The video you posted in dark girls. After seeing thr comments I now feel like all the hurt I've experienced (I identified with everything those women said about their hair and skin as I felt/dealt with that all) isn't real? That I'm not allowed to be offended because I'm not dark enough. I don't know do people consider me white and it's not about me just cause I look so white now after years inside to avoid the sun my skin got lighter? Or am I being stupid :(
I’m goona start this off my saying I’m not the most informed when it comes to shade-ism and light skin POC privilege, so if any of my POC followers wanna jump in and add/correct something, please do.
It honestly took me looking at a few pictures before I realized you were a POC, so yes I’d say you are awarded privilege from that. As a POC you def experience the effects of racism and shadeism, even if you have light skinned privilege. I wouldn’t call your feelings stupid or unnecessary, as long as you’re not being an asshat to anyone you’re totally entitled to feel them.
What made you be who you anted to be. ( to me that’s how it reads, they’ve grouped you as people do but really whatever the main question is) What made you actually follow your dreams :(
Ohh, well in that sense, I don’t know really! I suppose the fact that I don’t care what most people think helps. I get people yelling stuff at me A LOT but I honestly couldn’t care less.:) As far as I’m concerned, if you want to do something (as long as its not causing harm to you or anyone else etc) you should just go ahead and do it.^_^
I mean, I got my first set of dread falls simply because I had a dream I’d got some, woke up the next morning, my birthday was coming up, so I asked my mum and ordered them.:3 <3
Cheek piercings 3 days after being pierced for the third time. Swelling going down already and my dimples are coming back. Amazing healing third time round, first time i was on pain killers for days, this time I’ve needed none and can smile and laugh like normal already with no pain. Orsum!
Last night I went out with my natural hair (well not colour but you get my drift) it’s the first time I’ve gone on a night out and not straightened it or had a weave or dread extensions in 9 years. Had only been out a few hours and whilst playing darts started chatting to some guy. I said pardon at one point and he made a joke about me not understanding him due to the “language barrier”….. I was all wtf :/ my ex there said I was reading too much into it but I’m pretty sure he was trying to imply I wasn’t English or something dickhead. This is my passing privilege eh, I thought the island had got less racist but actually all that had happened is without my natural hair I’ve been managing to avoid most of the narrow minded unfunny bigots because I’ve passed as white. Reactions all night ranged from really good to really rude and the amount of people touching or wanting to touch my hair, comparing it to a sheep/pubes was ridiculous. I felt like I was in school again
I’ve had it so fucking easy and it’s so easy to just hide and fit in, it was like playing a poc for a night or something.
For nearly the last two years my daughter would casually say during cuddles and treats when polite.
“Mum I always dreamed about having a mummy like you”
Did you dream about having a daughter like me?”
I thought she was just being nice
So of course said yes,
Then a couple of months ago and a term at school I decided to ask her what she meant.
“When I was a baby, in your tummy, I always dreamed about my mummy and now you’re my mummy”
Then I remembered when I was pregnant I used to dream about what my child would be like….
She’s exactly the same….