Kids are Afraid to Cry in Front of Their Parents and I'm Stunned??
Ok so I was talking to a friend a few nights ago and they said something that floored me and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since? They were in a confrontation with their mother and said “should wouldn’t listen to me I just wanted to scream and cry. Lol but I couldn’t I can’t give her that satisfaction I won’t let her hold that over me.” And I was absolutely horrified? I’m horrified that so many of my friends I’ve made on this website have such horrible parents. Like I have never EVER been scared to cry in front of my dad. He has never made fun of me, belittled me, told me it was childish, or “used it against me.” He comforts me. I’m in college and even now when I’m crying he’s the first person I turn to for comfort. He’s semi retired and spends most of the week out of town but if there’s something that’s upset me you can bet your ass the I’m picking up the phone with every intention to cry to him. Parents always talk about how their kid is so closed off to them and never lets them in about their personal life and shit like this is the reason why. How DARE you call yourself a parent if you mock their trust in you to be vulnerable before you? I don’t care if you think it’s overdramatic or silly they’re trusting you to be there and comfort them. When I lost my fish I called my dad crying and did he think it was silly? Absolutely! Did he tell me it was silly? Hell fucking no. He comforted me over the phone for 30 min. That’s what a parent should do!
I feel horrible whenever I bring up my dad and have people tell me “your dad is so nice and amazing I wish my parents were like him.” But he shouldn’t be some gold standard unattainable parent? He should be seen as a normal parent. He’s an amazing parent but he makes mistakes and so do I, but guess what? He’s human and I expect him to make human mistakes and he expects the same.
If your children doesn’t tell you about their life then maybe you should consider yourself to be the problem.