Sometimes, we lose ourselves by focusing on where we could be, instead of appreciating how far we’ve come. We all have different attributes and physical features that make us beautiful. I wish we would celebrate that more than making others feel less. Compliment a random stranger; Take time to make people feel loved. The world needs more kindness, not hatred.
2. the first rain of autumn
3. stepping on crunchy leaves
4. meeting new friends
5. seeing old friends
7. shooting stars
8. catching snowflakes on your tongue
9. fresh baked pie
10. digging your feet in sand
11. listening to the birds
12. singing along to your favourite songs
13. watching your breath on cold mornings
16. compliments from strangers
19. taking funny photos with your friends
21. fuzzy socks
22. full moons
23. being so happy you’re crying
24. doing what you love
25. overcoming your fears
28. new albums of your favourite band
30. you are so beautiful
31. sitting on rooftops
32. you are so precious
33. making other people laugh
36 the world wouldn’t be the same without you
37. bubble baths
38. your scars will heal
39. lying on the grass while watching the clouds
41. first sip of hot chocolate
42. cozy sweaters
45. baby animals
Like yeah she’d goddesss of sex and passion but has anybody else had a super boost of confidence since worshipping Her? I feel her while J holds me and in the love i feel for him. She is there while i’m brushing my hair in the morning and tells me I’m going to go slay every one of my endeavors. She whispers in my ear that I am in fact beautiful and good enough. Being genderqueer, I’m not always comfortable in my body but she’s right there even when I feel like I need to wear a binder. I’m not shy about my body anymore. Shit, Aphrodite has helped me give a friend of mine sexual/personal health advice when her own mother did not. I dyed my mother’s hair red and did so in Her name. I love worshipping Aphrodite because she gives me the confidence to compliment strangers and to love myself when I really do not want to. I’ve never felt so happy with myself and I can only think to thank her for it
So today, when I was at the grocery store after work, I witnessed a master class in how to compliment a total stranger in action. Every guy out there who has complained that it’s impossible to just give a compliment to a girl without being accused of being creepy – take note.
As I said, I was grocery shopping, and after a long day, I wasn’t up to talking to anyone and probably looked like shit. Right as I’m leaving the wine aisle with a much needed bottle of pinot, I hear someone say “excuse me” and I turn, expecting to be asked a question or told to get out of someone’s way.
Several feet away, outside my personal bubble, is an older guy, 50′s or 60′s (easily twice my age), who nods, points to his head, and says, “the blue in your hair looks good.” (I have a large streak of bright blue in my hair.)
The blue in your hair looks good.
Not, “I think it looks good.” Not “You look nice with blue in your hair.” No language at all acknowledging him, me, or any relationship there. Just stated it like an objective fact, focused on the unnatural color in my hair. A color that was very obviously something I had done deliberately, as a personal choice.
I smiled (a real smile, not the tight-lipped one I usually do when I’m secretly hoping people will fuck off) and thanked him, and before the words were even fully out of my mouth he was turning and going back to his shopping. He walked away and that was it.
I repeat: he walked away.
He didn’t try to start a conversation. He didn’t try to engage me or expect anything in return. He just wanted to let me know my hair was cool, and then went back to his day.
And you know what? It made me smile. I like my blue hair, and I know it’s not to everyone’s taste, but this guy went out of his way to let me know it looked good, for no other reason than he had the opportunity to say a nice thing to a stranger. And it wasn’t creepy at all! There was no focus on my body, on me as an object, on him and his judgements, on aspects of my appearance I can’t control; there was no expectation of transaction, no sense of entitlement or awkward overtures of socialization while I was trying to get my grocery shopping done.
So yes, dudes, giving a compliment to a strange woman without being creepy is possible. Be like grocery store guy, though. Say something nice for the sheer sake of saying something nice, and then walk away. Your mission at that point is already accomplished.
ARIES: find a patch of sweet smelling grass to lay down in. breathe. you are what you love not who loves you.
TAURUS: eat ice cream and make bad puns. try to taste the clouds, you can do everything if you just put some effort into it.
GEMINI: create and don’t be afraid. you are a technological virtuoso. make yourself laugh more.
CANCER: there is comfort at the bottom of the swimming pool. swim away from everything that makes you feel like you are drowning.
LEO: take care of yourself. eat fruits and sleep with stuffed animals. dream of flying, because you’re almost there.
VIRGO: wear flowers in your hair and let strangers compliment you. you are beautiful. do what makes you feel alive.
LIBRA: stay hydrated and buy things that lighten the burden on your shoulders. expel the feeling of anger from your system.
SCORPIO: kiss yourself cause you’re so pretty. go to a party and try not to get drunk. give the world a chance.
SAGITTARIUS: look at the ink stains on your hands and know that you have worked yourself to where you are now. be proud. fall asleep to new music. everything is only going to get better from here.
CAPRICORN: stay as bright as you are. you are a comet child. let your heart sing your favorite song, don’t be afraid of singing the words wrong.
AQUARIUS: write out every bad thing of everyday. it won’t change anything but find solace in crumpled up paper and coffee stains. you must learn to move on. but it will be for the better. remember that.
PISCES: count the candles on your birthday cake and know you are brighter and more brilliant than every single one of them. surround yourself with warm coffee and soft voices saying “i love you.” hold on to my hand, you are not lost.
My boyfriend was like why do you have so many pictures of yourself on your phone. The answer is simple; I have no concept of self and use them to try and get compliments from strangers because my self esteem is lower than the mariana trench.
There was a super kind girl in the grocery store who told me she liked my hair and that it looked pretty. She also had pretty hair and she looked cute. I wanted to compliment her too, but I got shy and I just stood there mumbling. Although I couldn’t really say anything back I do hope she’s having a great day.
2. Pause to be happy.
3. Pause to be sad.
4. Pause to realize the things you will never have.
5. Pause to appreciate.
6. Pause to meditate.
7. Pause to listen to the voice inside your head.
8. Pause to digress and pause before you progress.
9. Think twice about your future and three times about your past.
10. Don’t rush through the week hoping for Friday.
11. Stop to smell the crisp, cool air on a Tuesday.
12. Stop to compliment a random stranger on a Wednesday.
13. Don’t rush through the winter waiting for summer.
14. Seize the winter as an opportunity to find a new coffeeshop around the corner.
15. Take a drive and don’t look at the clock once.
16. Buy yourself flowers and encourage constant over-consumption of chocolate.
17. Don’t check your watch for two or three hours.
18. Have an entire weekend with no plans at all and see what unfolds.
19. Write your best friends silly notes to tell them you appreciate them.
20. Fall in love with yourself.
21. Reinvent your style and start by buying new shoes.
22. Spend more time with yourself.
23. Laugh until you cry or spit your coffee out.
24. Stop letting other people dictate what is cool - newsflash: we create “society.”
25. Most important of all, change.
25 pieces of advice from a stressed-out college student