connecting offline

leadingthehorticulture  asked:

Hey SNP, I thought about sending you an email but something about it smacks of favor-mongering since my question is about finding work. I graduated from undergrad about a month ago. Pretty usual story, probably. Writer, English major, etc. Most of my writing from school is personal essay and poetry which, though I like the work I've done, feels wholly unmarketable in the job hunt. Any thoughts on how to get started? Am I supposed to just take to the internet and cross my fingers?

Basically, yes. That’s what you’re supposed to do when you don’t have offline connections. That, and intern at a magazine. Elisabeth Denison, poetry editor at the New Yorker, has what may be good advice for you here.

At the people today who wielded the “combating aphobia* is as easy as logging off” argument:

Because the internet isn’t a significant part of many people’s lives and livelihoods in the year 2017?

I’m being told that if I don’t want to endure hate, I need to actively avoid something without which I cannot create and promote or connect to other people. (Good luck being an indie writer, editor, text designer or blogger without the internet.) I’m also being told by implication that I need to instead connect with others offline because I can just log off to avoid hate, something vastly more difficult for many autistics and a whole range of other folk with disabilities, but hell, autistic and disabled a-specs don’t exist, right? A-spec writers and creators and designers don’t exist, right? Otherwise-queer a-specs in small towns don’t exist, right? Folks without offline access to folks with their same backgrounds and experiences for whatever reason don’t exist, right? We don’t really need the internet in order to live functional lives and connect with other people, do we?

But, even if I weren’t autistic and disabled, you’re still telling me that I should stop living my online life just so you can freely voice your hate.

If someone told me that “combating ableism in the workplace is as easy as not working” or “combating street harassment and catcalling is as easy as never leaving the house”, I’d be calling them the vile ableist, misogynist pigs they are. Which is an insult, quite frankly, to pigs, because pigs have never done me any harm, unlike far too many humans.

I have the right to be in a space as omnipresent as a supermarket or a physical workplace. I not only have the right, I have the requirement, as is the nature of my existence in a Western country in 2017.

And yes, I dare to ask that I not be the target of asexual-targeted hate, bullying and abuse online - which is rampant and disgusting, far beyond discussions about who belongs in what community - in the same way I dare to ask, as a female-perceived person whose lack of feminine expression makes me a prime target for cis men calling me various permutations of “dog” when outside the house, that I not be the target of vicious misogyny on the street. I dare. Because, despite the world telling me how much it hates me, I believe I have the same essential rights as anybody else should possess, and those rights include the ability to participate fully in society.

When you tell me that I can log off to avoid hate, you’re telling me to stop existing. You’re telling me to vanish, go away, hide, take no part in general online society so that you can keep on speaking hate without consequence.

And yes, I dare to call them both what they are: oppression.

How is it not oppression to actively deny harassment-free navigation of something as omnipresent in 2017 as the internet to a-specs? How is it not further oppression to then require the victims of that oppression to hide themselves - to leave a space we have the right to occupy and are largely required to occupy in order to have any role in society - so you can keep on voicing your hate and toxicity?

It’s 2017.

The internet is a real job, real community, real friends, real life.

You don’t get to push me out of my own life.

* The assumption being allosexism is an online phenomenon. Sigh.

1. When a couple crosses the street past you and turns around and says: “you are beautiful”

2. When you see a guy on the train selling Welch’s Fruit Snacks and help him buy one and he smiles and thanks you

3. When you see cute puppies on the street and adore them and their owners are kind, smiling

4. When you get to work early to clock in and the internet connection is offline. You call IT to check up on it, but they don’t show 20+ minutes later and you fix it yourself

I met so many of you at burgerama, just straight up steak readers and it was so nice.

I only see one name, “anon”, when I answer the advice column so something its hard to remember its not the same human just writing in over and over every day .

but being able to see and meet all of you- in different shapes, colors, sexes… clothing styles.. everything. It made the internet so wild real for me. and I think thats a good thing, everyone should be able to connect offline every once in a while.

thanks for reading you guys.


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