tfw you make first contact with an extremely powerful intergalactic interdimensional hivemind alien being & it has the same awful sense of humor as your obnoxious coworker who drives you up the wall on the daily. correctamundo.
Title: Stealing (Negan Part 6) Pairing: Reader/Negan, Reader/Daryl Summary: Reader volunteers to go into Negan’s compound willingly to get inside information. Eventual Negan smut. Implied feelings between Reader and Daryl. Words: 4,473 Warnings: Language, violence Author’s Notes: Again, if I forgot anyone in the tags, let me know!
"My girlfriend never talks to me when she's upset, so sometimes I send her funny pictures to make her smile, but she never actually discuses what's upsetting her. I try to respect her privacy and be patient, I don't want to push or pry but it's super frustrating and i never know what to do to make her feel better. Any tips?"
- Question submitted by Anonymous
There are a few ways to look at this situation. The first, and most important IMHO, is that your relationship can’t grow and strengthen if you aren’t being open with one another. This process will take a different path and a different amount of time with everyone, but it has to happen or your relaysh will stay stagnant and you will feel dumb.
Number 2, you can’t force her to be open and if she isn’t ready she isn’t ready. HOWEVER, you have to be honest with your feelings or you’re kind of doing the same thing. You have to at least try to start that conversation.
THIRDLY, talking to her might be weird at first, but there a different ways to do it. Next time you guys are in a happy place (don’t talk to her about being upset when she is upset y'all) you can literally just say “Hey, you should talk to me about the things that upset you, I wanna make you feel better and listen and what not” OR you can bring up something that upset her later and ask her about it. Just say, “hey, you were real bummed out when your mom called the other day, are you feeling any better slash we should talk about it.”
I can guarantee that even if things don’t change immediately, she will slowly feel a lot better about talking to you when she’s upset. You asking (even if she can’t answer) reiterates how much you care.
BEST OF LUCK, CHAP.
I would like to re-state the importance of talking to your boo when she is NOT upset to begin this whole dialogue. Dannielle is correctamundo (Spanish for correct): you trying to tell your boo that she needs to be upset in a different way WHILE she is upset is a recipe for disaster.
HOWEVER, I would like to also state that your feelings of frustration are very valid, and that just because a human being is upset does not give them the right to act however they please, whenever they please. When you have this conversation with AMELIAEARHEART (your gf), I suggest you explain a few things:
1 - You have noticed that lately, when she gets upset, she won’t share those feelings with you;
2 - That you have complete respect for her process, and that if she cannot share those feelings with you immediately, that makes sense and you understand, but;
3 - If you are going to have a productive relationship, you have to be able to talk about those moments in some capacity, at some point.
If she needs to get upset, have her time, and then discuss later that day or the next day, that is okay… but you can’t be expected to just walk around, comfort her when she needs it, and never understand where she is coming from or what is bothering her. A partnership is built on both parties feeling comfortable in their surroundings, and you need to understand the important things happening in her life.
Try to be patient as you find a balance. If AMELIAEARHEART has gotten accustomed to having her own private feelings and never sharing them, it is going to take her (and you) some time to figure out a balance that is comfortable for you both. The important thing to focus on is trying to reach that balance. It is in the trying that you are being partners to each other… even if it takes some time (or forever) to get to the goal of perfect balance.