 - NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please and impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite—inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Note:Yes. This is so important. Especially when it comes to dealing with MEN. Never outshine the “MASTER”.. oh boy, but how we do ;)