cosplay is consent

anonymous asked:

Whispers any chance for a full body of those ball outfits?? In acse we may want to make them for a cosplay? All with your consent of course!! I just love the style and your artwork so much. Also is the 🐩 emoji taken for emoji anons?? If not can I be poodle emoji annon-


anonymous asked:

How do you feel about the “cosplay is not consent” trademarking?

Cosplay is not consent was a sort of rallying cry that united the community, sharing their stories and working to protect each other. Cons really stepped up their harassment policies. The term was picked up and used by the community as a short-hand for explaining that a costume does not give you permission to act inappropriately to the wearer, it does not give you permission to touch someone, it does not automatically give approval to take a photo and someone wearing a costume at a con is not the same as someone wearing a costume at a theme park. This term was picked up by the community all over the world and efforts to educate others and better convention policies were carried out by MANY people. It doesn’t really represent a specific brand, a good or service and it never really stood out as one group pushing the term. So it getting trademarked is a little bit weird. 

That said, Cosplay Deviants owns and according to them, they have been pushing the cosplay is not consent movement forward with flyers and panels. I can understand that they want to protect what they have built up and invested their time and money into. They may want to do more with it as well. If I had to guess, they may want to continue their work more directly with conventions; Possibly as guests running panels and a booth or hired on to train staff and develop harassment policies. 

I wonder if it really needs to be protected? I wonder if the added hassle of getting permission to use the term would push cons away from using it and if that could push the community a step back in awareness? I also wonder if they will get more aggressive about protecting the term in the future? We’ll have to wait and see. 

I don’t think it will affect the community too much overall. It is more of something to be aware of, especially if you are a b/vlogger, panelist or conrunner that might be using the term in a way that could be infringing.

Duckie / Admin

crunchyqueef  asked:

Jared, how would you feel if someone (Like a stranger at a con or whatever) grabbed your ass as you were sailor cosplaying?

Are you kidding me? I’d be fucking pissed.

That isn’t cute, flirty, or sexy. That is straight up sexual harrassment and I won’t tolerate that for a fucking minute. Doesn’t matter who it’s from or where, cosplay is not consent. 

anonymous asked:

Craig just lets you toucher his boyfriend?

Craig: As long as they get the right amount of affirmative consent I don’t really care. If they don’t though….

(Sign reads: 

Kenny: Tweek can I touch your ass?

Tweek: No you may not!

Craig: [Beats Kenny Up] )

anonymous asked:

Hey mum i have a question , At a con i went to (not gonna say the name) I wore my fremy speeddraw cosplay , now i should note that im not supper thin or tall and fremy has a very revealing outfit . i kept getting groped and even had a few creeps fallow me around .(Im under age) I even caught one guy taking a photo of me and when i called him out he just laughed and walk away. Is there anything i can do to not have people touch and fallow me . Im a shy person and cant tell people no .Any advice?


This infuriates me. I’m so sorry you had to go through that, and I’m glad you were able to make it home safely. Cosplay is not consent and these creeps need to learn. 

This is one of the many reasons I recommend the buddy system for most minors (and really anyone). I have my designated big brothers and ‘boyfriends’ for situations like this. But, I’m also intimidating when I want to be, thanks to years of uncontrolled anger issues. 

Have someone you can immediately call. Even if they’re not at the con. If you can call someone and start up a conversation saying there’s a creep around you and describe him. It usually gets them angry, but sometimes they’ll leave. Only do this if you are in a very crowded area and not in a corner. Try up by the front desk or somewhere loudly near groups that are hanging in the halls. 

Never hesitate to go to con staff or even hotel staff if you are being harasses. Especially if these losers are physically touching you. I’m unsure of other models, but my phone is able to take photos without being fully unlocked. If it was in your hand, I would’ve snapped a quick pic of their face or done a video, and turned that in as evidence. How I wish we had thought of that during incidents in past cons. 

If you’re unable to do that.. Try to be brave. Make noise. Scream. Imitate the children at the super market. Yell ‘do not touch me!’ ‘Go away’ ‘Help I don’t know this man!’ Be loud, be boisterous. Get the attention of other con goers. Especially if other women are nearby. Most know the code to just go and help, as most have gone through the same. 

If you notice them following you in the future, don’t leave the con space. Don’t leave the hotel, don’t go to your room or an elevator if you can help it. You don’t want him knowing where you’re at or how he can trap you. If you are with a friend or more, find them. If not.. Try to find a group that you may know or that are loud and chilling and ask if you can chill until the guy goes away. Explain the situation. Go into a panel room, the vendor area, somewhere. Locate the staff room and slip into there. Most are understanding and will let you stay. 

I know I’ve let girls hang with me on my meal break when I was staff at m*taku. Anything to keep them safe. 

Carry pepper spray. They sell it in walmart in the automotive section, near all the RV stuff. There’s a small cutsie version, and one with UV dye/ink. They also sell screeching alarms and stuff. I only know of this because I work at walmart and I’m debating. I’m probably going to buy some, as I break my own buddy rule. But I am 25 and I’ve been in the con life for almost a decade. 

I don’t wear my badge around my neck for reasons like this. I hook it onto my belt loops and such. Easy to ditch if someone tugs on it and no one’s going to choke me with this thing. I also wear layers that I can ditch if I gotta and my bag always has something sharp in it. usually mechanical pencils or pens, but they’ll do damage if I’m desperate. Half of the time I’m able to notice someone quick and get it ready in my hand, but I haven’t had to defend myself since high school. 

I hope any of this was able to help you in the future. 

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Remember that paranoia is never good at events like this, but it does not hurt to be prepared. Keep a level head. You sound like a smart gal. <3

If my followers have any other advice, feel free to add or send me a message and I’ll share it. 


Because harassment happens to all genders. But guys get the short end of the stick when it comes to cosplay and consent.I intend to change this. Even if it’s a small change.

Flighting the concept on my personal page, so let me know what you guys think? You’re more than welcome to inbox me your experiences as a male cosplayer, you’ll stay anonymous.

Borrowed from THE INTERNET:

• Avoid using degrading language.  This applies to Expo social media as well.  Commenting on someone’s body in a way that is derogatory is considered sexual harassment and our convention won’t stand for it.  
• Rape jokes, or jokes that are marginalizing to someone, are not funny. Please don’t make them, and if you feel that you have been the subject of such harassment, please come forward to Expo staff so that the issue can be dealt with confidentially.
• Always be respectful of someone’s physical space. It can be pretty close quarters at the Expo during peak hours, but that’s no excuse for inappropriate behavior.
Finally, perhaps most importantly…
• Always remember – we are ALL people.  Gender, age, ethnicity, orientation notwithstanding – we are each individuals who deserve to be treated as such.  

*This is a non profit project done out of the love for people.

Just a Reminder

With the Wonder Woman movie coming out this week please keep in mind: Cosplay is Not Consent.

Please if you see any beautiful Wonder Woman/ Wonder Fam Cosplays (it’s a known fact all Wonder Woman / Wonder Fam cosplayers are beautiful) ask for permission before taking pictures and DON’T TOUCH. Cosplayers are people not toys!

Thank you so much and have a Wonderful time!

Boundaries and the differences between ‘friend’ and ‘fan’ in the cosplay community

Okay, time to get serious, folks.

In the last year I’ve suddenly found myself friends with some pretty damn popular cosplayers. I don’t say this to be a braggart, I have a point to make, promise. In my conversations with these excellent human beings there’s a topic that comes up quite a bit and that topic is the unsettling reactions they sometimes receive from their fans when they meet them at events.
Now whilst the majority are, I’m sure, genuinely positive experiences for all parties involved, there are a few situations where lines have been crossed.

Having experienced similar things myself and having been a part of the cosplay community for seven years this year (and having seen this sort of thing a lot in that time), it seems fair to say that this is pretty common among cosplayers, their fans and casual con goers. 
There appears to be this perception that popular cosplayers are celebrities, just much more accessible ones. And that apparently makes it okay to treat them in a way you would not treat, say, Scarlett Johansson. And more importantly, in a way you would not and should not treat a perfect stranger.  

The international cosplay community has been excellent at tackling the notorious ‘con creeper’. We’re all familiar with the phrase 'cosplay is not consent’, but a much less widely discussed topic is this newer culture of idolising popular cosplayers to the point of objectification.

To me it seems that there are two obvious forms that it takes, the first being the illusion of friendship. The second being the illusion of something more than that, or, at the very least, that romantic or sexual advances are desired and will be appreciated.

In the first of its forms it seems to be most prevalent among young female fans (aged 13-16 ish). This sounds relatively harmless but I can promise you that being followed around all day at conventions by fifteen year olds that you barely know, or stalked -for want of a better word- on all your online accounts (even private ones), is hardly harmless. Outside of the cosplay community and the internet these things would be considered social taboos, so why are they okay here?

Something that I really think needs stressing is that just because you follow someone’s cosplay Facebook or Instagram does not make you their friend. It is totally one sided. You may feel like you know each other because you see everything they post but chances are they only really know your name and that you like their cosplays. With that in mind, being approached at a convention with the exaggerated familiarity usually displayed is pretty unnerving.

The second form of this illusion of familiarity does fall under the 'cosplay is not consent’ umbrella. The same as above applies here also, you do not know the people you follow and they do not know you.
To that end, you cannot and should not hug them, touch them or their costume/props without their permission, ask them out, make lewd comments or take their picture without asking. These things are harassment and just because we as cosplayers put ourselves out there, regardless of the size of our following, it does not mean we waive the right to personal space and boundaries.

If any cosplayers with personal experiences of this sort of thing want to add to this post, please feel free to do so. It’s a topic that I believe needs to have some light shed on it as it can have quite serious and negative ramifications for the cosplayers involved.

tl;dr: just because you follow someone, that doesn’t mean you are friends with them. Treat popular cosplayers and cosplayers you meet at cons with the respect you would afford a stranger and by all means be excited and enthusiastic but try not to breach their personal space or make them uncomfortable. Please and thank you.

Cosplayers are NOT objects

I received some comments today that really made me laugh at their stupidity. 

A young man commented on one of my cosplay photos saying that Kevin and I can’t do SasuSaku anymore and that I’m “not ugly but can’t cosplay Sakura.”

His reason?

“Sakura doesn’t interest me so this cosplay does nothing for me. Maybe if you cosplay another character I will like it better.”

I told him he can’t tell people who to cosplay and he replied, “Lol sure I can, you make these cosplays for me or why else would you post them?”


COSPLAYERS ARE NOT HERE TO FULFILL YOUR SELF-ENTITLED, DISGUSTING FANTASIES. WE DRESS UP FOR OURSELVES AND FOR FUN, NOT FOR YOU TO PLEASURE YOURSELF TO. Stop objectifying women of cosplay - we are not your toys. You can dislike someone’s cosplay, sure, but you can’t tell them to stop cosplaying a character just because you don’t like that specific one, and you are definitely not allowed to tell a cosplayer who they can or cannot cosplay based on your likes. You also do not have any right to tell a cosplayer that they’re only allowed to cosplay what you want because “they make their cosplays for you.” How stupid and delusional can you be.

It’s funny, now that I’ve seen people genuinely expressing their intention to harass KS cosplayers at cons, I’d just like to point out that I’m SURE these would also be the first people to yell about how “COSPLAY IS NOT CONSENT” (which it’s not, don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying I disagree with *that*). But by extension, I would imagine in any other situation, they would agree that appearing in cosplay is also not the same as cosplayer consenting to verbal harassment either. Apparently, except when someone is cosplaying something THEY don’t like. Then that cosplayer is fair game.

Remember kids, harassment is a-okay if you can claim the moral high ground!

Stalking VS. Making friends: COSPLAY EDITION

I really need to address this, it’s something I’ve been dealing with the last few years.

So, this especially is for cons, but is also kind of general. I know we all get excited when we see someone we look up to, and someone we love, but please. DO. NOT. STALK. THEM.

“But I just want to be their friend!” You might say, or “What’s the line between being persistent and stalking?!” Well, let me explain to you.

This is surreal that I have to make this post from the point of view of things I have experienced. I don’t consider myself someone who people get excited to see, but that’s been changing in the last few years, as people have started to catch wind of my art and cosplay. So I guess now I can stand on both sides of the problem.


If you want to make friends with someone, especially someone’s who’s “well known.” Please don’t open with screaming at them/glomping them/TOUCHING THEM IN ANY WAY WITHOUT PERMISSION (THIS INCLUDES HUGS)/ or following them.

If you are constantly touching and hanging off someone without their permission, that is a no-no. I know you’re excited, I know they’re great, but they are a person just like you. They don’t like being touched without being asked, and they don’t like being treated like they are some public marvel for everyone to grab.

If you see people touching them without warning and them reacting positive to it, it probably means they know those people, and that you shouldn’t follow suit.


Following their social media pages shouldn’t be a problem, but if you start digging and seeking out their personal pages, you’re being creepy and crossing boundaries set for a reason. I’ve had to deal with this at cons. People ask me for my Facebook, and I tell them no, and they STILL attempt to seek me out MULTIPLE TIMES. I have a public Facebook page, I have tumblr, they followed me on both, but they STILL wanted my personal page. Please do not do this, especially if you’re trying to get to know them. Treat people like people because that’s what they are!

Following people around con can create a problem. Sometimes cons can be really crowded and people want to get away with their friends or by themselves. They don’t want to be followed. Ask if you can hang out with them, if they say no, DON’T PUSH IT. Saying hi when you see them is different than following someone around the con the entire time.

This also has happened to me, and it’s literally the creepiest thing. It can ruin any connection you had with the person. I had a cosplayer follow me constantly, and whenever I took a picture with my friends and I, they were in the background. They followed me into a dance and tried to dance behind me. It was freaking SURREAL.

Give people their space, give them their time out alone. We all get worn out and need space.

If you’re finding out where cosplayers live, shop at, who their closets friends are, finding where THEY live too, just. STOP. PLEASE. THATS TERRIFYING.



“You look really amazing!”
“I love your wig/hair/face/makeup/ect.!”
“Your figure/Physic really compliments the cosplay!”
“You’re really pretty/handsome!”

Creepy Comments:

“Your _______ turns me on”
“Wow, nice ass!”
“Woah, I love your Ass/Tits/ect”
“You’re so hot.”
“Would you do _____ to me?”

It isn’t that hard to tell the difference, kids.


Talk to them! Be friendly, smile, and ask them how they’re doing. Approach them in a calm manner, you know? Like how you’d do with someone who’s not in cosplay. Talk to them about what they’re cosplaying, ask to take a selfie with them, just be nice! If there’s no connection, don’t freak out. Sometimes people just don’t click! They’ll still appreciate you even if you’re not instantly best friends. Having friends is about liking the other persons company and having people you can trust and rely on. You don’t use other people just because they’re famous. Be genuine.

That’s just a little bit of what’s been on my mind. If I missed anything, feel free to add on!

Convention Harassment Policies

So, I’m skipping a con. I’m disappointed about it, but Blerdcon, happening across the street from me this weekend, was so poorly marketed that I’d made other plans for a huge chunk of today before finding out about it (lesson #1 for first year cons. Have a fan table at other local cons. Advertise. market).

I looked to see if it was worth going just for tomorrow and discovered it was mostly focused on cosplay, something I don’t have the time/money/storage space to go into more than casually and there wasn’t enough creator-focused stuff to make it expense-able for me. It’s also a convention intended primarily for people of color, women, LGBT+ and disabled fans. I did want to go, but not at $45 for one day at a first year con (which tend to be chaotic). Next year, if it’s right here again and my schedule allows…

And I noticed something else: No posted harassment policy. Which in a first year con run by people I don’t know well (It’s different from a certain other con who just forgot to link theirs properly. Ahem).

This is vital, people. Let’s go through a few reasons why, in no particular order.

Well, there was the guy who walked up to a woman he did not know, put his arm around her shoulders, invited her for “a smoke” and attempted to remove her from the hotel.

The individual who grabbed the arm of a female cosplayer so he could deliver a borderline inappropriate compliment. At a con where they tried to insist “We don’t need Cosplay Isn’t Consent signs. This is a NICE con.” (It is, I love that con, but…)

The moderator of a gaming panel who put his hand on the arm of a credited tabletop RPG designer so he could use her as an example of “How dungeons & dragons have GIRLS now” - with a very sleazy emphasis on the word “girl” which made it clear it was intended as an insult.

The moderator of a panel on internet harassment who informed his audience how much better qualified he was to discuss the subject than his two panelists, both women. One of them was fighting back a social anxiety attack - it was her first con as a panelist - and started to cry.

The moderator of a panel on diversity at a major convention who literally informed a packed room, when asked about LGBT representation, that “Well, people know those lifestyles are more available to them now. Frankly, they do it for attention.”

The “fun” individual who, from the audience, did his best to hijack a panel to his own racist and anti-immigrant agenda. (The moderator was too weak to stop him, unfortunately).

The guy who got drunk and attempted to force a kiss on a married woman (whom he knew to be married) in a room party.

The female cosplayer who walked up to Kevin Sorbo at a major con dressed as a Barbarian Slave Girl, asked for a photo, and then handed him the end of her leash. Sorbo was apparently well aware of the implications and did NOT look comfortable.

That’s eight incidents of harassment, four of them sexual harassment, across a variety of cons over a couple of years. I witnessed all of them. I was a direct victim of five of them. I’m not including the stuff I’ve heard about - people trying to get butt shots of scantily-clad cosplayers, inappropriate comments made to women in TOS uniforms. People grabbing the Guest of Honor’s ass. Writer Carrie Cuinn won’t go to room parties without a male handler.

A written and posted harassment policy reduces sexual harassment by about three quarters.

Don’t say you don’t need one. “This is a nice con.” And Blerdcon might also think “Well, everyone here is diverse” - when we all know just how racist white LGBT+ people can be and not being white gives you no pass on homophobia or transphobia. Not everyone who shows up to a “diverse” con is going to be intersectional. And what if somebody shows up just to troll? I’ve seen that too.