It wasn't abuse was it it was just parenting. I was spanked so much as a child I still flinch when people move to touch me. Last time I was 12, he's a construction worker w a 6 inch plywood paddle he made himself specifically for me. Then you took everything out of my room. Then u would read my short stories and go through my stuff when I was at school. You would read my texts, messages, letters everything. But it was just you making sure I was safe. I was still molested. So many times.