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DSCN4989 _ Basilica Santuario Santo Stefano, Bologna, 18 October by Matthew Felix Sun
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My Favorite Artworks at Basilica Santuario Santo Stefano, Bologna

Basilica Santuario Santo Stefano, the oldest church in Bologna, was very atmospherically evocative and romantic, and the many unique artefacts in its often darkish chambers added much allure.

Basilica Santuario Santo Stefano, Bologna The ancient complex of the original “seven churches” (now numbered only four) in Bologna, Basilica Santuario Santo Stefano, was the most evocative and romantic one, and contained the oldest church in Bologna. The complex was situated in a lovely square, Piazza Santo Stefano, which looked like an amphitheater and the Basilica looked almost like a backdrop, not inappropriate for plays such as Romeo and Juliet.

anonymous asked:

I feel you deserve better though, like it seems as though she's moved on but won't let you do the same. It's sad cause it makes it difficult to approach you cause it comes across as a complex situation to get involved in

We’ve both moved on dw. We’re good b

Jeff Bridges Calls Big Lebowski Spin-Off "A Great Idea"

Joel and Ethan Coen’s ‘The Big Lebowski’ is one of the biggest cult movies of the past twenty years, so it’s hardly surprising there’s long been talk of a possible follow-up.

While the Coens themselves have long since dismissed the idea of a direct sequel, actor John Turturro - who co-starred as flamboyant bowler Jesus - has spoken recently of his efforts to make a film based around his character.

And now, 'The Big Lebowski’ leading man Jeff Bridges has given this would-be film his seal of approval, telling Business Insider, “I’ve heard that for years, John saying that. I think it’s a great idea.”

Bridges added he’d be more than happy to cameo in the film as The Dude - but it seems likely this could prove problematic, given that the complex character rights situation around 'The Big Lebowski’ is a key part of what is holding Turturro’s film back.

Turturro said recently that the character of Jesus was "based on a play I had done many years before that, a Spanish play I did at the public theater.

"It’s a character I invented… If you ever tell anything to Joel or Ethan, they basically steal it from you!”

Nonetheless, Turturro stressed the Coens would "support” his film, which he would write and direct himself.

Still, Bridges has his own idea for another 'Big Lebowski’ spin-off - one centred on the Dude’s child, unborn in the 1998 original.

“I’m hoping they make a little Lebowski [sequel] because it’s all set up… I impregnated Maude [Julianne Moore]. As The Stranger [Sam Elliott] says, ‘There’s a little Lebowski on the way,’ you know?”

However, the Coens have long made it clear they have no interest in a 'Big Lebowski’ sequel, so we shouldn’t hold our breath. Whether or not Turturro proves able to get his Jesus movie made remains to be seen.

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Despite persistent rhetoric from figures like Defense Secretary Donald Rumsfeld, who described the detainees as “the worst of the worst,” some members of the Bush Administration felt ambivalent about Guantánamo. The overwhelming majority of detainees were not terrorist leaders but low-level foot soldiers, along with some men who were just unlucky.
Major General Michael Lehnert, the first commanding officer of Guantánamo, quickly understood the complexities of the situation […]. “These types of things should have been sorted out in Afghanistan, with Article 5 hearings—the usual procedure followed under the Geneva Conventions to sort out ‘the sheep from the goats.’ That didn’t happen, largely because the decision was made that the Geneva Conventions did not apply in this conflict.
My own thoughts on Alone at Sea

They portrayed a really complex situation that you cannot sum up with a words like “abuse”. It has something to do with it but it is not the classic victim/abuser relationship. There is not one guilty and one innocent, and I think it is really important to acknowledge this fact. Both Lapis and Jasper did extremely bad things and both suffered from it. They are both victims and abusers at the same time, which is why this is complex. 

Laspis was the one who restrained Jasper. To put it simply, she was the “abuser” and Jasper was her victim. But they both suffered from the experience and they both ended trapped in a toxic situation neither of them was willing to let go of. Lapis enjoyed making her suffer, and I believe she realizes how wrong of her and for her it was. To quote Steven “hatred is a strong feeling”, and clinging to it can break you. As for Jasper, I would say she has Stockholm Syndrom, but I’m not a psychologist. She was a danger, but breaking her like this was not a solution to anything. She is now desperate to fuse again with Lapis, to be this powerful again, just like Pearl was when she tricked Garnet into fusing with her again, and in order to do so, she uses the most straightforward strategy : verbal manipulation. Her speech is typical of an abuser’s, even though she was the one trapped at the beginning. 

Both Jasper and Lapis have done wrong, both are emotionally hurt, to not say ill, and both need some care.

Also, I think we will see Jasper again soon. She found Lapis after being left on Mask Island, unconscious after being forcefully separated from a several months long fusion. A little water punch isn’t going to keep her away very long. 

Also, I’m starting to feel some concern for Steven. He was adorable with Peridot even before the beginning of her redemption, but for some reason he seems to really hate Jasper? I know she hit him, and was mean and scary, but Peridot almost remotely killed him at her second appearance and tried to kill the cristal gems, multiple times. Lapis also did the latter, as well as almost drowning Connie and breaking Greg’s leg. What has Jasper done that the other haven’t?

anonymous asked:

im kinda shaky about the jasper thing, i empathized with lapis a lot because im a really bad abuse victim. like by shaky i mean actually shaky as in im shaking out of anxiety

i knoW im so sorry honey… i understand completely… you stay safe, alright? look at comfort things. keep yourself safe. it is a complex situation and keeping yourself safe is more important than fandom discourse. if you need me to tag any of it let me know <3

I’m sure there are people who will disagree with me, and that’s great. “Alone at Sea” explores a very complex fictional situation. And I personally think the writers handled it really well.

I mean, first of all, we see Steven once against striving to be more aware of how his actions affect people. Always awesome to see character development on that front. (Compare this episode to “Giant Woman,” for example.)

As far as Malachite goes – here are the morals I take away from this episode:

1) It’s okay to have complicated, messy feelings. Lapis takes a long time to articulate how she felt about Malachite. By the end of the episode, she still hadn’t figured out all of her feelings. That is okay. The narrative doesn’t pressure Lapis to figure them out quickly or explain them in easy terms.

2) What feels good to one person can feel bad to another. Jasper thinks Malachite was awesome. Lapis thinks Malachite was terrible. Neither of these feelings contradict each other. The narrative does not pressure either character to change her mind after listening to the other.

3) No means fucking no. This was the best part for me. You get to say “no” to uncomfortable situations, even if you still haven’t sorted out your feelings. And no means no, end of discussion. Jasper did not acknowledge that, and she was justifiably flung into the ocean.

I think the problem with Malachite is that some people wanna boil it down to “one person did nothing wrong” and “one person did everything wrong” when that’s really not the case… like many real life relationships it’s a complex situation

Lapis isn’t blameless but calling her “the real abuser” is a really reductive and inaccurate perspective in my opinion

The High Price of Pregnancy While on the Academic Job Market

Not long ago I penned a piece about the “joy” of being pregnant in graduate school. What I neglected to cover in that article was the high price of being noticeably pregnant while on the job market, and beginning a career with a baby on the way. With students entering graduate programs at increasing rates, women are beginning to surpass men in graduate school enrollment numbers. Many of these women are in prime child-bearing years, and after postponing building their family while in school, some find themselves expecting toward the end of their graduate school career — putting them in the complex situation of being pregnant while on the academic job market.

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Although a woman who is currently employed and becomes pregnant has (limited) legal protections afforded to her in the form of FMLA, there is little protection for a woman searching for a job while pregnant. While it is illegal for a potential employer to ask a woman about pregnancy or family status during a job interview, there is no mechanism in place to prevent an employer from drawing their own conclusions, particularly if a protruding stomach leaves little question as to the situation.

In a 2004 interview, Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump blatantly (and insensitively) said what many employers where probably already thinking. Pregnancy, says Trump, “is a wonderful thing for the woman … it’s certainly an inconvenience for a business.” Although not generally compared with “big business,” universities and other academic institutions might fit into this category when it comes to hiring pregnant potential employees. There is little doubt that a pregnant woman on the job market might be viewed as an “inconvenience.” Some trades can be flexible when it comes to hiring a pregnant employee, but academic jobs, running on strict semester schedules, often find difficulty with accommodating pregnant instructors.

I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant a few months before graduating from my Ph.D. program. Happily married, and planning to eventually have kids in the future, my husband and I were shocked to discover our path to parenthood would be happening sooner rather than later. Already aggressively chasing a competitive job market, my newfound pregnancy put me in an interesting position as I commenced my quest for work. Initially, I considered postponing my job search for a year until after my baby was born, but with a pile of student loans that were shortly coming due, and grossly inadequate health insurance, I realized that then, more than ever, I desperately needed to land gainful employment.

My preliminary job search and correspondence with universities began as I assume most ABD (all but dissertation) students would. I applied for a multitude of positions all over the country, and received over-the-phone or Skype interviews for roughly half. Of those that I had continued interviews with, I was invited to several on-campus visits. All of a sudden dread set in. At five months pregnant, I had a growing belly and all of the symptoms that accompany a stereotypical pregnancy, including morning sickness, cravings, fatigue and a bladder that needed to be emptied every 30 minutes. Furthermore, my delivery date was the last week of August, making my baby due right around the first week of fall semester.

I spent my nights doing research on my rights as a pregnant woman, and learned that I did not have to disclose my pregnancy during job interviews, employers could not ask me if I was pregnant and they legally could not deny me employment due to my being pregnant. All of this looks great on paper, but as I learned throughout my interviews, what’s on paper does not necessarily play out in real life.

I accepted invitations to three on-campus interviews. The first university I interviewed at I made no mention of my pregnancy. I carefully selected clothes that were baggy, moved up a shoe size to mask my swelling feet, and ate very little in an effort to curb my nausea. The interview went very well, until the department chair asked if there was any reason that I would not be able to start my job in the fall. I was unprepared for that question, and my uneasiness surely raised some red flags. I vaguely replied that “I intended to work as soon as circumstances would allow.”

I no longer felt good about my first on-campus visit. Even though it was within my legal arena of rights to withhold my pregnancy, I knew it would not assist me in building trust or making friends with my future colleagues. Without officially confirming I was pregnant, I was offered the position, which I later turned down after learning that the department was not prepared to give me more than two days off post-birth, alternative scheduling possibilities were not an option, and the university’s insurance and employee benefits would be a logistical nightmare.

During the second on-campus interview, I vowed to do things differently. I decided I would go through the interview process, allow the department chair and potential colleagues to form their opinions of me and my work, and then admit to my pregnancy before leaving. Again, the interview initially went great. I bonded with the department, discussed common research interests, gave presentations and was even told by faculty member that I was “the common favorite.” I felt I had made connections, I fit in and I could picture myself working there. During my personal interview with the department chair, I told him that I was pregnant. The mood immediately changed. I saw his perplexed look as he glanced down at the schedule he was looking to fill. I asked about the possibility of teaching online or night classes during fall semester. He put the schedule away, wrapped up our discussion and showed me to the door. I was not offered the job.

My experience with my first two on-campus interviews made me realize that there was a high price to being pregnant while on the job market and I was certainly paying. Prior to my final on-campus interview at a community college in Idaho, I sent an email to the hiring committee letting them know I was expecting, informing them of my due date and inviting them to ask questions, stating that I wanted to be as transparent as possible. During my visit, not only did I give teaching demonstrations and meet with administration, I also engaged in discussions about what my schedule could possibly look like should I be hired. A short time later I was offered the job, which I gladly accepted. I taught online (a full load) the semester my baby was born, then returned to campus to teach in the classroom spring semester.

Originally, I never intended to teach at a community college, but I found that it was difficult to work with some four-year universities when it came to maternity accommodations The college I ended up at has turned out to be the perfect fit for me and my growing family, but sacrifices were made to work in a family-friendly environment. Community colleges pay much less than universities, and with a heavy teaching load there is limited time to participate in research. While being upfront and forthright about my pregnancy allowed me to begin my career in an honest relationship with my department chair and colleagues, I am fairly certain that in at least one situation disclosing the pregnancy cost me a job offer.

Visiting campuses while pregnant allowed me to see academic institutions through “new eyes.” I was able to immediately pick out which departments were “family unfriendly,” and which ones might be supportive of women who are not only pregnant, but also raising young children. Small things, such as having adequate nursing mother/pump rooms, allowing for flexible hours to accommodate monthly check-ups and day care issues, and having a compassionate and understanding department chair turn into big things for someone who is growing their family. I am not suggesting that pregnant women should be given leniency when it comes to the integrity of their work, their treatment of students, or their quality of research and teaching, but I am proposing that department chairs and deans be mindful of their female employees who are undergoing a formative transformation to their body, family and life.

Colleges and universities are repeatedly at the forefront of pertinent social movements. They are often the first to draw attention to social problems related to racism, prejudice and sexual assault, yet in my experience, when it comes to hiring and support for pregnant women, the same institutions that have moved mountains on other issues are failing in this regard. Surely the field of academia is progressive enough that we can do better. This improvement begins by providing an environment where qualified pregnant women and working mothers do not have to pay such a high price to secure or maintain their career.

McKenzie Wood is an instructor of criminal justice at the College of Western Idaho. Her research areas of interest include stalking and sexual assault, female victimization, and identifying victim help-seeking behaviors.

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i hope more in-depth posts come out explain why both lapis and jasper were framed as doing wrong in this episode. lapis realizes and admits she’s done bad things and jasper is not aware that malachite is bad for them. jasper craves power and wants it – and that misguidedness and fixation about what about Malachite/their relationship made her happy… still makes her hurt lapis and others like wanting to shatter steven. Jasper needs to be snapped out of this mindset. 

they have both done bad, they are both abusers. lapis is closer to overcoming this than jasper, but i think the Crewniverse is gonna return to her later. Definitely by the end of the season/this marathon. I really love what they’re doing at presenting a more complex situation of abuse where not only ONE person is to blame or the reason for it. cuz in reality, a lot of times abusive relationships are a two way street and it hurts both individuals. I know it might be hard to accept and to swallow, but both Lapis and Jasper have done wrong and I think they will be able to overcome it later.

How to Help a Loved One in an Abusive Relationship

I will be using “he” for the abusive party and “she” for the abused party, because that is the most common setup. Feel free to replace the pronouns to fit your situation, keeping in mind that gay/lesbian relationships are equally as likely to be abusive. 

1) Keep in mind that he likely disregards her feelings/discredits her ideas/invalidates her perceptions, so make sure your immediate course of action isn’t telling her what she needs to do. Not only does this ignore the complexities of the situation, many of which you may not know about, but it reinforces the idea that she isn’t competent enough to make decisions for herself.

2) LISTEN. Even if she doesn’t use the word abuse, even if she intends to stay with him, even if hearing the way he treats her drives you crazy. Because just talking about it is healing, and it may be her way of working through the problem on her own. 

3) Many women will not acknowledge they are being abused. This is a survival mechanism, and pushing her to say she was/is abused is extremely counterproductive. She will come to terms with this on her own, but only if you provide support - ignoring her needs in order to focus on a specific word or phrase is NOT supportive. 

4) At the same time, do not excuse his behavior. Even/especially if she blames it on herself. Don’t blame it on him (ex. “He shouldn’t treat you that way.”) but DO discredit the excuse (ex. “You don’t deserve to be treated that way.”) This plants or reinforces the idea that she deserves to be treated with respect, without violating #3.

5) Remember that she knows the situation better than you, and knows what is safe for her. For example, if you push her to stay out late, you may not know that if she does so she will be punished in some way (most abusive men are very reciprocal;punishments/direct consequences are very common; I once knew a man who had a punishment chart, as if his 32 year old wife was a five year old in need of time out.) You are putting her in a difficult situation regardless, and if she chooses to do as you ask, you may also be putting her in physical danger.

6) If you believe the man will kill/seriously harm the woman, disregard all the above if necessary. There are no black and white boundaries, just guidelines, and if you feel the woman is at serious risk your first and only priority is getting her to safety in any way you can. That said, please be mindful. If her partner is a cop or has buddies on the force, calling the police may actually produce greater danger. 

If you have the resources, Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft is hands-down the best book I’ve ever read on abuse. It is factual, and a unique perspective (he rehabilitates abusers), and has several portions dedicated to helping abused women. If you can do so and still abide by the guidelines (ex. if she acknowledges she is abused but isn’t sure what to do about it, and it won’t put her in danger) share it with the abused woman. It was the biggest contributor in my recovery from abuse. 

If you are a new parent or an expecting parent, or a grandparent, you may be confused by the different roles of a neonatologist and a paediatrician. Let us explain for you, so that way you have the most knowledge of your baby’s care!

Although your pediatrician can solve most health problems of newborns, a Neonatologist is trained specifically to handle the most complex and high-risk situations.

If your newborn is premature, or has a serious illness, injury, or birth defect, a neonatologist may assist at the time of delivery and in the subsequent care of your newborn. If a problem is identified before your baby is born, a neonatologist may become involved to consult with your obstetrician in your baby’s care during your pregnancy.

Neonatologists generally provide the following care:

Diagnose and treat newborns with conditions such as breathing disorders, infections, and birth defects.
Coordinate care and medically manage newborns born premature, critically ill, or in need of surgery.
Ensure that critically ill newborns receive the proper nutrition for healing and growth.
Provide care to the newborn at a cesarean or other delivery that involves medical problems in the mother or baby that may compromise the infant’s health and require medical intervention in the delivery room.
Stabilize and treat newborns with any life-threatening medical problems.
Consult with obstetricians, pediatricians, and family physicians about conditions affecting newborn infants.
Neonatologists work mainly in the special care nurseries or newborn intensive care units of hospitals. In some cases, after a newborn has been discharged from the unit, a neonatologist may provide short-term follow-up care on an outpatient basis. Your neonatologist will coordinate care with your baby’s paediatrician.

Neonatologists practice in children’s hospitals, university medical centers, and large community hospitals. Your pediatrician or obstetrician will be able to refer you to a neonatologist if your newborn baby needs this special care.

Mercato, L. Diarra dans le viseur de l'Inter

L'avenir de Lassana Diarra est très indécis depuis la fin de saison dernière.

Le milieu international français n'a pas caché ses vélléités de départ, mais sa situation est complexe, et l’ pourrait bien conserver le joueur cet été, d'autant que l'ancien Madrilène serait surtout focalisé sur son état physique.

Malgré cela, plusieurs écuries européennes ont coché son nom pour la saison à venir. L'inter Milan en ferait partie. Le club lombard souhaiterait se renforcer dans ce secteur, selon les informations de la Gazzetta dello Sport, et Diarra correspondrait au profil recherché. 

Toujours selon le journal italien, l'Inter serait même prêt à aligner 5 M€ pour s'attacher les services du milieu défensif. Affaire à suivre…


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Used this past days to rethink old (nearly forgotten) ocs.
I always loved all of them because they are all i used to draw back in the days, but was never happy because i could never portrait them as i saw them in my head (also didnt had the ability). So finally happy to see them all as i intented from the very begining.

This Designer Wants to Make Your Day Easier

From Sweet

Cute isn’t all it’s cracked up to be-and it’s certainly of no interest to Yasuko Furuta, the mind behind super-cool Japanese labels Toga and Toga Pulla.

“Japanese culture and fashion is about cuteness, especially for women, and so Toga is very distinctly not going for that cute angle,” explains the designer, who has been turning out quirky, ‘50s-inspired pieces for the past two decades.

Furuta, who got her start as a costume designer, scooped up the prestigious industry ANDAM award in 2007, and was a finalist for the Swiss Textiles Award in 2008, but Toga and Toga Pulla flew mostly under the radar until she joined the London Fashion Week schedule a few seasons ago. “Toga intends to provide support for the woman who lives in this complex and contemporary situation,” Furuta says.

When we meet the designer, she’s sitting on a couch at Matches Fashion’s HQ in London, dressed in one of her blue-and-white striped, Western-style shirts. Her hair is pulled back, her lipstick is red, and she’s polished but not clinically so-a formula that feels fresh in a fashion landscape where Japanese labels can often be pigeonholed as “cute,” as she told us earlier, or “avant-garde.”

“My aim for the clothes is to create a slight change of perspective to benefit the woman,” Furuta says. To do this, she thinks about how her designs feel and how they could feel, what should change and why; metalwork is used to add interest to basic shirts, and texture peppers coat hems, knits, and dresses. “The world is not just full of beauty and fun,” she elaborates. “There is ambiguity, complexity, and ugliness, and I just try to take that into account as well.”

Furuta’s commitment to complexity has attracted some notable fans, like Chloe Sevigny and Rihanna. “I’m like how do they even know my brand?!” she laughs. “It’s actually been a long process, there are no huge highlights, but an accumulation of ongoing things-Toga is an independent brand and we’ve had to do everything to get here.”

Now that you’ve met the designer, see some of the best pieces from her collection.

The Cowboy Shirt

The Buckle Boots

The Contemporary Dress

The Textured Knit

The Pant With Personality