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Ten Basic Rules For Better Living
by Manly P. Hall

1. Stop worrying

The popular idea that a worrier is a thoughtful and conscientious citizen is false. The Egyptians realized this when they included worry among the cardinal sins. Do not confuse thoughtfulness and worry. The thoughtful person plans solutions, but the worrier merely dissolves in his own doubt. If you think straight, you will have less cause for worrying. The worrier not only suffers the same disaster many times, but undermines his health and annoys all others with whom he comes into contact. There are many things in this world that require thoughtful consideration, but there is really nothing to fear but fear.

2. Stop trying to dominate and posses your friends and relatives

Each of us likes to feel that he is running his own life. The moment we recognize the rights of others to seek life, liberty, and happiness according to their own dreams, hopes, and aspirations, we begin to conserve our own resources. It is very debilitating to give advice which is ignored or rejected, and equally disappointing to attempt to posses and dominate persons who immediately resent and combat our dictatorial tendencies. We are hurt when they do not see things our way. If we save advice for ourselves and those who seek it from us, and who are therefore grateful, all concerned will be the better.

3. Moderate ambition

There is a tendency to overlook natural and simple blessings while we plunge on toward distant goals. Each individual has certain capacities. If he can recognize his own abilities and work with them, he can attain personal security. If, however, he is constantly seeking that which is not reasonably attainable, he can never know happiness or contentment. The wise man observes the disastrous results of uncontrollable ambitions, and chooses moderation. It is not necessary to be famous in order to be happy, nor must one be the leading citizen in the community in order to gratify ones social instinct. The ambitious usually pay too much for what they get, and are the more miserable after they get it.

4. Do not accumulate more than you need

There is no real distinction in being the richest man in the graveyard. Many earnest citizens act as though there were pockets in shrouds. We are supposed to have outgrown the primitive belief that we should bury a mans goods with him so that his spirit might enjoy them in the afterworld. Here, again, the middle course is the wisest. Let us reserve some of our energy for enjoyment, and not give all of ourselves to the task of accumulation. Many a man who has made a million has not lived to spend it. A rich life can be more practical than a monumental bank account.

5. Learn to relax

Great tension is an abomination. The more tense we become, the more stupidly we are likely to act, and, according to the old Buddhists, stupidity is a cardinal sin. Today, many so-called efficient people are perpetually on the verge of a nervous breakdown. This is not so likely to be due to overwork as to unreasonable driving impulses from within themselves. Some say that they are overtaxing their resources to keep their jobs or to maintain extravagant families. Whether you believe it or not, you are a better producer and a better provider if you do not collapse from psychic exhaustion at some critical moment when you are most in need of good health. If your associates do not realize this, they may be in need of practical counsel.

6. Cultivate a sense of humor

As never before, we must brighten and lighten the corners where we are. The more seriously we take ourselves and our responsibilities, the duller we become. It is a saving grace to realize that, although living is a serious matter, we can take it too seriously. Also bear in mind that genuine humor is not bitter, cynical, or critical. It is the ability to laugh with the world and not at the world. If we must laugh at someone, let it be ourselves. Humor is a spice to living. It adds flavor to work, zest to play, charm to self-improvement, and proves to others that we have a security within ourselves. A sincere, happy laugh, like the joyous rippling of childrens laughter, relieves tension and restores good nature. Incidentally, it makes friends and inspires confidence.

7. Find a reason for your own existence

Unless you believe in something bigger than yourself, have some purpose more vital than accumulation or advancement in business or society, you are only existing, not living. A simple pattern is to realize that the laws of Nature that put you here seem to be primarily concerned with growth. You are a success to the degree that you grow, and you grow to the degree that you become a wiser, more useful, and more secure person. In other words, we live to learn, and by this very process, we learn to live. Broaden your horizon, develop an interest in all that is fine, beautiful, and purposeful. Great internal good comes from the love for music, art, great literature, broad philosophy, and simple faith. Strengthen the inside of your nature, and the outside will be better.

8. Never intentionally harm another person

Never by word or deed return evil for good, or evil for evil. Weed negative and destructive thoughts and emotions out of your personality, or they will ultimately contribute to your misery. As we look around us, we see the tragic results of individuals and nations that harbor grudges or nurse the instincts for revenge. The harmless life saves those who live it from many of the mortal shocks that flesh is heir to. Our critical attitudes and our long memories of evils that others have caused only reduce our present efficiency and endanger health and vitality. Even the selfish man realizes that he cannot afford to keep a grudge, and the unselfish simply will not permit grudges to accumulate because they know better and they believe better.

9. Beware of anger

When ill-temper controls us, we are no longer able to control ourselves. In a moment of anger, we may create a situation which will require years to remedy. Why should we spend our time trying to recover from our own mistakes? If we disapprove, let us state our case simply and quietly, and remember that we should never try to correct another when we have already committed a fault as great as his. A quick temper is a serious handicap in business or in the home. It is useless to say that we cannot control anger. This is as much as to admit that we have lost the power to control ourselves. If we resent the unkindness of others and the collective irritability of this generation, let us make sure that we are not one of the irritating factors.

10. Never blame others for our own mistakes

It is hardly necessary. Each of us seems to have an incredible capacity to do things badly and select unwisely. Actually, we are in trouble because we have not made constructive use of the power and abilities which we received as a birthright. Others can hurt us only while our inner life is too weak to sustain in the presence of trial or test. Instead of resenting misfortunes, and seeking to excuse our own limitations, we must face the facts. Either we are stronger than the problem and can solve it intelligently, or the problem is stronger than we are, and the only solution is to increase our own strength. Others are not to blame for our unhappiness. Each man must seek his own peace of mind, and, as the Arabian Nights so well expressed it, happiness must be earned.

alpha dave n rose au where dave is a multimedia visual artist who makes very bad shit on purpose (so canon dave) but he gains critical acclaim because he’s a very reclusive and mysterious public figure and drops his shit without warning by like, projecting it on the side of a skyscraper and rose is a very cynical critic who is the first to be like “this sucks actually” and dave makes a piece about her and then they’re best friends

I imagine that when Moses split the Red Sea, there were two groups of people.

The first group was composed of victorious triumphant warriors saying, “In your face, Egyptians! This is our God!” They were pumping their fists and thrusting their spears. The second group was composed of doubtful, panicking screamers running full speed through whales and plankton.

I’m a Screamer. I’m a cynic. I’m a critic. I’m a Peter, who can make a good start off the boat, but falls in the water when my eyes wander. I’m not endorsing a halfway lukewarm faith.  I believe God wants us to have a robust, vibrant, thriving relationship with Him.  But as for me, I’ll be limping to the finish-line.  I’m more of a Thomas than a Paul.  I’m more Martha than Mary.  I’m more David than Daniel.

Yet the Warriors and Screamers all made it through.

It’s not easy to have faith the size of a mustard seed.  But Jesus promised that this would be enough to move mountains, and I’m learning to be okay with that.
—  J.S. from Mad About God

Here’s the thing; mantras work. It’s impossible for them not to, if you think about it. A good mantra is an oath and a bargain and a lived story all in one. The only difference between a mantra and a pact with Them is that you pledge a mantra to yourself. And like anything else, you get back what you put in.

(“My anger a flame,” I hiss, and storm over to the boy on the bench with fury bubbling in my gut. The shadow looming behind him feels the wave of heat wash over it and scuttles off, hissing at me from the centipedes that pass for its hair.)

(“My kindness a forge,” I murmur, and sit down next to the glassy-eyed girl in the canteen. She lost a roommate last week, and I’m pretty sure she knows what happened. She’s broken up about it - but broken things can be fixed.)

(“Hope in my right hand,” I sigh, and pat the freshman’s shoulder. It’s okay, I tell him. It was a dumb mistake, but there are ways to make up credit, and the stats professor is an easygoing sort. His mood brightens with every word.)

(“Hate in my left,” I whisper, and slap the knight full across the face. He goes reeling backwards with a lot more force than I put into the blow, and the churning bitter loathing abates. It’s still his fault, but now I can think rationally again.)

Here’s the thing; mantras work. And here’s the catch: they work both ways. There’s always a price for power, after all, and it doesn’t come only when you call it.

(I read about the plight of refugees and suffer the burn marks along my knuckles and tongue - fire burns its friends as easily as its foes. I learn to be ambidextrous and switch between each hand as I write my essays - no longer can I pen cynical criticisms with my once-favoured fingers. I follow my bleeding heart’s demand to act, to fix, to build - I can no longer let things lie.)

A good mantra is an oath and a bargain and a lived story all at once; a pact you make with yourself. And a lived story only works as long as you live it. My roommate gives me a pleading look. I’ve met her little brother. He was a good kid. Just not a very smart one. And now he’s Underhill, in the hands of something a lot bigger and nastier than the usual residents of EU. I feel anger - at her, at him, at Them. I feel compassion - for her plight, for his peril. I feel hope, perhaps in vain. I feel hatred.

I feel really goddamn stupid, in retrospect, for picking this of all things as my mantra.

“Fine,” I mutter. “I’ll get him back.”

I really don’t have much of a choice in the matter.

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I’m not stressing, obsessing over who I’m not impressing // I know perfection’s infectious, so is it more like infection?

Love this Icon for Hire song! I love how the melodies of the verse raps are different, and I love the flow that she has. Her voice sounds so great in this song, and they have the best fusion of electronic/rock/rap. As always, her lyrics are so raw and true.

100 Ways To Get Over A Breakup.
  1. Deny any and all emotion
  2. Sleep less
  3. Ride your bike at 3am
  4. Without a helmet
  5. In the middle of the street
  6. Fuck the people you thought about fucking when you were in a relationship
  7. Fuck the people you never thought about fucking
  8. Eat healthier
  9. But only after eating really unhealthy for a couple weeks
  10. Stretch more but don’t call it something with spiritual implications because you aren’t very spiritual
  11. Consider alcoholism
  12. Stop romanticizing addiction
  13. Find other self-destructive coping mechanisms
  14. Convince yourself no one really likes you
  15. Cry a lot
  16. Maybe in public
  17. Sleep more
  18. Spiral into crippling depression
  19. But say yes when people invite you to do things
  20. Pretend you’re not sad
  21. Talk like an asshole
  22. Go out of your way to be jaded and cynical
  23. Criticize everything
  24. Tell yourself you’re going to exercise more
  25. Tell yourself you deserve a break from physical activity because you’re depressed and your body needs to rest
  26. Take long showers
  27. Take cold showers
  28. Masturbate in the shower
  29. Masturbate a lot
  30. Get your nipples pierced
  31. Consider making an OkCupid
  32. Consider reactivating your Facebook
  33. Consider the fact that maybe you measure your self-worth in relation to other people
  34. Consider the fact that maybe you don’t know how to live for yourself
  35. Lie to impress people
  36. Lie to make people like you
  37. Be so honest it makes people uncomfortable
  38. Swallow your filter and word vomit a lot
  39. Sell your things
  40. Leave town for a while
  41. Tell everyone you’re leaving and not coming back
  42. No one will miss you
  43. Move to a new city
  44. Change your name
  45. Cut your hair
  46. Consider spending twice as much money on rent just to live alone
  47. Wonder if living alone will make you feel more or less lonely
  48. Stop texting people who don’t want to hang out
  49. Stop thinking about people who don’t think about you
  50. Stop texting
  51. Just “forget” your phone one day
  52. Pretend it’s broken
  53. Break your phone
  54. Get a new number
  55. Call your mom
  56. Just kidding don’t do that
  57. Read a lot of graphic novels
  58. Watch a lot of movies
  59. Pet a lot of dogs
  60. Make a smoothie
  61. Start using tinctures
  62. Pretend you’re high
  63. Take a dance class
  64. Don’t talk about it all the time
  65. Clean neurotically
  66. Spend a lot of money on Lush products
  67. Use them generously
  68. Wash your sheets
  69. Don’t look at their instagram
  70. Use your friend’s fire pit to burn everything that reminds you of them
  71. Don’t read all of their letters
  72. Just set them on fire and forget
  73. Don’t wonder how this was so easy for them
  74. Don’t wonder if maybe they never really loved you
  75. Don’t call them
  76. Don’t ask for closure
  77. Don’t expect them to wonder how you’re doing
  78. Don’t tell them how you’re doing
  79. Get tattoos on the most tender parts of you
  80. Breathe deeply because the pain is sort of cathartic
  81. Do not fuck your tattoo artist
  82. Learn a new language
  83. Start a cool hobby that will make you seem super interesting
  84. Buy a motorcycle
  85. Stop letting people manipulate you
  86. Be really sad
  87. But like be really tough about it
  88. Drink juice out of the carton
  89. Take a lot of bubble baths
  90. Take a nap inside the duvet
  91. Drink herbal tea
  92. Buy new boots
  93. Get a professional massage
  94. Read non-fiction
  95. Go on a hike by yourself
  96. Go swimming
  97. But not if you just pierced your nipples
  98. Call in sick and spend the day in bed
  99. Listen to the bands you listened to in high school
  100. Sing along loudly even if you’re crying a little bit

“Must love decorating for holidays, mischief, kissing in cars, and wind chimes. No specific height, weight, hair color, or political affiliation required, but would prefer a warm spirited, non-racist. Cynics, critics, pessimists, and ‘stick in the muds’ need not apply. Voluptuous figures a plus. Any similarity in look, mind set, or fashion sense to Mary Poppins, Claire Huxtable, Snow White, or Elvira wholeheartedly welcomed. I am dubious of actresses, felons, and lesbians, but don’t want to rule them out entirely. Must be tolerant of whistling, tickle torture, James Taylor, and sleeping late. I have a slight limp, eerily soft hands, and a preternatural love of Autumn. I once misinterpreted being called a ‘coal-eyed dandy’ as a compliment when it was intended as an insult. I wiggle my feet in my sleep, am scared of the dark, and think the Muppets Christmas Carol is one of the greatest films of all time. All I want is butterfly kisses in the morning, peanut butter sandwiches shaped like a heart, and to make you smile until it hurts.”

- Matthew Gray Gubler, on his perfect woman.


The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.” - Jung 

Aries is an angel. Innocent, pure, protecting, and battle scarred. Aries is a demon, aggressive, compulsive, egocentric, and unforgiving 

Taurus is an angel. Inviting, protective, comforting, beautiful. Creative and inspired. Taurus is a devil, gluttonous, greedy, compulsive, knows the cost of everything but the value of nothing 

Gemini is an angel. Blowing fresh messages from person to person. Flittery and flirty, filling the air with communication like a gentle breeze. Gemini is a demon, unfocused, manipulative, deceitful, emotionless, and dramatic 

Cancer is an angel. Maternal, gesturing, empathetic and guardianship. Cancer is a demon. She is the dark mother, possessive, controlling, martyred, hysterical, emotionally disturbed 

Leo is an angel. Beautifully creative, protective, childlike, illuminating. Leo is a demon, full of undeserved pride and delusions of grandeur, martyrdom, and narcissism

Virgo is an angel. Quietly flittering to serve, help, and heal. Humble and gentle. Serves larger than personal needs. Virgo is a demon, addictive, witheringly critical, negative, and demanding 

Libra is an angel. Personable, intuitive, beautiful, caressing, poetic, and amiable. Libra is a demon, unable to decide right from wrong, a hall of mirrors without an exit 

Scorpio is an angel. Ferociously loyal and protective, penetrating to the Truth with courage that would confront the devil. Scorpio is a demon, controlled by disturbed moods, rage, fear, self isolation, and aggression 

Sagittarius is an angel. Flying like a jet plane from land to land, leaving a fresh ray of laughter. Joyful, interested, global minded. Sagittarius is a demon, gluttonous, lying, exaggerating, indulgent, bombastic, and over confident 

Capricorn is an angel. Expressing the labor of love to build a better world for humanity. Understanding, discriminative, wise. Capricorn is a demon, compulsive, cold, overly cynical and critical, and lonely 

Aquarius is an angel. Pouring elevating knowledge from a higher plane. The mother of humanity, has a romance with the universe. Beautiful, feeling the suffering of all mankind. Aquarius is a demon, cold and unattached, robotic and sterile, delusions of grandeur 

Pisces is an angel. A gentle flight from soul to soul with healing honey. Empath, all knowing, cosmic consciousness, loving, insightful. Pisces is a demon, substance or escapist riddled, deceitful, living in an etheric realm without justification or remorse

-C.

Another advice I have for young girls is to not fawn over men for any basic positive disposition in beliefs and behaviour. If he’s a feminist, atheist (or practicing if you roll that way), is anti-porn, etc. A lot of them are progressive in their appearance- they have learned how to talk the talk and walk the walk in order to be more palatable to the modern woman.

It’s not being a cynic. It’s being critical. Men always have ulterior motives even when they do anything seemingly positive, as far as women are concerned.

And the best thing you can do for yourself as a young woman is learn to recognize their motives for all their beliefs and all their actions. And I do believe women have an ability to recognize men’s intentions in a way that is impossible for men recognize in women. And that most women just have to learn to tap into it. There is reason why, when you are a teenager and a young woman, you get a lot of attention from men and particularly older men, and you’ll start to notice it disappear once you are older. It’s not because you are no longer attractive or your clock has run out.

And this attitude isn’t just about ~men ain’t shit~ I actually mean embody, apply and practice that criticism to all men that come your way. It’s not just a t-shirt slogan.

Here it is! Lucius Ref.

Name: Lucius the Archangel

Age: Mid 20’s

Race: Toon

Personality: Charismatic, admirable, attractive, apathetic, manipulative, blunt, cynical, demanding, critical, greedy, obsessive, and boastful

Likes: Dancing, music, “Johanna”, the ladies, singing, playing the piano, looking stylist, and pick on other toons.

Dislikes: Not getting what he wants, Bendy, someone better than him, rude people, being rejected, being a fool.

Background: Lucius was created by his creator name, Antonello Costa. He was one of the third popular toons of one of his shows and movies. He first appears guest in Sonny Jones Studio as Johanna’s “love interest” which only for the show that is. 

Meeting her made the archangel fell in love at first sight. After working through series together, Lucius confesses his love for her. Only when she rejected him saying she only seem as a friend. This made Lucius became a jerk, but still acting all charming and handsome.

Few month later, he came across Johanna working with Bendy the dancing devil. This made Lucius go jerk mode whenever he near Bendy.

Accurate Typing: Tertiary Temptation

Read the full Function Theory Guide (mbti-notes.tumblr.com/theory) for more detail, including notes about common typing issues.

The tertiary function produces much of the variation among individuals of the same type because it is often used very inconsistently due to its lower position in the stack. Tertiary behaviors are likely to contradict generic type descriptions, and how the function manifests largely depends on a person’s level of psychological and emotional development. There is not much official literature about tertiary functions specifically, so I have taken the liberty to piece together expert details with my own extrapolations/research below.

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