context twisted into this thing

Related to that last point, you can help people a whole lot better if they trust you. Most people who’ve had a really shit time of, well, everything, have dealt with lots of people and institutions which just weren’t trustworthy - gave misleading explanations of things, committed outright lies to paperwork and demanded people sign off on them, offered things that fell through over and over again, twisted things out of context to justify denying people assistance, etcetera etcetera.

You need a lot of information to usefully help someone. But there are such strong incentives, around people who will maybe help you, to try to show them just the set of traits they’ll find most sympathetic. You need food stamps, you’re routinely going to bed hungry, but if you check the box that says you sometimes share food with your roommates you’ll get denied. If you get this assisted housing program your pregnant sister will probably end up living with you against program rules because you’re not going to leave her in the women’s shelter where one of the other women stabbed her in the shoulder. But you can’t say that or you’ll get nothing. 

You really need pain medication to have any hope of getting through the day. But you’re not going to say that to the doctor or they’ll decide you’re drug-seeking and not help with the horrible digestive problem you came in with. You’re addicted to something and would love help to get off it, but if you say anything you’re going to be instantly off disability. 

(This is, incidentally, one of the reasons I favor basic income; I think having to routinely lie about really important things to get any help at all is appallingly bad for social trust, the people involved, and particularly people who can’t/won’t do it and just get repeatedly fucked over by a system that presumes really high baseline dishonesty to the point where the simple truth makes you basically always ineligible.)

So, we have a system that actively and aggressively destroys all trust, and therefore means no one is acting with accurate information and can’t actually do much. And one of the things that genuine, sincere sympathy and outrage does is it establishes a little bit of trust. Not a ton of it, but some ‘oh, it actually matters that I am suffering, maybe it will still matter if I let it escape that I have more than just this one simple need which this program will straightforwardly fix’.

So it wouldn’t surprise me if it’s often really effective, as a strategy in some limited contexts, to have a ‘I extend a fierce and unconditional desire to do whatever it takes, to this one person in particular’ sort of mindset, because it may be the only thing that can actually establish you care enough that it’s worth giving you accurate information.

But also it remains true that inhabiting that mindset will make you burned out and miserable, not even just ‘in the long run’ but often over the course of a couple of weeks or months. 

So let’s play what’s wrong with this ask:

  1. Assumption that any random SQ shipper on a random social medial platform is responsible for whatever actions they may or may not have any knowledge of.
  2. Vague accusations with no evidence sent on anon to a high follow count blog designed to spread the idea that the ugly fanon shippers are misbehaving.  As evidence by the fact that this got sent to @anothershadeofgreen as well.
  3. There has never been any actual incident of SQ shippers at cons making actors “uncomfortable”.  There have been many accusations where people not at the cons have twisted things out of context.  I personally witnessed Sean Maguire extremely angry at one such instance where he participated in a funny pose during a photo op and the fan was attacked online.
  4. What there have been are incidents where a known online harasser followed around SQers at a con taking pictures of them and yet another where a canon shipper said “if I hear one more person yelling Swan Queen I’m going to cut someone.”
  5. More likely than not my anon, who has obviously decided they have the right to police fans by sending asks to Swen by picking a user name out of a hat defines making CSers and Colin uncomfortable by existing and not being quiet at an event open to the entire fandom in which people have spent hundreds and often thousands of dollars.  Guess what… if you are uncomfortable by the existence of SQers and the fact that they will have the the right to ask questions that do not cater to your ship a convention is the last place you should go.

Did I miss anything else?  Other than the general homophobia of deciding to scold a random LGBT fan over alleged behavior at a con that hasn’t even occurred?

Fandom Manipulation

@iftheresnolove is one of the all-time most manipulative blogs. She always tries to control the conversation. She manipulates, takes things out of context and twist words. She has also bragged about being a paid Astroturfer.

Here is a link back to a conversation she had with some other bloggers back when she tried desperately to control the “party boy Louis” narrative. Back then she was known as Worsh*ppedl***

I say this because she is once again trying to control the narrative by manipulate the fandom while knocking other people’s opinions down to elevate her own. Just be aware of her dangerous tactics.

Don’t send hate! I just want you to know about their highly manipulative ways!

Also, this same person called victims of sexual abuse"sick". Please protect yourself and stay far, far away from them!

anonymous asked:

Woman are angry, angry at Taylor Swift; so just because a large group of females are not angry at who YOU and taylor swift want them to be, doesn't mean you need to shut down our justified anger.

i definitely said [ts] fandom in the first line of my post so it clearly wasnt addressed to you, therefore I couldnt have possibly have shut down your anger because i wasnt even talking to you. taylor isn’t a sinless creature who’s never done anything wrong in her life and there are some valid criticisms to be made against her but comparing her to the kkk and trump and Hitler (yes ive seen people actually say she’s the next hitler) is ridiculous and a very harmful thing to say. and alot of reasons people hate her are based on untrue rumors and exaggerated/twisted things taken out of context. just because she isn’t perfect doesn’t mean she deserves outrageous lies to be spread about her. you missed my point entirely


Rough Translation of Z.Tao’s article in 时尚Cosmo… 

it’s a very rough translation…… hope i didn’t misread anything…  scans credit to Lunchbox! (Updated - another translation of this by Lunchbox is available here for you to get another perspective. posted by @just-my-other-side, thanks!) 

Huang Zitao - A stubborn heart in a mad world.

The London Fashion Week brought Zitao’s name back on to the top trending list. Discussions on him once again erupted everywhere. It may seem hard to understand if Zitao is a good or bad boy from all these media coverage and discussions. But as we talk to him, we find that he’s more like a child whose character is maybe.. not too compatible with that of a mature society. He’s stubborn and perhaps takes things to heart a little too much, but at the same time, he is resolute and extremely hardworking.

We met Zitao at a private club where he was very at ease with the atmosphere. Much like his character (or the way he’s painted in the media with no in-between), he was in a black and white outfit. He was playing a game as we made small talk among the staff, and was interested to know if I played as well. As we all chatted and teased him a little, he merely smiled, a little absentmindedly, and continued on with his game. Looking at this, one wonders if the bad boy image created by the media was just an illusion.

He had this to say regarding the Versus incident that made headlines in the news. He had honestly been working all the time he was there and rushed over to the show the minute everything was done. They had an hour’s buffer time to make it to the show but it was evidently not enough due to the traffic congestion in London. Even though they abandoned the cars and ran over instead, they still didn’t make it on time. He’s sincerely apologetic about being late, but as for what happened after he reached the show, it was all done according to the brand’s wishes. He had followed one of the brand’s staff member in and it was an honest mistake, going onto the runway. Although not everything went well on this trip, he’s still grateful to Versus Versace’s invitation,which also introduced him to the fashion arena.

The lighthearted chat didn’t last very long. As we talked about his career, it was almost inevitable that we asked him about his time in South Korea. He changed, rather abruptly, from a mischievous demeanor to one which was a little troubled, avoiding our questions on the topic. “Haven’t I answered these questions in previous interviews?”

At this, we all fell silent and the once cheerful atmosphere was no more.

“I don’t really want to talk about those things”

“What do you wish to talk about then?”

“My music? What about the show that I’m going to, which is the reason for this interview I think?  We can talk about that too.”

We all lapsed into silence again. Deep in thought, he sat there, not talking and looking increasingly lost. He appeared to be trying very hard to repress himself and adjust his emotions at the same time. His staff came over to chat, attempting to lighten the atmosphere.  It was evident that he didn’t manage to adjust very well, but he had decided to complete this interview.

“Ok, ask what you want to ask”  His eyes started to drift again after a heavy sigh. It felt like a heavy compromise. From the way he sighed so very deeply (a total of 3 times in a mere 15 minutes), I seem to be able to understand, the intense struggle that this seemingly “bad boy”, born only in 1993, has had to make in deciding what is good and bad, kindness and lies, and choosing between causing pain and getting hurt.

Capturing the pain of growing up through song

Compared with the image of other EXO members, Huang Zitao seem to have become the “black sheep”. The internet media first did an scathing inside “scoop” on him, which was followed by criticisms and sarcastic remarks by several influential microbloggers, This was accompanied by the almost never-ending smear campaigns by anti-fans. The speed at which all these happened seemed a bit too much for this boy in his early twenties to take all at once. Just like what he said, “I had barely returned to China for half a year, still feeling the pain from the past and still harboring uncertainties and doubts about future career development back home. I haven’t even gotten a chance to adjust and adapt to thins, and it had all come to this.” While everyone else happily devoted their energies to bashing and slandering him, he chose to hide himself away. Locking himself in the recording studio for hours, writing new songs and recording them, getting himself lost in music seemed to be his only relief.

As we slowly got back on track with the interview, he seemed less resistant and more willing to take about the recent events.

“I didn’t really need to speak, be it towards the media or to fans, when I was in EXO. It wasn’t my role to. After returning home, I had to do interviews and I thought the right way would be to tell the truth. But later I discovered that that was not the case.” Zitao’s confusion is in the fact, people always seem to either twist and take things out of context when he had not meant things that way. He doesn’t know where the problem is but the repeated twisting of facts, taking things out of context, and misinterpretation by others has caused many, who would otherwise not believe in such absurd accusations, to take it as truth. And this has become the greatest shadow over his career since his return. “We (the members) actually all get along very well. But I don’t dare to talk about any one of them now. I fear that they will say that we don’t get along, or that I said someone cry, all of which are totally fabrications”. Zitao was only willing to talk about this near the end of the interview. In the beginning, whenever we mentioned South Korea or the other 3 Chinese members, he would become silent. Only later did we understand that that was his way of protecting everyone, and of course, himself. And it was the best way he could think of now.

“Would you consider your present predicament a kind of growing pain?”

“Yes, I guess. At least now I understand that the world is a lot bigger and more complicated then I previously thought it was. I am even beginning to appreciate those who spend time bashing or slandering me as they really are placing a lot of attention on me. All that time and energy that is used solely on me. In the future,when I can produce better work, I believe all these will change.”

“Will you still be adverse to meeting the media?”

“Right now, I’m trying to reduce it. When I have more works to show, that allows me speak with my music, it may be better.”

“Aren’t you eager to explain to the masses that you are not the way the media make you out to be?”

“Earlier on I used to want to do that. I really wanted to explain everything. But that only seemed to make things worse, with people still taking things out of context. So now, I think it’s best to let time prove everything. I feel that as long as I work hard, many things will surely change.”

“Are you unwilling to talk about your time in South Korea because it was a very unhappy experience?”

“Actually I have always been grateful to what my time in South Korea have taught and given me. If it haven’t been for my time there and EXO,who on earth would know who Huang Zitao is? I may never have gotten the chance to do my favorite music. I did talk about the hard times there a little when I first returned, still fresh from the experience. But now that I think about it, it wasn’t that tough.”

“Has your recent experiences made you less trusting of the environment around you, perhaps it has even made you feel very defensive?”

“Sometimes.. but I have also gotten to know many people because of this. A lot of brothers and sisters help me a lot and are very supportive. I This may the most number of friends I have made since my return. Everyone gave me a lot of comfort and joy. I am totally at ease in front of these people. I can feel their kindness and goodwill and I’ll surely return it to them.”

“Why did you cry in front of the media the last time?”

“We were talking about some experiences and being accused of acting like a big shot. I suddenly felt very wronged and misunderstood and as those feelings surged up, I cried. But later they wrote that I cried because of a certain EXO member. I was very surprised by that.”

As we slowly went through his recent experiences, we seem to find where the problem is. He has a very innocent heart, much like a child. He cares deeply about giving and taking, about brotherhood, about your opinion of him and about whether things are fair. So when you try to measure him against the criteria of an adult world, you may feel that he’s not quite as tactful, not as worldly and perhaps even a little lacking in EQ. But if you think about this from another perspective, his almost child-like, absolute sincerity and honesty on things is extremely rare and commendable.

Don Quixote’s persistence

The environment in which he grew up in is a definite factor in him being able to keep that child-like innocence. His parents had hoped that he could grow up happily, and gave him space to pursue his dreams. Later he went to Korea and even though it was tough, he was also well-protected. Later he debuted and attained stardom overnight.

In the first 10+ years of his life he grew up much like any other kid in China, competing in terms of academic results. Luckily though, his parents didn’t try to kill his interest in music because of the traditional education system. On the contrary, it was encouraged and before being scouted, he too, like many kids, took part in the audition for several popular shows. He was scouted on one of such shows and after careful discussion with his family, and repeated verification of the other party’s identity, his family agreed to his departure. That was the start of a new life for him. Zitao has an even more interesting interpretation of the decision. “Well, my studies weren’t all that good then anyway.” He has never tried to make himself into the perfect idol. He says it rather bluntly, that he’s not a good student in school and is not quite keen on his studies.  But he loves music and performing. He will devote his whole self towards learning these. He has always firmly believed that he will become an outstanding artiste. When he went to Korea, he spent his whole time in training. Other than eating and sleeping, most of the time he was in the dance or music room, simply because he liked it. When asked if he suffered over there, he replied that it was okie. Because it was things that he liked, which he took the initiative to learn. Because of that love, he didn’t feel tired.

Perhaps it’s not completely right to compare him to Don Quixote. But his single-minded devotion to music is so completely out of place with this money-grabbing, all-about-entertainment world. He is still holding on to his dream, and a wider interpretation of that dream is if Chinese rappers can make it on the international scene. If you go through his phone memos, you’ll find that it’s filled with lyrics. Full of a youth’s dreams, of missing love, of simply just being me and of thoughts of what’s wrong with the world. His view and feelings of the world is most directly expressed in this manner. When he is faced with questions that he is unable to answer, he will bring out his phone and say “Listen to this song. That reflects how I felt then”. So we listened to about 5 songs in this interview, and saw countless lyrics. He cares a lot about his work. You can say that he is not good, that he’s bad. He is silent on that. But if you question his music, he will conscientiously explain things to you and interact with you. He cares deeply about the rap that didn’t keep up to the rhythm which was uploaded on to the web. He has been waiting all along to put up the original version of the song on the web to clear his name. This is actually rather adorable.

Zitao’s life in Beijing is pretty monotonous. Music is almost all that he wishes to talk about during this period. Sometimes he would visit an eatery for mutton soup when the mood strikes him, not fearing that he would be recognized. He has a deaf and mute friend who’s always by his side. They had grown up together and takes care of each other. “We’re classmates. When I said I wanted to become a star when I was schooling, everyone thought I was simply bullshitting. Only he felt that I could do it. I thought then, that if I made it one day, he will definitely get a share of it too.” He made this story sound rather cute when he talked about it. Now this friend is well known too; almost all of Zitao’s fans know of his existence.

As to what he is going to do after this interview, Zitao replies that it’s filled to the brim with work. There’s reality TV shows and three movies coming back to back. After the interview ended, he rushed over to the recording studio, all prepared to spend a whole night there recording to finish up his album. By the time he’s done with all those schedules (TV shows and movies etc), it would be in the next year.

Perhaps for a period of time now, you will not read or see any more controversies or news on Zitao. It’s because he’s really busy with work. And with all that work going on, he has also learned to be more tactful… And as for whether a more tactful and worldly Huang Zitao will still be quite as unique a character, that remains to be seen.

“So Farkle’s dad is famous enough to be in the news. I think it’d make a pretty interesting episode if Farkle and one (or more) of his friends become targetted by the media, like photographed and featured in an article completely out of context? It’d show kids how the media can twist things. Though tbh I’m not sure how realistic it is or just how influential/well known his dad actually is for this to be a possibility.”

Thor: The Dark World (liveblog) [x]

I’ve talked about this in this post and this post, but I want to bring it up one more time because I think this is the crux of how I see Loki and his actions, despite my intense love for him.

This is Loki’s reaction to being straight-out told that he hurt people.  He can’t deny that he did that, so what does he do instead?  Twists it around so that it’s someone else’s fault or that it’s not his fault because someone else’s actions were [this].

His reaction to being called out in a reasonable way is to immediately deflect that responsibility onto someone else, because IT’S NOT ABOUT WHAT ODIN DID OR DIDN’T DO, IT IS ABOUT WHAT LOKI DID.  But he doesn’t want to focus on that, he wants to make it someone else’s fault.

I honestly and truly do not care about what Odin has done in the past (which I’ve talked about, but also want to repeat here—Loki is not a reliable narrator and the next bit gets cut off before we can get a reliable response from Frigga, who CAN be trusted narratively, at least moreso than Loki “you tossed me into an abyss!” Odinson can be trusted not to twist things for his own arguments), because it’s not about that.

If we all took this tactic, nobody would be responsible for anything, because there’s always someone who did something worse.  I’m not to blame for stealing your lunch money because someone robbed a bank this morning!  I’m not to blame for punching you in the face, because someone stabbed a guy this morning!  I’m not to blame for trashing your car because that’s nothing compared to crashing a plane!

I’m being sort of glib about that (despite that I don’t mean to be glib about this), because Loki is obviously trying to draw on the supposed hypocrisy of Odin judging him for his actions when Odin had done similar things.  But a) that’s bullshit because Odin’s invasion that we saw was for a purpose, while Loki’s was not and b) Loki is not a reliable narrator, we see that over and over again.  We cannot believe his accounting of things, no matter if he genuinely believes it himself or not, because he ignores important reasons and context and twists things out of those important contexts.

This is why I keep comparing Loki to the people in my own life who have used arguments like this over and over again, how there’s always this attempt to spin it away from themselves instead of just stopping and admitting that they fucked up, that they made mistakes, that they did really shitty things.  There’s no responsibility being taken at all, because Loki’s first response is always that someone else was at fault, someone else did something worse, never just, “I hurt people and that was shitty and I regret it.” in any consistent sort of way.

Do I believe Loki is sorry?  Yes, of course.  I think it’s complicated, that regret is in there, but it gets buried and pushed away because it’s too painful to look at and he’s afraid of feeling anything but the vicious rage in him and that he’s flung himself into this role because he thinks it will help him make sense of himself.  I think there’s so much guilt and crushing self-hatred in there that it gets funneled into… this.  Just like I believe (and have seen) the very same in my family, but the thing is.

Until Loki stops this shitty behavior, until he can more than just apologize and then go right back to doing shitty, manipulative, cruel things, until he can actually fucking change, I don’t have patience for a lot of Loki defenses.

I love Loki.  I feel like Frigga expresses a lot of what I want for Loki, that she calls him out deliberately on this—“A true king admits his faults.” is the perfect way to call bullshit on him—and that I don’t want punishment for him, but help for him instead.  But the thing is, until Loki himself wants it, no amount of people reaching out their hands can make him want to change.  That’s a bitter, bitter lesson I’ve learned all too well in my life.

It’s so fucking sad how people are constantly trying to bring Demi Lovato down. Media is always trying to create drama and people are just helping. In interviews words can be taken out of context or twisted. And even if she said those things, I think she meant ‘unrealistic’ ideal body created by our society that skinny = perfect, goals (people are being praised for being skinny) and fat is being used as an insult… Skinny shaming is disgusting I totally agree with that, but you have to agree our beauty standards in our society are often to one body type… Demi is such a strong and honest person. Yes, sometimes she says things that can be taken as ‘problematic’, but let’s remember that she is a)  dealing with mental illness, b) just a human being that has opinions, makes mistakes, has feelings… Stop hating for no reason. Ok bye


Did Anita Sarkeesian actually play the games she showed in her series?

People actually donated to watch her lie, twist things out of context and steal content from other youtubers

“while I walk off mostly ignored by my girlfriend in favor of Regina.”

The ability that the more idiotic SQers possess to twist things to such a non existent, context disregarding, reason-abandoning degree never ceases to amuse me.

I mean, it’s not like Emma was sticking with Regina because they’re both magic wielders and had a gigantic demon to focus on defeating to prevent death and destruction, or anything. 

Hate campaign is designed to damage a person’s reputation

Hate campaign is a series of actions intended to hurt or upset someone or to make other people have a low opinion of them.

Shippers -  *label Jensen homophobic and spread it far and wide even though he’s a good person and has done nothing to deserve it*

Fandom - “I’ve literally never seen any hate for Jensen” 

You mean other than the widespread, harmful and endless hate campaign right? Maybe if you’re not seeing it you’re partly responsible for it without knowing what you’re doing. 

Seriously ask yourself if you target anyone else as much as Jensen over everything they say or do, twist things, take things out of context and call them out relentlessly over the slightest thing like you do Jensen, dismiss any action of theirs that contradict the label you’ve stuck them with and tell yourself it’s because of your “principles” and not about a ship.

If you dedicated all the time you spend on your campaign against Jensen to actual worthwhile targets you might actually do some good for the sake of your principles instead of dragging down a decent man for what? You think if you sling enough mud at him he’ll bow down and make your ship canon to save himself from your accusations? Jensen does not have the power to make your ship canon, he does not have the power to stop it either. Tear down Jensen and you’ll still have a hoard of TPTB to get passed because it has never been their intention. An exec literally said that on twitter, if you hadn’t run him off twitter maybe you’d have got some answers from him. 

Jensen is not against playing bisexual/gay characters in general he just hasn’t been playing Dean that way for 12 seasons whether you interpret it that way or not it’s not how he sees it and there’s nothing wrong with that.

JENSEN IS NOT A BARRIER TO KNOCK DOWN TO FREE THE WAY FOR YOUR SHIP TO HAPPEN. Tear Jensen down with your campaign against him and all you’ll do is encounter a brick wall because you’ve been attacking the wrong target all along and hurting a good man while you’re at it.

wishfulcynicism  asked:

So is what the protesters seeing the only credible source of information on Baltimore? Can they not twist information or use hyperbole? I do agree that "mainstream media" is definitely not in any sense the best source of information, but you could warn people that even the protestors can and (sometimes) will twist information, take things out of context, or omit info. There are many agendas. Hopefully, everyone (protestors and police) make it home safe. Freddie Gray's family deserves justice

The police and the mainstream media have a personal interest in making the protesters look bad. The only agenda the protesters have is their liberation. That is why I trust their word over others.