confusing examples

Signs and symptoms of dissociation

- Feeling disconnected from yourself

- Problems with handling intense emotions

- Sudden and unexpected shifts in mood – for example, feeling very sad for no reason

- Depression or anxiety problems, or both

- Feeling as though the world is distorted or not real (called ‘derealisation’)

- Memory problems that aren’t linked to physical injury or medical conditions

- Other cognitive (thought-related) problems such as concentration problems

- Significant memory lapses such as forgetting important personal information

- Feeling compelled to behave in a certain way

- Identity confusion – for example, behaving in a way that the person would normally find offensive or abhorrent.


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Even when it doesn’t seem like it, Rose always listens to even the most trivial things the Doctor says.

Masterpost: Stimming

Stimming is an important part of most autistic people’s life, and as such, something you’ll probably want to include in your narrative to make your autistic character(s) more realistic. Which is why we’re now going to tell you all about it!

First of all, what is it? The word “stimming” is short for “self-stimulating”. Almost everyone uses it preferentially because it’s easier to use and sounds less… weird. It has a lot of derivations: the verb “to stim”, the noun “a stim”, the adjective “stimmy”… Isn’t the English language wonderful.

Self-stimulating, or stimming as I’ll call it for the rest of this masterpost (and of the blog), consists of doing something with the specific goal of stimulating one’s senses.

If you haven’t done it already, we advise you to read our masterpost about sensory differences, since we’ll refer to many concepts we have explained there in this post, and we won’t re-define them here.

Now that all of this is sorted, let’s get into the heart of the matter. First I’ll explain what stimming looks like, and then I’ll try to outline the main reasons why someone might stim.

Here is a non-exhaustive list of stims, sorted by the sense they stimulate. Every sense can be stimulated by stimming, except maybe the interoceptive ones. Your character stimming can look like:

  • Sight: moving their fingers in front of their eyes, pressing on their eyes until geometric patterns appear, watching a screensaver for hours, looking at things with pretty colors, looking at bright lights or blinking lights, looking at glittery or shimmery things, sorting objects by colors or shape, watching moving things such as a spinning top or a pendulum…

  • Hearing: Listening to music (for example listening to the same song on repeat for hours), rubbing fingers/hair/ cloth next to their ears, tapping on their ears, eating crunchy food, walking on dry autumn leaves, making noises, repeating a word or words with a fun sonority, humming, singing, clicking a button repeatedly, zipping and unzipping a sweater, listening to the sound of rain/waves, opening and closing scissors…

  • Smell: Sniffing things with a pleasant smell, wearing perfume, smelling flowers, smelling a favorite blanket/object/pet/person, making food, taking a walk after it’s rained, sniffing dirty clothing…

  • Taste: Eating things with a strong taste (spicy/very sweet/sour/salty…), chewing gum, chewing non-edible objects, kissing someone, licking stuff…

  • Touch: Rubbing soft fabric, rubbing things with pleasant textures, chewing on things, rubbing their fingers together, touching/playing with their hair, biting their nails, picking at their skin, sitting/lying under heavy things, pressing themselves in tiny confined spaces, pressing parts of their body, hitting themselves, playing with dough or baking, touching water, walking on tiptoes, walking on textured ground, clenching their jaw…

  • Thermoception: eating ice-cream, drinking hot drinks, touching snow, touching a radiator, staying under the AC, taking a very hot or very cold shower/bath, eating ice cubes…

  • Nociception : doing anything that inflicts pain, this includes all self-harming stims (hitting, biting, scratching themselves for instance)

  • Kinesthesic sense: Flapping their hands, twirling their fingers, playing with fidget toys, bouncing on their toes, playing sports, knitting, doodling, pacing, tapping their fingers, chewing, bouncing their leg, twisting their hands and fingers, playing an instrument…

  • Vestibular sense: rocking, spinning around, riding a roller coaster, sailing, horse riding, being upside down, doing cartwheels, shaking their head, playing on swings, slides or merry-go-rounds…

But really, the possibilities are endless! We recommend the #stimfreely tag for gifs of people stimming (it’s so cute tbh) and general stimming positivity!

Now that we’ve seen what stimming is, let’s get into some of the common reasons a character might stim, and the benefits they can get from it.

  • It helps regulate their sensory system. If one of their senses is under-stimulated (possibly because they are hyposensitive to it, possibly because there just isn’t enough stimulation), stimming can help put the level of stimulation back to a normal state, and thus alleviate feelings of restlessness, discomfort, craving or even pain.

  • It is soothing. When an autistic person is upset, anxious or overwhelmed, stimming, by its regularity and predictability, can help them calm down.

  • It is a coping method. When overstimulated or overwhelmed for another reason, focusing on another sense can help take the focus away from the pain and confusion. For example, someone might focus on the feel of rubbing cloth to avoid being overwhelmed by loud noises. It can also be easier to deal with a stimulation that comes from oneself than from the outside world, because it’s more predictable and less chaotic, and it is not illogical that sometimes, when confronted by for example loud noise, a person might start tapping their ears to cover the sound: it’s even louder, but easier to deal with.

  • It can help concentration.

  • It is a part of our natural body language and we use it to express emotions. If you know an autistic person well, you’ll often be able to tell how they feel by watching what stims they do. One common example is flapping one’s hands when happy!

  • It can be very pleasant and enjoyable. Overall, we’d say this is one of the most important reasons for stimming: having fun and feeling good!

As an additional note, I’d like to add that everybody stims, neurodivergent or not. Even if you’re allistic, you must have caught yourself bouncing your leg when anxious or humming absentmindedly. Especially in moments of extreme grief, sadness, or fear, allistic people often rock back and forth or hit themselves in exactly the same way autistic people do. Autistic people just need it more because they have different sensory systems, which are more demanding and need more regulation.

So please, have your autistic characters stim! Have them rock to calm themselves down and flap their hands when they’re happy and spend hours repeating the same word! Stimming is most often a very positive experience and one of the reasons many autistic people enjoy being autistic and wouldn’t change it for the world. This is who we are, and stimming is a really cool part of who we are, and we’d say it’s an essential part of positive representation of autistic people.

I think we covered the basics, but of course we’re here to answer any specific question about this topic or another. Happy writing!

10 tips for talking about news, politics and current events in schools

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In schools everywhere, students are deeply affected by current events. Certain policy changes and related commentary can cause children to experience fear, confusion and anxiety. For example, some kids might fear deportation. Others might be upset about hurtful generalizations they hear regarding their cultures and countries of origin. A lot of kids might fear the loss of rights.

Teachers around the world have shared that having conversations about these topics is challenging, and sometimes they end up avoiding these conversations altogether. So how might teachers facilitate a classroom discussion that allows students to express their perspectives and work through their emotional distress? It’s important to note that an emotionally charged conversation requires a different set of skills than leading an academic class discussion. Here are 10 tips for success:

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1. Come up with class norms. It is hard to have a spontaneous conversation about a controversial issue. Classroom procedures for conversations and discussion can help your conversations go smoothly. At the beginning of the school year, establish guidelines for class discussions with your students’ input. What are the qualities of a good listener? How can students feel heard and understood? What happens if someone becomes overly emotional? Post the guidelines in your classroom, review them periodically, and stick to them during discussions. If you have guidelines in place, students won’t feel singled out if you have to give them feedback about their style of participation.

2. Make sure everyone has the same basic background information. Not all students are politically minded or have access to news media. Before starting a class conversation, provide a basic summary of events. Students are less likely to tune out if they understand what the conversation is about.

3. Provide explanations and clarifications. Sometimes students’ emotions are rooted in confusion, fear, and misinformation. Students look to teachers for information and clarification, so don’t forget your role as an information source. Even if you don’t have an answer, you can search for it alongside your students. If fake news seems to be at the root of the problem, empower your students to evaluate news sources. PBS has an excellent lesson plan for that here.

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4. Avoid debates. There will likely be a variety of viewpoints in your classroom. Debates can be a constructive activity in the context of an organized, structured lesson. Yet when students are emotionally charged, debates can often devolve into arguments and personal attacks. Shift the focus from changing minds to exchanging ideas. Frame the conversation as an opportunity for understanding and empathy.

5. View yourself as a facilitator. If you view yourself as a facilitator, you can provide a comfortable space for students to express themselves and develop their own opinions. Your role is not to persuade students of a particular point of view. Instead, you are providing a safe, structured space for students to work through a specific topic.

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6. Reflect what you hear and encourage students to do the same. Simply repeating back what you hear can be tremendously helpful. It can help students understand their emotions and thoughts about particular issues and events and it can help deescalate emotionally charged situations by showing that you have heard and understood your students. Model this technique for your students and encourage them to repeat back what they have just heard before they respond to a classmate.

7. Provide space for students to experience their feelings. If students are experiencing strong emotions, that is OK. Oftentimes, adults try to cheer kids up when they are angry or sad. This can send the message that they need to suppress their emotions so that the people around them aren’t uncomfortable. Acknowledge their emotions and encourage classmates to do the same. When students judge each other’s emotions with comments like, “You have no right to feel that way,” encourage them to recognize the emotion of their classmate instead. Remind them that people do not all have exact same experience. When you establish your classroom norms, this can be an important point to cover. Brene Brown’s video resource on empathy can help show the importance of allowing others to experience their emotions.

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8. Provide time for independent reflection. Give students some time to write (or create an audio file, drawing or other product) independently so that they have a chance to process the conversation. Let students know that this isn’t a graded assignment, and that you are open to feedback about ways to improve the classroom discussion.

9. Check in with distressed students. If a student is particularly anxious or upset, check in with that student privately. If you are worried about a student, avail yourself of other resources in your building and district so that students get the support they need to function well during the school day.

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10. Consider a class project related to the discussion. A class project can help build cohesion and a sense of community in your classroom. It can also show that even in the midst of controversy and disagreement, people can work together for a common goal. The project does not have to be complicated or expensive. For example, TED-Ed Innovative Educator Kristin Leong created Roll Call, a project that highlights the commonalities between students and teachers.

Author bio: Dani Bostick is a writer, teacher, and TED-Ed Innovative Educator in Virginia.


Hey all! I’ve decided to open up commissions for the summer! 

If anyone is confused by the example, there’s basically two parts:

    1. Pick a style/level of skill (sketch, lines, etc.) 

    2. Pick the amount of the character you want presented (bust, waist up, etc.)

And that’s it!

If you want to add another character, it’s an additional $10, a sketchy/messy background is an additional $10, and a fully detailed background is an extra $20. 

I will draw:

Gore, NSFW (must be 18+ in order to get a NSFW commission!), furry/anthro, etc.

I will NOT draw:

Noncon/rape, dubcon, pedophilia/children in sexual situations, vore.

If you’re unsure of what qualifies as such, check in with me beforehand to make sure I’m comfortable with it.

Please email me at if you’re interested and/or have comments, questions, or concerns! 

You can reach me via tumblr, but email is best! Please label all emails as “commission” or something indicating you want a commission.

Also, if you’re ordering a commission, give me a due date, provide plenty of details, and please pay up front! I won’t start the commission until payment is sent. 

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Magical Girl Categories

I got bored, so I’ve decided to make some random post about Magical Girls, and its sub-categories, because I am a sucker for them and also because I want to school some ignorant people who believe that Sailor Moon was the first MG series ever created

Okay, the Magical Girl (or Mahou Shoujo) genre has its roots in Japan. Its first MG ever was Mahoutsukai Sally, created by Mitsuteru Yokoyama. Debuted in July 1966, the series was the first of the Majokko (“Little Witch”) type, and inspired by the american sitcom entitled Bewitched, its japanese title being: Oku-sama wa Majo (TRANSLATION: “The Miss is a Witch”). Of course, after Sally, came lots of magical girls with lots of different formulas and plots, some of them similar, though…

Majokko: Also known as “Little Witch”, it uses the witchy formula, with broomsticks, wands, and such. It’s rather simple, yet charming, in my opinion. Examples: Majokko Megu-chan and Mahoutsukai Chappy, both using the same formula as Sally’s (a member of royalty from a magical world relocating to the mortal world), and both animated by Toei Animation.

Magical Idol: Now, this one’s about girls with magical alter-egos, where they are famous and popular (in most cases, these alter-egos are older than the girls). Examples: Creamy Mami, Magical Emi and Fancy Lala.

Slice-of-Life: Another sub-category that’s a simple one. It’s about girls who are blessed with magical objects to help others and to make their lives more interesting and fun. Examples: Himitsu no Akko-chan and Pastel Yumi.

Magical Warrior: This one is very popular. Thanks to Sailor Moon, which it was responsible for the revival of the MG genre, and opening doors to other stories such as the ever-growing PreCure franchise and Tokyo MewMew.

Parody: Some of the MGs are parodies of the genre, showing us things out of the common plot. Examples: Puni Puni Poemi (absurd, comedy type) and Tonde Buurin (superheroine type, as an animal that no one would’ve think of: a pig).

Phantom Thief: Think of the Gentleman Thief plot, but with a girl instead! Usually, their deeds are to help others and to solve mysteries, and obviously, it involves having a double life. Examples: Kamikaze Kaitou Jeanne and Kaitou Saint Tail.

Superheroine: This one is about girls fighting crime. It’s most present in the western-culture, but the difference is that they tend to be rather girlier. Examples: Cutey Honey, Codename wa Sailor V and Nanako SOS.

Western/Non-japanese: The MG genre had its impact outside the land of the rising sun, and their plots may vary. Examples include (we have lots of them): Jem and the Holograms (Magical Idol), Lolirock (Magical Warrior), Star vs. The Forces of Evil (Magical Warrior), Sabrina the Teenage Witch (Little Witch/Slice-of-Life mash-up), MLP: Equestria Girls (I consider it Slice-of-Life, as it shows normal situations mixed up with ancient magic and mysteries) Miraculous Ladybug (Superheroine) and so many others.

Magical Boys: We have lots of girls, but very few are boys. There aren’t many stories where boys are magical AND are the protagonists though… Examples: Steven Universe and Cute High Earth Defense Club LOVE!

Male-oriented: Most of them are angsty stories, all created for the pleasure of seeing young ladies being punished for their dreams! Examples: Madoka Magica and Mahou Shoujo Rising Project.

Adult/Hentai: Most of them are bad parodies, surrounding on the rape theme… I won’t talk much about it, as it makes me rather uncomfortable… Examples: Sex Warrior Pudding (a Tokyo MewMew parody) and Venus 5 (a Sailor Moon parody).

Sci-fi: This sub-category plays heavy on the science-fiction and it has no magic at all; but some people seem to consider it a part of the MG lore for some reason. Examples: ESPer Mami and Miracle Limit-chan.

Misc.: Some of these stories have magical concept, but also play on other tropes, so it kinda makes me a little confused… Examples: Onegai! MyMelody, Jewelpet, RiluRilu Fairilu, Flip Flappers, Tokimeki Tonight and Marvelous Melmo.

This research of mine may have some mistakes (correct me if I’m wrong), but I believe it’s enough.

I did not have included the references and parodies shown in non-MG shows, because I think they weren’t relevant to the researches I made.

I think this post goes for show how much I love the Magical Girl plot, no matter clichéd or overrated it can be! And please: don’t go around saying that every MG is a Sailor Moon ripoff…

One more thing:

⭐~Stay magical, be positive and keep the faith!~⭐

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Neptune:5th house 💞🦄💞

-Possess a strong mystical creativity

-Natural ability to play roles can manifest as artistic talent in drama/acting

-Pleasure can come from Neptunian activities like artistic pursuits,recreational drug/alcohol use,or spiritual/mystical activities

-You probably try to make the sex/romance look how they do in movies

-Great love of music as well as Cinema/Movies
-Children are emotionally (and psychically)
sensitive, intuitive ,possibly artistic

-Sometimes this placement manifests as adopting a child,like Uranus in the 5th

-Sometimes there can be mysterious circumstances related to the birth of the child

-Have trouble seeing your children clearly, can over-idealize them which sets you up for disillusionment,and can perceive lovers the same way

-Romantics;dream of love

-A lot of seducing with this placement (could go both ways)

-You probably put up with a lot of shit from your partner

-Secret romances are common with this placement

-Boundaries can be unclear in love which can make things confusing

-Attracts victim-savior relationships where one feels like they need to save/help the other in some way(or vice versa), this can manifest in many ways like having a lover with a drug problem,a lover who is crippled/disabled in some way ,or sexually confused are all examples of how this placement can manifest

-I read that this placement can have intuitive insight into the stock market in some circumstances,however that works??

Aside from mushrooms and mycology, one of my other interests is curatorial critique and looking at how objects (art and non-art objects) are presented in physical spaces, how stories and value are created through different framing devices, and how physical architecture and social construct play a role in how viewers move through a space and process what they’re seeing…so I can ultimately analyze how the physical presentation can lend to the interpretation and understanding of the objects or how it can obstruct understanding, and whether or not the institution’s curatorial decisions benefit and educate the public. so I want to make it a point to visit and analyze as many museums and art spaces as possible because I think it will help me understand how these institutions function (or don’t function). I’m working on a museum list for southern california so if you have any museum recommendations, let me know! I don’t even have like…the free time to be pursuing new projects but like…I want to have a goal and excuse for seeing new local things. and it can totally be a slow goal! I think I can see at least 5 museums by the end of this year?




Pseudo-intellectual Pricks

He’s most likely educated, possibly a master’s degree in rhetoric. He could be a new atheist, possibly libertarian, most likely white. If you can’t smell his smugness, you can recognize him by the following tropes below.

Next time they use one of these on you, don’t waste your time. Copy and paste. Let them know they’re stereotyped.

The Pacifist

  • The guy who’s always making that bigoted comment on your thread, and always ends with, “Let’s agree to disagree.” He may follow up with a disingenuous attempt at finding common ground.
  • Example: I’m just saying, that if poor people worked harder, they wouldn’t have to depend on the government. You obviously don’t think so. No need to get upset. Let’s just agree to disagree. We can certainly find common ground with the fact that there are definitely some poor people that work very hard.

The Freedom Fighter

  • More indignant than the smug pacifist, he feels you’re taking away his right to have an opinion.
  • Example: I’m allowed to have an opinion about homosexuality. I’m allowed to express my beliefs. I’m allowed to disagree without being attacked. 

The Anecdotally Privileged

  • He’s white (and male) and he’s right. No matter what your experience is, his experience trumps it.
  • Example: Well, I lived in New York City for three years and the NYPD has always treated me with respect.

The Wounded

  • He responds with the old shock and awe routine about being misunderstood.
  • Example: You know who I am. I’m not a bad person. How can you call me a sexist?

The Oppression Authority

  • He married into oppression (or is friends with the oppressed or spent time working among the oppressed), so now his opinion should have gravitas.
  • Example: My wife’s family is Mexican, and they also think illegal immigrants should be deported.

The Call for Civility

  • He indirectly insults your racial, gender, sexual identity, spiritual beliefs, or simply your intelligence. When you call him out on his bigotry, he is (huff huff) insulted. Then he plays the “call for civility.”
  • Example: I haven’t called you any names, but you called me a bigot. If you want to persuade people, you need to treat people with civility.

The Logical Fallacist

  • His go-to is the ad hominem. When you point out that he may not understand a racial problem because he’s white, he screams, “ad hominem!” and runs around with his underwear on his head. Another favorite is the straw man, where he claims you’ve ignored his real argument and are attacking an incorrect version of his argument.
  • Example: You’ve misunderstood my main point. I was talking about the prison industrial complex, not racism. Straw man!

The Claim of Ignorance/Innocence

  • He claims that he’s confused about your opinion on a personal matter and wants to discuss it. Don’t be fooled. He knows exactly what he wants to say and is trying to lead you down a path where he can claim you’ve made a logical fallacy. Then he will claim innocence again–that he was simply trying to have a discussion. He will call for civility. You can’t win.
  • Example: I’m confused. It’s just not natural to be with someone of the same sex.

The Rational Male

  • He is calm, collected, and detached. He understands reason and logic. If you make it personal or emotional, that’s it. Conversation over.
  • Example: Simply put, I fail to see the logic of religion. All religions are the opiate of the masses. But there is one religion that kills people if you disagree with them. And that’s Islam. You don’t see Buddhist bombers, do you? Well, if you’re going to become emotional, then we can’t have this conversation. 

The Neutral Judge

  • He can view the situation from a neutral point of view, implying you cannot. Sure, he understands your POV. Because he’s neutral and wiser than you, he also understands the other side. Because of this ability to discern such (literally) black and white issues with no partiality, he is a better judge than you are.
  • Example: I followed the entire George Zimmerman case and listened to all the evidence presented. Though I find it all tragic, I have to agree with the jurors. You might have anecdotal evidence about racism in the law, but the law is the law.

not to offense or anything but exactly how do people ship vados and champa like ??? i mean i can get why some can ship beerus and whis because they’ve had more moments together, they enjoy some of the same stuff together and lowkey value the other’s opinion on a brief topic.

vados and champa have none of that. from the very first scene they have together back in the RF arc, its been nothing but “vados do that” “wouldn’t you?” “heck no”, so much sass, champa treats her like a literate servant (and yes i know angels are suppose to be servants to their respective gods but at least beerus respected whis to a certain point whereas champa has NO respect for vados least until she provides) and vados of course doesn’t really care because she’s just doing what she was assigned, and the destruction of her god has no consequence on her. champa repetitively rejects her opinions on events, doesn’t listen to her advice, the list goes on.

and yes, i know they are not meant to be shipped and its simply to be a servant-takes-orders relationship but even still, how do people manage to ship them ?? am i missing something? beerus and whis had that bathtub/blush scene, which i can see to justify their shipping, but universe 6 ?

this was meant to be a small rant but there’s so many questions i have.

Parts of Speech IV- Demonstratives

Demonstratives show which noun is being spoken about, such as “This student” and “That student" 
There are a set of demonstratives that are followed by a noun, and a set that is followed by the particle ‘wa’.

These are followed by a noun:

  • この ko-no   This
  • その so-no   That
  • あの a-no   That over there
  • どの do-no   Which
  • こんな ko-n-na   This kind
  • そんな  so-n-na   That kind
  • あんな  a-n-na   That kind over there
  • どんな do-n-na   What kind

These are not to be confused with pronouns. 

Example sentences:

このほんはいいです。ko-no ho-n wa i-i de-su
This book is good.

そのほんはおおきいso-no ho-n wa o-o-ki-i
That book is big.

あのたてものぎんこうだ。a-no ta-te-mo-no wa gi-n-ko-u da
That building over there is a bank.

どのすしはおいしいですか。do-no su-shi wa o-i-shi-i de-su-ka
Which sushi is tasty?

こんながくせい konna gakusei
This kind of student

どんなひと   donna hito
What kind of person

These are followed by the particle 'wa’

  • これ ko-re  This
  • それ so-re  That
  • あれ a-re   That over there
  • どれ do-re   Which

Example sentences:

これはほんだ。kore wa hon da
This is a book.

それはドアです。 sore wa DOA* desu
That is a door.

あれはきっさてんだ。are wa kissaten da
That over there is a café

どれはいいがくせいですか。  dore wa ii gakusei desu ka
Which is a good student?

*DOA (Door) is in caps because it is in Katakana.

There are other words that follow the 'Ko, So, A, Do’ pattern. Such as:

  • ここ ko-ko  Here
  • そこ   so-ko  There
  • あそこ   a-so-ko  Over there
  • どこ   do-ko   Where
  • こちら  ko-chi-ra   This way
  • そちら   so-chi-ra   That way
  • あちら   a-chi-ra    That way over there
  • どちら   do-chi-ra   Which way
  • こう  ko-u   Like this
  • そう  so-u  Like that
  • ああ  a-a   Like that over there
  • どう   do-u  Like what/ How

A common expression in Japanese is そうです (soudesu) or そうですか (soudesuka), meaning "It’s like that.”/ “That’s right.”  and “Is that so?” respectively.

(Don’t forget you can ask me if you have any questions, follow for more Japanese and delete this text if you don’t want it when you reblog. Please do not repost.)

The Sun & Moon & Shipping

Let’s talk about archetypes.

In a two-person romantic relationship, each party tends to fill a distinct role, regardless of the gender/sex of the people involved. (This is not exclusive to romantic relationships; it can apply any relationship, in a one-on-one setting.)

Some like to call the two roles masculine/feminine, but that has a lot of problematic connotations. I prefer the terms projecting/receiving(reflecting). 

One partner is relatively more vocal, direct, and outgoing. This partner is also more likely to initiate first contact, actively pursue a relationship, and in many ways, take the lead in emotional matters. This is the “projecting” component of the relationship. They are more likely to come up with ideas/plans for the relationship and seek permission/approval from their partner.

The other person is relatively more quiet, reserved, and introverted. This party is likely to be hesitant, suspicious, and not as eager to enter an arrangement. They take the logical/intellectual lead in the relationship, and receive/reflect the emotions of their partner. They analyze, consider, and approve or disapprove of any plans/ideas their partner has for the relationship.

(Note that neither partner is “inferior” or “submissive”- they both have important, complementary roles integral to sustaining a healthy, balanced relationship. Also, of course the ‘receptive’ partner can initiate/plan and the ‘projecting’ can be logical but it’s just not as common. None of these are ‘rules’- just patterns/observations. )

No one is 100% projecting or receiving. It depends on the personalities involved. However, if you examine your own relationships (as well as your favorite fictional ones) you’ll notice a clear pattern. 

In one relationship, you might have been the one to start things off, do most of the talking, etc. In another, the other person was the first to approach you, while you do most of the listening, etc. (like, even with friends/family, I’ve noticed this; with some, I’m the “receptive” party and with others, I’m the “projecting”)

It’s pretty obvious how the projecting/receiving (or positive/negative or yin/yang) archetypes apply to the sun and the moon: the sun gives off light, which the moon receives and reflects

So when it comes to ships (esp m/m ships) it’s not about who “tops” - although that also has a clear parallel to relationship archetypes that I’m not going to spell out but you get it yeah- but more about the role each person is naturally inclined to occupy. 

idgaf who’s ‘topping’ but for whatever reason, that person also fills the “projecting” role in the relationship in fics; I prefer NS because it feels more in character, but there are plenty of SNS/SN fics where Naruto still takes on the ‘projecting’ role- If you look at canon (and remember that he is literally the sun) is just makes more sense

In case you’re still confused here are more examples of ships, along with each person’s roles 

SakuIno- Ino is the one to initiate the relationship, Sakura hesitantly ‘receives’ her feelings and (for a while??) reciprocates them

SasuSaku- (no I’m not a fan but) Here, Sakura pursues a relationship and Sasuke just… goes along with it… kinda…………..

LeeSaku- Unlike in SasuSaku, Sakura is the reluctant (understatement) ‘receptive’ party while Lee made the wild emotional declarations. 

NaruSaku- For the most part, Naruto is the initiator, more emotional, and the one to seek approval. (kind of changes in part 2??) 

Note how, in each of these examples, Sakura takes on a different role regardless of the her gender or the other person’s. It really depends on the relationship.

Also bonus: 

KakaGai- Gai is the one to declare their rivalry, he’s clearly the more vocal/emotional of the two, and Kakashi more or less accepts the declaration

People naturally find this type of contrast in roles/personalities appealing. We prefer complements to copies, which is why ships like SasuNeji/GaaSasu or KibaNaru are pretty unpopular, while NaruSasu/NaruGaa/NaruNeji are like, everywhere. 

In fact, this is the whole reason SNS is so appealing: Sasuke and Naruto PERFECTLY embody the receptive/projecting yin/yang archetypes in every way. They represent the type of contrast we seek in relationships. 

(so srsly, the sex part of it doesn’t matter, I just want more fics where Naruto and Sasuke are in character and this is kind of, kind of a guide for that also happy NS week month or whatever)

anonymous asked:

Heyo :3 , I really like your Shapeshifter AU and read all your answerd questions. And then I got a question myself. If Jesse was raised by Gabe , who is a feline, has any feline traits? That would for example confuse the hell out of Hanzo?Or does he reacts to Jack differently bc he knows how lions behave! Also to the courting question does Jesse has a nice singing voice and does Hanzo reciprocate any of his courting? Sorry if asked to much and thank you for answering <3

Hello there! Awww you read them all, we are so happy to know that you are enjoying it so much! \ (•◡•) / ❤ *virtual hugs to you!*
After the [last picture] your questions bring up some details that might need a detailed explanation :)

Jesse took a lot of feline habits from Gabe, starting from the long naps during the middle of the day xD He also learnt to prowl during his hunts and developed the famous “feline patience”, wich is opposite to the canine impetuosity.
Hanzo is more suspicious than confused about his feline habits. He know that McCree came from the Deadlock Pack because he have the mark branded in his arm, but the Deadlock Pack is 100% composed by canines so he shouldn’t know a single things about felines. Jesse doesn’t talk at all about the time he’s been with Gabe.
To be honest, Jesse is a cunning little shit when the story start, so he do act differently in reaction to who’s have in front of him. Knowing how lions act surely advantage him in some aspects, but he’s also a little too much overconfident so he thinks that, just because he know Gabe and they’re both lions, Jack will be the same thing but in a weakest version (since that he’s a beta and Gabe was alpha)… he couldn’t be more wrong (¬‿¬)

About the courting questions: When they get to the point of the story where they both have a terrible crush for eachothers, Jesse have indeed a beautiful voice, but Hanzo doesn’t appreciated it anyway because serenades are way to “flashy” and he’s terribly embarassed by the public displays of affection lol
Hanzo feel guilty everytime that he realize he’s falling for Jesse.
He’s basically:

Originally posted by runwithrockets

My gf got into wow recently and has played mmo’s in the past. But whenever I try to explain where to go on the map she gets confused. Example: Heading to Darkmoon Faire for the first time “Okay we gotta go to Thunderbluff that is in the center of the map” “I clicked on Moonglade” “That is a ten minute ride back and forth” 5 mins later “Oh I see it now you meant the middle middle” “What did you think I meant?” “The top middle”

movie marathon w/ bts

taehyung: scary movie marathon;; non-stop screaming and jumping and spilling of popcorn all over the floor and lots of tight hugging and yelling at the tv screen

jungkook: a scary movie at first;; him insisting on holding your hand and cuddling you from behind bc “u’re so scared” “jungkook i’m no–” then changing to action movies bc he’s a scaredy cat

yoongi: falling asleep while watching a bunch of new releases and not waking up until the sun went down but then getting up for a little and moving to sleep on the bed

hoseok: watching every type of movie;; scary (non-stop screaming), action (death grips), comedy (laughing until he falls on the ground), and romance (where he thinks he can serenade you better than the guy in the movie)

namjoon: deep-confusing-plot movies (another example: Inception); where you’re confused 24/7 but he’s just too intent on watching + when you ask him at the end he explains it and you’re just more confused

seokjin: feeding you snacks and shifting positions constantly to get more food and accidentally missing your mouth when feeding you during the climax of the movie

jimin: wrapping his arm around you but getting bored in the middle so he’s tapping your shoulder to see if you catch him then u looking at him like “yah, jimin i–” and him pecking your lips before smiling shyly to himself