Ten years ago, it was common to hear “I disagree with you 100% and I think you are totally wrong, but I will fight to preserve the freedom that allows you express your wrong opinions”
Nowadays it’s; “I think your wrong, so I will apply a label to you and I will make you shut up, I will get you banned, get you fired and make everyone hate you, you will regret the day when you had an opinion different than mine.”
SOULMATE AU where the first words your soulmate says to you are tattoo’d on your wrist. SEND ME YOUR MUSE’S FIRST WORDS TO MINE FOR MY MUSE’S REACTION. You can use the list below or come up with your own.
“Well, this is fun.”
“You’re a bitch, did you know that?”
“I have no idea what’s going on right now but, uhm, hi?”
“It’s a conspiracy, I swear!”
“Oh, for fuck’s sake!”
“Can’t you do that somewhere else?”
“I’m really, really, not in the mood.”
“Doesn’t that hurt?”
“I’m so sorry, are you okay?”
“I’m fine, really.”
“This is nothing.”
“You’re not what I expected.”
“I hate this.”
“You’ve got to be kidding me.”
“I’m not doing this.”
“Can you hold this?”
“Don’t you think that’s overkill?”
“Oh, you’re – oh.”
“Honestly, I don’t care.”
“That’s the best you’ve got?”
“( insert name here ). My name’s ( insert name here ).”
One of the munitions we had in Vietnam was filled with small sub-munitions about the size of a D-cell flashlight battery. Each munition had 256 of these small sub-munitions. When dropped from a helicopter, each one would cover an area the size of a football field with a thick cloud of [riot control] agent. The munition was so popular with the fighting troops on the ground that we couldn’t get enough of them to fill all requests.
Being a bright young guy, I invented a munition made from RCA [riot control agent] grenades (grenades weren’t in great demand because you had to be within throwing distance from the enemy to use them, and soldiers don’t like to get THAT close to the enemy if not necessary!). I filled wooden boxes with grenades, each of which had the “pin” pulled and the handle held in place by it’s packing container. I rigged the box so it would fall apart just above the ground when dropped from the right altitude in a helicopter. The grenades would then spill out, fall out of their packing containers, and start burning. Each of these munitions, which I called a BFOG, pronounced “Beefhog” for “Box Full of Grenades,” would also cover a football-sized area.
I received an Army Commendation Medal for inventing that munition, and we had a hard time making enough of them to keep up with demand.
1. Make a list of the most important things to do each day, in order of priority. Think of exactly how you’ll get these done – and don’t think about all the other extra things.
2. Be aware of the triggers that cause you to feel stressed and then imagine coping successfully with these, so you stay in control and can keep getting on with life.
3. When you notice your stress rising, try to focus on your breathing, and make sure that this is slow, even, deep and regular.
4. Take some time out to recover and invest in yourself so you feel you’re being supported, and allowed to take your time – instead of feeling pressurized, controlled, or else boxed in.
5. Learn to say “no” and to set some boundaries. You only need to do what’s best for you right now. You don’t have to please others, or to do what others say.
6. Don’t run away from problems as that only makes things worse. It’s better to be brave … and then to do what should be done. In the long run, it will help you, and you’ll feel a lot less stressed.
7. Talk to other people to see if they can help. Sometimes it makes a difference if someone else is there, and can listen, and support you, when your life is difficult.