contact comfort

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Selfies with Wile E. because comfort objects aren’t a bad thing.

In all of these I’m wearing my No Gloom ‘Shroom necklace, gray sweatpants and a predominantly blue T-shirt with Optimus Prime from Transformers: Prime on the front, so there is some red present on my outfit. I took these selfies in March. Just noting that in case this is being reblogged in April. I’m against Autism Speaks and I will be #REDInstead for April.

I have my Wile E. Coyote plushie in all of the selfies. He shows his age because I’ve had him since I got him for Christmas when I was 5, and I’m 36 at the time of these selfies. There is clear tape on his snout because the felt that makes up his mouth is falling apart. Wile E. is the one possession I own that I would not be able to handle losing forever. I get very distressed if I don’t know where he is (his place is on my pillow in my bedroom) and I’ll get downright aggressive if I see somebody ‘hurt’ him by kicking, throwing or swiping him aside or intentionally dropping him.


Btw, I’m sitting in my little sensory corner in all the pics. My proprioception is a mess today and I feel like an octopus attempting ballet. Corners are good for proprioceptive input because I can scoot myself backwards until I feel intense pressure on my shoulders, or I can bump into it with my back if I rock and I keep some sense of my body’s position in space. 

I guess I fit that stereotype of “autistic people sit in corners and rock” pretty well after all. :)

“In my own little corner in my own little chair
I can be whatever I want to be.
On the wings of my fancy I can fly anywhere
and the world will open its arms to me.” 

–Rodgers and Hammerstein’s “Cinderella”

How are we supposed to sleep when we all know that Emma Swan is currently experiencing crippling white hot panic because she can’t sleep without Killian holding her. Like we discussed last week how she is such a contact comfort person like she needs to feel him near her to feel safe and he is not there and she is curled up in bed crying and he is well-aware that she can’t sleep without him and he too, is experiencing white hot panic and regret and terror and it’s literally killing him that he is trapped in an undersea prison that is preventing him from holding her and she thinks he abandoned her just like every single other person in her life has and she wants to be mad but all she can think about is how she’s sad and she needs her face pressed against his fucking cheek stubble so she can feel safe and okay and I am fucking never falling asleep am I   

actually the best interview tip for me personally has always been, basically, ‘use every psych trick in the book to make them like you’

examples:

  • pay attention to and mimic body language, esp eye contact – everyone has different comfort levels & u don’t want to make ur interviewer uncomfortable
    • u can use body language as eye contact breaks!
  • be dynamic – smile when something’s funny! show emotional range (not extreme!) basically, look like u have a personality
  • when you’re asking questions, ask them what THEIR favorite part of the job is, and pay attention to their answer. elaborate!
    • people like talking about themselves. if u can get your interviewer to talk about themselves at the end they’re more likely to have a favorable impression
  • it’s ok to make jokes/joking comments! you don’t want to overdo it, but it’s good to have friendly moments with your interviewer. if they laugh at something, laugh with them.

anonymous asked:

Obi-Wan can't find a heavily pregnant Anakin. Turns out he went and hid somewhere to get some quiet away from people worrying. But he goes into labor and can't get out. By time Obi-Wan finds him, hours later, Anakin has a baby hanging out of him, and realizing it isn't the only one coming.

So basically Anakin’s being a cat?

I imagine Obi Wan probably has a heart attack when he realises he can’t find Anakin. Like there’s a bit of him that’s scared Anakin’s been kidnapped or something. Finding Anakin is somewhat of a relief. Like sure it isn’t the ideal situation to find him in but it’s better than some of the alternatives Obi Wan had thought up.

He’s probably very quick to comm the Medics. Because a) give them the heads up; b) tell them where Anakin is so they can come to him; c) so he knows what to do. After that it’s comforting Anakin and checking the child’s okay. Making sure Anakin is as comfortable and reassured as possible.

For some reason I feel like Anakin is actually rather calm. Possible a mixture of just exhaustion and a little memory of shit-that-went-down-on-Tatooine, and I mean he isn’t looking forward to pushing a second child out of him so soon after the first. But he’s not freaking out. Again, possibly because he just doesn’t have the energy to freak out.

contact comfort;

this is a fill for a prompt i got on my main blog

Anonymous said:#4 and #17 with Namjoon

4. “I’m too sober for this.”
17. “Good thing I didn’t ask for your opinion.”

Summary: Your best friend, Namjoon, whom you definitely are not in love with is having cat troubles, so you consult the expertise of one Kim Taehyung. (Harry Potter AU)

Your best friend, Namjoon, is the sort of wizard who really stands out in a crowd. It’s not because of his gargantuan height or his stunningly good looks, although that does help. It’s not even his innately clumsy nature, no; Kim Namjoon stands out because he exudes an aura of self-assurance and confidence (although not quite up to Slytherin standards). Although lately, this confidence of his, funnily enough, comes crumbling down the minute the Gryffindor prefect is around his cat, Mimi.

Mimi is a beauty, to say the least, with her fluffy white coat that looks like it’s dusted with snowflakes. However, she is also extremely picky about who can pet her, and for some reason, Namjoon isn’t really one of her favourite people at the moment. The boy himself is puzzled by what seems to be a recent development, according to what he’s told you.

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“A person wearing headphones and/or avoiding eye-contact when you are talking isnt necessarily ‘rude’. That person may be autistic and most probably finds it easier to listen like that! Please respect their sensory needs!”

Just a quick PSA. 

I’m feeling a lot less pissed off at neurotypicals today so that calls for less angry art. 

Avoiding eye contact and wearing headphones all the time is often perceived by neurotypical people as a rather rude gesture. This is unfortunate and is something that really has to be unlearnt for the benefit of autistic and otherwise neurodivergent people who do these things. 

Autistic people (as well as some other neurodivergent people) avoid eye contact because the experience ranges from uncomfortable and mildly distressing to very painful and upsetting. Avoiding eye contact is much more comfortable and natural for a lot of us and makes us feel a bit more at ease interacting with people and the world in general. (I will add though that not all autistic people avoid eye contact but enough of us do that it needs to be respected. If you meet a person who says they are autistic but are able to make eye contact yes they are still autistic.)

Forcing an autistic person to make eye contact with you is not only incredibly rude and insensitive, but it is also an act of ableism. You are in no way entitled to force anyone to make eye contact with you. Please respect autistic and otherwise neurodivergent peoples need to avoid eye contact. 

Wearing headphones all the time is something a lot of autistic people and people with sensory processing disorder do to avoid sensory overload and meltdowns that can be caused by loud noises or too many noises at once. It is important to remember that our hearing can be more sensitive than yours so what we perceive as loud might not seem that loud to you but that doesnt change the fact that it may still be painful to us. 

If an autistic person wears headphones while interacting with you they are not being rude, they are avoiding pain, sensory overload and potential meltdowns. Please respect this. If you try to force an autistic person to remove their headphones you are being rude and insensitive and being very ableist. 

That is all for now, unless I have forgotten something. Thank you. 

There are prohibited kisses, true ones: Charm

Drabble #3 in the Kisses Drabble series, part of the OTP Day celebration. Prompt requested by @otterandterrier: There are prohibited kisses, true ones, based on this prompt/poem list.

Happy OTP Day! 


“I can’t believe I’m doing this,” Hermione said, nervousness and excitement showing up as a fast heartbeat and a knot on her stomach. She wrung her hands together as he discarded his traveling cloak in a swift motion, careless as it fell to the ground into a heap.

“To be honest,” Ron laughed as he grabbed her by the waist and pulled her to him, “neither can I.”

She put her hands on the top of his arms, right on the curve of his shoulders, squeezing them to release more of the jittery energy quivering through her fingers. She rested the weight of her body against him, the contact comforting enough to entice a soft smile on her lips. She stretched up to reach for a quick kiss, the contact helping dissipate most of her reservations. Most.

“I should not be doing this,” she insisted, more out of a sense of righteousness now than true objection, to then kiss him again. “There are rules against it.”

“You know what they say about rules,” he argued, proceeding to kiss her jaw and the line of her neck. “Head Girls can break them.”

“That is not… Head Girls… Ron!” she complained, her eyes closing as the sensations awakened by his lips became too distracting to keep her argument straight. “McGonagall would expel me if she found out!”

He pulled back to sternly look at her face, his eyebrows creased and his lips set in a smirk. “She would not. She loves you,” he stated as if he were explaining to a five year old. “Hell, why do you think she told you which spells she used to close off the Room of Requirement? No way that was just a slip. She planned it so that you could research them and break them. She knows only you would be able to do that. She knows you wouldn’t tell anyone. She knows that you’d keep me in check and not let me sneak in the castle enough to actually affect your performance. Why do you think she didn’t seal the painting’s passage? Besides, she knows how busy I am, too.”

“Please. You’re making it sound like she wants us to sneak in these moments together. I assure you she does not!”

“She so does,” he laughed again, and she could see the glint in his eyes telling her he was not as much convinced of this as enjoying that he could wind her up.

“Absolutely not. This is prohibited, Ron!”

“And yet, here we are.”

“I still don’t know how you convinced me to do this.”

“Oh, but you forget,” he continued, resuming his light kisses. “You were the one doing all the planning. You were the one to suggest it, even.”

She chuckled then, exasperation and memories and love diffusing her resistance. “Cursed be your charm,” she joked, her fingers relaxing now and traveling up his neck to thread through his hair.

“You love it,” he whispered against her temple, his arms squeezing her closer to him. He bent to kiss the corner of her lips, to then look to her again. “You love me. You would not have suggested this if you didn’t.”

“I do love you,” she admitted, her eyes locked on his. “And that’s the truth of it.”

infinitemisfit33  asked:

Hello reiji ^-^ I've been meaning to ask, have you ever considered wearing contacts instead of glasses? Contacts are much more comfortable, believe I wear them, and your brothers will probably stop making fun of you and calling you four eyes!

Reiji:

Reiji: I…

Reiji: Using contacts would cost much more than using glasses.

Reiji: Therefore, I reject your kind advise.

anonymous asked:

i imagine prom following alpha commands as passive-aggressively as possible like "stay in camp" fine i'll stay in camp as far away from you guys as possible and him refusing to ask them contact or comfort because he wants to assert independence and then alpha instincts making N G & I miserable b/c their omega is upset but also doesnt want cuddles bites knotting and that's what their instincts tell them to do but prom hates them they are the worst alphas

Passive-Aggressive Prompto is second only to Aggressive Prompto in my heart. :D 

this AU wouldn’t be completely without a Pines Family Sleep Pile

this takes place almost immediately after the curse is released. they’re all sleeping in front of the fireplace, too exhausted from the day to do anything else. Stan was so tired and focused on Ford and the kids that he didn’t even change clothes first, haha

also, everyone’s hands are touching. Mabel and Dipper are holding hands, and they have their hands over Stan and Ford’s. Stan has his arm over Mabel because he got used to hugging her and Dipper when they cuddled together, while Ford has his arms wrapped around Dipper because he’s kinda using Dipper as a teddy bear. he wants to feel the comfort/human contact that hugging Dipper brings. Ford is also sitting kinda awkwardly because he’s not used to having a body again

Mabel and Dipper are both using Ford’s arm as a pillow. poor Ford is gonna feel that in the morning, lol. also, i really like drawing Stan’s hair like this, haha

(Ford design based on @cirilee‘s!! i just tweaked it a little)

We’ve turned off messaging; if you need advice, please send us an ask. We can’t play personal therapist for everyone, and the messaging system on Tumblr gives us (mostly Dii) a lot of stress.

I hope you all can understand. We’re aware people look up to us, but due to a wide variety of circumstances, we want to keep a lot of direct contact limited for our comfort (unless we are mutuals on our main blog). Asks will always be the best way to reach us.

-Mirielle

Obikin Headcanon #1

…Anakin likes to hold Obi-Wan’s hand. Jedi robe sleeves are so big that in council meetings, when they’re standing together, sat side-by-side in a ship, or meditating, no one ever really notices. He likes the small amount of physical contact. It’s comforting. It’s warm. It’s human.