conflict party

Some thoughts on the Maheswaran mother-daughter relationship

Connie looked so much like Dr. Maheswaran in this episode.

It’s adorable because in the canon time of the show, she’s picked up on her mother’s mannerisms in the way that a decade of living with her did not. It’s shows how much they’ve grown together as a family, and how their relationship has changed.

Considering this was how she looked in her first appearance:

There’s a marked change not only in design but also in her expressions.

And it’s been hinted at before, but in this scene, she so explicitly worries about her mother the way her mother worries about her. It’s very touching, especially because we know they started out caring about each other but not understanding one another. Because you  can love someone and never try to understand them. It leads to a lot of conflict but both parties can still come out of it feeling like they did what was “best” for the other.

Connie used to think it was better that her mother knew nothing so the latter wouldn’t worry about her. And Dr. Maheswaran wanted to be on top of everything so that Connie would have an easier life. 

What we learn from them is that to be able to love someone better, we open up to them and let them open up to us. Connie used to act as though her parents were infallible, or at the least, able to manage themselves. Over time, and in this episode, she’s shown to be worried about them because she knows they’re human beings too. They can get hurt, make mistakes, and put themselves in danger.

Knowing these things puts the other person in perspective. It makes their place in our lives mean more. And it makes it harder to take the people we love for granted.

So I would say Connie and her mother interact a lot more now. They probably talk about each other’s days. Notice how even Dr. Maheswaran talked about everything that happened to her prior to picking Connie up. She believed her daughter deserved an explanation. And that’s a far cry from the mother who would proudly bring out the “Because I said so,” and “We’re doing this because we love you,” cards in Fusion Cuisine.

Not everyone has this experience with their parents. Sometimes things just happen to drive parents and children apart. But in their case it worked out, and now they each have one more person who will always be there for them.

When Connie told her mother that Steven just came from outer space, there was no incredulous reaction. Only an, “Oh?” in an interested and calm tone. 

They’re both trying. And I’m certain they still have their share of disagreement, but it’s dealt with in a much healthier way now.

  • bachelor parties that are “prison” themed (because marriage is a prison??? get it??? GET IT???)
  • “it’s not a real relationship unless you fight once a day!!!!”
  • <proposes to girl> <marries girl> <spends rest of life complaining about being married to girl>
  • “today my wife asked me to go with her… TO THE MALL! WOMEN AMIRITE?!”
  • men who have been married to a woman for 10+ years who STILL freak at the mere mention of periods
  • that whole “men are from mars women are from venus” bullshit that happened in the 90s (which, i may add, was based off a book written by somebody who claimed to have credentials he didn’t really have and has had all his theories debunked)
  • women being expected to cook and clean for their husbands and remind them to bathe and essentially act like their mothers
  • women being expected to take their husbands’ last name but people absolutely balking at the idea of the man taking the woman’s
  • wives on tv who are portrayed as shrewish killjoys for… expecting the husband to pitch in and help with the housework once and a while
  • tv marriages where the couples seem to borderline hate each other
  • tv marriages that are based entirely on manipulation, name-calling, and nonstop fighting and most of the conflict comes from both parties refusing to just sit down and talk about it or to compromise
  • entire reality tv shows based on dysfunctional marriages where the couples goes on tv to fight it out

i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again: straight people are fucking weird

Mercury + Mars

Originally posted by rexisky

Aquarius Mercury+ Aries Mars: Strong opinions of the Mercury mesh with the passion, impulse, and boldness of the Mars.

Aquarius Mercury+ Taurus Mars: Stubborn and earthy energies feeding into an unconventional mentality. Has unique, firm stances on issues.

Aquarius Mercury+ Gemini Mars: Energetic and active in a fight against whatever they think is an issue. Wants to be all about communication in conflict and strives for this. 

Aquarius Mercury+ Cancer Mars: Sensitive, powerful energies are masked or sometimes restrained with cool, intellectual communication.

Aquarius Mercury+ Leo Mars: Fights for their right to party. Conflicts usually revolve around self-expression, freedom, or respect.

Aquarius Mercury+ Virgo Mars: Probably won’t see crazy outburst but they do give a mean glare and unexpected verbal smack.

Aquarius Mercury+ Libra Mars: Looks for peace and harmony but finds it hard to accept that others versions of peace may be very different.

Aquarius Mercury+ Scorpio Mars: Temperamental yet aloof in conflict situations. Good communicator but pulls back due to emotional intensity.

Aquarius Mercury+ Sagittarius Mars: “She’s a rebel, she’s a saint. She’s the salt of the earth and she’s dangerous.She’s a rebel, vigilante”.

Aquarius Mercury+ Capricorn Mars: Tries to not let things get to them, but can be cold, calculated, and cruel when faced with intense conflict.

Aquarius Mercury+ Aquarius Mars: Unpredictable but will never let you see them sweat, get red in the face, cry, or grimace.

Aquarius Mercury+ Pisces Mars: Wants to cry but can’t, idealistic towards issues and intellect, believes they fight spiritual battles.

Depending on what Houses these planets are in could make a big difference, keep that in mind.

The complete list of punishable offenses committed inside Wayne Manor, October 2016:

  • bled in the muffin batter, failed to state that the resulting muffins were unfit for general consumption
  • led a sibling to believe that an offensive phrase was a common colloquial greeting (note: sibling used the aforementioned phrase on a parent to poor effect) (further note: sibling was also penalized for vowing revenge in unnervingly graphic terms)
  • bought a fast-food chain without permission
  • stole a month’s worth of groceries, left the country
  • unnecessary conflict intensification (note: guilty party repetitively asked “are you just gonna take that?” until violence broke out, videotaped the resulting fistfight)
  • attempted to construct a secret tunnel out of the manor grounds, disrupted a parent’s nap with the sound of heavy construction equipment
  • intentionally startled a sibling in a darkened hallway to the detriment of both parties and the interior decor
  • escalated the candy corn debate into a physical confrontation
  • altered Bruce’s JLA file from “powers: none” to “powers: white privilege,” refused to apologize
  • ran with two knives, one sword, four throwing stars, a harpoon gun, and a pair of scissors

So I’ve already made a post on different kinds of RPG characters.  Here’s a reference for different kinds of RPG players!

Actors: Actors get really into the RP part of RPGs.  They tend to have detailed backstories, thoroughly analyzed motivations, and a unique set of mannerisms for each character they portray.  They seek out interactions with NPCs or other party members and tend to stay in character a lot.

Originally posted by thranduile

On the Dark Side, Actors can become Scene Stealers.  Scene Stealers are attention seekers who tend to lack patience when the spotlight isn’t on them.  They tend to talk over players and often instigate problems, often with the excuse of “What?  I’m just staying true to my character!”

Originally posted by maya-pay-attention-to-me

Power Gamers: These players love optimizing their characters, usually for combat.  They tend to be minmaxers and metagamers who play RPGs like something you can win just as much as a story you can experience.  Powergamers do often possess a great zeal for the tactics and mechanics of the game, and live for the moments they can face overwhelming odds and turn challenge into victory. 

Originally posted by doafhat

On the Dark Side, Power Gamers can turn into Munchkins. Munchkins couldn’t care less about the story, the roleplaying or the feelings of their teammates.  They want to win, and win harder then everyone else so they can get as much kills, loot, and XP as possible.  Many munchkins cross the line into cheating, by fudging rolls and trying to use exploits in the mechanics.

Originally posted by disneylandwheredreamscometrue

Lorers and Explorers: These players are in it for the story, world building and environment.  They will challenge DMs to come up with richly detailed worlds with lots of in depth history and atmosphere. They also tend to be note takers and cartographers, keeping close track of every bit of information they believe might be valuable.  Most likely member of the group to be “writing a book”.

Originally posted by br0kenactions

This kind of attention to detail can be great, but is also shared by Rules Lawyers.  The rules lawyer has memorized the game’s handbook and will generally interject whenever they see something that contradicts it.  Rules Lawyers can be useful as references for how to handle less common situations in RPGs.  But they also tend to argue with the DMs when they disagree with their decisions, even when the DM is motivated to “break” the rules in order to make the game a better experience for the players.

Originally posted by ninjadetective

Deliberators are motivated to come up with creative or well thought out solutions to problems.  They are often fun and well intentioned, but they do sometimes drag out decisions for too long, agonizing over the pros and cons of each choice.

Originally posted by dama-do-lago

On the flip side, Firestarters tend to have very little patience for deliberation and are always looking for the action.  Firestarters have a lot of enthusiasm for RPGs, but tend to cause problems or derail stories when they get bored.

Originally posted by irish-faerie

Party Moms: Thus called because they go out of their way to take care of and help their party members, Party Moms are a valuable part of any gaming team.  Whether it’s making sure there’s always snacks for everyone to enjoy, helping others level their characters or smoothing out player conflicts, Party Moms can be relied on to get it done.

Originally posted by kickassandrelax

Party Gamers: Thus called because they’re there to party.  These players may be interested in the game, but they’re just as, if not more interested in hanging out with their friends and/or getting wasted.  Fun to have around, but it may not be a good idea to rely on their character in game too much.

Originally posted by drugsandtvshowsallday

Bored Gamers: For whatever reason, these players just aren’t really into your game.  Maybe they’re just there for a significant other, maybe they don’t like the system.  It’s not always easy to say.  Can often be found using their personal electronic devices and not really paying attention.

Originally posted by winchester-jazz

Newbies: Newbies have little experience with RPGs and sometimes lack confidence.  Their unfamiliarity with the rules is often more than balanced out by their enthusiasm and delight in discovering the joys of the game.

Originally posted by imlookingforaplacetofall

n00bs, on the other hand, talk a lot of trash, but are generally less experienced and skilled then they claim to be.  These players tend to whine a lot when things don’t go their way.  

Originally posted by misterjakes

Finally, a type the tumblr crowd should be familiar with, the Shippers.  A shipper is often in it for the role-playing, but mostly when the roleplaying leads to romance.  Table Top RPGs can be a great outlet for those thus inclined, just make sure the other player is okay with it. :)

Originally posted by carryonhowell

Please note that these are my interpretations on these types, and that it’s possible to be multiple or none of them.  What other player types have you encountered?

high school/genderbend au, because why the fuck not

“Okay, here’s what you’re going to do.”

Marinette nodded sharply, standing at attention with her bag clutched to her stomach and her veins running hot.

Alya looked her in the eye, firm as steel, and continued, “You’re going to go over there, you’re going to tell Adrienne your birthday is on the twenty-third, and then you’re going to invite her to your party.“

Marinette nodded again, feeling the tips of her ears flush as she played her mission out in her mind.

Talk to Adrienne. Clearly, and without stuttering, for fear of giving the girl still more ammunition against her. Invite her to her party. Talk to her more. Make her laugh so Marinette could listen to that melodious laugh again so she’d like Marinette more. Gain the trust of the most popular girl in school. Be ~one~ with the In Crowd. Get her to spill her secrets (green eyes sparkling and lips curved into that smile and a little lock of hair escaping from behind her ear—) and…


Well, keep them.

Until Adrienne gave her reason not to, of course. She was a Popular Girl. She probably ate girls like Marinette (clumsy girls who couldn’t tell blush from foundation) alive.

Marinette had shared a class with Chloé for four years. Marinette knew all about Popular Girls.

(She’d never been friends with one as pretty as Adrienne, though. Adrienne was an actual supermodel. At fifteen. Marinette was a little bit… intimidated.

She’d never met a supermodel willing to hand over their umbrella to an unfortunate classmate in the middle of a thunderstorm, either. Marinette kind of wanted to know what kind of supermodel could be so… kind. Color Marinette curious, okay.)

“And then,” said Alya, interrupting Marinette’s internal rambling before she could work herself into hyperventilating, “You’re going to talk to her at the party, and the day after, and then you’re going to get her phone number—”

“And then we’ll be friends,” Marinette finished, satisfied.


No, that wasn’t right.

She was going to be in the In Crowd, yeah, that was it. It really had nothing to do with Adrienne and her hypnotic green eyes at all

Alya was giving her a very strange look.

“’Friendship?’ Is that what the kids call it these days?”

“Look,” Marinette grumbled, feeling the sudden need to defend her slip. “I’m not completely heartless. I’d totally be Adrienne’s friend.”

Alya had that one look on her face, the one that said she didn’t even know where to start with Marinette, and was kind of amused about it.

“Right then,” she said, and Marinette was semi-aware of being laughed at from somewhere deep in Alya’s psyche. “You go… become very good friends. And, you know, I hear Seven Minutes in Heaven is pretty good for forging… friendships. Maybe you should add that to your party roster.”

Marinette was pretty sure Seven Minutes in Heaven was actually used to get people to make out, but Alya had probably been to a lot more parties than Marinette had. She probably knew better.

With this in mind, Marinette nodded seriously. “I will. Thank you, Alya.”

Alya looked like she wanted to say something, but then reconsidered at the last second. “Yeah, yeah. Just go ask her if she wants to come.”

Marinette choked, flushing hot from the inside out and pushing away a sudden, unwanted invasion of distinctly M-rated images. “I can’t say that!”

Alya squinted at her, silently mouthing half a question that looked sort of like what the fuck? and then blinked.

Then smacked her forehead.

Friends, she says,” Marinette thought she could make out from the exhausted mumble that followed, then Alya lifted her head and said, at a perfectly audible volume, “Go ask her if she wants to go to your party. Not your house, not your bedroom, and don’t proposition her. Just. Ask her. To your birthday party.”



Marinette rubbed the back of her head and grinned gratefully at her best friend. “Thanks Alya. You’re the best.”

Alya slung an arm around her shoulders. “Yeah, yeah. Thank me after you get that pussy.”

“Get that friend,” Marinette corrected. “’Pussy’ is a really bad thing to call someone, Alya.”

Alya just sighed.


Quick Sabra and Shatila Massacre Facts:

I should note that some of this is very gruesome and can be triggering to read:

  • Sabra and Shatila were Palestinian refugee camps in Lebanon
  • President-elect of Lebanon Bachir Gamayel was assassinated shortly after winning the election
  • Israeli forces told his party [The Phalange Party] that Palestinians were responsible for the assassination [which was a blatant lie to stir conflict]
  • The Phalange party is a Lebanese Ultra-nationalist party composed primarily of Christians
  • Israeli forces surrounded the camps, set up checkpoints, and barred any Palestinians from leaving for any reason.
  • Israeli forces took over the ten-story high Kuwaiti embassy that overlooked the entire camp
  • Israeli forces allowed Phalangist militants to enter the camp and provided flares throughout the night to keep the camp lit for them, as they proceeded for two whole days to slaughter Palestinians indiscriminately
  • Homes were bombed with people still inside, families were executed in the streets, people were butchered, all while Israeli forces overlooked the massacre and continued to bar any Palestinians from leaving or foreign forces from entering.
  • The lowest estimates put the number of Palestinians massacred at 762, while other estimates range from 2000-3500.
  • The Phalangists began attempting to cover up the massacre by hiding or burning the bodies, but several journalists managed to sneak into the camp
  • These journalists described witnessing severely mutilated bodies, young boys had been castrated, people had been scalped, and many had the Christian cross carved into their bodies
  • Dead women were found in their homes with their skirts and dresses hitched up and legs spread apart, in some cases even broken and disfigured, with clear evidence of numerous rapes having taken place, during or after-which the women were killed
  • “I saw dead women in their houses with their skirts up to their waists and their legs spread apart; dozens of young men shot after being lined up against an alley wall; children with their throats slit, a pregnant woman with her stomach chopped open, her eyes still wide open, her blackened face silently screaming in horror; countless babies and toddlers who had been stabbed or ripped apart and who had been thrown into garbage piles.” –American Journalist Janet Stevens
  • Israeli Defense Minister Ariel Sharon found guilty of bearing responsibility for allowing the massacre to happen, and was forced to resign
  • Ariel Sharon eventually went on to become Prime Minister of Israel
  • Ariel Sharon has a history of slaughtering and massacring Palestinian refugees, and routinely killed those sleeping in their huts in the late 40’s and early 50’s
  • Despite his responsibility for the Sabra and Shatila massacre and his participation in other massacres during the Jewish army’s ethnic cleansing of Palestine, Ariel Sharon is still hailed as a hero throughout Israel
  • Several days after the assassination, Habib Shartouni, a Lebanese Nationalist and Maronite Christian confessed to having carried out the assassination.

Otomate Release Schedule 2015 - 170815

So I’ve been super slack. Excuse me guys :( 


  • 20th - Reine Des Fleurs
  • 27th - Juuzaengi 1+2


  • 17th - Yonohana Spring
  • 25th - Hakuoki Shinkai 


  • 22nd - KK - Wonderful School Life


  • 19th - Bad Apple Wars


(Rest easy wallet…rest easy….) 


  • Diabolik Lovers- Lunatic Parade
  • Brothers Conflict Precious baby - Port (BrilliantxPassion) 
  • etccc

Mostly titles announced at Otomate Party 2015 

anonymous asked:

What exactly did she retcon about Kent? Not snarky, just really curious, because he's my favorite and I want to know what changed about him. Was it her feelings about him where she said that he was one of her favorites and she had to change it by saying "they're all my favorite"? Or was it a characteristic of him? I want more Kent. He's he only thing keeping me invested at this point because he has motivations and stuff. And I want him to be happy if happy endings are the endgame of this comic.

Just to be clear, retcon refers to reframing past events to serve a current plot need. For an old-timer like me, but maybe it’s just me?–the Kent/Jack relationship was retconned.

I started following the comics a few chapters in, lost interest in it, and came right back before when Kent was first introduced.

I want you to imagine reading right there with me.

So I liked this new character Kent but we knew so little about him. We knew then he’d figure in Jack’s life–and this was before Parse 1 2 3–because he was right there during Jack’s awkward teen years, Jack backtracks talking about Kent while Bittle was having his moment. Updates were scarcer than the number of movies Robert De Niro made in 2013, we pick up bits and pieces of what we could in between long time gaps, try to make sense of them (to be honest, speculating about Kent’s motivations and backstory was the most fun this comic ever was, but also the worst because haters). There were little bits of information that were set in stone:

To a Parse fan like me who’d been reading along, these weren’t just bullet points. I held onto them like a lifeline. These were the only ‘canonical’ material we had on Kent except one night of douchebaggery, but even that reeked of yearning and lashing out out of spite out of being rejected; notably what we knew of Kent and Jack before they had a falling out were largely painted in a positive light. I think you’d have been blind then to ignore how it was heavily implied that that relationship was emotional in nature. Arguably romantic, but definitely emotional. To quote a more expounded meta on this:

it’s been established that jack and kent were best friends when they were teenagers. jack is characterized as kind of awkward and private. he grew up with celebrity parents and was a hockey prodigy growing up around a lot of attention and pressure. i think it’s important to acknowledge that while jack was probably going through a lot around this time, parse was able to befriend him and support him as a best friend. as best friends they probably trusted each other with a lot of secrets, but after whatever happened to break that trust with each other, those secrets turned into ammunition. in parse3, parse happened used his on jack to express his anger and bitterness. jack probably has ammunition on parse as well, but wasn’t in a position to use it. based on the reading, i think the most realistic theory is that jack and kent are involved in a conflict where both parties are at fault.

Looking back on it now, I’m trying to read all of the above and ask myself if that was a lot of extrapolation to have made. Because right now, I still can’t look past the belief that that’s a perfectly reasonable assumption to make. 

Now, after the Year 3 Comic 7 update, if you take Jack at his words, they (1) only hooked up a few times, (2) it’s Kent who never got over it (3)that relationship with Kent wasn’t anything more than “physical hockey.” Should we take him for his word? Maybe, maybe not, but I think that’s a moot question, because the comics hinged Kent’s relevance based on how heavily he affects Jack. And after that update, Kent’s relevance is nothing. The comics would present Jack now as a matured, well-adjusted adult with a lot of perspective (without any trace of his other issues existing at all) and that’s who he’s supposed to be when he says those words, and according to him, it was a meaningless relationship and Kent was just a guy he used to do sometimes.

Did we over-interpret? Maybe Jack only smiled a lot because he was getting some? But how about the things he knew he should apologize about to Parse? What about freezing out his best friend and shutting him out for years and refusing to talk to him even though he apparently knew Parse had feelings for him?

Maybe N changed her mind midway. Maybe the canon was intentionally misleading. In any case, the tvtropes page for retcon includes this:

As the number of twists and misdirections in a story becomes higher, it becomes more difficult to tell whether an event actually is a retcon (which implies that the writers changed their minds), or a misdirection (which implies that the writers intended the “retconned” version all along, and had been deliberately misleading the audience before). In some cases, it is impossible to tell, short of reading the author’s mind (even then, it might not helped, as it’s entirely possible for an author to be on the fence about what they’re planning to do)

But at the end of the day, it was still Jack buddyfucking his bestfriend while calling him a petname, and then snubbing him afterwards.

But to answer your question here are some of the information that have their ORIGINAL source material deleted by Ngozi:

this post which the wiki cites as material for the following

  • Kent is 5'10" and about 175 pounds
  • He arrived at the Epikegster in a rented Porsche 918 Spyder, which the lacrosse bros took pictures with.
  • He was Jack’s first best friend. 
  • He is the only one who calls Jack “Zimms”

most of the above info were reposted here except the Porsche bit.

The sources for the following information were deleted by Ngozi too:

  • Kent’s middle name starts with V
  • that Kent has a cat
  • that Kent was born in NY 
  • on July 4, 1990
  • that tweet where she says Kent was Jack’s first best friend.

saphael week 2017 |  Day 2: Disney Fairy Tale AU

Cinderella AU feat.:

  • poor musician Simon getting a lucky break
  • Magnus Bane, who is THE party planer, people are clamoring to get his services, he’s just so magical
  • Magnus offers Simon a job at a party for one of his friends
  • Raphael as the ‘prince’ / leader of the clan if you’re going with the vampire thing
  • Simon is human tho
  • Magnus as the Fairy God Father *throws glitter confetti*
  • Raphael and Simon hit it off with their shared love of music
  • Raphael plays piano, the two of them like to play together
  • Magnus comes up with new excuses for them to meet ‘by accident’
  • Raphael is worried Magnus is going too far and it’s gonna blow up in their faces
  • also: Raphael is aroace, obviously
  • his relationship with Simon is totally platonic and Simon is definitely not a pushy jerk
  • Simon teaches Raphael some basics of how to play a guitar and Raphael in turn offers to teach him playing the piano
  • lots of touching and hand holding ensues
  • fluffy times!

Ivar Lothbrok.

23 years old.

Youngest son of Ragnar Lothbrok.

Born into the family bussiness.

Skilled fighter, extremely good strategist and always looking for a fight.

Arrogant, cocky, quick tempered, cold and playboy, rebel and party boy.

Conflicted with himself but lets Vivian see his real personality.

In love with Vivian but doesnt let anyone else knows it until he decides.

Handsome, intelligent, manipulative and cold hearted killer.

Status: Alive

Anyways I feel like the ‘entitled’ young fans vs ‘perverted’ older fans conundrum is a lot more complex/nuanced than a lot of tumblr users are really giving it credit

For one, yeah kids are dumb as shit. I’m sorry if you’re younger than 15 you don’t know anything. You’re a certified dumbass. It’s okay, it’s natural it’s part of life and you will grow out of it just like with baby teeth and training wheels, everyone goes through it it’s fine. And with that said yes Tumblr does promote a very aggressive hyper critical culture that is especially dentrimental to those who, for lack of better phrasing, are too ignorant to think for themselves. I once saw a X-cartoon critical blog (I’m not trying to out some random kid) where the point point of contention in literally every post was that because cartoon child characters were involved in the show’s slapstick humor, the show was promoting child abuse.

That is really dumb. Of course if you do have a strong adverse emotional reaction to any depiction of children in peril/danger/pain that’s fine, but of course nobody is making you watch this show and it should be pretty evident by dedication and critical thinking that the majority of children’s show runners are not pro-child abuse.

Now the real problems again to arise when these kids/people begin to harass content producers with ridiculous claims of moral corruption. And the advent of social media has made that, very, very, easy to do. If you have traumatic childhood memories of your mother torturing your cat to death you probably shouldn’t watch Tom and Jerry, but at the same time you should probably be able to acknowledge that Tom and Jerry is not a pro cat abuse cartoon

So when is content encouraging of problematic behaviors? Well, it mostly lies in the framing. To better explain I am going to compare how child abuse is handled in two wildly different adult cartoons

First: Morel Oral

Originally posted by parkwatcher

In adult swim’s highly underrated 2006 stop motion cartoon, the titular character Orel, a 12 year old boy living with his parents and younger brother….and girlfriend’s younger brother, is constantly abused throughout the show by various adult characters. Now throughout the cartoon, the show places a heavy emphasis on Orel’s ‘innocence’ how naturally kind and forgiving and pure-hearted he is. With various episodes centered on him trying to help others and scenes of him happily playing with other children. These scenes are very humanizing, they portray Orel as a character the audience should both like and relate to. Nearly everyone has some memory or another playing with friends growing up, or going to class, or trying to ask your crush to the big dance, and I’m sure lots of people raised at least moderately Christian can relate heavily to scenes and episodes focused on Orel’s innocent questions about the nature of god and faith, why do bad things happen if god is good? Why do I need medicine if god is all curing? Is it okay if I love X as much as Jesus? While serving the theme of the show these innocent questions highlight the innocence, relatability, and likability of Orel. When bad things happen to Orel we are expected to feel bad, and it can be presumed the majority of the audience does. When Orel is hurt by other characters, whether it’s playground bullies taking advantage of his kind nature, or his father berating him for being a sissy, or his coach attempting to sacrifice him ritually, we are expected (and presumably) take Orel’s side in these conflicts, the antagonizing party is framed as wrong, less kind and less innocent and less vulnerable, and so less sympathetic

Compare this to how Family Guy portrays child abuse

Originally posted by family-guy-funny

Meg Griffen, unlike Orel, is a side character while her abusive father takes role as lead of the show. Because of this, Meg inevitably gets less screen time than Peter and as such is less relatable and less human in the eyes of the audience. Now normally, this is how characters should be prioritized in writing, your main character the most relatable and the most empathetic and your side characters less so. This ensures that the audience is not ‘distracted’ from the main meat of the story by other characters and side plots and remains the most emotionally engaged with the main story and characters. However, because of this, and Family Guy’s repeated portrayals of Meg as annoying, a nuisance, and lesser than her other family members, the show inevitably trivializes the types of emotional abuse that have been normalized in the writings status quo. Now, so I expect an avid family guy watcher to pull out a gun and shoot his child like in the above gif? No. But media is one of the prime and easiest ways for human beings to be exposed to emotions and perspectives they may not have otherwise been in their day to day lives. It has been said that non-fiction teaches us about the world, but that fiction teaches us how to see it from different perspectives. This is one of the reasons diversity and representation is so important in mass media, it not only allows minorities to express and see themselves reflected, but allows non-minorities to be exposed to and empathize with the struggles and lives of those they may not have had to otherwise. This is why framing of sensitive issues is so crucial in the content you produce, because it not only expresses how you view such topics but is inevitably consumed by those who may not have been previously exposed, and as such set the foundations for their future expectations.

Now it is time to discuss the other side of the coin, the adult producers in fandom. Well clearly freedom of speech dictates that any and all creative expression is above critique aND ITS JUST FICTIONAL (porn of Steven universe ass raping a dog) GEEZ ITS NOT MY RESPONSABILITY WHAT PEOPLE CONSUME AND TAKE AWAY FROM MY CREATIONS THAT I PRODUCE BECAUSE ITS ART AND I MADE IT FOR ME WHICH IS WHY ITS POSTED PUBLICALLY WHERE LITERALLY ANYONE CAN SEE IT!!!!!

This is without a doubt the most common argument I’ve heard of the part of adult artists who take heed with the criticism they have received. And I am in no way trying to deny that there are far too many who have been stalked/harassed/assualted for trivial nonsense that doesn’t matter by fans who have never made something worth anything in their lives, I think I covered that well enough in the first part of this discussion. BUT, like the alt right to the GOP I have seen FAR too many racists, abuse fetishizers, pedophiles, beastiality fetishists (IM LOOKING AT YOU #NBCHANNIBAL), transmisogonists, etc, etc. eagerly hide behind arguments and the people who make them as fellow ‘victims’ of online harassment who refuse to act like the adults they claim to be and take even the smallest hint of responsibility for the content they produce. And once again I think this attitude can be partially attributed (only partially because at 20, 30, and EVEN FUCKING 40, you should fucking know better, and the rest of us/ya’ll should demand better) to tumblr’s ‘purity’ culture, in which it is preached that anyone and everyone should be defined by their long past actions and are completely incapable of learning or changing as individuals. And even this provides a shitty scapegoat by way of “wELL WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO??? CHANGE MY BEHAVIOR???” like they’ve been asked to turn shit into solid gold.

And you know what? I’ll fucking admit it, I’ve written terrible disgusting fanfiction before, I’ve dealved into topics like rape and abuse uneducated and ignorant, but I’ve learned and changed and moved on and applied those lessons to future works. That doesn’t mean what I did wasn’t shitty, but it means I’m putting forth and effort to NOT DO IT AGAIN. Because I’m a god damn adult and I’m not afraid to take responsbility for my actions.


1. The science absolutely does not support the argument ‘ITS OK IF ITS NOT REAL KIDS’ in fact quite the contrary the science supports that the consumption and creation of child and rape pornography, fictional or otherwise, only normalizes and encourages sexual arrousak in the brain, in the same way regular exposure to stimuli and pain create fears and phobias. If you were attacked by a dog as a child you will associate dogs with pain along with barking and other signs of dogs and may panic when they are presented because your brain pre-emptively makes the connection to pain. And if you regularly get off to depictions of rape/sexual abuse your brain will begin to pre-emptively initiate arousal when you are exposed to signs or properties of such things.

2. Not everyone who has problems with sexual assault, animal rape, abuse portrayal, or bigoted representations in media and fanfiction are children. Surprisingly rape victims and those people with the maturity and empathy for others to react in disgust to its normalization do not implode when they turn 18. Some adults know how to act their age

3. ‘Don’t like don’t read’ doesn’t apply either because of point #1, If you produce abuse porn or gay or racial fetishization than the people who consume it will be those who are already undergoing said neurological connections, and while you are in no way responsible for any future attrocity they may attempt, you certainly aren’t preventing anything either. Again, everything is about framing. That’s what separates porn from drama and tragedy.

4. Yes, everyone needs a break from the stresses of work and school, and are rightly entitled to them. You are NOT under any circumstances entitled to a break from being a HUMAN BEING. Tumblr also has this problem with over glorification of childhood and the imposability is being an adult, which I think in turn has lead to this minor normalization of ‘escaping’ from adulthood. There’s nothing wrong with unwinding with a children’s movie or nostalgic video game, but once you are an adult there’s no turning back—and there’s no shiurking the responsibilities that come with that title either. You own them til death, that’s the deal. It’s one of the reasons they won’t let you into Chuck E Cheese without a kid, because no matter how stressed or unhappy you are you are never above the moral accountatability for your actions.

Listen, I love RPG’s. There’s something innately satisfying about that kind of content for me. And there has been a resurgence of wonderful cRPG’s in the last few years and I could not be more ecstatic. Pillars of Eternity, Shadowrun: Hong Kong, Wasteland 2, Tyranny, the list goes on. But nothing has struck me as powerful as the latest entry in the Divinity series.

Now I loved the previous DOS, but it was not without flaws. It was a slog to get through the first hour of that game. The story meanders about, the combat is much too brutal for the first zone, the lauded party/player conflicts were little more than Rock/Paper/Scissors with no applicable skill required, and I could not for the life of me tell you what it was I was actually doing for the majority of that first area. Even with these missteps, I did find the combat engaging, if harsh, the exploration was always rewarding, and the world was constantly providing me with opportunities to circumvent tough obstacles.

Divinity Original Sin 2 takes all of these mistakes and pours its heart and soul into fixing them. Immediately I was hooked into the core plot, no aimless wandering to find a story thread. The writing, while impressive before, is now thoroughly enticing and I look forward to chatting up every character I can come across. Party/Player conflicts have now been implemented into the main plot, side quests, and so many off the cuff moments that I feel attached to every companion and dreaded having to pick who I would leave out. Combat is just as complicated but the brutality of the early game is mitigated with physical and magical armor that mean you’re not getting gibbed in every encounter as soon as they start.

I haven’t even begun to address the oddities of the individual playable races, or the incredibly varied companions and the wonderful way the game handles their introductions and available classes. There’s so much about this game I want to shout its praises from the rooftops. Everything about DOS2 is an improvement over its precursor. If you’ve felt that modern RPG’s have been lacking in recent years you owe it to yourself to sit down and play this game.

Divinity Original Sin 2 is, without a doubt, my game of the year. Everyone else can pack it up and go home.

I was playing a d&d 3.5 game with two rangers. We often worked as a team, doing everything we could together for double efficiency. One day, we needed to track someone through the woods. So we both rolled for track.

I rolled a 1, my ranger friend rolled a 20.

Because of this, the party was conflicted on what way we were supposed to be going. We rolled to convince the party that one way was better than the other.

I rolled a 20, my ranger friend rolled a 1.

What would have been a three day trip ended up taking over a month.D&D

RFA + V + Saeran alignments and playing D&D

Guess who asked for this?? Literally no one, but I’m starting a new D&D campaign tomorrow and I’m r e a d y
and I wanted to self indulge and thought this would be wild

-neutral good
-he’d probably be the DM
-put so much time and effort into this world he created
-will use every opportunity to get the party into conflict and trouble
-but be a forgiving DM by not letting them die
-probably base his world off LOLOL
-he’d also be the type of DM to go all out and have all sorts of game pieces

-lawful neutral
-he’d want to complete the mission set for him, but he’d also be open to what the group wants
-although he’d unconsciously try to steer them towards the mission
-he’d also try to keep everyone in check as far as not getting too caught up in the action and reminding them they have a mission to complete
-but he’s just really chill throughout the campaign, occasionally having his moments of fucking up but knowing how to steer it back

-lawful good
-always stuck to the mission
-and always wanting to do the right thing
-even if it came at the expense of the party
-she’d probably be the fighter of the group, but always try to steer it from getting there
-she’s more about resolving conflicts through persuasion and talking it out

-true neutral
-he’s really just letting the party do as they please
-he’s just along for the ride
-and mainly cause he doesn’t know how to play
-but he truly would be the observer, occasionally giving input
-he’d probably be a rogue and watch the conflict from a distance
-he really just never leans toward anyone and will look at everything objectively
-he’s just the one to keep the party in check when things are getting out of hand tbh

-chaotic neutral
-he’d honestly do whatever he wants
-he’d be the one to steer the party to side quests and away from the primary goal
-he’d also be the first one to split the party
-looking out for his own benefit before considering the rest of the party
-he’d also be the one to run head first into battle only to get knocked out
-the DM would try to find any way to get rid of his character tbh
-but he has the highest stats and rolls so he always proves to be useful to the party

-chaotic good
-he’s the type to do what’s right at whatever cost
-always willing to die or sacrifice himself for the party
-he’d also be the healer, either a cleric or bard
-he just wants to protect everyone and make sure everyone has enough hit points going into battle
-but always ready to fight whatever comes their way
-he’s okay with the party taking an occasional break from the main mission, but will try to steer them back into it when it gets too intense

-chaotic evil
-he completes every obstacle with an ulterior motive
-the type to throw the party off from the main mission only to lead them to certain death
-tries to get everyone killed, but it never works in his favour
-he’d be the one to get too into it and treat it like a competition instead of as a team
-he’d also probably be the one to betray everyone in the end

Re: Kaname’s Heart & Turning Him Human

I was going through the earlier chapters of Vampire Knight Memories for a post I’m working on when I came across this. One of the arguments I’ve seen made regularly in regards to Yuuki’s decision to turn Kaname into a human is that she only did so because his heart couldn’t be retrieved and that if it could have been, she would have lived out her life with him. In this quote, though, we see that they’re talking about her decision to turn Kaname into a human when his heart is returned to his body. So when they thought about putting the furnace out, they still believed it was possible his heart could be retrieved.

Of course, this was before the cure was created, but we have to ask ourselves why that’s significant: why was Kaname unable to live on as a pureblood in the first place? In Yuuki’s final narrative, she doesn’t talk about the hardships he experienced or how sad and lonely an eternal life can be: she cites his thirst that he was never able to escape, never able to quench, throughout his entire existence. Though we know he loved Yuuki, he was shown drinking tablets after drinking excessively from her, and Hino emphasized the tablet drinking to show that his thirst hadn’t been quenched. A popular theory regarding this is that you can only be fully satisfied by your loved one’s blood if your feelings are mutual, and whether or not you believe Yuuki loved Kaname, she did have conflicting emotions during this time because of her love for Zero which probably would have made her blood less than satisfying, especially since this was just coming off her Night 60 reaction to seeing Zero again which likely made her feelings for him the more dominant feeling at the time. 

So this idea that Kaname’s thirst was never quenched I believe comes from him never getting to experience a proper mutual love, one without attachments to other people or without conflicting emotions from both parties. And, specifically, Yuuki knew that her time spent as a human is what led her to the happiness she eventually found in her own life, and she thought turning Kaname into a human would grant him that as well.

But the real question is: why was that necessary for Kaname to find happiness? Why couldn’t he find it with Yuuki, as a pureblood, after Zero was dead? If Yuuki loved him, and Kaname loved her, and Zero’s existence was the only thing getting in the way of them living happily ever after as implied by Yuuki in Night 89 when she said Kaname could have just taken her memories of Zero instead (i.e. erased her feelings for Zero as she erased Zero’s feelings for her) then why couldn’t she live out the rest of eternity happily by Kaname’s side? Why didn’t she even consider it? I believe the reason for that is because she knew even if Zero was gone, her feelings wouldn’t be, and the problems that she and Kaname experienced in their relationship before that pushed him further into despair would still be there. Kaname already made it clear in Night 89 that he wasn’t interested in erasing Yuuki’s memories of Zero, because that would be manipulating her feelings and whatever she felt or didn’t feel in light of that wouldn’t be real and that’s not what he wanted from her.

I decided to go back to the official volume 19 to look at the translation there when Yuuki talks about not being able to restore Kaname’s heart, and here’s the scene:

This was the scene that initially made people believe that Yuuki was interested in living out her life with Kaname, because she showed interest in using the cure rather than giving up her own life to make Kaname a human. And, to be fair, perhaps Yuuki did hope that they could both take the cure and then neither of them would have to worry about their thirst not being quenched because the blood lust would be gone. We don’t really know, and at this point we can only draw conclusions based off our own interpretations. But another important factor in Yuuki perhaps not wanting to die are also present in this scene: her two children. One of the things Yuuki’s character was heavily criticized for when this chapter was initially released, by both Zeki’s and Yume’s, was the fact that she left her children behind and that she had them present when she “died” and entrusted them with taking care of Kaname when they would have just lost their mother and, though we don’t know for sure when, lost their father (or Ai’s “other father”) as well. 

There’s nothing really to say that Yuuki wanted to be human - she resisted it before when Isaya was trying to turn her because she didn’t want to experience the feeling of being powerless again, but that was at the height of a conflict when being powerless was dangerous. I don’t know if she would still feel the same now, after having lived multiple lifetimes. But I think it’s telling that no matter what scenario Yuuki may have envisioned - whether she wanted to live out her life with Kaname, whether she didn’t - he had to be human. I think she just knew that her feelings for Zero would always be a problem for him and that it was the only way he could be freed from the blood lust that twisted his heart in the first place. 

Of course, you can argue that by wishing she could use the cure rather than her own life, she didn’t want to erase Kaname’s feelings for her - just the vampire instincts that would drive him to insanity if she wasn’t enough for him as she was, or if she wanted to die, or if she just wanted to live out the fantasy she envisioned in Night 87 where they were all humans and Kaname was just her brother who was a bit of a sis-con and overprotective, but not her lover. And that does potentially leave room to argue the “she loved both” interpretation, except for the fact that Zero was able to be satisfied with Yuuki’s blood in spite of this, so Kaname should have been able to live with it as well. After all, Yuuki as a pureblood was able to live without Kaname’s blood for 1000 years, if she needed it, and without Zero’s for… an indefinite amount of time we’re still not sure of. I still feel that her love for both, while real, were different types of love, and Kaname wanted the type of love Yuuki felt for Zero which is why in his final speech he talked about how he admired her taking care of Zero and how he knew they should be together. 

Anyway, this turned out longer than I intended… I just figured I’d take a break from my recent Zeki-critical posts to talk about this since it popped up when I was re-reading chapters. :P

anonymous asked:

Hello. In my novel I have a character that's a butler and is absoulutley in love with his lady and I was wondering if there was anything in butler etiquette that would reffer to how a butler should act in a situation like that. I tried finding it on the internet but with no luck so I was wondering if you could help

Originally posted by rachelsharpie

One thing that’s going to make a huge difference here is time period. If this is a more current situation it’s going to be handled differently than if this was happening farther in the past. I was able to find some resources about butlers currently as well as bits about being a butler through history.

Also where does this butler work? I’m asking so you can take into account how highly ranked the employer of this butler is. The higher the ranking the more coveted the job is and therefore the more there is to lose. This can help with conflict as far as inner conflict, scheming from outside parties, and what sort of credentials the butler has in order to have the job. It might be a deep struggle for the butler to confront their feelings if they’ve sacrificed and worked for the position for a really long time and have a lot at risk.

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