Hello! How's your day? Anyway, I'm thirteen, in the eighth grade, and I'm currently working on my first original book! (I'm been writing fanfiction and poetry for three years-ish.) I find myself worrying if my writing is "childish" or "unrealistic" because I'm pretty young and I don't have much life experience yet. How can I get rid of this mental thought? Thanks!
This is where I get to sound like a bubble-bursting adult, but please at least read to the end because I promise it’ll get better.
Your writing is “childish” and/or “unrealistic” because your brain isn’t done developing yet. Even the kids who are mature beyond their years still have this problem, and it affects people even into their late teen years when they’re technically adults. That does not mean that anything is wrong with you, it just means you’re young and human. You don’t have the experience, nor the wiring, to see things like an adult would, and any experience you try to gain will still be perceived differently due to your age.
So, you can’t get rid of that mental thought because it’s accurate, but you can learn to understand that it’s okay and is just a part of growing up.
Do. Not. Give. Up.
Let yourself write those childish things. Let yourself write unrealistic scenes. Let yourself enjoy your childhood perspective while you have it.
Keep your writing. Even if it makes you cringe 10 years down the line, you may find yourself able to write a better 13-year-old because you have proof of their mindset and values. If there’s one thing I know I suck at as a writer, it’s writing younger teens, because I can’t fully understand the mindset just like you can’t fully understand the adult one. It’s okay. It’s normal.
I’m proud of you for recognizing that your inexperience is a factor in your writing because that means you’re open to improving. Here’s Ways to Improve Writing Skills in case you’re interested, and if you start working hard now and keep it up, I bet you’ll be amazing by the time you’re an adult.
Knowing your weaknesses and learning to work with them is an important part of being a writer. Some weaknesses just take longer to get rid of than others, and at least you know that yours will sort itself out over time.
Don’t compare yourself to older writers, though you can certainly try and use their work to learn (assuming that they’re even good since there’s a lot of bad writing out there, especially on the internet). Compare yourself to your own work and understand that a lot of writing progress is made in tiny steps that can be hard to see. Perhaps I was just lucky to be in a good school system, but my classes really helped develop my writing skills over time and I don’t just mean the English ones. So learn everything you can. Good writing is more than just words on paper, it requires an understanding of the subject you’re writing about and a plethora of skills to bring every little element together.
I know it can seem overwhelming, but you can do it if you put in the effort and understand that you can only work at the level that your developing brain is at. That doesn’t make you a failure. You have to learn to give some things time.
Good luck with everything :)