We need to stop viewing Islamic injunctions as a basis for compliance, but instead appreciate the wisdom and value behind it. That way, it will become an aspirational goal for an improved life, rather than a basis to measure our religious standing.
If you’re striving for excellence while surrounded by mediocrity, expect to be told often that you have unrealistic expectations. How you respond to that determines the difference between leading versus following.
Once a group is defined as inferior, the superiors tend to label it as defective or substandard in various ways…
It follows that subordinates are described in terms of, and encouraged to develop, personal psychological characteristics that are pleasing to the dominant group…submissiveness, passivity, docility, dependency, lack of initiative, inability to act, to decide, to think, and the like…qualities more characteristic of children…If subordinates adapt these characteristics they are considered well-adjusted…
It is perhaps unnecessary to add that the dominant group usually holds all of the open power and authority and determines the ways in which power may be acceptably used.
Jean Baker Miller, Toward a New Psychology of Women
“What did Janie learn that day? I’ll give you a hint: it was not that people are more trusting of those who make good eye contact. It was not that she will appear more normal and thus fit into society better if she makes good eye contact. It wasn’t even that Mom really loves it when Janie connects with her through the eyes like that.
Janie learned that adults can have whatever they want from her, even if it hurts and even if they have to hurt her to get it. Janie learned that her body does not belong to her and that she has to give others access to it at any time, for any reason, even if she wasn’t doing anything that could hurt herself or others. Janie learned that there is no point in resisting and that it is her job to let others do what they want with her body, no matter how uncomfortable it makes her. “
I went to pick up my repeat prescription and the pharmacy initially tried to give me some adhesive remover spray, which is not the item I ordered and is not something I have ever been prescribed.
And then they found the prescription that I was expecting but it’s the wrong dose. I take 3 50mg extended release tablets of quetiapine at night and the prescription they had given me was for 200mg, but all in one tablet and not in multiples of 50mg so I can’t just take my dose and forget about the extra 50mg.
I didn’t ask for an increase in dose and I don’t want to take 200mg. I function quite well at the moment at 150mg with an extra 25mg that I’m prescribed PRN to knock me out more quickly if I need it.
In the past I’ve found 200mg to be too high a dose for me and I’m really frustrated that I’ve been given this. I am allowed to take up to two of the 25mg tablets a day if I need them so I have the potential to take 200mg in total if I need to. But not all in one slow release tablet because I tried that before and even when I took it as early as 5pm I could never get up on time in the morning and I also was limited in what I could do in the evening because of the sedation so that means I was then really limited in what I could do. It stole so much of my time and I hated it. So after being at that dose for a few months I negotiated and was given the go ahead to lower my dose very slowly until I found what worked for me.
My mum rang the gp and their reasoning is that they only just got a letter from the psychiatrist I saw in December saying that I should be taking 200mg. With the extra PRN my potential daily dose is already at 200mg, just not all in one tablet. I did not agree to take 200mg in one tablet. I refuse to take 200mg in one extended release tablet. If they won’t let me stay at 150mg in three individual 50mg tablets like I am used to then I will use what I have left including the 25mg tablets to lower the dose and come off of it.
I’m not having people tell me how much to take when I know that’s not the appropriate dose for me. I’d rather take none and not have them able to dictate how much I sedate myself and dictate the levels of psychoactive drugs I should have in my system.
200mg is too much and makes it so I can barely function.
I’m so frustrated. My mum had to do all my phone calls and managed to get me an appointment on Monday with the psychiatrist so I can discuss it with her.
All decisions about quetiapine have to be made by a psychiatrist and my GP is not willing to change the dose they prescribe back to what I was getting before without a psychiatrist’s recommendation.
I’m so angry. I tried explaining it to my mum but she just didn’t have anything comforting to say, she wasn’t even able to agree with me about it being dehumanising to be stripped of autonomy when it comes to medication. I understand that I don’t have the appropriate qualifications to make decisions about psychoactive medications but I do have the unique position of knowing exactly how the medications affect me and knowing what is helping me versus what does not help me. I know that being that level of sedated for that long is not helpful for me. I have told them that. They know it.
It makes me sound paranoid (and therefore more like I need extra antipsychotics) but I really hate that professionals can decide, without my input or consent, how much medication I should take.
I don’t want them to have that level of control over the chemicals in my brain. I don’t want them to make decisions without me. It feels like abuse. It feels like I’m being stripped of all autonomy and agency and I know that if I don’t do what I’m told I’ll be branded as “non-compliant” which will make it harder for me to get help in future because they’ll wonder why they ought to offer help to somebody who won’t comply.
The term non-compliant is so gross and horrible anyway. I shouldn’t have to be compliant. It’s like I’m being punished for needing support and help with my mental health. “We’ll only help you if you behave and do as you’re told”
At least without the political compliance bit, Silicon Valley startups are already hard at work, and lavishly funded by venture capital firms, at this very idea, to turn your social networking data into better credit rating information. And in itself, that’s not necessarily bad financial innovation — lending money to people who couldn’t repay it, after all, was a big factor in the 2008 financial crisis.