csi:cats in the cradle

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There sure has been a lot of racism in the media lately. Between the Charleston church shootings, Obama using the N-word on TV to make a point about racism, the Confederate Flag debacle in South Carolina, FOX News…just FOX News in general, and now Don Lemon holding up a sign with the N-word on CNN, racism is a hot topic…again! The reality is, it never went anywhere. The quote above, from “A Different World” (Episode “Cats In The Cradle”, from season 5), held very true in 1992 when it aired, and it holds true today in 2015. Racism doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. Neither will sexism, homophobia and transphobia. That’s society for you…

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Ugly Kid Joe - Cats In The Cradle

Was never a fan of Ugly Kid Joe but this cover of Harry Chapin’s 1974 folk rock song i can live with 👍🏻 From U.K.J.’s 1993 album America’s Least Wanted 

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Cats in the Cradle Revelation - Narcissistic Parenting

To the uninitiated, this song is about a father who neglected his child. The lyrics express him as a misogynistic businessman who prefers making money over spending time with his child, and doesn’t even mention the mother of his child. He only begins to warm to his son after he is “like a man”.  At the end of the song, he is in anguish and regret because he believes his son was “just like” him.

The actual lyrics on the last part are: 

[Dad] "I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away, I called him up just the other day. I said I’d like to see you if you don’t mind, he said ‘I’d love to dad, if I could find the time.’ 

[Son]"My new job’s a hassle and my kids have the flu, but it’s sure nice talking to you, dad.” … 

[Dad] “And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me: he’d grown up just like me. My boy was just like me.”

But actually, in one sentence, the son proves he is NOT like his father. He is not relishing his career and he is concerned for his sick children. He cuts the dad out, not because he’s also a narcissist, but because his dad is. 

So uh yeah fuck you Harry Chapin.