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First I supposedly don’t want women to have welfare resources. Now the people who don’t want abortions are “wasting” welfare money?

Things I’ve done working at a maternity home:

  • Given low-income women rides to parenting classes, work, the grocery store, etc.
  • Helped them with homework
  • Hooked them up with local resources to which they have a right
  • Administered vitamins and medication
  • Had some real talk about identity and healthy relationships
  • Encouraged abuse counseling and drug rehabilitation
  • Helped someone get her belongings and medical supplies out of her abuser’s home because the police couldn’t go in
  • Taught some of them basic self-care skills
  • Sat around chatting and enjoying each other’s company

Things I have never had to do at the maternity home:

  • Talk someone out of an abortion
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‘The New York Times’ is publishing dangerous abortion myths that verge on anti-choice propaganda

  • “Above all, it’s a profoundly dehumanizing argument,” Lori Szala writes in a New York Times op-ed responding to the idea that women’s access to abortion is an economic issue.
  • “It reduces mothers and their children to mere economic objects, and amounts to saying we are justified in killing those who impede our economic progress,” she writes.
  • When tackling polarizing political issues, it is important to engage a variety of political viewpoints. Granted, debating with someone who fundamentally believes abortion equals murder is a difficult enterprise.
  •  In the service of nuance, though, if you want to argue that women should be mandated to carry pregnancies to term, those arguments should be rooted in data and facts, not morally ambiguous assumptions about the good will of working class would-be mothers.
  • It is worth noting Szala is the national director of client services at Human Coalition. The Times does say this, without clarifying that Human Coalition is an anti-abortion organization that runs crisis pregnancy centers. Read more (5/10/17)
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Tomorrow, California will vote on a bill that would require crisis pregnancy centers to tell women the truth about their reproductive health options. One politician asked why a lawmaker cared so much about the bill, and her response is PERFECT.

anonymous asked:

What are your thoughts on private vs public adoption agencies? I've been looking for jobs and have been thinking about working in adoption. Private agencies pay better obviously lol

(This is going to be my LEAST popular post) When I first started actually looking into adoption I was looking at all the wrong places. I was looking at adoption agencies, mainly private ones. I was reading stores about how families that had adopted babies or children, how happy and wonderful their lives were to have children because they were infertile or just because they felt called to adopt. I had heard all these wonderful stories from adopted children, how much they loved their parents who adopted them and how grateful they were to have families. It seemed like the perfect, most pure and good thing to do was adopt, especially as a prolife person, some unwanted baby who had escaped the possibility of abortion by people like me who wanted that baby.

A couple years ago I was scrolling on Facebook in my favorite Facebook group, a Catholic Homeschooling group. It was such a good place to go for comfort and prayers, from the daily struggle of being a Catholic Mother and Wife. I felt the urge to pray for some of these women who I considered my friends, and I came across a photo of a beautiful newborn baby with beautiful black skin and thick black hair over his little head, laying in the hospital bed just so tiny. “PRAYER REQUEST” it read. The first few sentences was about the babies health problems, as he was a few weeks premature, but the writer assured us that he would make it, being the strong little guy he is. She gave us a little background, how badly she had been wanting this baby for so long, she had children herself, but had always felt called to adopt. “Over 30,000” she began to explain, she spent on adoption fees and hospital costs! On and on she went. Then came the real prayer request. The biological mother and father wanted to keep the baby. After all this money she spent, after months of preparing the nursery, “he’s already mine” she yelled into the screen and into the many hearts of mothers reading who gasped at the idea of someone tearing their infant from their arms! The post went on about the biological mother and father, who clearly were “unfit” do to their age and financial instability.

“They aren’t able to take care of the baby, the world doesn’t need more thugs and drug addicts, the baby is already yours I will pray immediately that the laws are in your favor have faith!!!” That was the general voice of the over 300 women in the comments. Every single one of them busted out their rosaries and prayed with their whole hearts that this baby would be delivered into the arms of the adopted mother who so clearly loved this baby more than the biological parents, after all, she was the one that paid the hospital fees, the adoption costs, “Tell her she will have to pay back all the fees! That will make her change her mind! She just wants to use the baby to live off the government!!!” More and more similar comments came in.

I sat down myself, saddened by the situation and started to pray. At first I also began to pray that the adopted mother would win the child, but something didn’t feel right.

At what point does someone have the right to take an infant from the arms of their mother? After they have paid 30,000 dollars? After they have had the lawyers for their private adoption agency protect the adopted mother by packet of papers with laws and signatures? After finding out that the biological mother was a poor scared young woman? Who deserves their own child then? By most those terms certainly not me.

For a while I thought this situation was rare. I thought generally most women who gave up their infants were happy, or even grateful their children were adopted by warm wealthy families. I was wrong.

I started researching birth mothers, I listened to their stories, their stories of immense regret, loss, pain that only a woman who’s infant was living but not in her arms could feel. As a mother myself, I can’t even fathom the pain. I mean that from the very moment I hold my child, the bond is something you simply cannot understand unless you are a mother yourself.

See, in government ran agencies there are no lawyers. The primary concern is the best interest of the child, which professionals, psychologists, even our Catholic theology all agree over and over the best interest of the child is it’s biological parents, second choice being other blood relatives. I won’t go into detail on this, you’re welcome to research yourself.

If it was up to me, private adoption agencies would be illegal. That’s right. Illegal. In order for their doors to stay open, they need to make money. Their best interest is NOT for the child, although they may tell themselves that they are doing God’s work by “rescuing” the infant from the arms of a poor teen mom and into the arms of wealthy infertile parents. The fact is, the concern is not for the infant, the mother, or anyone. It’s for the paying customer, and the financial gain for the doors to stay wide open. Most of them with the loving intention of saving babies from abortion, completing families with infertile parents. Women (birth mothers) come to these agencies scared out of their minds, they don’t want an abortion, and they honestly believe (thanks to society) that an unwed mother, a teen, a poor woman, is undeserving of her own child. They go to these agencies and are are coerced. Lawyers work for these companies and are paid big money to work on behalf of the adoption company and the client-the adoption parents. The birth mother has absolutely zero protection herself. These businesses profit by taking children from the wombs scared hopeless young birthmothers and into the arms of paying customers. There is no turning back, once the money is paid, the baby is no longer belongs to the birth mother. At this point she is reduced to as the prochoice people say “an incubator”. We can deny it all you want, but in this business, is she anything else?

Did you know that government agencies almost never have infants available up for adoption? Do you know why? Because they aren’t making any profit adopting children out. They are working for the best interest of the birth parents and the child. Mothers are directed to help, and get the help they need to keep their children, or a biological family member is able to care for the child, because that’s the best interest of the child. The mother is also legally able to have her child returned to her, as long as she is not an addict, or has ever been charged with child abuse. In private adoption, this is absolutely never an option, unless of course the lawyers didn’t cover the company and the adoption parents well enough.

Slowly I began to uncover the real face of most infant-relinquishing adoptions, children desperate to know who they really are, forbidden by laws or their adopted parents to find the mother and father that they were created by to be loved and cared for them. Forbidden to have relationships with their birth parents. Then you see the birth mothers, who morn the loss of their child who’s still alive for the rest of their lives, shamed, guilty, hopeless. Look up their blogs. Read their stories, face their pain.

The worst part is, because this has a lot to do with religious, particularly Christian and prolife groups, we turn our cheeks and close our eyes to the pain. We tell ourselves that it isn’t our problem and we’ve done our part. I don’t believe that, and I’ll stand on whatever side against what is the best interest of both the mother/father and the child. I’ll never choose one or the other. And never on the side of profit, especially profit off human beings.

There was a story my priest told me about the importance in our Catholic faith about the relationship between a mother and child, being as were Catholics and we don’t dismiss the importance of Mary in the life of Christ like other Christians might. He said in Yakima there were many Latino immigrants who were there illegally, and were being deported. The problem is, the children they had, one in particular only days old, were legal citizens of the United States. In situations like this the children are actually forced to remain in the Untied States as citizens. The Bishop of Yakima, stepped in, firmly planted in the truth that a child should never be separated for a mother. The children were then able to be processed, released, and returned to the parents.

If we look at Mother Mary, a teen, unmarried (betrothed, but unmarried), she would probably be deemed an “unfit” mother by our society. We gasp in horror when prochoice people say heinous things about Mary aborting Christ, but we would support Christ being raised by any other woman than the Mother of Christ?

Why are we okay with signs at clinics where scared women go to have abortions that read, “don’t kill your baby we want it!” Why are we so obsessed with “choose adoption!!!”

Where is the rally for the “alternative” true and holy nature of keeping a mother with her children? Why is adoption seen as the solution to abortion? There are programs in place to help these women, in our country how is it possible that a woman is so scared she feels the need to abort or give away for her child? How is this still a normal mentality? Because both prolife and prochoice people feed the fear. Neither of us apparently has any faith or respect for the nature of human beings. We have those who are prochoice who stand solely on the side of the mother, and those who are prolife who stand solely on the side of the baby, but who protects the family? Isn’t that the divine nature, the most important structure of our entire society? Unfortunately even pregnancy crisis centers are required to educate mothers who have already chosen to keep and raise their baby, on the topic of adoption and how much better it is for their baby, before giving any sort of services.

So, is there a need for adoption? Yes there is. There is a need for adoption because although God has designed us to be raised by our mother and father there are still evil and sin in this world. Sin that abuses children, causes parents to become sick with addictions, and creating broken family and children who have not a single blood family member to turn too. This is where the need is, not in the wombs of scared women or young mothers.

Now, we can tell ourselves, as prolife or proadoption people, that “we’ve never done that!!” Or “I’ve never strictly advocated for a woman to adopt without pointing her to help as well!” But honestly that isn’t good enough to wash our hands free of guilt. If we aren’t actively seeking and speaking out about stuff like this, we feed the same mentality that feeds abortion. That an unwed, poor, scared, mother is unworthy of her own child. I see hundreds of prolife people state that “we need less adoption laws to make adoption easier!!” Easier for who? Adopted parents? Through the state adoption IS easy, for parents who are qualified based on the best interest for the child. It’s also little to no COST. Yep. You heard that right. What’s easier than that?

Since I’m not a birth parent, I would like if we could all actually read what the birth parents have to say about adoption.

Here’s a pamphlet created by birth parents on how adoption has affected them. In order for a woman to properly and willfully choose adoption as a choice for her, she needs to know these facts, she needs to hear the good and the bad in order to make an informed decision. I beg all people especially prolife people, to read the pamphlet and inform yourselves please! If we want to really protect woman and children we need to protect the family!

(Sorry for any grammar, spelling mistakes)

http://www.cubirthparents.org/docs/39%20What%20You%20Should%20Know%20if%20Youre%20Considering%20Adoption.pdf

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Must watch. At minute 7 we meet a woman tricked into an appointment at a crisis pregnancy center, and it’s heartbreaking. 

anonymous asked:

Don't be reductive. Yes, many pregnancy centers have been caught lying or hiding their MO. But there are also ones that are above-board, honest with the info they provide, and helpful. There's a busy one in my 'hood in a major pro-choice NE city that has helped many women & families who don't want an abortion but lack the resources to carry a pregnancy to term or raise a baby. They provide adoption help and hook hard-up parents up with practical resources and classes. Some really do good work.

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OH YOU RIGHT what the Bad Advisor definitely wants to do is to send a scared 15-year-old into a crisis pregnancy center that may or may not be a hellden of anti-science bullshit, rather than recommending they visit an actual medical establishment, accountable to actual institutional oversight, from which they can receive unbiased counseling.

The Bad Advisor just could not be more sorry that she may have offended some fuckers who are likely to make their clients go to bible study before they “earn” a fucking pack of diapers, or who actively deceive clients about the gestational age of a fetus in hopes of forcing them past the legal abortion deadline in their state. Please forgive the Bad Advisor for being so … reductive.

WON’T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE CRISIS PREGNANCY CENTERS?????????

anonymous asked:

Can you tell me about the crisis pregnancy centers? I keep hearing that they are misleading...what's the deal?

Crisis Pregnancy Centers are set up to appear to be reputable womens’ health clinics, but they are actually Christian-based centers that exist solely to guilt women out of having abortions. They receive a lot of funding from the purchase of “Choose Life” license plates, even though they spread inaccurate and even dangerous misinformation.

Since they are often mistaken for abortion clinics, and have even been known to have themselves placed on lists of abortion providers, a lot of the people who unknowingly walk through their doors are seeking abortions. They are in a vulnerable state and the people at the CPCs take full advantage of that fact by doing everything in their power to deter them from making their choice. They have been known to spread all sorts of harmful lies; they claim that abortion causes breast cancer, abortion is always psychologically damaging, condoms are ineffective against STDs, taking birth control pills is the same as having an abortion, and abortions cause sterility, just to name a few.

They use deliberately emotionally charged language, graphic pamphlets and other forms of media filled with inaccurate information, and size models of fetuses that all look like newborn babies to shame women out of having abortions, and they are often receiving funding from their state in order to do this. CPCs are an unbelievable injustice and they cause all sorts of damage. In addition to manipulating women into making choices they may not be right for them, their lies about birth control actually lead to more unwanted pregnancies and more abortions. CPCs exist solely to hurt women and force Christian ideals and morals on people who may not necessarily agree with them.

If you can stomach watching people from these Crisis Pregnancy Centers mislead and shame women, you can listen to some audio clips from a counseling sessions by following the links on this page, and you can also see a CPC up close and in person by watching 12th and Delaware, a documentary about a CPC that strategically placed itself across the street from an abortion clinic. The documentary shows both sides of the issue in a relatively neutral light and leaves the viewers to draw conclusions for themselves, but anyone who cares about women will find it hard to sympathize with the cruel tactics used by the CPC. You can watch 12th and Delaware here.

It is undeniably wrong that these fake clinics are funded by the state, but Planned Parenthood, which offers factual and non-biased information about all aspect of reproductive health, is not. People with uteri deserve better than the shaming, lies, and manipulation that is propagated by Crisis Pregnancy Centers. This is why we need to usher in a culture of choice.

“A Woman’s Choice” is the CPC right next to EMW (the abortion clinic) in Louisville, Kentucky. 

Their name implies that they are “pro-choice”

They use the name of the actual abortion clinic in their parking signs to fool clients into thinking that they are with EMW. 

This is all to confuse patients into parking in their lot and to get them inside their doors.  Their they will attempt to delay them until they miss their appointment. 

All of this is perfectly legal. 

The CPC parking lot volunteer, a guy we have named “O’Reilly”, gets so ANGRY when I give people who clearly tell me they are going to EMW correct information. 

Today there was a client who pulled up in her car to talk to me.  O’Reilly came up directly behind me. 

Me- “Hi, I’m a volunteer with EMW.  Are you going to EMW today?”

Client - “Yes”

Me- “OK (gives client parking directions)” 

O’Reilly- *over my shoulder* “you can park here (the CPC) for free…”

Me - “He is not with the clinic nor is this facility with the clinic.”

Client - “But the sign says…”

Me - “Yeah, they aren’t with the clinic or associated with the clinic at all….” 

O’Reilly - “You don’t have to listen to her, I work here” 

Me - “Well, again, I’m a volunteer with EMW.  He is not a volunteer with EMW.  If you want to go to EMW, I would suggest you park either…*gives places to park for clients again*” 

Client - “Oh, that is very confusing” 

Me - “Yeah, tell me about it.  They want to you to be confused” 

By this point O’Reilly was so mad he walked away. 

The client got parked and got into the clinic. 

IF YOU ARE ACCESS ABORTION CARE, BE AWARE THAT THERE ARE PLACES, TYPICALLY RIGHT NEXT TO ABORTION CLINICS THAT ARE TRYING TO TRICK YOU INTO BELIEVING THAT THEY ARE A CLINIC.  THEY WANT YOU TO THINK THEY ARE AN ABORTION CLINIC. 

THEY ARE NOT CLINICS. 

Keep an eye out for escorts to tell you where to park.  Don’t be fooled by these people.  Their whole purpose is to try to trick you.

It still boggles my mind that the CPC dude got mad that I told this person accurate information.  

THEIR WHOLE POINT IS TO LIE AND TO FOOL. 

Why do we still need feminism?

To everyone wondering why those loud, obnoxious feminists are still protesting today: American women have had mostly-equal rights for less than 40 years out of the entire recorded history of the Western world, thanks to loud, obnoxious feminists like the ones marching and protesting in cities across the US as I type this. There is currently a considerable and disturbing push by some conservative/religious groups to revert some of our hard-fought rights and freedoms to what they were back when we were considered property more than people.

To outline some of the injustices American women face, in case you’re wondering what’s wrong with our current set of rights and freedoms:

1 in 5 women will be sexually assaulted or raped during her lifetime. Of those, fewer than 1/3 are reported to police.

For every 1000 women who are raped by men, 994 of the men who rape them will never see the inside of a jail cell for that crime.

As of 2014, US police departments had 400,000 untested rape kits sitting around, gathering dust.

31 US states allow a rapist to sue for custody of a child conceived during that rape, and most of those states will not allow the mother to give the child up for adoption unless the rapist father is notified and gives consent. There are currently multiple bills in state senates which would also prevent a woman from aborting a child conceived by rape unless the father gives consent.

It is still an extremely common tactic for a rape trial to focus not on the rapist’s crime, but on the entire sexual history of the female victim, what she was wearing, who she was with, whether or not she had been drinking, and often trying to coerce her into admitting it was consensual all along and she’s just trying to save her reputation by calling it rape.

Rape is the only crime for which arguing that the temptation was too clear and obvious to resist is treated as an admissible and sometimes clearing defense.

1 in 3 women will experience domestic violence. 1 in 4 women will experience *severe* domestic violence.

As of 2014, 38 million US women had experienced domestic partner violence.

Also as of 2014, 4.77 million US women experience domestic partner violence every year.

Between 2001 and 2013, more than twice as many women were murdered by their male romantic partners than there were soldiers killed in our overseas war efforts.

Disabled women are 40% more likely to experience domestic violence than normally-abled women, and it’s more likely to be severe violence.

Marital rape has only been illegal in all 50 states since 1993. Many states still have exceptions to the law, limit the degree of assault it can be considered as, and/or do not prosecute it as seriously as other rape and assault.

Most domestic abuse is never prosecuted.

Abused women lose a collective 8 million days of paid work every year directly as a result of their abuse.

The leading cause of death among pregnant women is being murdered by the father of their child.

The US has the highest maternal mortality in the developed world.

The US is one of two countries in the entire world without paid maternity leave, the other being Papua New Guinea.

Right-to-work states routinely overlook the firing and laying-off of pregnant women because employers abuse the loophole of not explicitly stating that as the reason.

Pregnant women are routinely denied even minor accommodations by employers, such as carrying a water bottle or being allowed to use the restroom more than once every four hours.

Access to contraception is still a hotly-debated subject, and a woman’s employer can legally dictate her reproductive choices based on THEIR religious beliefs.

The most effective contraception methods are an entire month’s wages for a woman earning minimum wage and who has no access to insurance.

Hormonal contraception has significant and sometimes fatal side-effects that were only approved because the testing was done on impoverished minorities, and it was assumed this would be the primary market for hormonal contraception.

Access to abortion is being increasingly restricted in many states, which has seen a corresponding rise in maternal mortality, infant mortality, and suicide by pregnant women.

Women accessing health care reproductive health clinics such as Planned Parenthood frequently face angry and even violent protestors.

Fake “crisis pregnancy centers” are legal in many states. These are not bound by HIPAA laws and often put their duped patients in actual physical danger.

A Texas anti-abortion group with 30,000 members infiltrated pro-choice groups and hatched a scheme to literally kidnap pregnant women by offering them rides to Planned Parenthood and holding them captive until they’d missed their appointment and/or agreed not to abort. None of them got into any legal trouble for suggesting this.

It is legal in some states for the state to keep a brain-dead pregnant woman on life support indefinitely, regardless of her wishes, her family’s wishes, and the stage of pregnancy.

Women are more than twice as likely to die of a heart attack than men are, for the sole reason that their symptoms aren’t taken seriously.

Obese women, especially minorities, frequently go without adequate care or any care at all in all levels of medical care, from the general practitioner’s office to the emergency room.

35% of single mothers live at or below the poverty line, even though most of them have full-time jobs.

68% of the elderly poor are women.

60% of minimum-wage workers are women.

More than 70% of those living at or below the poverty line are women and children.

There is no affordable child care. A single mother working at a full-time minimum wage job is likely to spend half her income on day care. This forces her to either drop out of the workforce entirely and take government benefits, or to take a second job and essentially never see her own child.

The gender wage gap is real. At all levels of employment in all industries, women are frequently paid less than their male coworkers despite having the same experience, the same seniority, and the same education.

Sexism is rampant in many industries, particularly STEM and manual labor. This leads to less participation by women who feel they will receive unfair treatment from employers and coworkers alike.

The number of women earning degrees in computing-based STEM fields has dropped from 37% to 18% since the 1980s. This was largely due to the creation of hierarchies, hiring practices, and social networking in the 1990s that explicitly favoured men.

Female video game developers routinely receive gender-based harassment online, with an entire socio-political movement of angry young men (GamerGate) emerging because a female game developer was given what they perceived to be an unfairly-high rating on her game by a journalist with whom she subsequently entered into a relationship.

Female celebrities routinely deal with dangerous stalkers, with a number of them being assaulted and/or murdered by such, and our cultural reaction is to tell them that’s what they get for being famous. Meanwhile, John Lennon’s killer has been in prison since 1980 and is one of the most widely reviled men in America.

Women online in any capacity routinely receive gender-based harassment, demeaning comments, and unsolicited photos of male genitalia.

Women on dating sites frequently receive so much harassment that they are forced to delete their profiles.

The cultural reaction to nude/topless photos of any woman being stolen and posted online is that she got what she deserved for taking them in the first place. Revenge porn (selling nudes/sex tapes of your ex to shame them and ruin their lives/careers by sending links to their family and coworkers) is legal in most states, with females comprising almost 100% of victims. Very little legal recourse exists for victims.

Filming yourself having sex with a woman without her knowledge and selling the video to a porn site is not only legal, but is a popular category amongst viewers.

Womens’ Studies is the most frequent butt of every joke made about “useless” college degrees.

Career fields that are high-paying, high prestige, and male-dominated lose their prestige and wages as more women enter the field. This is an observable and frequently repeated trend, and it generally only takes 5-10 years from the time when the number of women in the field exceeds 15-20%.

2017 marks the first year EVER that women have exceeded 20% representation in the Senate, and 19% in the House. Only four are minorities, with three newcomers joining Mazie Hirono, who had been only the second minority woman to ever sit on the Senate until the Nov. 2016 election cycle.

The first and only female Native American federal judge was appointed in 2014. The first white female federal judge was appointed in 1933, the first black female federal judge was appointed in 1966, and the first Asian female federal judge was appointed in 2010. Despite these minor gains, 73% of state and federal judges are still male.

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This seems like an exhaustive list, doesn’t it? Imagine how exhausting it is to be living it and having to explain it nearly 100 years after the Suffragettes were cruelly derided in editorials, comments, and assaulted on the streets over wanting something to be done about many of these very same issues.

I had a patient in the clinic who really did not want an abortion but who had no resources to cover the costs of prenatal care or childbirth. She was single and without insurance coverage but made just enough money to be ineligible for state assistance. She already had outstanding bills at the hospital and with the local ob-gyn practice. No doctor would see her without payment up front.

We were willing to do the abortion for a reduced rate or for free if necessary. But she really didn’t want an abortion. Once I understood her situation, I went to the phone and called the local ‘crisis pregnancy center.’

“Hello, this is Dr. Wicklund.”

Dead silence. I might as well have said I was Satan.

“Hello?” I said again. “This is Dr. Wicklund.”

“Hello,” very tentatively, followed by another long silence.

“I need help with a patient,” I said. She came to me for an abortion, but really doesn’t want one. What she really needs is someone to do her prenatal care and birth for free.“

"What do you expect us to do?”

I let that hang for a minute.

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This Common Secret, Susan Wicklund

Crisis Pregnancy Centers often disguise themselves as medical facilities, with advertisements offering “help” with an unplanned pregnancy. Their main goal is to keep the pregnant person from having an abortion at all costs. Usually, all they’ll give you is a free pregnancy test, some baby clothes, and maybe a box of diapers.

The patient referred to in the quote was given free prenatal care and did not have to pay the financial cost of childbirth by a local anti-choice doctor. She would often stop by Dr. Wicklund’s office to let her know how she was doing:

“He always moans and groans about being tricked into [doing this],” she says. “Then he goes off on these tirades against abortion.”

I’ve said it before and will say it again

All of these weird anti-choice tactics (crisis pregnancy centers making a client miss an appointment because the client went to the wrong place or a sidewalk counselor causing someone to break their fast and they can’t have the procedure that day) backfire. 

Mainly, because people don’t like being lied to.  People don’t like being tricked, fooled, deceived, etc. 

Clients 9 out of 10 times WILL reschedule and will come back to have the abortion, and they are WAY more resolved to do so. 

We won’t get fooled again. 

My co-intern got mad at me today because I said that her sending a 12 year old girl to a crisis pregnancy center wasn’t “providing her resources”, but a form of coercion (I worded it more kindly). She then proceeded to tell me how I was “disrespecting teen mothers and their choices”, as if I was saying that purely to be judgmental.

I went through all the ways in which a literal child would be deeply endangered by a pregnancy, and pointed out that she was likely to be the object of sexual abuse.

Cue the other deeply religious intern cutting in with, “but they did it in the Middle Ages and all, it isn’t always bad.”

Imagine wanting to keep a child pregnant so bad that you try and pull the Middle Ages as a damn receipt!

Anyways, these are the types of people who make “parental consent” laws to keep their daughters forcibly pregnant. This is what I meant earlier when I said I find the amount of patronizing people in social work for religious reasons dangerous.

It reminds me of a dear friend who works with deaf-blind people. They are often very isolated and are preyed on by people who learn deaf-blind ASL in order to convert them. They offer them transportation, companionship, and assistance–provided they become religious. Not surprisingly, they tell my friend they almost always fake faith so they can gain access to resources.

If faith is required for your compassion, or if adhering to the choices you find religiously instead of materially compelling is required for your compassion, then you do not have compassion. You are an agent of compliance.

anonymous asked:

There is a website called TeenBreaks that is "supposed" to give info and support to pregnant teens. They have a section for "real life stories" and all of the abortion stories they actually allowed to be posted are horrifyingly negative and scary. Its super manipulative. Positive experiences exist so I like to tell people to send them their positive abortion stories on the site.(and even negative birth or adoption stories if they want). Even if they never get posted it proves a point.

Unfortunately, there are a whole lot of these websites and places run by anti-choicers that have the veneer of being neutral but are really just anti-abortion propaganda: see also crisis pregnancy centers and anti-choice pregnancy help lines.

There’s a lot of places that collect positive/neutral abortion stories, though: I created this post with a number of positive abortion stories, including teenage abortion stories. There’s several websites that post positive and neutral abortion stories:

My Abortion, My Life

Our Bodies Ouselves

The Abortion Diary Podcast

1 in 3 Campaign

#ShoutYourAbortion YouTube channel

Not Alone

Project Voice

Thanks, Abortion

NARAL: Stories About Abortion

And a recent study showed that 95% of people who get abortions don’t regret them. This is by no means meant to invalidate the people who do regret terminating their pregnancies. Statistically, however, these stories are very overrepresented in web searches and news media.

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Sometimes I find crisis pregnancy center posters at my school, and when I’m feeling particularly feisty, sometimes I write back signs of my own.

I can’t think of something more disgusting than a fake clinic that preys on vulnerable individuals like crisis pregnancy centers do. And what better way to fight back then to provide actual resources to help those in that vulnerable position?

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Abortion is a safe, legal procedure that 3 in 10 women will have in their lifetime.
Using scare tactics and manipulation to make women feel unsafe, dirty, and mortified outside of a clinic is an act of violence.
Sidewalk counseling adds to the sigma following abortion that makes women feel unsafe to share their stories.

This photographic installation is part of a series of installations, performances, and demonstrations that focus on education and accessibility regarding the right to choose.

These photographs of women were printed on cotton, dyed red, covered with dirt, and hung up outside of a church that neighbors a crisis pregnancy center.

Making moves!

I went to the Pregnancy Crisis Center this morning and met the SWEETEST lady. She saw that I was sick (I travel with my trash can and a bunch of bags everywhere I go now) and told me she’d get me in and out real quick. She had me pick out a pair of booties and a crocheted baby blanket.. so obviously I cried. Then she called her friend at the health department in NSB because she didn’t want me having to wait 2 hours to be seen at the office in Daytona. Flash forward past another episode of morning sickness and I got my temporary Medicaid and set a WIC appointment all within 30 minutes. Then I filled out the longest form of my life for Pregnancy Medicaid, which I should be approved for within a month? I think.

AND AND AND I made my first OB appointment for July 10th- which seems so far away but I am TOO excited. I have the option to go back to my old OB once I get off temp Medicaid (he birthed me and Airyn and was the one who did my endometriosis laparoscopy), but I actually had an issue with him in the past so I’m not sure I’m gonna go back.

Anyway, the left side of my tummy is still tight and cramping, and I feel like the walking dead. So I’m gonna make home of the couch and zone out.

  • Planned Parenthood: We offer breast exams and can give referrals for mammograms and further treatment as a part of our many different services.
  • Pro-lifers: PLANNED PARENTHOOD DOESN'T PROVIDE MAMMOGRAMS! THEY LIE ABOUT THEIR SERVICES! THEY AREN'T HERE TO HELP ANYONE!
  • Crisis Pregnancy Centers: We're going to be extremely deceptive and secretive about the services we offer so we can lure in people who are considering abortion and shove lies and misinformation in their faces to see if we can upset them and twist their views until we trick them into choosing what we want!
  • Pro-lifers: Crisis Pregnancy Centers are such wonderful organizations that exist only to do good and help people :)