crawl-in-a-hole

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry about that thing with your friend. I had a really close male friend in high school who liked me and I rejected and we said we'd still be friends but he's been ignoring my messages for months but he talks to our mutual friends.

yea guys can be scummy in that sense too

ive had multiple dudes this year shower me with gifts and shit (one even offered to buy a ticket to go to his city (((i hardly knew the dude))) and he was gonna pay for everything) and then after i said i wasnt interested they all crawled back into their little dirt holes and vanished, with what i thought was a friendship just being some lie

trust no one until they pull their own weight in a friendship! if i learned anything from shitty encounters is that im a fucking   q u e e n   and i deserve the best. so if ur not my type im not even gonna think about dating u

Today.

My blog is usually full of positivity but today has literally went from 100% to 0%. I am ready to crawl in a hole and lie there forever. Sorry for the depressing posts, but everything hit the fan at once. Sorry again.

Why when I’ve just started seeing someone and I’m dead happy do like the 2 boys I held a torch for FOR YEARS decide to message me. I don’t get it. Crawl back to your holes you terrible people.

I think what gets me the most about the Hardy/Miller ship is that when they meet and fall in love (platonically or romantically, whatever you prefer), they are both at their absolute worst.

Hardy is an outcast, a pariah and a cuckold. He’s a national joke. He’s cut off from his family. He’s alone and isolated and riddled with terrible trauma, PTSD and trust issues. He’s cold, rude and unapproachable. He has a literally broken heart that’s killing him.

Miller is a woman who’s just lost everything. Her home, her friends, her job, her husband, even her son. She’s going to counselling sessions and is struggling with guilt, trauma and trust issues of her own. She’s withdrawn into herself and both craves and fears intimacy. She can be cold and violent sometimes. She’s a mess.

Both of them have hit rock bottom. All their deepest flaws and insecurities are exposed. They’re hurt and hostile and irritable and unpleasant to be around. They are, quite simply, broken, in almost every way.

And they fall in love anyway. They fall in love with the worst versions of each other because somehow they’re able to see who the other really is underneath, and who they have the potential to be. More than that, they heal each other. They get better because of each other and they get better for each other. They were both broken fucking messes who tried and failed to fix themselves, but somehow they managed to fix each other.

Miller falls in love with a broken Hardy. Hardy falls in love with a broken Miller. And because of that love, neither of them are broken anymore.