cops and queers

"they didn't have the same concepts of sexual orientation and gender back then"
  • what it means: ideas about platonic affection were much broader and more permissive, gender was in some ways both more fluid (because it was strongly tied to presentation, so if one looked like a duck and quacked like a duck...) and more restrictive (because genders besides male and female? wat?), sexual orientation was in many people's minds almost inextricably linked to gender/gender presentation, and while the concept of homosexuality definitely existed and people knew about it as something distinct from platonic friendship, it was considered a practice as opposed to an identity
  • what it doesn't mean: LGBT people didn't exist before the 20th century
  • straight historians, take note

I was too sick to travel to DC and my post-flu lungs weren’t strong enough to march 3+ miles in Seattle. But my buddies and I went to Seattle Center and watched the marchers arrive at the end. At one point my peeps went to get food and I just stood and leaned against a pole by Key Arena for a couple hours and people watched and eavesdropped on white women thanking the police for not letting it end up like “those other marches”. Lots or people posing for pictures with the cops too. Meanwhile, the whole time the cops were just standing around talking shit about the march and about their boss and their coworkers. They weren’t “doing” anything. And then one cop started calling a black queer marcher names and instigating shit. But all those pink pussies sure were grateful for the police presence. Because police keep pink pussies safe.
All that said, it was still a very beautiful and inspiring event. I’m really glad I dragged my ass out of bed and went. And I have been getting choked up looking at footage of the response and turn out all around the world. So many mixed feelings. A real emotional hodgepodge. Seattle is such a strangely progressive yet segregated place. People can be really really “not racist” while being really quite “actually racist” at the same time. I have a lot of thoughts on that but I am a little too wiped out to say more words about it right now.
I know that the cop lovers were just a fraction of the massive massive massive amount of people there. SOOOOOOO many people. It was pretty mind-blowing. I just wish all the people who are suddenly up in arms because their reproductive rights are threatened had answered the call all along as Black folks, people of color, Indigenous folks, immigrants, queer folks, trans folks, peeps with disabilities, and Muslims were crying out “HEY! OUR LIVES ARE IN DANGER!!!” INSTEAD of acting like we were overreacting.
But then they might have had to show up at “those other marches”.
Maybe things would be different if people showed up before it became about them. Instead so many people waited until it became about them. As the fascists rose to power.
The civil rights page came down from the White House website and a page about giving more power to law enforcement went up. How many years ago was that article in the New York Times about how white nationalists were infiltrating police forces? How many Black people have been killed by police who got away with it? Police forces are militarized. They want bunkers. They are being given more power. They are going to be his hit men. Helping him eradicate the marginalized even more than they already do with even fewer consequences.
And some of you are still kissing police ass and think the cops are good guys. Because the cops aren’t killing you.
Anyway, I’m still glad everyone was out there. All those bodies hitting the streets, the sheer numbers out there, it means something. And it helps.
I’m overwhelmed though.
I just hope it’s not the kind of thing where once/if uteruses become safe people stop standing up for the other stuff.
I hope people keep working at a grassroots level to make change within communities.
I’m scared. And I’m motivated.
I wish I was in DC right now at the show. I’m so bummed I couldn’t get there and play.
Dave Matthews walked past me today.
I wanted to belt out “Graaaaaaavediggahhhhhhhh.” but I just sang it quietly instead.
This world is terrifying and weird and wild. I’m tired.
I love you.


Today I accomplished a life long dream. So many people are giving me the side eye because of my profession, and to be honest I don’t care. So much is going on in the black community and I want to make a difference. Scratch that, I will make a difference. I’m here to restore order and change how black people are viewed by the law, but yet by society. If you see me on the streets, please don’t be afraid to speak.


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New Jersey police lieutenant, Laurel Hester, and her registered domestic partner, Stacie Andree, both battle to secure Hester’s pension benefits when she is diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Cops and Queers

I see a lot of white cis queers calling for more cops at Pride events right now. I’ve already seen them, walking through Boystown in Chicago, armed police silently watching us in their bullet proof vests. We forget that this is not comforting for a lot of the most vulnerable members of our community.

Most Pride events won’t be attacked. Honestly, as afraid as we are, most likely, this isn’t going to happen to us. Most Pride events are going to go off without anyone mass murdering us.

The thing I’ve noticed is that when cops go in expecting a fight, but don’t get one, they get bored. When cops get bored, they go looking for a fight, and they find it with people of color, and with trans/gnc people, and with sex workers. 

And make no mistake, these are often the people doing the most for the queer community, the most radical, the most fired up. The most vulnerable members of our community are stuck in this place where they face a threat from both armed gunmen and cops. Bringing in more cops actually increases the likelihood that they’ll face trouble because again, these events have a 99.9% chance of not being attacked by homophobic citizens with guns, but now they have an increased likelihood of an altercation with police.

White cis queers, we have the privilege to not be bothered by this, but let’s not revel in this privilege. Don’t create a safe space for yourself at the expense of queer PoC. Reject increased police presence. Don’t trust them. Watch them. Protect our PoC, trans/gnc, sex worker community members from them. Don’t let more injustice happen so you can feel personally safe from a boogeyman.

Now, go have responsible fun at Pride. Do no harm, fight for your rights, and the rights of those below you on this unjust hierarchy.


Pride is a protest and BLM belongs in Pride way way more than any cop does, queer or not. Gay cops have chosen to participate in the structural oppression of queers and qpoc, and yk: the master’s tools don’t do anything to the master’s house.
Police have even been complicit in abusing and brutalising queers AT pride (with the consent and support of

They do not belong at Pride. They are not keeping us safe.

  • Me trying to convince my hetero friends to watch Wynonna Earp: It's like Supernatural meets Charmed in a modern day western setting involving the descendant of Wyatt Earp caught in the middle of an ever-present battle between good and evil.
  • Me trying to convince everyone else: There's a kick ass female main character, Wynonna, who can beat the crap out of everyone and she is undeniably cute as all hell, but there's also a queer cop named Officer Haught who is the most adorable thing ever and the chemistry between her and the main character's sister, Waverly, is off the charts. Here are 50 gifsets of the same 3 scenes of longing looks between the two of them and another 50 gifsets of Officer Haught being adorable when talking about Waverly.