cosplay is consent

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Because harassment happens to all genders. But guys get the short end of the stick when it comes to cosplay and consent.I intend to change this. Even if it’s a small change.

Flighting the concept on my personal page, so let me know what you guys think? You’re more than welcome to inbox me your experiences as a male cosplayer, you’ll stay anonymous.

Borrowed from THE INTERNET:

• Avoid using degrading language.  This applies to Expo social media as well.  Commenting on someone’s body in a way that is derogatory is considered sexual harassment and our convention won’t stand for it.  
• Rape jokes, or jokes that are marginalizing to someone, are not funny. Please don’t make them, and if you feel that you have been the subject of such harassment, please come forward to Expo staff so that the issue can be dealt with confidentially.
• Always be respectful of someone’s physical space. It can be pretty close quarters at the Expo during peak hours, but that’s no excuse for inappropriate behavior.
Finally, perhaps most importantly…
• Always remember – we are ALL people.  Gender, age, ethnicity, orientation notwithstanding – we are each individuals who deserve to be treated as such.  

*This is a non profit project done out of the love for people.

Boundaries and the differences between ‘friend’ and ‘fan’ in the cosplay community

Okay, time to get serious, folks.

In the last year I’ve suddenly found myself friends with some pretty damn popular cosplayers. I don’t say this to be a braggart, I have a point to make, promise. In my conversations with these excellent human beings there’s a topic that comes up quite a bit and that topic is the unsettling reactions they sometimes receive from their fans when they meet them at events.
Now whilst the majority are, I’m sure, genuinely positive experiences for all parties involved, there are a few situations where lines have been crossed.

Having experienced similar things myself and having been a part of the cosplay community for seven years this year (and having seen this sort of thing a lot in that time), it seems fair to say that this is pretty common among cosplayers, their fans and casual con goers. 
There appears to be this perception that popular cosplayers are celebrities, just much more accessible ones. And that apparently makes it okay to treat them in a way you would not treat, say, Scarlett Johansson. And more importantly, in a way you would not and should not treat a perfect stranger.  

The international cosplay community has been excellent at tackling the notorious ‘con creeper’. We’re all familiar with the phrase 'cosplay is not consent’, but a much less widely discussed topic is this newer culture of idolising popular cosplayers to the point of objectification.

To me it seems that there are two obvious forms that it takes, the first being the illusion of friendship. The second being the illusion of something more than that, or, at the very least, that romantic or sexual advances are desired and will be appreciated.

In the first of its forms it seems to be most prevalent among young female fans (aged 13-16 ish). This sounds relatively harmless but I can promise you that being followed around all day at conventions by fifteen year olds that you barely know, or stalked -for want of a better word- on all your online accounts (even private ones), is hardly harmless. Outside of the cosplay community and the internet these things would be considered social taboos, so why are they okay here?

Something that I really think needs stressing is that just because you follow someone’s cosplay Facebook or Instagram does not make you their friend. It is totally one sided. You may feel like you know each other because you see everything they post but chances are they only really know your name and that you like their cosplays. With that in mind, being approached at a convention with the exaggerated familiarity usually displayed is pretty unnerving.

The second form of this illusion of familiarity does fall under the 'cosplay is not consent’ umbrella. The same as above applies here also, you do not know the people you follow and they do not know you.
To that end, you cannot and should not hug them, touch them or their costume/props without their permission, ask them out, make lewd comments or take their picture without asking. These things are harassment and just because we as cosplayers put ourselves out there, regardless of the size of our following, it does not mean we waive the right to personal space and boundaries.

If any cosplayers with personal experiences of this sort of thing want to add to this post, please feel free to do so. It’s a topic that I believe needs to have some light shed on it as it can have quite serious and negative ramifications for the cosplayers involved.

tl;dr: just because you follow someone, that doesn’t mean you are friends with them. Treat popular cosplayers and cosplayers you meet at cons with the respect you would afford a stranger and by all means be excited and enthusiastic but try not to breach their personal space or make them uncomfortable. Please and thank you.

It’s funny, now that I’ve seen people genuinely expressing their intention to harass KS cosplayers at cons, I’d just like to point out that I’m SURE these would also be the first people to yell about how “COSPLAY IS NOT CONSENT” (which it’s not, don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying I disagree with *that*). But by extension, I would imagine in any other situation, they would agree that appearing in cosplay is also not the same as cosplayer consenting to verbal harassment either. Apparently, except when someone is cosplaying something THEY don’t like. Then that cosplayer is fair game.

Remember kids, harassment is a-okay if you can claim the moral high ground!

Stalking VS. Making friends: COSPLAY EDITION

I really need to address this, it’s something I’ve been dealing with the last few years.

So, this especially is for cons, but is also kind of general. I know we all get excited when we see someone we look up to, and someone we love, but please. DO. NOT. STALK. THEM.

“But I just want to be their friend!” You might say, or “What’s the line between being persistent and stalking?!” Well, let me explain to you.

This is surreal that I have to make this post from the point of view of things I have experienced. I don’t consider myself someone who people get excited to see, but that’s been changing in the last few years, as people have started to catch wind of my art and cosplay. So I guess now I can stand on both sides of the problem.

TOUCHING/PHYSICAL CONTACT:

If you want to make friends with someone, especially someone’s who’s “well known.” Please don’t open with screaming at them/glomping them/TOUCHING THEM IN ANY WAY WITHOUT PERMISSION (THIS INCLUDES HUGS)/ or following them.

If you are constantly touching and hanging off someone without their permission, that is a no-no. I know you’re excited, I know they’re great, but they are a person just like you. They don’t like being touched without being asked, and they don’t like being treated like they are some public marvel for everyone to grab.

If you see people touching them without warning and them reacting positive to it, it probably means they know those people, and that you shouldn’t follow suit.

FOLLOWING THEM. EITHER WITH YOUR LEGS OR WITH SOCIAL MEDIA:

Following their social media pages shouldn’t be a problem, but if you start digging and seeking out their personal pages, you’re being creepy and crossing boundaries set for a reason. I’ve had to deal with this at cons. People ask me for my Facebook, and I tell them no, and they STILL attempt to seek me out MULTIPLE TIMES. I have a public Facebook page, I have tumblr, they followed me on both, but they STILL wanted my personal page. Please do not do this, especially if you’re trying to get to know them. Treat people like people because that’s what they are!

Following people around con can create a problem. Sometimes cons can be really crowded and people want to get away with their friends or by themselves. They don’t want to be followed. Ask if you can hang out with them, if they say no, DON’T PUSH IT. Saying hi when you see them is different than following someone around the con the entire time.

This also has happened to me, and it’s literally the creepiest thing. It can ruin any connection you had with the person. I had a cosplayer follow me constantly, and whenever I took a picture with my friends and I, they were in the background. They followed me into a dance and tried to dance behind me. It was freaking SURREAL.

Give people their space, give them their time out alone. We all get worn out and need space.

If you’re finding out where cosplayers live, shop at, who their closets friends are, finding where THEY live too, just. STOP. PLEASE. THATS TERRIFYING.

COMPLIMENTS VS. CREEPY COMMENTS:

Compliments:

“You look really amazing!”
“I love your wig/hair/face/makeup/ect.!”
“Your figure/Physic really compliments the cosplay!”
“You’re really pretty/handsome!”

Creepy Comments:

“Your _______ turns me on”
“Wow, nice ass!”
“Woah, I love your Ass/Tits/ect”
“You’re so hot.”
“Would you do _____ to me?”

It isn’t that hard to tell the difference, kids.

OKAY, SO, HOW DO I MEET COSPLAYERS/MAKE FRIENDS?:

Talk to them! Be friendly, smile, and ask them how they’re doing. Approach them in a calm manner, you know? Like how you’d do with someone who’s not in cosplay. Talk to them about what they’re cosplaying, ask to take a selfie with them, just be nice! If there’s no connection, don’t freak out. Sometimes people just don’t click! They’ll still appreciate you even if you’re not instantly best friends. Having friends is about liking the other persons company and having people you can trust and rely on. You don’t use other people just because they’re famous. Be genuine.

That’s just a little bit of what’s been on my mind. If I missed anything, feel free to add on!

“I’m up here:” On getting the full Tara treatment at NYCC and why consent to photograph cosplayers is not enough

I am wearing a skin tight, backless red gown with cutouts at the abdomen and a plunging neckline, my interpretation of Tara’s sexy red carpet dress that holds itself up seemingly by magic in the last pages of The Wicked + The Divine #13.  I am hoping that having more or less run from the 7 train to artist alley in 6 inch heels through hoards of people hasn’t ruined my turquoise make-up too much as I suck in my stomach and pose for a crowd of people taking pictures.

A guy approaches me with a sheepish look on his face.  “I guess I was supposed to ask for consent?”  I tell him that it’s fine.  At least it occurred to him as an afterthought? 

One guy asked to take a picture with me, and then snaked his arm around my back, pressing his hand into the bare skin at my waist.  

NYCC is among many that have lately been campaigning hard to disseminate the message that “cosplay is not consent.”  It is expressly stated in the anti-harassment policy to ask permission before photographing cosplayers.  And I am pretty pleased to report that I have almost always been asked before having my picture taken at the handful of conventions I’ve attended in cosplay.  This is a great first step towards making conventions a safe space for women.

It does not go far enough.

I lost count of the number of dudes who took my picture and then, when I asked if they read The Wicked + The Divine, would shrug and scurry away.  They were not taking my picture because they are fans of the character or the comic.  They were taking pictures of me, of my body in a tight red dress.  “Spank bank,” a (male) friend remarked knowingly when I brought this up.  

There is literally nothing I can do to control what these men do with my picture once I give consent for it to be taken.  They are under no obligation, neither formally nor by social expectations, to continue being respectful to me as a person and cosplayer once they’ve received consent to photograph.  On the contrary, social expectations put the onus on me to somehow not let myself be objectified.

Why do I agree to be photographed, then?  Why don’t I just say no?  Why don’t I stop cosplaying characters who wear revealing costumes?

Let me back up for a moment.

In May, I cosplayed Angela at AwesomeCon.  I spent months and months making the costume.  It was my first time making armor and I was really proud of the work I did.  One day at the con it took me like two hours to walk maybe 50 yards, I kept getting stopped by so many photographers.  It felt good to be the focus of that attention, because I had worked so hard to create the costume.  Not everyone knew who Angela was, and that was fine.  I saw my picture on Instagram generically titled “Female Warrior.”  It seemed to me that people were responding more to the costume than to my body.  There was no way to justify it that way with Tara.  It was just me in a red dress i bought online.

The photographer who took this picture at one point stopped to chase away another photographer, explaining to me that he’d noticed this photographer zooming in on women’s breasts and behinds when he photographed them.  He was warning female cosplayers to avoid him, and running the guy off when he noticed him lurking around.

I’ll say it again: There is literally nothing I can do to control what these men do with my picture once I give consent for it to be taken. 

These men think that once I’ve agreed to the photograph, they can zoom in on my boobs, or touch my bare skin, or keep my picture as some kind of hot-girl trophy for personal use later.

So again I will ask: Why do I agree to be photographed, then?  Why don’t I just say no?  Why don’t I stop cosplaying characters who wear revealing costumes?

Let’s start with the second question, as it has a simpler answer.  Why don’t I stop cosplaying these characters who wear revealing costumes?  Why should I have to?  This is of course part of a wider social conversation about victim blaming, and I fall firmly on the side of, it is your job to control yourself and be respectful of me as a human being, it should not my job to change my perfectly reasonable behavior to suit your hideous belief that you can treat me like an object.

I cosplayed Tara because I love her as a character, and because I didn’t think there would be any Tara cosplayers at our WicDiv meet-up and I wanted there to be as full a Pantheon represented as we could muster.  (As it turned out, there was another Tara, and she was lovely, but I digress…)  I cosplayed Angela because I love her as a character, and because I wanted to take on a challenging costume.  It isn’t fair that I should have to sift through the characters in my favorite comics to find the one who is covered up from head to toe because, you know what?  It wouldn’t make any difference.  Women are harassed no matter what they wear.

You know why I love Tara?  One of the reasons is because I identify with her experiences.  I vividly remember being about nine years old and walking down the street to the bookstore and being catcalled by grown men from passing cars.  Apparently it doesn’t matter if I’m wearing a sexy red dress or if I’m an actual child wearing a baggy science camp t-shirt.  (And you know, I love Angela because she will fucking kill you if you catcall her.)

And this brings me to My Point.  Why do I agree to be photographed?  Why don’t I just say no?  This answer is more complicated.  And more heartbreaking.

Honestly?  It is sometimes more psychologically and emotionally taxing to refuse consent than to just accept the consequences of consenting.  Which is so extraordinarily messed up.  But there it is.

It’s kind of scary to be viciously called a fucking bitch by a strange man.  It’s kind of scary to wonder if he is following me to the bathroom.  It’s infuriating to know that he is going to take my picture anyway, as soon as he thinks I can’t see him.  Giving consent is sometimes being put in the position of being implicit in your own objectification, because it actually feels safer than saying no.

And, yes, I could report any of the above behavior to con staff, but my first thought when any of it happens is, “Well, look at what I’m wearing.”  It’s kind of upsetting to think about how thoroughly I’ve internalized that kind of thinking about myself.

Which is why we need more people, especially men, to be more like that photographer at AwesomeCon.  We need to collectively make it unacceptable to treat women this way by calling out harassing behavior.  We need to speak up for women who are uncomfortable in a situation but don’t feel safe speaking up themselves.  Maybe we can’t change the wider world, but we can start by trying to change con culture.  If you see some dude with his phone zoomed in on a woman’s butt, call him out.  If you see a girl looking uncomfortable because she is being railroaded into a conversation or situation she doesn’t want to be in, ask if she’s okay.  I have to believe that the good guys outnumber the bad here, and we have to assert that more explicitly in our spaces.

To bring it back to Tara, we need to be kind to each other.  We need to look out for each other.  Because if we take anything away from WicDiv #13, it’s that people internalize abusive and objectifying treatment in damaging ways, and a sexy red dress shouldn’t diminish a woman’s humanity.

Friendly reminder as Halloween approaches: Costumes are not consent!

As always, remember to ask for consent and never assume someone is consenting to any activity or action with you. Consent is a sober, uncoerced, communicated, and enthusiastic “YES!” :)


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Getting to “Noh” Cosplay, and how it helps society at large.

So, time for a few POSITIVE words about cosplay:

A Fireman, a Gynecologist, A movie Star, and a Schizophrenic all walk into a bar.  Bartender says “What’ll it be?” and each one in turn orders a drink… they all sit down at a table, and have a lovely evening…….

Oh… wait… that wasn’t funny… I was supposed to open with something funny.  What would make that funny? ah, yes, it would be the conflict you would expect from this group of very different people meeting together.  

But what would make these people from very different walks of life come together?  What could transcend age, race, gender, social class, education, occupation, in order to bring all these starkly different individuals together to share a few drinks, and a few laughs? Is is some kind of Illuminati-style-secret-society?  Some 1980’s “Cannonball Run” movie plot? No!  Its Cosplay!

Cosplay?  What’s cosplay?  Isn’t  that some kind of weird fetish?  “Oh kids these days!” … Well, you may know someone who is a cosplayer…that unassumingly normal person standing in front of you on line at 711 might be a cosplayer, and you would never even know it!  

Cosplay is a portmanteau for costume-play, and it is a growing subculture.  It can be defined, quite simply, as putting on a costume in an effort to embody that specific character. Some define Cosplay as a subculture that began in Japan, with the popularity of Manga and Anime, and made it over to the US at the turn of the century. Now, you may be thinking: “ We have a name for that: Halloween.  We have one day, set aside, for all this childish nonsense.  I don’t need to see batman buying milk at the gas station on a random Thursday night.”

However, I beg to differ.  Cosplay is not new.  It is something that has been a part of every culture, in every corner of the globe, since the time of the caveman.  Without it, there would be Anarchy. Anarchy?!  Surely I must be joking! What does a caveman have to do with this green woman standing before you?  Furthermore, how could my cousin dressing up like Harry Potter and embarrassing the whole family possibly keep anarchy at bay?

When you think of a caveman… you can envision them sitting around the fire, putting skulls of animals on their heads and reenacting the hunt.  Tribesmen of  Native Americans created elaborate costumes and danced out the stories of their Gods.  The Ancient Greeks defined what we know as modern theater, building amphitheaters where people could gather and experience the stories that were acted out before them.  In Japan, Noh theater, with its elaborate masks and costumes was born out of the Buddhist concept of Noh, which translates to: the connection of the audience with the actor.  Then we had Shakespeare…and oh, a few hundred years of live theater where people would come together as groups, and become enthralled with the story as the experienced the emotions, the drama, the fantasy…right along with the actors before them. … But then, something changed.

Movies came along… and then television…eventually, the internet.  And although sometimes we still gathered as an audience to witness these stories…they were now on a screen, and not in our physical presence.  With the advent of special effects and CGI the visuals became more dazzling and “realistic”.  To top it all off, reality TV became a staple.  Now anyone can be a star!!!  You do not need any training, talent, or even human decency to be famous!!!

But that Japanese Buddhist concept of “Noh”, of the connection between the audience and the actor…. was lost.

That little spark of magic, that “Noh”  is so important to me!  I remember my first Trick or Treating. I was about 3 years old.  My mom painted a clown face on me with greasepaint…which I promptly smeared all around!  When we finally got outside, my mom kept having to chase after me, because every time I saw another child in costume I’d yell “It’s Batman!!!”  "Theres Spiderman!!!“ "Oh mom look!!! a real Vampire!!!” I don’t remember one other little detail about being 3 years old, but that feeling has stayed with me for the rest of my life. It is that magic that I still feel when I see one of my favorite characters in the flesh at a convention.  

If you haven’t had that experience, I would say that it is similar to the feeling you get when your favorite song unexpectedly is playing on a radio, and all of the lyrics seem to eerily synchronize with the events that are going on at that very moment of your life. Or the thrill of your underdog sports team gaining a seemingly impossibly victory!  But we all know that it is a very different experience in between watching your favorite sports team playing on TV, and going to watch the game in person, maybe even getting the chance to snap a picture with your favorite player?

Cosplay is actually a lot like sports, just for a different set of individuals.  Just like in sports, there are players, and there is an audience.  The players spend time and dedication honing their skills in practice, so when the big day comes, everything is on point, ready for the game- which is much like a performance. The audience cheers, boos, and is engaged mentally and emotionally with the players… here again is that Japanese concept of “Noh” !  

Just like in sports, there are levels to cosplay.  Some people just like to get together with friends and shoot some hoops. Others spend every waking moment of their lives trying to make it to the top.  

So we can see that cosplay is something that engages people socially; in a time when few of us can be bothered too look up from our phones and experience the world around us. Cosplay forces us to look, to pay attention to what is happening in this very moment.  To have an experience, however brief, with another real, live, person.   My failed joke at the beginning of this talk was actually loosely based on real life experience (and now you are wondering  "Is she the Gynecologist or the schizophrenic?“…and I’ll just let you keep wondering about that!!) But the moral of the story is that through cosplay I have had the ability to connect with oodles of people I would have never interacted with based on my lifestyle, my skin color, my education…and <mumbles> my credit score.  

In fact, one of my favorite things about cosplay is how it transcends race. (Yes, I just hit the hot button issue!!!) I can remember going to the buffet after a convention with some friends, no time to shower, so I am still the green woman you see before you.  There was a family of many people having a LOUD debate about what my true skin color was under the paint.  For some people, its the first thing that they ask me..because…when you are green, its actually difficult to discern it otherwise. People think I’m Indian, South American, all kinds of lovely exotic things.  But more often, people say to me, "you know, its so strange to see you without bodypaint!  I guess I always just assumed green was you natural skin color!” Its these people, these individuals, that give me hope for the future of humanity.  

I am a geek, a nerd, whatever you want to call it…I grew up with my nose in a book, Avoiding gross human contact at all costs! This caused me to be a socially awkward individual.  I didn’t really know how to relate to my peers who I  had nothing in common with, so I just pushed people away. I’m sure all of us, at some point have felt this way.  Now, attending a crowded convention hall full of people is the direct opposite of what you would assume socially awkward person would want to do. Yet we come in droves! We travel for days and spend exorbitant amounts of money just to be there.  One of the reasons for this is that cosplay is empowering!…. Billy might get bullied at school… but he can put on a Thor costume and be a god at the convention!  People marvel at his costume, take his picture, and he meets other Thors, who share his interests, and may share his problems with bulling at school. Sarah has poor self esteem about her looks and her body…she clearly has not kept up with the Kardashians. No girls want to be her friend, and no boys will even look at her in school.  But Sarah can put on a Wonder Woman costume for one weekend, and feel like she can conquer the world!!!  People are complimenting her, snapping pictures, just like she is on the red carpet…and when she goes back to school on Monday, she stands a little straighter, walks with more confidence, and feels better about the girl who she sees in the mirror every day.  

But where there are heroes…there dwell villains..and <feigns shock> anti-heroes!?  Why?  Why would someone, especially a child, want to dress up like something bad, something unsavory, something eeevvviiillll? Since the dawn of man, we have used our imaginations to safely explore our darker sides.  The writer who created the villain certainly had to do so.  So inherently, there must be human parts of these darker characters that everyone can relate to.  Would you prefer that Paul be that weird kid who likes to dress up like the Punisher; or would you think it better that he keeps such ideas to himself?  Forcing himself into conformity, shoving down the weird, the bad, the ugly… until these unreleased urges boil over in an actual real life destructive, or self destructive act? So there you go! A very good example of how cosplay helps to keep anarchy at bay!!!  Now lets take a look at how cosplay can benefit individual’s brains.

Sure, there are more superhero movies and Anime coming out all the time…but superhero movies are based on comics, and Anime is derived from Manga.  So you might be surprised to find out that cosplayers are smarter then the average bear.  And not just because they read, but many of them are becoming the next generation of skilled craftsmen.  I can not stress the importance of this enough! Both reading and crafting strengthen your prefrontal cortex: the part of your brain responsible for organizing, strategizing, controlling impulsive and addictive behaviors.  A strong prefrontal cortex give you a better attention span, helps you deal with stress, and makes you more successful in life in general.


When people take your picture at a convention, or you have the thrill of seeing one of your favs in the flesh, the excitement of seeing another person who shares your passion, that connection, that “Noh” experience causes your brain to flood your body with dopamine and serotonin- your body’s natural happiness drug!  this makes you feel good, and then while you are on your own, crafting and reading, you connect those experiences with the real life experiences and wham-bam-thankyou mam! more happiness drug is released into your system!  

Research psychologist Amy Cuddy proved that holding “power poses” or Alpha stance (and yes, the classic wonder woman pose is included in these) holding these poses, for as little as two minutes lowers your cortozol: (that’s the stress hormone that makes you sad and fat) and raises your testosterone (that the “take the bull by the horns” hormone) Where as holding  shy or withdrawn pose has the opposite effect!  So grandpa telling you to stand up straight isn’t just being old fashioned…he’s trying to make you a happier person! Now, what do we do when we cosplay?  We power pose!!  All day long!!!!  If just two minutes can have an actual physiological effect… imagine what an entire day of power posing can do for you?!!!

Another “take my breath away moment” that happens at conventions is this:  last weekend, I had an entire conversation with Mario.   Yes, Mario the plumber, known for kicking koopa’s butts and saving princess'  yeah, that Mario.  An absolute stranger came up to me an interacted with me as his character .  I didn’t ask him to…I wasn’t even dressed in a costume from the same universe.  But we went on for a good 5 minutes, just bantering back and forth about the treachery  of warp zones, where the next castles where the princess might be found, etc. For five brief minutes….we were playing pretend….just like children!  

There are plenty of experiments done on rats, and “studies” done on children that prove that interactive plat has a plethora of benefits .  Its another activity helps to strengthen our prefrontal cortex that as we explored earlier helps you to problem-solve creatively, reduce impulse behavior, and helps you to be happier and less frustrated with the world around you.  Psychiatrist  Stuart Brown shows in his book Play  that adult play can foster harmony between adults, in families, in the workplace, and even in relationships. The importance of play time for children can not be understated . During playtime  children learn social and physical  boundaries  with their peers, They learn the essence of cooperation, develop stronger language and communication skills then children who play less.  Remember Our Thor, Wonder Woman, and Punisher from earlier?  All these kids have a bright, happy, and social future ahead of them!

So its easy to conclude that cosplay is a great way to play with your kids!!!  In a busy world, why sit staring at your phone agonizingly  waiting for your child’s play-date to be over, when you could be fulfilling your childhood fantasy of being Green Lantern? I’m sure most of you have seen the viral “bat-dad” videos…you can’t deny that they make you smile!  And if you don’t have children…play with each other !!!  Be that dad, that mom, that brother, sister or friend!  It doesn’t matter if you have an expensive costume, or you wrapped a towel around your neck imbue your old class ring with power!  

I hope that I have shown you that cosplay is not “dangerous”, “antisocial” or “frivolous ”.  Hopefully you understand why its important not to shun your weirdo cousin who dressed up Like Harry potter….Because if you stripped Humanity of all its technology, its electricity, its fossil fuels … we would still be left with our imaginations.  And fortunately , all we need to create the magic of “Noh”, this sacred connection that has existed since time before time….. is me, you, and a little imagination!!!     

Cosplayers are NOT objects

I received some comments today that really made me laugh at their stupidity. 

A young man commented on one of my cosplay photos saying that Kevin and I can’t do SasuSaku anymore and that I’m “not ugly but can’t cosplay Sakura.”

His reason?

“Sakura doesn’t interest me so this cosplay does nothing for me. Maybe if you cosplay another character I will like it better.”

I told him he can’t tell people who to cosplay and he replied, “Lol sure I can, you make these cosplays for me or why else would you post them?”

PSA:

COSPLAYERS ARE NOT HERE TO FULFILL YOUR SELF-ENTITLED, DISGUSTING FANTASIES. WE DRESS UP FOR OURSELVES AND FOR FUN, NOT FOR YOU TO PLEASURE YOURSELF TO. Stop objectifying women of cosplay - we are not your toys. You can dislike someone’s cosplay, sure, but you can’t tell them to stop cosplaying a character just because you don’t like that specific one, and you are definitely not allowed to tell a cosplayer who they can or cannot cosplay based on your likes. You also do not have any right to tell a cosplayer that they’re only allowed to cosplay what you want because “they make their cosplays for you.” How stupid and delusional can you be.

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Hey guys, I thought it would be a good idea to bring this up since I just posted pictures of me cosplaying Lust from FMA.
Cosplay isn’t consent for you to be creepy towards someone, remember the person in the cosplay is an actual person, not their character, so treat them like you treat any other cosplayer who doesn’t happen to be in a revealing cosplay.

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This video is really important, it’s about consent! (and it’s funny)

If you reblog, it would be appreciated! In that way we can spread the word too, but is ok if you don’t want to anyway :^)

So a dude came up to me and asked me why everyone was dressed up
So I told him it was a convention
And he goes “oh! Cosplay! Where everyone dresses up and has sex with each other!”
And I’m… He thought the “cosplay is not consent” signs was about a “cosplay sex rule book”
Like
Buddy, my dude
Anyways that was weird
And my keith cosplay makes me look 14 so like it was essentially a 30+ yr old man asking a 14 yr old looking person about a huge orgy convention

I want to die