Bringing the Eid pics back for reclaim the bindi week, ft my mehndi.
In all honesty, I’ve been fighting my internalized racism ever since last year, and still am today. I would hide the fact that I was Pakistani, and it was a lot easier for me to do so because I’m light skinned. The last thing people would guess when they looked at me was that I was Pakistani. Unfortunately, I took pride in my pale skin, because I didn’t want to be associated with my people. Having a not so amazing upbringing and seeing only but the negatives of my South Asian community and culture, I hated being one of them. Even more not so amazing, I used to find white people better. I also had the similar phase where I would be agitated when my mother spoke urdu in front of white people. I would be ashamed to wear my Ethnic clothing at the supermarket or the shopping centres. And worst of all I was also the type to shame other South Asians for wearing their ethnic clothing, whether they were “freshies” or not, in white majority areas. Think of all those “freshie” jokes, I said all of them. I didn’t want to be mistaken as a “freshie”, I wanted people to see me as Scottish, and only that. I judged a whole race in one negative category.
Since last December, however, I’m really happy to say that I have been correcting myself, and constantly fighting the internalized racism, while checking and acknowledging my privilege as a lighter skinned Desi. I’ve learned so much, and to be honest I’m still learning and actively standing up for my people, calling out and talking about issues like shadism within my community and with those I talk to on a regular basis. Even though I’ve never been teased about my henna or my food, I only know too well about the racial tension and internalized shame of taking pride in our culture while we are constantly assimilated to Western culture in society. We grow up having this normalised idea that it’s better to hide and tuck away our culture, and to only open it up at certain places and events. Since when was our culture only to be flaunted at weddings and South Asian themed events?
With the stories I’ve read from other South Asians and what they had to go through growing up, only to break away from their culture and instead appeal to what Western society wants, its funny how history loves to repeat itself.
But really, whether our experiences were minor or extreme, the psychological impact on our lives have remained the same. From start to finish, we have constantly been judged, not as an individual person, but judged as a whole race and minority collectively. In the end, no matter how much we try to change ourselves to be treated better in the eyes of Western society, we would never be completely accepted. We would always be seen as different.
Despite what people think, reclaim the bindi week has given us South Asians a really good opportunity to let our voices be heard. When I first saw this happening on Tumblr, I felt so much pride. Since then I’ve wanted to always write something in contribution to this event. We as people who have suffered so much backlash and unneeded consequences just for trying to take back what was forced out of our hands for 200 years, have every right to call out people who steal it, who exploit it, who profit off of it, who use it for their own selfish, bigoted reasons, while walking over our voices and turning away from what we say.
So yes. Reclaim the bindi. Reclaim that god damn sari, the headpieces, the jewels, the shalwaar kameez, everything we created by us and for us as South Asians. 200+ years of exploitation, up until this day, and we’re still going strong despite it all. Good on us.
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Bacula jewelry became a temporary fad in 2004 after celebrities like Sarah Jessica Parker and Vanessa Williams were photographed wearing them.
Reclaiming the bindi always involves a wonderful trip down memory lane! This is a photo from at least four or five years ago, and I am still just as in love with my desi roots! I am so grateful to call this culture my own. 🙏🏾
Is it inappropriate to be a gentile but only be attracted to Jewish guys/ only want to date Jewish guys
If you find that you only want to date Jewish guys, you should think about why this is. Is it because you think Jewish guys have certain physical features you find hot? Is it because of Jewish stereotypes you find appealing? Is it because you’re attracted to Jewish culture and tradition, and want to be part of it?
If it’s either of the former, you could be fetishizing Jewish men. Racial fetishization is taking physical stereotypes or parts of someone’s culture and objectifying people based on them. Jewish men aren’t exotic items to feast your eyes on. But if you are fetishizing Jewish men, just be aware of this and work to change that. Learning more about Judaism and Jewishness could really help you keep from getting bogged down in the stereotypes. Learn how to respect Jewish men for who they are, rather than getting caught up in what being Jewish stereotypically entails and seeing Jewish men as inherently one thing or another.
If it’s the latter, then it might be a good idea to explore Judaism. There are better ways to get involved in Jewish culture than by simply dating a Jew, and if your heart is leading you towards Judaism, follow it. But if this is the case, listening to what people around and the media say about Jews is just not enough. You need to get involved personally and see for yourself. Join a synagogue, talk to a rabbi, talk to Jewish people of different backgrounds, join a Hillel. Make sure what’s attracting you to Judaism isn’t just a hodgepodge of stereotypes.
I know everybody’s heard about the new Disney movie coming up in 2016 that follows Moana, which follows a “spirited young teenager that sails across the pacific ocean to complete her ‘ancestors quest’.”
I, a young (half)Tongan teenager, was absolutely thrilled to hear this news. However, I want everybody to keep in mind that Moana is NOT the first Polynesian main character to appear on the Disney screen! It was actually Lilo!
(Bear in mind though, Moana is a Disney PRINCESS! It’s not uncommon for Monarchy’s in the Polynesian triangle. However, tribal chiefs were probably more common, especially for back then)
There are times when you meet strangers on the road who have such uplifting attitude that makes you feel good about everything. This man had so much positive energy around him that I actually enjoyed taking his portrait the most. When I showed him his photo he responded back with a Smile and said “Chardhi Kala” :)
Chardhi Kala is a concept in Sikhism that refers to a mental state of optimism and joy. It is the state of mind in which a person has no negative emotions like fear, jealousy or enmity. Instead the mind is full of positive feelings including joy, satisfaction and self-dignity.
So I haven’t seen enough posts circulating about this and I feel like it needs to be talked about and just ugh
I decided to watch the vid because the video cover got my attention (even though it seemed kinda fishy). At first the video was okay and even cute, but then a little more than halfway through the video you see this:
And at that point I wanted to scream bc great, white people doing an “asian” concept (as they’d call it probably). And then it kept getting worse.
The song that was playing was k-pop group 2ne1′s “I am the best.” Yet they weren’t wearing traditional hanbok, which is the traditional Korean dress. Instead they were wearing an Americanized/Bastardized version of “traditional Chinese wear”(not sure if it’s a qi pao…). The lips I tried to match with traditional makeup (which I’m guessing they did based off of the geisha)
They blatantly didn’t do their research and mashed three different cultures together as if they were the same. They didn’t even have to try to wear these clothing, but could’ve just done a 2ne1 mv inspired outfit instead. But no, they had to be ignorant and totally disregard the different cultures.
The part that irked me even more was when the smaller of the girls does a peace sign
I could’ve brushed it off as her just trying to be cute, but as a Chinese Taiwanese person growing up in America, I’ve seen the stereotypes and jokes aimed at me for being Asian and the “peace-sign” linked to being asian. So I knew it was just white people being gross again.
I was honestly upset and a lot of people in the comments were too. A lot of them were calling the choreographer (who’s white btw) out but a bunch of others were saying people were getting offended for no reason, as it’s “appreciation” and just “girls dancing and having fun”.
But I’m tired of seeing my culture and other Asian cultures (as well as black culture) being used by white people as an accessory or our cultures simply being mashed together under one label as “Asian” or even sometimes just all of it being called “Chinese”. It’s not, because we have different histories behind each one and we’re completely different and should be appreciated and understood for the uniqueness for each one. I constantly see white, and even POC artists using commonly Japanese culture being used as a “costume” for a music video or performance.