Food For Thought

Instead of teaching the same shit year after year, I wish health classes would bring awareness to sexual/romantic orientation and gender identity. There is so much for society to learn about for both. Maybe then there would be more acceptance and people wouldn’t have to spend their lives struggling to figure themselves out on their own.


“I really wish they bred German Shepherds like they used to”  My 6 year old German Shepherd Dog compared to past Sieger winners. 

1951 Sieger VA1 Rolf vom Osnabrücker Land (born 1947)

1955 Sieger VA1 Alf vom Nordfelsen (born 1949)

1972 Sieger VA1 Marko vom Cellerland (born 1968)

1976 Sieger VA1 Arak von der Holledau (born 1972)

compared to Trent (born 2009)

I love stories about unconventional heroes tho

story about goblins/untrained everymen forming an adventuring party? omg YES. story about superpowered children who don’t fully understand the implications of the plot happening around them? YES PLEASE. story about the extras in any genre, any situation, who hang lampshades on the fact that the main characters and the things that happen to them are super frickin uncanny? GIVE IT TO ME RIGHT NOW

my interest goes up ENORMOUSLY if more than one/the majority of the main cast is female too which kind of fits the unconventional hero mold as well since women aren’t generally written in main hero roles except as the token/exceptional woman


Katara, destroying the patriarchy.


Nice weather.

Although the pollen is 2 inches thick, the temperature was so perfect all day long. I decided to go on a stroll and by the time I put on the outfit above and actually looked at it in the mirror, I was a bit skeptical. It was the perfect outfit for the kind of weather we were having, but… Idk.

I thought well maybe I just need a friend, so I texted Barry. A bit later we got together, he brought his camera too! We went to east Atlanta, we didn’t realize it was going to be so busy, lol. I was already feeling pretty self conscious, but somehow being there with Barry snapped me out of it and I just went into work mode. Barry said “lets shoot at the cross walk!” I didn’t hesitate and said “lets do it!”

There were several people sitting outside on the patios, enjoying the nice weather with their drinks and meals. Then here I come, feeling half naked up to the cross walk. People on the street, in their cars, walking by… I might as well have been the paid entertainment, lets just put it that way. So many eyes, all tuned in on me.

This is when I think to myself “Oh my gosh, here we go again. I’m going to have to slay it.”

I waited for the right away to cross the street, for what felt like an hour! Perfectly poised, in some ridiculous pose of course. Finally, it was my go! I looked at Barry, he had game face on, so I TURNED IT!!!.

I walked hard across the street, caught my hat in the wind flawlessly and everything. I even gave a little giggle while trying to keep the wind from blowing my skirt up to high, and it worked! I slayed that crosswalk, and I am not mad about it.

People stared, yes they did! But I didn’t care, I worked it!
…. And that is all.

Moral of the story?
I did not get to this point over night.
I did not emerge on the other side without my scars.
I did not get to where I am today without making mistakes.
I was not always able to shut out my fears.
I was not always able to call on a friend like Barry.
I was not always able to be successful in the things I am now.

There was a time in my life when I had nothing to live for.
There was time in my life when I didn’t love myself.
There was a time in my life when I had no hope.

But somehow along the way, I discovered hope. I learned how to love myself, I am learning how to love others. The people that I needed in my life showed up, I walked with them, I learned from them. I became one of them and each day I grow more confident. Things take time and experience to learn and understand!

Give yourself credit for where you are in life. Think about any and every single accomplishment you had today! EVERYTHING, from just brushing your teeth to creating a new cure! Give yourself credit, you deserve it! Take things one day at a time, they will get better as long as you never give up!

-Elliott Alexzander

Latest White House feature: Gender-neutral restroom

President Barack Obama’s staff and visitors now have the option of using a gender-neutral restroom, a White House spokesman said Wednesday — the latest in a series of symbolic steps the Obama administration has taken to work the priorities of the LGBT community into its broader themes of inclusiveness and tolerance.

The newly designated restroom is an example of how the administration has been advancing the discussion by raising the profile of transgender issues, an area of debate that is especially hotly contested right now. The restroom will be located in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building, where much of the White House staff works.

“An all-gender restroom is also available in the Eisenhower Executive Office Building, which provides guests and staff an additional option,” said White House spokesman Jeff Tiller.

It’s a follow-up on Obama’s executive order, which went into effect Wednesday, banning discrimination against gay and transgender employees of companies that contract with the federal government.

“The White House allows staff and guests to use restrooms consistent with their gender identity, which is in keeping with the administration’s existing legal guidance on this issue and consistent with what is required by the executive order that took effect today for federal contractors,” Tiller also noted.

Read more:


I just found THIS AMAZING WEBSITE called Trans Birth.  It is “a directory created to connect trans* and gender non-conforming people and their families to midwives, OBGYNs, and doulas who provide welcoming care to our communities.”

WHHHAAATTTT???  I’m sending them a blurb as we speak so that I can be listed on their directory.

Providers - sign up!!  It’s quick and easy.  Let’s make this an awesome resource for trans people!!

When I started my music career, I was a maid. I used to clean houses. My mother was a proud janitor. My stepfather, who raised me like his very own, worked at the post office and my father was a trashman. They all wore uniforms and that’s why I stand here today, in my black and white, and I wear my uniform to honor them.

This is a reminder that I have work to do. I have people to uplift. I have people to inspire. And today, I wear my uniform proudly as a Cover Girl. I want to be clear, young girls, I didn’t have to change who I was to become a Cover Girl. I didn’t have to become perfect because I’ve learned throughout my journey that perfection is the enemy of greatness.”

- The amazing Janelle Monáe



Get it right!

No, the pictures above are not of a boy in a dress.
No, the pictures above are not of someone who cross dresses.
No, the pictures above are not of a cisgender individual.

People like to throw my pictures around the internet with a plethora of incorrect references as to who or what I am, but let me be clear about something. I purposely do not watermark or brand my name on any of my photos because I don’t really care about people knowing my name. What I care about is being a living example of a gender non-conforming individual that is walking the world, following their dreams and living a fulfilling life. There are way to many non-binary individuals out in the world who think a fulfilling life is just impossible to obtain unless they conform to societies binary gender standards. I want to be proof that in fact, a fulfilling life is obtainable, and it can be for other Gender Variant individuals as well.

You can miss-gender someone in many more way than just by saying or writing the wrong pronoun in reference to someone. Saying that I am a boy in a dress is miss-gendering me. The correct thing to say would be “They were assigned male at birth, however they are gender fluid and like to wear dresses.” By saying that I am a cross dresser, you are assuming that I am cisgender and enjoy wearing feminine clothes as a fetish. I am not a cross dresser. What I am is an individual who does not limit my personal style to that of the binary standard, I open myself up to ALL clothing options, ALWAYS, not just as a fetish.

It is important to know the difference.
It is important to respect other differences.
It is important to be yourself, no matter if you’re respected for it or not, but always be prepared to remind people if you need too.

I am Gender Fluid.
He/She/They/Them pronouns.
If I have never met you, please use gender neutral pronouns.

-Elliott Alexzander

do you ever want to go give your younger self a hug for internalizing so much bullshit