To keep it simple, I'm always very enthusiastic bout every piece of writing I do and whenever someone gives me feedback or criticisms, I always ignore it. Do I have a big ego? How do I fix this?
Let me explain to you why I don’t believe in feedback and criticism regarding art.
As soon as I published my first book, I received two reviews in the first week. I was so happy, I just couldn’t believe that someone had read, thought and written something about those characters that I loved and those places I had created. I checked the first review. Of course, I wasn’t lucky. This girl hated my book and rated it with one star. But I was hopeful for the second review. And the second review what a long post of how I could fix my book. I was desperate. I had worked for a year and I had used all my money to get my book published, and the first two readers hated it.
Later on, I received a lot of positive reviews. I even gathered a small fandom. However, those negative reviews had struck me right in the confidence. I simply couldn’t write anymore. I tried to apply the criticism that second reviewer listed, but I hated it. It wasn’t me, I wasn’t writing for myself. The more people read my book, and the more reviews I received, the scarier it all was.
I was writing my second book when I flipped. I deleted around 25.000 words and gave up on being an author.
Years later, I decided to give it another chance, but I wouldn’t read reviews anymore. I would write what I had to, people would love or hate and that’s it. I would allow myself to make mistakes, and I would allow readers to review freely.
The review section of any literature website doesn’t belong to us, writers. It belongs to readers. They’ve invested money and time in a book, they are allowed to express themselves. But we writers are allowed to write for ourselves. If we had to take the criticism of every single reader, we would descend to madness in no time.
The most relevant critic will always be yourself. So, you don’t have a big ego, you are just protecting your sanity.