My first embroidery project is finished! My own patch was inspired by the merit badges made by Tumblr user milklake (whose blog seems to have been taken over by a spambot, otherwise I would link). I had a great time and made the thing all in one go!
I realized this week how difficult it is to be zero waste when you’re grieving.
My fiancé and I had to drive out of town this week for a visitation and funeral for a close relative. It was a beautiful service and the amount of people who showed up was incredible. As part of the family involved, we were given big trays of meats, cheeses, and fruits, in addition to bags upon bags of chips, candies, cookies, baked goods, and big packages of bottled water during the visitation.
I was so numb to everything that I didn’t even think twice about filling up a paper plate with baked goodies. Looking back, I should have grabbed my bottle of water from the car, and piling fruit into the cotton napkin I had in my purse (though to be fair, I did end up keeping that napkin in hand during the funeral instead of grabbing the paper tissues).
It’s not easy when your mind is somewhere else entirely.
But! I need to cut myself some slack once in a while. That was obviously a situation that doesn’t happen very often and it’s understandable that in times of grief, we need to give ourselves permission to slip up a little bit. Nobody is perfect, and the fact that some kind person dropped off a bunch of food to a grieving family is amazingly nice.
I am mentally in a much better place than I was a few days ago, and I today I’m getting back on track.
More than putting another man on the moon, more than a New Year’s resolution of yogurt and yoga, we need the opportunity to dance with really exquisite strangers. A slow dance between the couch and dinning room table, at the end of the party, while the person we love has gone to bring the car around because it’s begun to rain and would break their heart if any part of us got wet. A slow dance to bring the evening home, to knock it out of the park. Two people rocking back and forth like a buoy. Nothing extravagant. A little music. An empty bottle of whiskey. It’s a little like cheating. Your head resting on his shoulder, your breath moving up his neck. Your hands along her spine. Her hips unfolding like a cotton napkin and you begin to think about how all the stars in the sky are dead. The my body is talking to your body slow dance. The Unchained Melody, Stairway to Heaven, power-cord slow dance. All my life I’ve made mistakes. Small and cruel. I made my plans. I never arrived. I ate my food. I drank my wine. The slow dance doesn’t care. It’s all kindness like children before they turn four. Like being held in the arms of my brother. The slow dance of siblings. Two men in the middle of the room. When I dance with him, one of my great loves, he is absolutely human, and when he turns to dip me or I step on his foot because we are both leading, I know that one of us will die first and the other will suffer. The slow dance of what’s to come and the slow dance of insomnia pouring across the floor like bath water. When the woman I’m sleeping with stands naked in the bathroom, brushing her teeth, the slow dance of ritual is being spit into the sink. There is no one to save us because there is no need to be saved. I’ve hurt you. I’ve loved you. I’ve mowed the front yard. When the stranger wearing a shear white dress covered in a million beads comes toward me like an over-sexed chandelier suddenly come to life, I take her hand in mine. I spin her out and bring her in. This is the almond grove in the dark slow dance. It is what we should be doing right now. Scrapping for joy. The haiku and honey. The orange and orangutang slow dance.
Here’s a thorough breakdown of the traditional drawing tools along with handy tips on erasable pens and unconventional erasing tools, interesting effects and how to get the most out of your ballpoint and fountain pens.
Tools used in this video:
ERASABLE GEL ROLLERS
PILOT FRIXION 0.4
PILOT FRIXION 0.5
PILOT FRIXION 0.7
(Brown, Black & Orange ink)
- obtainable at many stationery stores and eBay
ZICO LIG179 Butane Lighter
- Cigar & Smoke Shops, some convenience stores
MAX WAX battery-powered wax sculpting pen
FOUNTAIN PEN GEAR
PILOT NAMIKI VANISHING POINT (Fine Nib)
PELIKAN BROWN INK
- Stationery stores, eBay
LETRASET TRIA BRUSH PEN (Loaded with water)
- Art stores, eBay
DISPOSABLE COTTON NAPKIN
- you can get these at restaurants
NB: If you plan on visiting a store to buy these tools, always call them to see if they have what you need in stock to save yourself the hassle of getting there only to find they don’t have what you want.
I’ve been wanting to try this Shakespeare skull design on something for ages. Bought napkins online and couldn’t see from the pic that they had blocks of loose weave. Still, worked better than expected. Need to see if I can find the blank tote bags I bought. The big size skull would look great on one.