you don’t have to cancel everyone the second they misstep or do something dumb but you also DON’T have to defend everything that your fave does. you can say “hey this particular thing sucked” without getting into this all-or-nothing mentality. you are not an extension of the things you like. you can think freely and criticize the things (and people) that you like, and a criticism of something you like is not something that you should take personally or feel the need to correct/defend.
when you spot another gay in the wild but you’re a wlw and they’re a mlm so you aren’t used to reading each other’s flags but you still get that intense gay energy from each other and you feel the solidarity in your soul