cultivate people

2nd House Cultivation

People fail to realize that the most important plant in life is you. That is what you need to be cultivating. What you need to water with love and care. I wanted to go over some ways that you can cultivate(grow) your self-esteem based on what sign or planet is in your 2nd house. I think all of the tips are great for anyone though so I would read through each if you have the time.

Aries/Scorpio/Mars/Pluto: Take charge. You need to let your mars energy take precedent in some sort of activity. Act as a leader in something you are passionate about. As you lead others you will find yourself becoming more confident in yourself. Your inner self is a battlefield and you must work to be at peace with the chaos.Engaging in physical activities can also help bring confidence into your life(as well as money potentially). Working hard may be a source of increased self-esteem as well.

Taurus/Libra/Venus: With all that love in you, you must give to yourself the love you would give to others. View yourself as a person who you are trying to woo. Pull out all the stops. Treat yourself to compliments and gifts. Do not say words that would cause you to shy away. Would you do that with a significant other? Positive affirmations can work extremely well as well as creating beautiful surroundings.

Gemini/Virgo/Mercury: Venus and Mercury are friends so it’s no wonder that a few of the tips for Venus work for mercury. Make sure to use positive affirmations to uplift yourself. How can you raise your self if you don’t use the gift of your 2nd house? Weigh all your options and think through all possibilities. Treat every day like its Mercury Retrograde in order to cultivate a sense of self-worth that you can stand behind.

Cancer/Moon: Allocate time for self care. Family ties and feelings can play a big part on how you view yourself. Making peace with your family is a good first step for individuals with Moon or Cancer in the 2nd. From there you need to work through your inner emotions. Finding a way to balance your emotions will help you to feel less turbulent when it comes to self-esteem. Even if that means accepting that your self-esteem will rise and fall with the moon. Developing a strong value set is important as well as allowing your home to reflect your values.

Leo/Sun: Your self-worth is tied up with the themes of the 2nd house-Money, Possessions, and Values to name a few. You must determine what your values are and expand from there. A person who stands for nothing will fall for anything. As a Leo you need to find a cause to stand behind in order to shine from within. From there you can determine what needs to stay and what needs to go in your life. Remember that you are not your possessions. Your confidence needs to come from within.

Sagittarius/Jupiter: Enjoy the abundance that is within you and realize that all you need is whats provided. You don’t have to have more and more. When you are optimistic and jolly is when you will feel most confident. Cultivate a positive outlook on life.

Capricorn/Saturn: It may be a slow process of learning to value yourself, but a time will come when you will create a sense of self-worth that is unshakeable. It may be a matter of faking it till you make it. Saturn looks for something true and lasting, but ‘fake it till you make it’ is a great strategy in the meantime. Make sure you feel secure by potentially looking into hobbies that will. Working hard may be a source of increased self-esteem as well. 

Aquarius/Uranus: You need to cultivate a lifestyle that appeals to your nature. Don’t worry too much about what other people think is the right way of doing things. Connect with those who love you and surround yourself with people who have your best interests at heart.

Pisces/Neptune: Calmness of the mind is important to aspire to. Remember that Neptune is a shadowy curtain, hoping to veil your importance from your eyes. Meditation and indulging in mentally creative pursuits may be the best form of action.

Can we stop pretending that bullies who hate queer kids are usually queer themselves?can we stop pretending that we are our own worst enemy? Can straight people take responsibility for the environment and people they’ve cultivated for once????

i mean when you’re on social media it’s really easy for people to cultivate a flattering image of themselves and it can be really easy to be trusting of those representations! but people aren’t always like that out in the world and there are people who don’t show their toxic behaviours online … stay hesitant about making judgements upon someone’s character if you’re just like distant mutuals or w/e. it’s so easy to idealise a stranger whose online presence is endearing … be safe

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The moment you tell yourself you “can’t”, you limit yourself.
You are the sole greatest driving force (after God) in your life.
Speak positively, always.
Love yourself.
Nourish your soul with words of affirmation.
Take care of your body with lots of water and hug people often.
Cultivate good energy and the universe will reciprocate it, tenfold.
-B🌸
05.12.2017

I love to imagine the Shards’ participation in the creation or discovery of ‘humanity’ on their worlds, because really, some of these local versions of humans are so far removed from Yolen’s original ‘humans’…

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Devotion and Dominion: well, we’ve created nice, normal humans here for the most part, but what about the ones too packed with Investiture to stay that way?

Devotion and Dominion: … [look at each other]

Dominion: …aesthetic?

Devotion: aesthetic

Ruin: okay, good, we’ve pretty much replicated humans right (I think) with the addition of some cool new metal powers. we contributed equally. right? right. and I get to kill them all later

Preservation: [looks up from imbuing humans with some of his own self]

Preservation: ….yes.

Endowment: huh, there’s already people here? imma pick the ones I like and make them SUPER TALL and SMOKIN’ HOT

Honor: dear. dear, can we please try to make normal humans

Cultivation: NO NO NO okay look at this if we cross this strain with the natives then they get STONE FINGERNAILS. LITERAL STONE.

Honor: dear

Cultivation: and if we incorporate this version then instead of stone nails you get hair and skin that’s metallic gold HOW COOL IS THAT

Honor: honey

Cultivation: AND THESE ONES GET SHELL-CRUNCHING MOLAR PLATES AND SUPER JAW STRENGTH

Honor: please

Cultivation: and they’re all gonna display hair colour inheritance by PERCENTAGE

Cultivation: and that’s not even getting to the Invested ones

Honor: …

Cultivation: now get over here and do your bit

Honor: …yes dear.

Why do people join cults?

Today, there are thousands of cults around the world. It’s important to note two things about them. First, not all cults are religious. Some are political, therapy-based, focused on self-improvement, or otherwise. And on the flip side, not all new religions are what we’re referring to as cults. So what exactly defines our modern understanding of cults, and why do people join them? 

Broadly speaking, a cult is a group or movement with a shared commitment to a usually extreme ideology that’s typically embodied in a charismatic leader. And while few turn out as deadly like Heaven’s Gate, which ended in a mass suicide of 39 people in 1997, most cults share some basic characteristics. A typical cult requires a high level of commitment from its members and maintains a strict hierarchy, separating unsuspecting supporters and recruits from the inner workings. It claims to provide answers to life’s biggest questions through its doctrine, along with the required recipe for change that shapes a new member into a true believer. And most importantly, it uses both formal and informal systems of influence and control to keep members obedient, with little tolerance for internal disagreement or external scrutiny. 

You might wonder whether some of these descriptions might also apply to established religions. In fact, the world “cultus” originally described people who cultivated the worship of certain gods by performing rituals and maintaining temples. But in time, it came to mean excessive devotion. Many religions began as cults, but integrated into the fabric of the larger society as they grew. A modern cult, by contrast, separates its members from others. Rather than providing guidelines for members to live better lives, a cult seeks to directly control them, from personal and family relationships, to financial assets and living arrangements. 

Cults also demand obedience to human leaders who tend to be highly persuasive people with authoritarian and narcissistic streaks motivated by money, sex, power, or all three. While a cult leader uses personal charisma to attract initial followers, further expansion works like a pyramid scheme, with early members recruiting new ones. Cults are skilled at knowing whom to target, often focusing on those new to an area, or who have recently undergone some personal or professional loss. Loneliness and a desire for meaning make one susceptible to friendly people offering community. The recruitment process can be subtle, sometimes taking months to establish a relationship. In fact, more than two-thirds of cult members are recruited by a friend, family member, or co-worker whose invitations are harder to refuse.

Once in the cult, members are subjected to multiple forms of indoctrination. Some play on our natural inclination to mimic social behaviors or follow orders. Other methods may be more intense using techniques of coercive persuasion involving guilt, shame, and fear. And in many cases, members may willingly submit out of desire to belong and to attain the promised rewards. The cult environment discourages critical thinking, making it hard to voice doubts when everyone around you is modeling absolute faith.

The resulting internal conflict, known as cognitive dissonance, keeps you trapped, as each compromise makes it more painful to admit you’ve been deceived. And though most cults don’t lead members to their death, they can still be harmful. By denying basic freedoms of thought, speech, and association, cults stunt their members’ psychological and emotional growth, a particular problem for children, who are deprived of normal developmental activities and milestones. Nevertheless, many cult members eventually find a way out, whether through their own realizations, the help of family and friends, or when the cult falls apart due to external pressure or scandals. 

Many cults may be hard to identify, and for some, their beliefs, no matter how strange, are protected under religious freedom. But when their practices involve harassment, threats, illegal activities, or abuse, the law can intervene. Believing in something should not come at the cost of your family and friends, and if someone tells you to sacrifice your relationships or morality for the greater good, they’re most likely exploiting you for their own.

From the TED-Ed Lesson Why do people join cults? - Janja Lalich

Animation by Globizco

Why Andre Aciman is a F*cking Genius & My Soul is Transcending

During Elio’s conversation with his father near the end of the novel, Elio says, “Oliver was Oliver” as a way to sum up their relationship. In response, Mr. Perlman quotes Montaigne, saying, “Parce que c’était lui, parce que c’était moi.” Aciman does not provide a translation to this quote in the novel, and I was curious, so I just looked it up, and the part Mr. Perlman quotes translates directly to, “Because it was he, because it was I.” The broader and fuller context of this quote, however, is, “If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than it was because he was he, and because I was I.”

Obviously this quote in itself carries a lot of beauty and power, but I read it and something I learned in my philosophy class struck me. We just recently spent a decent amount of time studying Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics, which is basically just a treatise on how he believes humans can go about living their fullest and best lives. He argues that humans must work to acquire virtues, which are the qualities a human can possess which make him or her inherently good at being a person. Once virtues are consciously cultivated, people can achieve happiness, which is the Highest Good, or something we desire for the sake of itself. We also wish for all other things on account of this highest good, so essentially, we do anything in hope of obtaining happiness.

A virtue that Aristotle regards most highly is friendship, which he says is a form of love. He goes so far as to define three types of friendship: friendship of utility, friendship of pleasure, and complete friendship. Friends of utility are friends because they benefit from each other, and friends of pleasure are friends because they enjoy being together. Aristotle argues that these types of friendships are easily dissolved, but a complete friendship is lasting because it is when two people are friends because they love each other purely because they are who they are. They wish good upon one another simply for the sake of one another.

I have no idea what sort of philosophical background Andre Aciman has, but based on the sort of ideas Call Me By Your Name explores, I feel like he’s certainly studied it. And if I am connecting this correctly, then he is saying through Elio and Mr. Perlman’s conversation that Oliver and Elio achieved this most complete form of friendship, which is a form of love, which is a form of happiness, which is the supreme gift humans can allow themselves. Aristotle also discussed how complete friendship is rare and often difficult to reach, which parallels Mr. Perlman saying, “You’re too smart to not know how rare, how special, what you two had was” to Elio. Finally, since Aristotle views friendship as a virtue, which are examples of goodness this means complete friendship is also an example of goodness. “He was good, and you were both lucky to have found each other, because you too are good,” Mr. Perlman says.

I am blown away. I am almost upset by the luminosity in this, I am euphoric in the truth. I am feeling the weight of this story in every crevice of my body. To have an author construct such a meaningful narrative with complicated characters who love, despite its messiness, for the sake of loving is such a gift for readers to immerse themselves in. Oliver and Elio loved each other simply because. Because they saw the beauty in each other, which allowed them to acknowledge beauty within themselves. And this love stays with them forever, because if it were ever to disappear, they would no longer be themselves. Complete friendship. Lasting love. Supreme virtue. Transcendent happiness. It all comes full circle.

Air Signs - Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
Feather Heads 

She’s fading away
Away from this world
Drifting like a feather
She’s not like the other girls
She lives in the clouds
And talks to the birds
Hopeless little one
She’s not like the other girls, I know -
The Rasmus 

Each of the air signs signify unique stages of intellectual and social development. Flying high with airy wings harnessed to the mind, Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius are spirited, alert, and cerebral. Gemini is the child mind of Mercury, eternally young, free, and cheeky. Libra is middle aged, comfortable, virtuous, socially adept, and enjoying established relationships. Aquarius is the old age wisdom of Saturn. When it’s early in the morning and I hear the birds talking and chirping, enjoying the joy of making sound, I know the air signs have risen. Air is invisible, fluid, flowing, capable of vacating the animal and emotional realm in a moments notice, floating into the air like a balloon. Airy bubbles constantly pop in the mind to reveal new ideas and questions. Air diffuses through each of the elements, so the energy of Air never stops echoing, we have newspapers being typed all night, 24 hour news, a nocturnal social media network. Now we are in the Aquarius Age, it really is a time to be alive for airy people. The information they crave to devour can be accessed within seconds, they can communicate with anybody in an instant through the telepathy of their fingertips, they can share their thoughts with a broader audience than ever. So as we move into the Aquarian Age the qualities and talents of Air become held in esteem, so we will begin moving into the global recognition and awe of brilliant minds, scientists, writers, and thinkers. The Air signs do not utilise emotion as a tool of guidance, this can be their gift and their blind spot. Too often they can respond to emotive events with confusion or disconnection. This ability to ‘disconnect’ also opens the door for free movement of the astral body, so they can think themselves into new states of reality. They can disconnect from their emotional bias to form nonjudgemental and rewarding relationships based on the opportunity to learn and appreciation of different ways of being. Air longs for harmony, but their very nature provokes the opposite. It’s like wind, an invisible force that can erupt so much fury without needing anything physical. The objective mind of Gemini is capable of finding relationships in everything, a glowing display of synthesis. And their incessant conversation is the band that ties these worlds together as they find answers in everybody. Of course this can be irritating to those who can be frustrated at Gemini’s easy boredom or consuming questioning. But Gemini is that little girl that has just learned how to talk and now even better ask questions. This fascination never really ends. And this inherent fascination in Gemini becomes a fascination with personalities and people in Libra. They are personality profilers and character readers who spend a lot of time people watching and creating background stories for strangers. Gemini needs a relationship with information and energy and things. But Libra desires relationships with people. Libra cultivates law and morality, so the righteous and human aspects of air are especially exemplified as we progress. Their airy talents of communication are harnessed so they can engage with everybody in a non intrusive manner. The translucency of air that allows Gemini to so easily multiply permits Libra to reflect the vibration of people around her so they feel more comfortable. Now the conversation is two sided. And finally in Aquarius the global community is awakened. The conversation is with the whole world. We moved from the law of relationship in Libra, Saturn’s planet of exalt into his own sign of Aquarius. As we share information on the internet, we are tapping into Aquarius energy, the ability to convey information to collective masses. The chatter that began in Gemini becomes a conduit that draws drops of wisdom from heaven, ready to be interpreted and released by Aquarius. 

-C

[art: kurtis rykovich]

Gemini Moon

Gemini moons are witty, nervous, easily distracted, and usually mentally all over the place. Being ruled by mercury, showing and understanding emotions is not their strong point. When confronted with the emotions of others a Gemini moon often simply lets their mind wander to another topic instead of staying in the moment, which can make them appear insensitive. They themselves have a hard time staying focused on their emotions, or anything for that matter. Their mind is extremely rich and vivacious, always jumping from one thought to another. These individuals are generally physically jumpy and unstable, quite often you can see their eyes lose focus and their hands fidget. They might not always work well in traditional learning environments, but they have a deep need to learn and cultivate their interests. These people often teach themselves more than anyone else ever could. They have an endless array of knowledge at their disposal, making them excellent conversation partners. Gemini moons would benefit from learning patience, they particularly need to work on consciously staying focused on areas that need improving. Gemini moons would also benefit from writing down their emotions, as this would help them to attach them to something real and therefor giving them means to address them later on.

Enneagram

Little Things the Types Do That May Annoy Others

1- They may unintentionally cause those around them to feel hyper criticized, those close to them may feel that “nothing is ever good enough for them”  but for them it’s just under the guise of, “I’m making it better, I’m just helping point out the flaws in this so you can improve it.” While others can see it as, “I’m excessively targeting your weak points and always nagging you on them.”

What people should understand: They’re just as critical of themselves as they are of you. You may feel that you’re always being forced to meet expectations that are way too high. Truth is, you don’t even need to try to meet the expectations, it’s nothing to do with you, they’re not targeting you, it’s just their style- so you can relax, and every time they point something out, you don’t need to rush to meet that expectation, cause chances are, the second you complete it, they’re going to have something else to say, and it’s not that they’re criticizing you, it’s just the way they’re ingrained, strive to be good. 

2-  They may cause others to feel they’re overbearing, too sensitive, overwhelming, smothering, blatantly needy. It may feel very invasive to others. They’re helpful, but when they feel that people don’t need them, they’ll do the opposite of back off and kind of throw themselves at them, waiting at their beck and call, making themselves feel worse and worse but the worse they feel the more they’ll do, which is very opposite and it may cause confusion from others and annoyance. 

What people should understand: It doesn’t take much to satisfy the 2. Although it may seem like it, the two throwing themselves at them to help, lingering around, it seems like they’d want something back, something big, although they may not be able to figure this out because the more they withdraw the more the 2 approaches as if there’s a huge debt lingering for their help. Truly, all you need to do is acknowledge them. A thanks, a smile, a hug, be open to them, don’t be closed off or cold, don’t be curt and dismissive, this causes the opposite. The two wants to connect, so let them. Emotionally engage them, chat for a bit, and the two has their acknowledgement and appreciation for what they’ve done, the throwing themselves at you thing is just, the more you back away the more they’ll approach because you seem distant, and they just want you to acknowledge their help, so they feel appreciated. 

3- People close to the 3 may feel that they have an all or nothing attitude. “You’re only worth something if you are something.” They may place a lot of worth on anything, academic achievement, athletic achievement, etc. There’s no place for the regular people here, you’re either a winner, or you’re with the loser. This may put a strain on those close to them, and they may accidentally cause those around them to feel that they are worthless, or that the 3 views them as underachievers when really, they just have no interest in achieving those same things the 3 has.

What people should understand: The 3 has a focused viewpoint, and the 3 should also understand that not everyone is going to share this viewpoint. Their friends or family aren’t “lazy” or “underachievers” because they don’t place the same value and importance on recognition and achievement as the 3. The 3 may feel that they are motivating those close to them, calling them to action! Motivational speeches, get off your bottom and get up and become something! To the 3, it’s motivational. To others, it may have the opposite affect, people may feel that the 3 is saying you’re worthless until you are something, or you’re not trying hard enough, or you want to be just average, you could be great, when someone truly could be trying their hardest, or maybe they don’t just place the same value on achievement as the 3. The 3 feels they’re being motivational, trying to drive those around them to action, but to others, it may not feel that way. 

4- Those close to them may feel that they are self absorbed (in a negative light), obsessed with being miserable, “special snowflake syndrome” , loving sadness too much and clinging to it even in the face of possible happiness because of the odd pleasure they draw from their misery. They feel that the 4 blatantly rejects good things, in favor of basking in the melancholy they’ve cultivated. 

What people should understand: The 4 often cultivates emotions, as parts of their personality. Hence, the misery example. To them, the unhappiness, is not a state they can change, it is an ingrained part of their personality. They feel that they are lacking an identity, so to make up for this, they have a large range of emotions going on for them, and they pick and choose those emotions that they decide will make them up. The 4 feels inherently misunderstood, the loner, the reject. They tell themselves that no one will possibly understand them, and they take that perspective, “I am unique, I am difficult to understand and it’s great because I’m one of a kind, but I also feel flawed, because I’m not like the others, I don’t fit in as easily.” They have a great emotional depth, but also feel somewhat empty. Cultivating feelings such as melancholy helps feel that they’ve created an identity. They long for something, but they don’t really know what they long for, in basic, they love the longing itself. They’re not really attempting to cling to unhappiness, they feel that it is a built in construct of their personality and to let go- what will happen? They’ll lose their consistency, their stability- and so they hold onto that because it’s what they’ve created for themselves as an identity.

5- There’s one thing in particular that I’m going to acknowledge, having done it myself, but I’ll throw in a few others as well. People may feel that the 5 is insensitive, closed off, inconsiderate, blatantly doesn’t give a fuck, also self absorbed, cares more about what’s in their head than the people close to them. and also, gets carried away with their little analyzing and “experiments”. I’m actually going to talk about this. We’ll call this, “Mad Scientist Syndrome” and I’ll tell you about it right now. 

What people should understand: The 5 actually is sensitive, deeeeep deeeep down, and insecure, and because of that, they’ve created a barricading wall of information and mastery of whatever particular interest(s) they have, to compensate for them feeling like the world is too much, and it’s like, “ok when I’m done accumulating all this data on the world I’ll go out in the world and I’ll survive bc I know so much now” except they don’t get to the stage of “I’ll go out into the world” they’re stuck at, “Need more data” cause they’re fooling themselves into believing that they’ll only be able to brave the scary world once they know enough but they haven’t learned that you can’t replace direct experience with a mental construct, but they try to, oh we try to. Anyway, basically, behind this huge wall are their emotions and care for you, they’re don’t not care for you, and on the surface they seem oblivious or indifferent to your existence but deep deep down behind that barrier they <3 you with their secretly sensitive souls. If you ask them though, even if you don’t feel like it, it’s rather simple really, if you feel that they don’t care about you at all, it’s blatantly obvious, if we really didn’t give a fuck about you we wouldn’t hang out with you or speak to you, even if we don’t say we love you, why the hell would I associate with you if I don’t give a fuck about you? Like it’s that simple really. They can also seem snappish and inconsiderate, it’s not intentional, they’re just not aware that people will take their brusque personality personally, because of how ‘absent minded professor” they are. 

 Now, the “Mad Scientist Syndrome” (Sorry I know 5 is seeming really long compared to the others, wasn’t intentional, just as a 5, I have a lot to add on.) When a 5 gets invested in analyzing someone, they get impersonal. Very impersonal. Leads to them doing asshole-ish things without knowing. Sort of like how mad scientists start running crazy experiments and get all insensitive and evil and lose all morality. Okay, this is that, on a much tinier scale. Sometimes, analyzing someone’s behavior, while it is objective for you, it’s not objective for the person you’re analyzing, and it’s inconsiderate to turn them into a project. I often forget that. Please remember that, 5′s. Just like on Nemo, Fish are friends, not food. People are friends, not projects :) Please keep in mind. Also, for people, this isn’t personal it’s just this compulsive thing and it’s not intentional it’s an asshole thing to do, but I forget it’s an asshole thing to do, and it’s not a personal target either, it just happens and slips out and I’m like oh shit oops, so keep in mind. 

6- People close to 6 may feel that they are suspicious, convoluted, distrustful, accusatory, pushing people away, overall complicated. Extremely indecisive, anxious, and explosive. 6′s are the picture of, “feeling an emotion vs. acting on that emotion.” Type 6 really portrays the difference, because there could be a hair trigger, and they act on an emotion, which can be frustrating for others, sometimes acting on it before they even decipher if it’s “normal” (I would’ve said rational for the emotions except emotions aren’t rational at all, but usually an emotion correlates to a situation and some emotions are abnormal to situations, take anger at someone buying you a cake or something like that, although that’s vastly exaggerated.) Basically, before they decipher the emotion they’ll act on it which can cause people to want to bash their skull into a wall. 

What people should understand: 6′s have somewhat of an inherent inner turmoil, this broiling anxiety and feeling of instability. They seek outer sources to quell this anxiety and bring stability to balance out the instability they feel inside. They often “test” loyalty, to see if you’re really going to support them and this is very important for them. They may act on an emotion before actually realizing what it is exactly they’re feeling, and it’s not intentional, and they’re not attempting to start an argument, while it may seem that they’re consistently seeking out conflict, they’re actually consistently seeking out your reassurance that you’ll be there for them even in their worst moments, although it’s definitely an odd way of showing it. They know they can be difficult, and they want to trust that you’ll remain in difficult times, and because of that, they often test you, grating on your patience, and when you get fed up of this behavior, they see it as you proving that you really won’t support them. They react, and they don’t want you to react back, they want to trust that you’ll be there, in spite of their reactions. 

7- People may feel that 7s never focus or refuse to focus, have a lack of direction, refuse to meet their potential, are too busy chasing fun instead of applying themselves, and disorganized, and running from any obligation or responsibility at all times. 

What people should understand: 7′s are versatile. While you may believe your 7 is lacking direction, and should focus, a 7 forced to focus on one thing for a long time wilts. They get bored, and antsy. 7s may seem scattered, but truly, they thrive when they’re allowed to explore, and as they’re moving, they can definitely be successful on the go. Different things at once are exciting for a 7, they’re new, and they’ll keep on pursuing new experiences. A 7 can actually, be responsible, while still being exploratory. They’re quite smart and they’ve got quick minds, which makes them excellent at navigating and jumping from situation to situation with ease. Just because they don’t focus on one thing at once doesn’t make them less successful or intellectual- their minds are very quick, while they wouldn’t prefer to pore over a text book, if they hear a few interesting facts here or there, they’re sure to remember them and spit them out. Although, I feel that 7s may have difficulty in school, and not necessarily school itself, but schoolwork, such as homework, in school it’s a structured environment which gives them no choice but to focus, but on their free time they’re likely to procrastinate away instead of focusing on writing an essay they find boring. 

8- People may find 8′s overbearing, insensitive, overtly aggressive, abrasive, confrontational, and controlling and for females they might find them “overly masculine” and I dare you to say that because a female is a type 8, or just in general because she’s tough and stands up for herself, that it’s “off putting” and I’ll fuck u up myself m8. Anyway, they may come off a bit, strong, and intimidate others.

What people should understand: The 8 intimidating others is almost a challenge, and when you stand up for yourself, it’s like an unspoken truce of respect. They’re aggressive so they don’t get taken advantage of first. Offense instead of defense. “I’ll intimidate you first so that you can’t intimidate me cause you;ll be too intimidated.” It’s an unspoken show of power and dominance, I rule, don’t try to take advantage of me. They also don’t want to show any weakness, so the show of dominance and yadayadayada, so that you can’t see their weak spots. Underneath it all, they are very vulnerable, which they’ve covered with a facade, the 5 covers their vulnerability by disconnecting, the 8 covers their vulnerability by creating a facade of toughness over it. They reject others before they reject them, and go about with the tough loner attitude, and in attempting to cover up their vulnerability they become distanced from their emotional connections to others, which can lead to controlling behavior, blatant obliviousness to the emotional states of others, and insensitivity. 

9- People may find 9s procrastinating, a bit too relaxed and passive, not speaking up even when something obviously isn’t okay or just letting it slide (An example, a kid does something bad in school, calls home, mom says nothing about it, and just lets it slide, dad comes home, gets angry that mom didn’t react, yadayadayada)  Not voicing their opinions until later, holding things in until it explodes in 50 years worth of anger, yeah.

What people should understand: 9 wants to avoid conflicts at all costs. They don’t want to disturb harmony or cause inner turmoil, and they won’t take the slightest risk of disrupting harmony in favor of keeping the peace even in unfavorable situations, causing them to remain very passive and perceived as lackadaisical. They’ll also refuse to make a choice that they feel might disrupt the order until they absolutely have to- procrastinating and putting it off until they have to deal with it. With their other problems, they shove them in the corner, because they never really have to deal with them, so they’ll keep procrastinating on them until they’re forced into action. The 9 isn’t lazy, they just don’t want to take even the slightest risk of disrupting the harmony and everyone’s peace of mind, so they’ll avoid it painfully unless they’re forced to acknowledge the elephant in the room. 

Look, I’ve been with Bioware since Baldur’s Gate. That’s almost TWENTY years. I think I have a right to be disappointed and sad with the general direction Bioware has been taking with their last several releases, even if I have enjoyed several aspects of them. It’s great that people are excited, but at this point, I’ve been burned enough that my attention is sadly going elsewhere.

In Asia, we say that there are three sources of energy–sexual, breath, and spirit…You need to know how to reestablish the balance, or you may act irresponsibly. According to Taoism and Buddhism, there are practices to help reestablish that balance, such as meditation or martial arts. You can learn the ways to channel your sexual energy into deep realizations in the domains of art and meditation. The second source of energy is Chi, breath energy. Life can be described as a process of burning. In order to burn, every cell in our body needs nutrition and oxygen…Some people cultivate their Chi by refraining from smoking and talking, or by practicing conscious breathing after talking a lot…The third source of energy is than, spirit energy. When you don’t sleep at night, you lose some of this kind of energy. Your nervous system becomes exhausted and you cannot study or practice meditation well, or make good decisions. You don’t have a clear mind because of lack of sleep or from worrying too much. Worry and anxiety drain this source of energy. So don’t worry. Don’t stay up too late. Keep your nervous system healthy. Prevent anxiety. These kinds of practices cultivate the third source of energy. You need this source of energy to practice meditation well. A spiritual breakthrough requires the power of your spirit energy, which comes about through concentration and knowing how to preserve this source of energy. When you have strong spirit energy, you only have to focus it on an object, and you will have a breakthrough. If you don’t have than, the light of your concentration will not shine brightly, because the light emitted is very weak
—  Thích Nhất Hạnh

Me, a nonbinary pansexual media student: I will not write another paper about Rupaul’s impact on mainstream media and culture.

Also me:

Air //

Gemini is that little girl that has just learned how to talk and now even better ask questions. This fascination never really ends. And this inherent fascination in Gemini becomes a fascination with personalities and people in Libra. They are personality profilers and character readers who spend a lot of time people watching and creating background stories for strangers. Gemini needs a relationship with information and energy and things. But Libra desires relationships with people. Libra cultivates law and morality, so the righteous and human aspects of air are especially exemplified as we progress. Their airy talents of communication are harnessed so they can engage with everybody in a non intrusive manner. The translucency of air that allows Gemini to so easily multiply permits Libra to reflect the vibration of people around her so they feel more comfortable. Now the conversation is two sided. And finally in Aquarius the global community is awakened. The conversation is with the whole world. We moved from the law of relationship in Libra, Saturn’s planet of exalt into his own sign of Aquarius 

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The Nigerian archaeologist investigating ancient farming in West Africa
Emuobosa Akpo Orijemie always wanted to be a research scientist. A degree in botany led to a PhD looking at the crops cultivated by early…
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[Dec 2017] If you do an internet search for “ancient farming West Africa” very little comes up. What does appear is mostly research carried out by European and North American archaeologists. There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with that. But we do need West Africa’s early career researchers to engage with the archaeology of their own region and tell its stories from their own perspectives.

My research focuses on the Tiv people of Benue State, Nigeria. We think that people living in the region currently cultivated by the Tiv were growing crops in these fertile lands at least 3,000 years ago. They started with yams, which remain an important staple crop, and then moved on to millet and sorghum. Through learning about these crops, we gain knowledge about past climates.

What we do know about early farming in West Africa comes from linguistic sources. Stories were passed down through oral traditions as were farming techniques and an understanding of the seasons. Some of this work was carried out by Cambridge-based anthropologist and linguist Roger Blench from the 1980s onwards.

Tools also offer clues to the history of farming. The Tiv people use wooden tools for harvesting yams, even today, while their neighbours the ‘Bantu’ people, a much larger ethnic group, are more associated with metals. Wooden tools, such as hoes and digging sticks, are less likely to damage tubers like yams.

We’re looking at two contrasting sites in Tiv. One is a rock shelter on a hillside, the other an ancient settlement on the plains. The rock shelter was being used by humans at least 2,000 years ago and the settlement 500 years ago. At both sites, the soil contains evidence of what people cultivated and ate. Samples of pollen and macro-botanical material are being tested to give us accurate dates.

I’m the only Nigerian postdoctoral fellow working at Cambridge’s Division of Archaeology. Nigeria is a nation of around 180 million people with a rich diversity of cultures. So being the only Nigerian in the Division is a big responsibility. If I do well here, I’ll pave the way for others to follow in my footsteps.

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Gavin Creel won a Tony

When this sentence became a fact I felt so incredibly happy for this amazing performer, artist, and person. However, I checked the tag of his name today, and found a lot of negativity around it, and honestly, I can’t believe it. A lot of this seems to purely revolve around the fact that there are so many people who are so passionate about Falsettos and really don’t know that much about Gavin Creel just because they haven’t been following Hello, Dolly!. So now we have a list of why Gavin undoubtedly deserved this tony and you shouldn’t say anyone else was robbed (this year or ever).

I beg that if you think that anyone was robbed this year, that Gavin shouldn’t have won, or just don’t know much about Gavin Creel that you continue reading.


  • The whole point of nominating people and not just choosing one person is that ALL of the nominees deserve recognition for their work. so to say that one is not deserving (especially the one who won) is sort of fighting an uphill battle.
  • A lot of people were saying that Gavin robbed the award from the other nominees. The truth for Mike Faist is that he just debuted and is still young. He has a lot of chances to win later in life, and may even be too young to have garnered enough attention for his performance this year. As for Lucas Steele, this is only first major role on Broadway anyway, so it makes sense that he may not be as well known in the community yet either. Obviously, a lot of the attention went to Ben Platt and Rachel Bay Jones for DEH, but Mike’s performance still earned a nomination, so clearly he’s not doing terribly.
  • The Andrew Rannells argument is a bit more complex since a lot of people are saying that he “should have won his first tony” for a plethora of reasons. Let’s go into them.
  • Andrew Rannells made his Broadway debut in 2006, so he’s been working his way up to a Tony. Well, Gavin Creel made his debut in 2002 for originating his role in Thoroughly Modern Mille. He didn’t win that year and that may have been partly because the title role earned Sutton Foster her first Tony (and this year she literally presented his. COME ON, IT WAS PERFECT), and one for Harriet Harris as well in the featured actress category. That’s almost a DIRECT parallel to DEH. (I’m telling you guys, it’s really all about timing.)
  • So, of course, we all know Andrew Rannells was also nominated for a Tony in 2011, so that furthers the argument that he deserved one this year. Unfortunately, following that argument again leads to the fact that Gavin Creel has been nominated twice before this year anyway, so he wins by tally, if that mattered. But it doesn’t.
  • One of those nominations for Gavin went to his work in Hair, which as far as I’m concerned, is sort of when Gavin was “robbed” by the boys who played Billy Elliot. However, it was the year for them, and Hair was a bit of an underdog that year anyway, but it’s all about timing.
  • Last year, Gavin was in She Loves Me along with Laura Benanti, Jane Krakowski, and Zachary Levi, who were all nominated for Tonys. Gavin was not. To me, this qualified as a snub, but it made sense that he wasn’t nominated since his performance really kept the attention on Jane’s, which is partly why I thought it was so brilliant, but I digress. It wasn’t the right time.
  • A lot of the disappointment was towards the fact that Falsettos didn’t win anything, but the truth is that Tony Awards usually goes to shows that are still running. It helps sell tickets and gain attention. A lot of Broadway fans saw Falsettos, and considerably less have seen Hello, Dolly!, which is still sold out every night. This is because those seats are going to the critics, Tony voters, and the “insiders” of the community that decide who the award goes to. Those people chose Gavin as a winner, but they also chose Andrew and all the other men as nominees.
  • Also, a lot of fans were so surprised that Gavin won, but really, it was predicted by a lot of notable sources. I think Tumblr and social media in general sometimes create a vacuum of only fans and similar perspectives on theatre. To add to that, Gavin doesn’t use social media (he prefers to be in the moment. Guys, you really can’t hate him) so it makes sense that some fans may not be familiar with him, since that is a lot of fan’s only access to Broadway.
  • Another fact of the matter is that Gavin has been working in the theatre essentially his entire career. For sake of comparison, Andrew has made some transition to television, which I think is awesome. Something to keep in mind is that Gavin has been making his way through the theatre community for a while, meeting people who could vote for him to win an award, and actually did when he played Elder Price in London.
  • I believe Andrew Rannells deserves a Tony, and I believe each nominee deserve a Tony. I believe lots of people do. One of those people is also Gavin Creel. The truth is, careers are not built on or for Tonys. Some careers are helped by winning awards, but the best people really are not in it for the awards, so the fans shouldn’t be either.
  • In conclusion, go listen to Gavin Creel on the Millie, Hair, or Hello, Dolly! recording. Better yet, listen to one of the performances for which he wasn’t nominated, such as She Loves Me, or Bounce. If you still don’t trust that he’s deserving, go watch a bootleg of Hair, or even just the Tony performance. And if you still don’t believe it, go watch one of his interviews. When there’s a solid interview of Gavin talking for 30+ minutes you can tell just how intelligent, kind, and artistic he is, and just why those Tony voters trust that he deserves an award.
  • Have I won you over? Has he won you over? Okay, now go discover artists that you don’t know about and respect all the art that so many people have cultivated. That art is so much more interesting than any award, but when someone who is so great at it does get one, celebrate it.
Hook up culture, sacred sensuality(sexuality), tantric sex, and womb healing.

The ‘marriage culture’ that we have come to know from our parents generation of failed partnerships, & no intimacy, is what was destructive. We know better now. We no longer have to marry out of cultural necessity, we actually get to CHOOSE now. That in itself is beautiful..

Hook up culture is the result of a psychologically afflicted generation, too bruised by the degradation of relationship values they’ve seen. We no longer honour the sanctity of union-ship. From music, to television, the marriage template is portrayed as stagnant, and Un-enjoyable. No sanctity of union ship, no desire to build a strong family unit = broken communities, weaker social ties & understanding of relationship (dynamics). We are heading toward a culture of several,'baby mothers’, and 'baby fathers’, with no family bonds, nor community practice. The fact that people come on Twitter and even make jokes/ memes, out of having, 'side chicks, and 'side guys’ is proof of desensitisation.

The holy trinity, mother + father + [=]child, (masculine and feminine energies combining to the highest essence of creation).. That’s love.

If people believed they would genuinely be loved, respected, and received if they entered a partnership, there would be no 'hook up culture’

Yes, (we) humanity may be collectively moving toward new ideals. But not ALL of these are progressive. Some are still born of trauma.


A generation that largely witnessed the break down of their parents marriages, (their mother’s lack of expression+ their fathers lack of enthusiasm), are inevitably going to view partnership with contempt, and something signifying entrapment, and passive acceptance.

The only true reason, you’ll want to be having sex with others without building emotional bonds, is because you are fearful of such intimacy. In your humble opinion, it is far easier to, 'mimic’ this form of closeness, as naturally, all humans require some level of social bonding. Sex, for many, is as close as it gets to love.

If you study sacred sexuality, you would know there can be no separation from intimacy, love and sex.

It has only become so, since those in power realised the manifestation power behind such sexual cultivation..
Keep people focused on the primal aspects of sex, and they remain trapped in ego consciousness.

You know you can actually cause trauma to a woman’s womb, and psyche, under the guise of a 'one night stand?’ Men awaken a portal within a woman after sexual intimacy. To then close that portal, or deny responsibility for all that awakens with it, is to prematurely stunt her energy formation. It causes trauma because it reduces her to her sexual organs, in terms of validity.

Women, and men experience sex a little differently.. Aside from tantric sex, and twin flame sex, that awakens awareness in both partners, generally, the process of sex is more physical for men, (unless they practice sacred sensuality), and the process for women, is largely emotional. During sex, a woman’s heart centre may be activated through stimulation of her breasts, (the heart centre/chakra sits right Inbetween), or through stimuli-station of the womb, which is thought to also ignite feelings of either safety/protection, or fear, and attack. It is not surprise that the womb is associated with feelings of love and comfort - this is the very place that houses in-coming souls.

The goal in tantric sex, is to allow both partners to transform their sexual energy, into creative, godly energy, (love). Through the pro-longing of the orgasm, the man trains himself to maintain this momentary glimpse of heaven, by involving not only his lower chakras, but moving from the lower centre, to the higher centres, therefore igniting kundalini awakening. - just think of the snake spiralling up the chakra system, making its way through to the top.
This process begins quite naturally in women after intercourse.. (Well, at least it tries to).

Woman, by nature is accustom to being nurturing and receptive. To making a home out of all she is given.
You cannot stir this process within her, and then force her to dismantle the alchemical transformation whilst it is in progress..
Biologically, at this point, she is awakening, (the true purpose of sex). Abandoning her afterward is equivalent to awakening a sleeping child,only to offer them a sleeping pill whilst they are finally adjusting to being awakened. The confusion of the natural process is damaging.

When you enter a woman, she has surrendered to you.. In turn, you owe her a duty, of succumbing to whatever arises within her.. Because at that point, it is an accumulation of both of your energies. She is experiencing not only her awakening, but stirring yours.

Her behaviour afterward will shine a light on all that you are. If she begins to act fearful, she is responding to a place of fear within you both. If she grows more loving and playful, she is reflecting this nature within yourself.. Listen and take heed.

Abstinence, and a prolonged period of celibacy is a good cure for women who have, in the past given their sexual power away in anyway. Sexual power can be given (taken)away in a magnitude of ways. People pleasers who use sex as a means to validate their desirability, are but one way sexual power may be given. In this case, the abuse is self inflicted, though very much as potent in its damaging effects.

In this absence, the woman should spend time honouring her womb, (rituals to celebrate moon cycles, and womb cycles), and learn of its divinity.

The self cleansing mechanisms of the vagina, will take care of the rest. Largely, it is a mental game of re-introducing harmony.

There are also forms of visualisation meditation that can see you through retrieving parts of your soul that were lost..

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.

—  Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection.

There was a time when our conversations mattered to me. I could long to talk to you for a whole day you and if you actually had texted me something it made the whole day seem worthwhile. It was just how you affected me. They meant something to me, your messages. Even if you just asked how my day was. They made me happy. They made me forget everything that made me sad. You had that gift - to make me happy with the small things.

Was. That little world. Putting this happiness of mine in the past. Because something happened. You stopped texting me. You stopped acknowledging me. You stopped and I felt too weird to send you messages, after the first ten, I already sent that day. Ten messages. No answers. No questions.

One message a day became one message a week and later a message a month and then I stopped too. Except now and then I could send a text out of the blue just because but you never wrote back.

Until one day you did. Like you never stopped. Like nothing had happened. Like not a half a year had gone by. It was still easy talking, but I didn’t really care. You had taken something from me with that deafening silence of yours. You had locked me out, to suddenly open the door once more and inviting me in, in from the cold. But you see, I had found peace within. I didn’t need your warmth or your kindness. I didn’t need you anymore.
Our conversations in the night didn’t matter anymore. They don’t matter anymore. I moved on. I moved on with my life.

I’m sorry. But you fucked this up. Not me. I cared for our conversations and I cared for you. But no more. You kind of killed that feeling. Killed it with the silence. I can’t do this. That would be counterproductive.
Goodbye and have a good life. One advice though, if you don’t care to cultivate your friendship with people, don’t bother. It’s a two-way thing, you know. But, I suppose you didn’t even consider me a friend, did you now?

—  @celtic-poetry , Burned one too many times by cold shoulders