compliment

compliment people. not in the “fake” way, but in the sense that if you notice how great their hair looks, or how hard they have been working in the past few days, or how cute and inspiring their blog is, tell them. they’ll appreciate it, and maybe blush a little or smile, eyes lightening up, and maybe that little compliment or ask will make their day.

A few things I’ve learned in life

1. just because they are older, that doesn’t mean they are better than you

2. just because they are older does not make them “more right” than you

3. Always listen to the other side of the story

4. Diffusing situations with comedy works a lot of the time, but sometimes it doesn’t 

5. Its okay to cry for someone, to cry at funerals, to cry because something is sad. Crying doesn’t make you weak it makes you human

6. But also not crying is fine too

7. some people will just not like you, its not always your fault and sometimes you can’t fix it

8. Everyone has a story, if you look at everyone like book you haven’t read yet then life becomes far more interesting 

9. School is important, but not the most important

10. You should take mental health days

11. Don’t let people give you shit for taking care of yourself, you are important 

12, You’ve probably changed someone’s life in some way, no matter how small. 

13. If you love someone you should probably tell them, even if its platonically, people still need to hear that they are loved 

14. Sometimes frienships don’t last, its no ones fault. Sometimes it just happens

15. Helping people does feel good, 

16. Smile at people, compliment them,  maybe just say hi

17. You will regret something, but you can’t waste your life thinking about what you regret. 

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Tweet by TheDevil’s Sidechick (@FeministaJones):

Piss a man off today: Tell him you agree with his compliment of you.

  • Men, who don’t (as often) have to deal with Men retracting compliments when they agree with them, are really upset in my mentions 😂😂😂
  • Also an interesting observation is how many assume that a woman wouldn’t say Thank You when agreeing with them. Lol
  • “Just say Thank You” they cry, not knowing what to do after a woman agrees with them.
  • They even complain when you say “Thanks” with a straight face instead of “Thank you” with frilly giggles and fake blushed 😂😂😂😂
  • I’ve had SEVERAL men tell me they found “thanks” an offensive reply to a compliment given to a woman 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
  • I see it every day because that’s my usual response. 
  • “Thanks” and keep walking. I get yelled at. Cursed at. “That’s all you gonna say?”
  • That goes back to what most women were saying abt their experiences w/this. The expectation’s that women should show no self-appreciation
  • And/or should be overjoyed by a someone (a man) saying something positive about them (that they weren’t supposed to know already)
  • Men as teachers. Men as validation. Men as approval. Men as decision-makers of what is “hot”. Men as arbiters of praise. Men in control.