it’s so weird that i never heard anybody talk about this, but… one of the things you will notice when you start recovering is that your old coping mechanisms will stop working. they might even start hurting. which is absolutely scary, and you might even find yourself being nostalgic for worse times when you could still give into those impulses and feel the pain ease off for a while. but they stop working because you are healing. take a deep breath. see how far you’ve come. you’ll go much further yet. be proud of yourself.
Shout out to all my mentally ill beans who get told their choice to isolate as a coping mechanism is “bad and unhelpful”
Shout out to beans who isolate themselves due to overstimulation
Shout out to beans who isolate to keep themselves safe
Shout out to beans who isolate to keep others around them safe
Shout out to beans whose isolation resulted in them being described as cold, unfriendly or antisocial
Shout out to beans whose isolation resulted in them losing friends and loved ones because they all misinterpreted it as being unwanted or hated
Shout out to beans who isolate but still desperately search for someone to reach out to them
Shout out to beans whose isolation helps, I’m glad you found something that works for you and I’m sorry people who don’t experience what you do feel the need to tell you what you’re doing for yourself is terrible. It isn’t. If it makes you feel better to take a few days to yourself, you do that bb. It isn’t selfish. It isn’t hurting anyone. You’re doing what you think is best for you
don’t work yourself to the point of a mental breakdown. give priority to your mental health. you are only a few steps away from completely losing your balance and breaking your mind. take one step back every time you take two steps forward. breathe. be mindful. see through life as it transpires moment by moment. learn when to rest. sleep is important. eating healthily is important. everything you do for the sake of your sanity is important. being kind to your mind is the best self-care there is. if there’s anything that’s lovely about you, it is your mind.