conscious-parenting

hey when you feel awful about how you reacted to abuse and you think you must be weak and pathetic and blame yourself for not being stronger and more stable and unaffected by abuse, you know, it’s not just you, everyone would react the same way you did. Humans weren’t made to go thru trauma and pain without support and comfort, and stay unaffected, especially as children, all of us get hit by trauma and get paralyzed and broken by it, there is no human on this planet who would be able to go thru what you did and not feel the consequences. I know a lot of people play strong or act like nothing affects them, but it’s an act, they can get traumatized and abused just like everyone else. Some even go as far as to imply that only reason you were traumatized was because you were so weak and so sensitive, well that is bullshit and believe me they don’t know what they’re talking about, if they were subjected to the same trauma and abuse, with as little support and validation you had, they would be exactly where you are right now. Everyone would be exactly where you are right now. You haven’t reacted wrong or dealt with it wrong or taken damage from “nothing”, nobody can know how hard it was for you and how much you struggled except for you. Nobody else has the right to speak about it or tell you shit about how you should be reacting and how much it should be affecting you. They wouldn’t have taken it any better than you did. You did the best it was humanely possible.

Someone come up with some context for this one, because I’m not too sure. I happened to see Allura cross her arms and I instantly thought of the iconic Crossed Arms Shiro™.

I swear to god, these just happen on accident. I don’t really plan these out.

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Keith: (slowly and a little too loud) Hey, It’s me Keith. I am your fa-ther. We are bonding? Yes?

Lance: Keith, no. Just no. You know, she can’t talk, right? Try again. Just talk to her, like a normal person and not, I don’t know, like you are a robot who works with the elderly, maybe? 

Keith: Hi, I’m your dad.

Lance: Better.

Keith: Well, one of your dads. You have two dads. Your other dad, Lance, he is going to be a great dad. You’re a lucky little girl. Honestly, I have no idea what I am doing, but I’ll love you. I love you now, more than I thought I could ever love someone I just met. And I promise I will always protect you. In fact, I’d slaughter-

Lance: Uh, I’m gonna stop you there, Keith. Up until the slaughtering, you were doing great. Can I have our baby back, now? 

(Lance looks like a man who regrets his life choices and it cracks me up. He doesn’t. Just the fact that Keith really has no clue about babies is dawning on him.)

I’m sick of the teenage “forbidden romance”. I’m so tired of kids running around and sneaking away from their parents, and parents saying stuff like “I forbid you from seeing that boy!!!!”
I want supportive parents! Happy parents who see their kid likes somebody and says “How wonderful! What a nice boy! Have him over for dinner!”
And I want parents who love their kid’s significant others, because they love their kid!

I believe that my generation can raise our daughters to believe they can be anything but that they do not have to be perfect at everything.

I remember one time back when I was a Baptist we had this weekend sex, marriage, and purity type conference where everyone was separated into groups of adult married couples, adult singles, and youth and our youth pastor told all the girls that they should probably stay in their father’s house until they got married and honestly sometimes I still get salty about it.

  • Dandelion: Well met, Ciri! Don't worry, you have to fear not until you are under the supervision of your favourite uncle, Dandelion
  • Ciri: Actually my favourite uncle is Vesemir
  • Dandelion: I already have a plan to help your friend- say what?
let’s talk about old autistic parents

thought i’d talk about my dad’s autism bc we never discuss what old autistic ppl are like (he’s 68), or what actuallyautistic parents are like. and i think it might offer a little hope to autistic ppl out there like me who are scared of the future

yeah so my dad just self diagnosed himself with my help like a few days ago, and he was just kind of like “oh yeah, duh!” and then went back to doing his thing, and i think that’s great! we went to a museum today that has both of our special interests (architecture and fashion/history) and he was so over the moon! he doesn’t express emotion very often, but when he does, he really lights up! like his eyes get really big and he points at things v vigorously and it’s really adorable. he can be pretty stonefaced and he often feels left out from social stuff. in fact we were talking a lot about how we both feel like we don’t understand social stuff, but he can also be SUPER social, like always talking to strangers. he doesn’t really stim that i can see, not like i do. he actually is a very stiff person like body wise? like he doesn’t move a lot lol. he also will be on his own train of thought and then chime into the middle of a conversation with something like “if you meet aliens should you look them in the eye? or eyes? hey how many eyes do they have?” which is EXACTLY what i do. he has a lot of auditory processing issues like me as well. he often sits in a separate room from my mom and i so he can focus on his stuff and be alone. i don’t mind! whatever makes him comfortable. he also has no concept of how to handle money and his special interests are carpentry, architecture and history. he never went to college but he’s had a v successfully life as a carpenter and he’s still working after like 50 years. he had a gambling problem for a while and i know he still struggles with it, but he hasn’t gambled ONCE in 17 months! he has a hard time with change and new things and says no a lot just like me. he also gets lost a lot but that’s bc he doesn’t pay that much attention to where he is!!! (like me lmao) his favorite fabric is denim and he has accidentally set himself on fire a few times when he’s welding but he’s v chill about it.

this pic sums up my whole family basically and it’s great