conversion therapies

if we all agree that the patriarchy is a societal problem that needs to be broken down as a structure and will not be destroyed person by person, what can we do to stop focusing our energies on insulting a 13-year-old who identifies as an ~ace panromantic demiboi~ and signaling them out by saying “wow look at this internalized misogyny lol” and instead attack the men responsible for the current state of trans politics and liberal feminism?

when I first reidentified, I think I wanted to depoliticize my detransition (and the transition that came first), but the more I put it into words, the more I realize that’s impossible and the more I want to utilize my position to be vocal. so this is a genuine question because I need to know how to channel my anger at the pharmaceutical/medical industries making money off dysphoric/gnc/gay people and at academics so far removed from reality that they’ve made gender into a completely meaningless word and forgotten about sex-based oppression.

I want names, I want dates, I want data on the first surgeons championing surgery as the only solution to dysphoria, on the institutions stopping researchers from actually studying the effects of hrt on trans people, on the lawmakers that made legal name and gender changes so incredibly expensive, on how much money companies are making by being “trans-friendly,” on the rise of certain ideologies within academia and its correlation with who’s being hired and put on tenure. I want to know the overlap between these people and people advocating for conversion therapy, people experimenting on Black and brown women’s bodies and coercing them into surrogacy or sterilization, people involved in the porn/sex industries, pimps exploiting poor trans women of color and giving them syringes full of oil and who knows what to “help them pass.”

detransitioned women don’t exist to these people because they’re afraid of us. my question is: what do they have to hide? what do we not know yet?

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Queer people came out in force on Saturday in front of Stonewall Inn to protest members of the Trump administration like Betsy Devos and Mike Pence

Despite Republican arguments that Trump is in favor of gay rights, Trump has expressed support for the First Amendment Defense Act, which lets businesses decline to serve people for religious reasons. The rally also drew attention to Trump’s cabinet as some of “the most anti-LGBT nominees and appointees in modern history.“

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KIND OF AN EMERGENCY POST, TW FOR CONVERSION THERAPY, MENTIONS OF SUICIDE
hey guys, my name is alexander terris. i came out as a transgender boy to my parents around a year and a half ago. while they initially seemed accepting, i found out that they had told various therapists i was delusional. when they told me i was going to see a gender therapist, i was initially overjoyed, thinking this might mean they were considering letting me transition, until i decided to look her up. pictured above are screenshots from articles on her, the last article being from a project she was involved with (the feminine boy project). unless there has been a severe misunderstanding, they are sending me to see a conversation therapist the first week of april (i am typing this march 12th). i am currently on a school field trip, discovered this less than an hour ago, and am terrified of going home. ive texted my mom confronting her about it but she hasn’t replied. if i stop posting on here for an extended period of time, it either means ive had my phone taken away or committed suicide, or both. please reblog this and try to remember me as a boy and not a girl. please, dont let them get away with this.

washingtonpost.com
Democrats introduce bill to ban anti-LGBTQ conversion therapy nationwide
The Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2017 would do nationally what seven states and the District of Columbia have already done.

Earlier this week, Congressional Democrats introduced the Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2017, a bill that would ban anti-LGBTQ conversion therapy nationwide. About 70 members of Congress said they support the bill.

The bill would classify conversion therapy and those practitioners who offer it as fraudulent. As you know, it’s been shown many times that conversion therapy does not work and is actually deeply harmful. 

“The bill is very simple,” Lieu told The Washington Post. “It says it is fraud if you treat someone for a condition that doesn’t exist and there’s no medical condition known as being gay. LGBTQ people were born perfect; there is nothing to treat them for. And by calling this what it should be, which is fraud, it would effectively shut down most of the organizations.”

The Washington Post article linked above provides a really good history of conversion therapy, from its earliest opponents to its documented harmful effects to the politicians who still won’t say whether or not they’d support a ban. Give it a read this morning, and cross your fingers for positive change.

So, as promised, here’s my list of lesbian movies for all of our lovely followers and the people you want to share it with. I hope I haven’t forgotten any good ones, but if you feel like that is the case, feel free to add movies to the list! 

This is my gift for all of you, I hope you’ll like it ♥

/ Mod W

Tipping the Velvet 

  • based on the book by sarah waters (she has written many lesbian books!)
  • it’s a bbc adapatation
  • technically a mini series but i like to see it as three hours of lesbian content heaven
  • it’s about this girl who falls in love with an actress and she goes to see her at the theatre five billion times until the actress notices her (that’s just the first part, other things happen to the main so watch the rest for more lesbian content~)
  • the main character (nan astley/king) is like… my fave. i love her.
  • the book is very good too!!!
  • honestly i have so much love for this movie/book i get all giddy just thinking of it

Bound

  • lesbian gangster/mob movie do i need to say more???
  • the main actresses are cute af (one of them is a butch lesbian!)
  • it’s awesome and very cool
  • (gonna trigger warn for use of lesbophobic slurs used by some characters/some lesbophobic violence)

Below Her Mouth

  • meh plot with amazing sex scenes basically?
  • a lot of sex scenes
  • i mean it like half the movie is graphic sex so if ur uncomfortable with that you probably shouldn’t watch it lol
  • all female cast
  • willa from wynonna earp!

The Handmaiden

  • also based on a book by sarah waters (called Fingersmith, there’s a bbc adaptation of it too which you should totally check out as well)
  • good quality movie right there
  • (putting a trigger warning here for sexual and psychological abuse and abuse in general)

Kyss Mig

  • one of few good swedish movies
  • basically about two step-sisters who fall in love (they’re not actually related i promise)

But I’m a Cheerleader

  • baby natasha lyonne is in this one! also i have a crush on clea duvall in this movie lol
  • a very cute love story tbh
  • good aesthetic
  • you’ve probably heard of it before but idc cause it’s great
  • (it’s like a satire of conversion therapy so if that’s something you can’t watch i don’t recommend this movie for you in particular)

If These Walls Could Talk 2 

  • a bunch of famous actresses (like chloë sevigny, michelle williams, natasha lyonne, ellen degeneres, etc. etc.)
  • divided in three segments from three different periods in time
  • one segment is set during the feminist movement in the 70s and features chloë sevigny as a butch lesbian with a motorcycle do i even need to say more??

Anatomy of a Love Seen

  • this is about two actresses who were a couple when they shot a movie together and now they have to go back and re-shoot some love scenes but they’re not a couple anymore and it’s sad af
  • i have basically never seen this movie in any rec lists but it’s actually one of my faves and i cry so much to this movie tbh

Saving Face

  • this is a good one
  • also pretty funny tbh!
  • it’s about a doctor who falls in love with a dancer and the doctor’s relationship with her conservative mom
  • it’s kind of rom-comish

Lost and Delirious

  • warning: very sad like super sad?
  • it’s about a girl who goes to a boarding school and so happens to become roommates with a lesbian couple
  • teen angst squared and multiplied with gay panic

The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls In Love

  • you may have heard of this one but if you haven’t it’s time you watch it
  • that woman who plays tina on the l word is a butch-ish girl in this one
  • VERY CUTE and chill
  • every time i watch this it feels like this movie is the director’s BABY like it seems like she cares about this story so much and it makes the movie feel so genuine and lovely
  • i want every baby lesbian to watch this, please, it’s my gift to you.

D.E.B.S.

  • you may have heard of this one too but if you haven’t seen it yet it’s definitely worth a watch!
  • lesbian spies!
  • the heroine falls in love with the villain (that enemies to lovers trope tho!!)

Desert Hearts

  • old but good!
  • i feel like this movie is on most of these long rec lists but people probably don’t watch it cause it’s old but it is actually pretty good!
  • your classic “oops i thought i was straight but that woman is hot” story

Margarita With a Straw

  • indian girl figures out she’s bi when she goes to uni in new york and meets a lesbian girl
  • cute, funny, sad, it has everything tbh
  • The Hours (actually one of my all-time favorite movies/books!)
  • The Intervention
  • The Kids Are All Right
  • The Children’s Hour
  • Elena Undone
  • Fucking Åmål 

it’s so weird to see people online say that they think all gay people are prone to “morally judgmental black and white thinking” when that’s just… not the lived experience of any gay people I know. most of us if not all of us are constantly interacting with people who hold a low level hatred for us and we don’t have any kind of choice in that. most of the time it’s “my coworker told me she thinks all lesbians are ugly and gross but most of the time she’s really funny so I forgot about it” or “my relative told me he thinks all gay people should be sterilized and put through conversion therapy, but he’s usually pretty nice to talk to at family functions”. like as gay people we’re constantly compromising on our safety/comfort/mental health for the sake of convenience and familiarity so maybe if you think we all judge celebrities or tumblr users too harshly based on a few microaggressions maybe consider the fact that in real life we hardly ever get to control the kind of environment we live in

theguardian.com
Chinese man wins lawsuit against psych hospital that attempted conversion therapy on him
Court in Henan province orders a psychiatric hospital to apologise to man and pay £570 in compensation

A gay man in China has won his lawsuit in which he sued a psychiatric hospital for attempting to perform conversion therapy on him. 

The hospital must issue a public apology to the man (it will be published in local newspapers) and pay him 5,000 yuan, or about $735. 

The man, surnamed Yu, had been forcibly admitted to the institution in 2015 by his wife and relatives and diagnosed with “sexual preference disorder,” court documents show. He was forced to take medicine and receive injections before walking free after 19 days.

China removed homosexuality from its list of recognised mental illnesses more than 15 years ago but stories are rife of families admitting their relatives for conversion therapy.

Gay rights activists say the case marks the first victory against a public psychiatric institution for compulsory therapy against a patient’s will.

China is not the worst place in the world for LGBTQ rights, but it’s also not the best. This is a big step in the right direction. 

Some Tips for Being a Better Conversationalist

1. Be bold. For example, don’t be afraid to tell someone what you like about their work, or to comment on something they do well. We usually like people who pay us compliments!

2. Remember that we always have something in common –even if it is just the weather, or a class we are taking. It is better to say something than nothing at all. Hopefully, the other person will respond to your lead.

3. Ask people about their interests or hobbies … and when they respond ask some open questions to keep the conversation going.

4. If you are introverted and find talking to others very difficult, try and prepare a bit in advance. For example, think of some things that might interest others (popular movies, groups or singers, the latest games etc.) Think about how you could use these in a conversation with someone you don’t know.

5. Do your best to act relaxed (even if you feel uncomfortable inside.)

6. Try to sound confident when you talk to other people. For example, don’t mumble, maintain steady but comfortable eye contact, and smile a lot.

7. Make a mental note of some amusing things that you saw or heard. For example, something funny someone said, a fun activity you did with your friends … or anything you think might be of interest to that person.

8. Watch other people who are confident and seem to find chatting with others very easy. Notice what they do – and then learn from them.

theguardian.com
Brazilian judge lifts ban on conversion therapy, rules homosexuality a disease
The ruling overturns a national psychology council decision in 1999 forbidding psychologists from offering treatments claiming to ‘cure’ gay people
By Dom Phillips

In Brazil, a federal judge has ruled to overturn a years-old ban on conversion therapy. Judge Waldemar de Carvalho overturned a 1999 ban on the practice in favor of the idea that homosexuality is a disease that can be treated. 

The judge ruled in favor of an evangelical Christian woman named Rozangela Justino, whose license to practice as a psychologist was revoked last year when it was found that she was practicing conversion therapy. 

In a 2009 interview with the Folha de S Paulo newspaper, Justino said she saw homosexuality as a “disease”, advised patients to seek religious guidance and said: “I feel directed by God to help people who are homosexual.” She did not respond to a request to comment.

The Federal Council of Psychology said in a statement that the decision “opens the dangerous possibility of the use of sexual reversion therapies” and promised to contest it legally.

Council president Rogério Giannini, a psychologist based in São Paulo, said its 1999 decision prohibiting “sexual conversion” therapy had already faced off other legal actions and even a proposed bill in Congress.

“There is no way to cure what is not a disease,” Giannini told the Guardian. “It is not a serious, academic debate, it is a debate connected to religious or conservative positions.”

This is deeply disappointing and extremely dangerous. We have a lot of work to do, and I am certain this is not the last we’ll hear of this fight. 

it really is hard not to buy pride themed stuff from corporations. it really is. I see McDonald’s putting out pride themed packaging and I Want It. I do. I want to buy something that makes me feel accepted, like I’m loved, like I’m celebrated.

But corporations do not love me. they do not accept me. they do not celebrate me. they love money, they celebrate profit. that is all we are to them. and that is the truth.

I know it’s hard not to buy these things but remember where these corporations stand. they support and partner with police. they are #bluelivesmatter and #alllivesmatter. they support politicians that would send us to conversion therapy given the chance. they allow us to be fired for our gender and sexuality. they are not here for us. they are here for our money.

Since conversion therapy is looming in everyone’s consciousness right now:

This is your regular reminder that ABA, the generally-recommended therapy for autistic children, is literally conversion therapy with an extra dose of “auties aren’t even real people” thrown in for good measure. It was conceived by the same people, from the same research, for the same ends: To brutalize and torture children into a narrow range of “acceptable” behaviour.

And it is considered totally legitimate and valid and even preferred by the overwhelming majority of the medical industry.

Do not leave disabled people out of your activism.

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Highlights from Joe Biden’s speech at the DNC LBGT GALA, April 21, 2017

  • In recognition of his support of LGBT civil rights, former Vice President Joe Biden received the LGBT Hero Award at the Democratic National Committee’s annual LGBT Gala. 
  • Joe Biden addressed the fact that religion and culture were often used as ways to normalize violence and prejudice towards LGBTQ people. Considering US officials have turned a blind eye during diplomatic negotiations and continue to ignore how other countries treat the LGBTQ community, especially under the Trump administration, he stated that any form of discrimination was inexcusable and reinforced the importance to call prejudice out not only around the world, but also in the US. 
  • Joe Biden encouraged the LGBTQ community to “Hold President Trump accountable for his pledge to be your friend. Just because you don’t have Barack and me in the White House doesn’t mean it’s time to give up, keep quiet, stay on the sidelines.” (Trump vowed to protect the LGBT community during his campaign, but lifted federal guidelines that allowed transgender students to use school bathrooms matching their gender identities, declined to issue a proclamation in honor of Pride Month, and hasn’t spoken out against measures coming from his party as well as homophobic regimes around the world like corrective rape or conversion therapy). 

TLDR: Donald Trump is trash Joe Biden is a gay icon