“The strongest actions for a woman is to love herself, be herself and shine amongst those who never believed she could. When she has passion for what she does, happiness embraces her. She will find joy every day, no matter what comes her way.”
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For those of you who feel like you can’t love yourself and your body (for whatever reason that may be), I have compiled a list of tried and true self-care techniques that I, myself, employ on a regular basis. This is by no means a complete and comprehensive list, but they are ten ways to start your journey to self-love and confidence.
Being lost in a different place does not help you find yourself. But thereafter, the difference in your walk. How you bend and un-break; the ways you look at loss and see your way out of it. It is something that grows into you and never out. A nature in your blood. Bloomed.
@blackrabbittattooer and I were talking about #confidence and that people often ask us about it. I think we agreed that it’s very much about not giving a fuck.
But on a deeper level, it’s knowing who we are, working as hard as we can, awareness of what we’re capable of, and having a clear focus on our goals. We’re not interested in what you’re doing. What you’re thinking of us. What you’re saying about us.
Because we know that while you spend time being a hater, we used that time to get even better.
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Never ask someone why they lack confidence
Never ask unless you are incompetent.
I only stand here cause I amended my problemed shit.
But two wrong steps, and I’m back what I started with.
I do not guess that you’d understand what it meant,
For me to smile,
For me to laugh,
It took a while,
Turn back the dial,
Let down my guards,
Queen of swords,
Yeah I’m ok
At least today
I took some time
Took back what’s mine
But if I’m slippin,
That’s not permission
It’s got a system
Just check yourself
And your intention.
Do your thing. Do it unapologetically. Don’t be discouraged by criticism. You probably already know what they’re going to say. Pay no mind to the fear of failure. It’s far more valuable than success. Take ownership, take chances, and have fun. And no matter what, don’t ever stop doing your thing.
hey everyone ! the title speaks for itself, this is a post on how to be more confident. (i will try not to make this personal but who knows)
i. have a playlist that makes you feel badass. this is the easiest tip i know. when you feel horrible, blast that badass playlist. feel the fire in your bones. lose yourself to the power in the music. i have a few playlists her e if you want to check them out for inspiration or whatnot.
ii. posture is everything. hold your head up high. this is so hard sometimes, i know, trust me. sometimes you want to curl in a ball and disappear. but if you want to look confident, want to be confident, you need to hold your head up and straighten your back and walk like you mean business.
iii. know yourself. know your flaws. know your strengths. know what your limitations. honestly, this is so hard for someone with a personality disorder or someone who is neurodivergent or anyone actually. but knowing what you can do, sitting down and thinking hard, is incredibly helpful.
iv. make a list of what you know you can do. you can breathe, you can blink, you can kill a man, it doesn’t matter what is on the list as long as you can do it. it can be hard or easy. it can be something everyone can do or only people of your culture can do or something only you know how to do. trust me, there is something you can do. now look at all the crap you can do ! look at you ! hell yeah you can do stuff !
v. now make a list of what you can’t do/ haven’t been able to do yet. maybe it’s riding a bike, maybe it’s scoring a 5 on your ap test, maybe it’s kissing that cute girl in your math class i don’t care. it can be something everyone can do or something no one can do or a small task or a hard task. highlight what you want to learn to do or want to do. how will you do it? if you ever end up doing the thing, move it onto the list of things you can do. woohoo ! you did something hell yeah ! be confident, look at you accomplishing stuff ! smile, babe.
vi. maybe make another list for your flaws, also highlighting what you want to change. strive to make those changes. you can become a good person, you can become a better person. people change. that’s okay. look at you improving as a person. high five !
vii. breathe. do it. in through your nose. out through your mouth. now go back to that point about posture. straighten your back, lift your head up, breathe again.
viii. fake it til you make it. confidence is not easy. pretend to be confident through my tips or someone elses or do whatever you want actually just pretend to be confident. keep on doing this everyday. you will become confident eventually trust me.
ix. treat yourself sometimes. working yourself until you pass out isn’t really a confidence booster. sometimes, you need to care for yourself. it will make you feel better. hell yeah your skin smells like cocoa butter ! hell yeah you look cute asf ! you are worth it. show yourself that sometimes, okay ?
Seriously, it’s good to be proud of yourself! As long as you’re not overly-boasting to everyone around you, affirming your own skills and accomplishments can help build your confidence and self esteem!
According to a Harvard psychologist, this is the first thing you should do when you wake up...
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy has developed a method for starting your mornings out right. It’s surprisingly simple.
Stretch out as big as you can in your bed. Think legs spread and arms up in the air like a Y above your head.
The theory behind it is called, ‘power posing’. Her research alongside Dr Dana Carney shows that by assuming ‘power
poses’ such as the ‘wonder woman’ (where you stand with your feet, wide
and your hands on your hips) or poses that take up a lot of space (like
the typical ‘man-spread’) will alter the hormone levels in your brain
after just two minutes and make you feel more confident, more powerful
and less stressed out.